https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 08 May 2026 13:54:03 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-work-or-be-a-stay-at-home-mom#post-307259 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 02:42:05 +0000 looch 307259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jedeve: I do think there is a benefit for the working parent (shouldn't just be moms in my opinion) and the family as a while for working part time, but I know from my own experience that companies that say they promote flex time really have a difficult time executing it.</p> <p>The problem seems partly to be with what you do when you are off and someone needs something from you. How, as a business, do you cover that? Jobsharing sounds ideal, until you try to figure out the hours so that no one works more than 50% AND you have time to download the other person's materials. Someone ends up working for free in this case, and it's not usually in the company's interest to hire two people for 125% when they can just hire one at 100%. </p> <p>I wish there was some way to get it to work out, but in my line of work, being part time really was a downgrade. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-work-or-be-a-stay-at-home-mom#post-307246 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 02:33:01 +0000 banana 307246@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would LOVE to be a SAHM. Unfortunately that's not an option for us. I would actually like to be a working mother during the newborn/infant stage and be a SAHM when my kids hit elementary school! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-work-or-be-a-stay-at-home-mom#post-307181 Sun, 23 Sep 2012 23:07:40 +0000 HLK208 307181@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a SAHM and I do like it but I would really love to work 3 days a week. I think that would be a perfect balance. To get out, interact with adults, wear real clothes (not jeans and sneakers all the time like I do now) and to feel like I'm contributing to our finances would feel so much better than I do now. Then the rest of the week, I could enjoy my LO's. I only feel comfortable with my parents babysitting though and they haven't retired yet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-work-or-be-a-stay-at-home-mom#post-307170 Sun, 23 Sep 2012 22:49:02 +0000 skibobrown 307170@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love my job and can't imagine not working. However, I do feel very guilty sometimes when I don't get to spend as much time with my daughter as I'd like. Sigh. It's pretty much impossible to "have it all" as far as I can tell. I wish I had about 10 more hours in each day... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-work-or-be-a-stay-at-home-mom#post-307166 Sun, 23 Sep 2012 22:45:10 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 307166@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>so many factors go into this for me! i LOVE my current job, and it gives me the flexibility to come and go as i please with a pretty good income, so my answer TODAY would be i would rather be a working mom. however, if i was stuck in a job that i hated or didn't give me any pleasure i would then prefer to be a SAHM.</p> <p>i didn't work the first 6-months of LO's life, and if i had gone back to work any earlier than i did, i didn't think i'd be able to do it. when they're so little and helpless all i wanted was to meet all their needs all day long, and i was so content doing that at the time. but as she got into toddlerhood and becoming more demanding, having a job gives me the "me" time that i need to be a better mom to her! anyway, sorry for the essay... i really think i would be happy in either role, but for now i'm super content being a working mom. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-work-or-be-a-stay-at-home-mom#post-307162 Sun, 23 Sep 2012 22:29:51 +0000 daniellemybelle 307162@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am on the fence, mostly because I know if I want to stay home, we will have to wait longer, and the baby fever is consuming me! But when I see the working moms at my job, all of them seem varying degrees of miserable. I don't enjoy work enough right now - I can't imagine wanting to leave our LO to go to work once we have one! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-work-or-be-a-stay-at-home-mom#post-306918 Sun, 23 Sep 2012 15:52:41 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 306918@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I work, but when we have kids I will SAH! We can do it easily enough, so it will make more sense then pay for day care or a nanny in our situation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-work-or-be-a-stay-at-home-mom#post-306873 Sun, 23 Sep 2012 13:55:28 +0000 Maysprout 306873@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jedeve: Thanks for posting that link! I wish there'd be a bigger push to encourage companies to offer part time work as an option for parents. I know with my group of friends who have all spent a lot of time getting degrees but don't want to work really long hours now that they have kids it'd be a great solution. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-work-or-be-a-stay-at-home-mom#post-306837 Sun, 23 Sep 2012 12:40:19 +0000 jedeve 306837@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just got a job! So I'll be a PTWOHM. I'm sure it'll be hard and I'll still feel like I'm missing out on a lot, but I think I'll really appreciate the intellectual stimulation and adult interaction. And it's 20 hours a week, so I think I'll still feel like I'm home for most of the baby's life, you know?