https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 15 Apr 2026 06:21:27 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-have-an-easy-baby-first-and-a-difficult-baby-second-or-vice-versa#post-103450 Tue, 27 Mar 2012 21:13:30 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 103450@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>difficult first because like others said, it would be much harder to deal with a toddler plus a difficult baby... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-have-an-easy-baby-first-and-a-difficult-baby-second-or-vice-versa#post-103447 Tue, 27 Mar 2012 21:11:11 +0000 oliviaoblivia 103447@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'll take the easy baby first so I don't doubt my mothering skills and hopefully I'll be better prepared to handle the terror. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-have-an-easy-baby-first-and-a-difficult-baby-second-or-vice-versa#post-103443 Tue, 27 Mar 2012 21:09:03 +0000 mynoahbear 103443@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd want the difficult baby first since it would be way too hard to handle a difficult baby if you have another baby/toddler to look after as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-have-an-easy-baby-first-and-a-difficult-baby-second-or-vice-versa#post-103412 Tue, 27 Mar 2012 20:37:10 +0000 MsMini 103412@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I would want the difficult one first ... because dealing with a difficult baby when you have another child would be 100x worse! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-have-an-easy-baby-first-and-a-difficult-baby-second-or-vice-versa#post-103355 Tue, 27 Mar 2012 18:48:05 +0000 banana 103355@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oooh, tough question. I think I would want easy first because at least I'll have a little bit of experience under my belt before tackling #2. Plus if we had a difficult #1, I don't know if we would even go for #2. My LO was a pretty easy baby so I'm kind of fearful that our 2nd one will be crazy hard! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-have-an-easy-baby-first-and-a-difficult-baby-second-or-vice-versa#post-103353 Tue, 27 Mar 2012 18:46:31 +0000 pastemoo 103353@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If this baby is difficult, we are DEFINITELY only having one. If he's easy, we might--just maybe--try for another. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-have-an-easy-baby-first-and-a-difficult-baby-second-or-vice-versa#post-103309 Tue, 27 Mar 2012 18:14:20 +0000 BSB 103309@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think easy one first so it doesn't discourage me from having more kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-have-an-easy-baby-first-and-a-difficult-baby-second-or-vice-versa#post-103305 Tue, 27 Mar 2012 18:10:55 +0000 Migena 103305@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm thinking easy first, so I'd know the ropes before getting thrown a tough one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-have-an-easy-baby-first-and-a-difficult-baby-second-or-vice-versa#post-103282 Tue, 27 Mar 2012 17:49:44 +0000 cupcakemama 103282@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Difficult choice! I'd worry if I had the hard one first that there wouldn't be a second. My LO is an easy baby. If we have a second and it's a hard baby then at least I will have some idea what I am doing and that it's not just my crummy parenting! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-have-an-easy-baby-first-and-a-difficult-baby-second-or-vice-versa#post-103229 Tue, 27 Mar 2012 16:10:33 +0000 chopsuey 103229@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hard first, then easy. LO was relatively easy, so if #2 if hard.. -.- </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-have-an-easy-baby-first-and-a-difficult-baby-second-or-vice-versa#post-103120 Tue, 27 Mar 2012 14:40:49 +0000 Rubies 103120@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO, my first, was hard and I'm very glad for it. Now I know I can get through anything! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-have-an-easy-baby-first-and-a-difficult-baby-second-or-vice-versa#post-103091 Tue, 27 Mar 2012 14:15:44 +0000 cyneswith 103091@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Easy first. My mom said if I'd been her first, I would've been her last, as I screamed for hours on end for my first two years. To know that it's not me, it's the baby, would be better than to think I was a failure of a parent. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-have-an-easy-baby-first-and-a-difficult-baby-second-or-vice-versa#post-103082 Tue, 27 Mar 2012 14:11:35 +0000 Lozza 103082@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsbells: Exactly.</p> <p>I was paranoid enough with my easy baby, I think I would have had a breakdown if he'd been colicky. I think having been through it once now makes me a lot more relaxed about baby stuff and now I have some perspective that would make me better suited to coping with a difficult baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-have-an-easy-baby-first-and-a-difficult-baby-second-or-vice-versa#post-103043 Tue, 27 Mar 2012 13:24:55 +0000 skibobrown 103043@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely the easy one first. Otherwise I think I'd be totally scared away from having more kids after that. So many of our friends have had their easy baby first, and I really hope we're the same way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-have-an-easy-baby-first-and-a-difficult-baby-second-or-vice-versa#post-103042 Tue, 27 Mar 2012 13:24:23 +0000 mrsjyw 103042@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was the easy baby, my brother was the colicky crier. If it were me, I'd want the more difficult baby first. Being that I know my mom will be nearby for our first in the fall... It will make it easier... ? Lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-have-an-easy-baby-first-and-a-difficult-baby-second-or-vice-versa#post-103041 Tue, 27 Mar 2012 13:24:12 +0000 tequiero21 103041@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i'm with you. get the difficult one over with. but yeah, i can see how that would turn me off from having another kid! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-have-an-easy-baby-first-and-a-difficult-baby-second-or-vice-versa#post-103039 Tue, 27 Mar 2012 13:23:21 +0000 Alivoo01 103039@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd prefer to have the difficult one first. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-have-an-easy-baby-first-and-a-difficult-baby-second-or-vice-versa#post-103030 Tue, 27 Mar 2012 13:17:08 +0000 Andrea 103030@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think my LO was kinda hard -- which has scared me off having another so that's not so good. But I still think that it is better to have the harder one first. You already get your ass kicked with the first one no matter what so I'd rather get most of the pain out of the way and then have an easy second one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-have-an-easy-baby-first-and-a-difficult-baby-second-or-vice-versa#post-103026 Tue, 27 Mar 2012 13:10:14 +0000 Mrsbells 103026@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Harder baby second, because then I wont be overwhelmed with the newness of everything and I'll know that this is just a difficult baby rather than blame myself as a first time mom </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-have-an-easy-baby-first-and-a-difficult-baby-second-or-vice-versa#post-103015 Tue, 27 Mar 2012 12:55:35 +0000 plantains 103015@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Probably the hard one first, although I suppose it depends on the gap between the two. If they are around 5 years apart, then I wouldn't mind having the hard one second because I would have had a chance to ease into parenthood with number 1 and learn the ropes before having to be 'superwoman' with number 2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-have-an-easy-baby-first-and-a-difficult-baby-second-or-vice-versa#post-103014 Tue, 27 Mar 2012 12:52:14 +0000 heffalump 103014@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd want the hard one first. Than you can put all of your attention and energy into it. LO was pretty rough because of her reflux.... so I'm hoping #2 won't be so bad. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-have-an-easy-baby-first-and-a-difficult-baby-second-or-vice-versa#post-103007 Tue, 27 Mar 2012 12:49:24 +0000 MamaMoose 103007@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would definitely rather have the hard one first. As you said, it's easier to handle a difficult baby when you don't also have a toddler to deal with. I think having a tough first one would possibly delay how quickly we have a second one, but I don't think it would stop me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-have-an-easy-baby-first-and-a-difficult-baby-second-or-vice-versa#post-102992 Tue, 27 Mar 2012 12:42:03 +0000 Mrs. Bee 102992@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Tough one! I was the easy baby and my younger brother was the hard one. My mom sent me to live with my aunt for a month after my brother was born because he was so difficult (and we were only 14 months apart).</p> <p>I think if I had to choose, I'd want the difficult baby first since it'd be easier to deal with a difficult baby with just one. But that might make me really scared to have another!</p> <p>Which would you prefer? </p>