</p> <p>There's been an interesting study on working PT: <a href="http://moms.today.com/_news/2011/10/24/8470547-do-part-time-working-moms-have-the-best-gig-around?lite" rel="nofollow">http://moms.today.com/_news/2011/10/24/8470547-do-part-time-working-moms-have-the-best-gig-around?lite</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-work-or-be-a-stay-at-home-mom#post-306834 Sun, 23 Sep 2012 12:18:12 +0000 wheres_c 306834@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I couldn't imagine leaving future LO for 10 hours a day to work like I do now. Will see how things go after the birth. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-work-or-be-a-stay-at-home-mom#post-306827 Sun, 23 Sep 2012 12:01:05 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 306827@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a SAHM and I'm hoping to return to work. Now if only the job market would cooperate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-work-or-be-a-stay-at-home-mom#post-306825 Sun, 23 Sep 2012 11:56:16 +0000 pinkcupcake 306825@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love staying home. I tried working part time for 2 months after maternity leave...i was so miserable and missed lo so much. I am so thankful that I get to spend every minute with her! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-work-or-be-a-stay-at-home-mom#post-306816 Sun, 23 Sep 2012 11:37:09 +0000 JerricaBenton 306816@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love staying at home now so I think I'll love being a stay at home mom. My husband has his own business so I can help him whenever he needs it and I handle all the bills and that kind of stuff. I never run out of things to do and I like having the time to cook and exercise and pursue my hobbies. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-work-or-be-a-stay-at-home-mom#post-306815 Sun, 23 Sep 2012 11:32:54 +0000 HabesBabe 306815@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd rather work (which is why I'm going back to work early from maternity leave). Luckily I get to work from home about 90% of the time, so I get the best if both worlds. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-work-or-be-a-stay-at-home-mom#post-306783 Sun, 23 Sep 2012 10:46:32 +0000 tequiero21 306783@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Love being a sahm! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-work-or-be-a-stay-at-home-mom#post-306779 Sun, 23 Sep 2012 10:32:11 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 306779@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Undecided. I love working...the feeling I get from it, the extra pay to use on vacations and shopping...but I also would staying at home. So after my 1-3years of being a sahm: I'll let you know for sure. I don't think I have the patience to do it forever. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-work-or-be-a-stay-at-home-mom#post-306772 Sun, 23 Sep 2012 10:10:43 +0000 hilsy85 306772@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not sure yet! I will be a SAHM for at least the first 3 or 4 months, so I guess I"ll figure out which I prefer... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-work-or-be-a-stay-at-home-mom#post-306769 Sun, 23 Sep 2012 10:07:19 +0000 DillonLion 306769@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would rather work hard and spend full days raising my children, taking immaculate care of my home, and handling all of our finances. I'd love to not have something taking up 40+ hours of my time every week, taking time away from those things. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-work-or-be-a-stay-at-home-mom#post-306763 Sun, 23 Sep 2012 10:04:44 +0000 mamabolt 306763@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love my job but hate the commute. I wish I could either do my job FT from home or work PT. Right now it seems there just aren't enough hours in the day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-work-or-be-a-stay-at-home-mom#post-306760 Sun, 23 Sep 2012 10:02:21 +0000 Sammyfab 306760@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love being at home and I'm not a big fan of working in general...haha. Ideally though, I'd run a little business from home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-work-or-be-a-stay-at-home-mom#post-306759 Sun, 23 Sep 2012 10:00:31 +0000 Mrs. Train 306759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So weird, my husband was logged in on my iPad. He is not the stay at home mom, I am!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-work-or-be-a-stay-at-home-mom#post-306755 Sun, 23 Sep 2012 09:58:38 +0000 MrOceanis 306755@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love being a SAHM. Don't get me wrong they drive me crazy sometimes but I love it. Right now we also couldn't afford day care costs. My oldest is still the only one in pre school and its only three days for three hours so that would still be four kids in day care. My teaching salary definitely would not cover it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-work-or-be-a-stay-at-home-mom#post-306753 Sun, 23 Sep 2012 09:54:26 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 306753@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can't imagine not working! I love my girls and am a better mom for going to work each day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-work-or-be-a-stay-at-home-mom#post-306745 Sun, 23 Sep 2012 09:28:04 +0000 Minnie_Girl 306745@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I work from home, which is ideal for me. I love being home without kids as it is, and I love my work--but having kids will fill up my empty hours and give me some much-needed company. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-work-or-be-a-stay-at-home-mom#post-306742 Sun, 23 Sep 2012 09:27:26 +0000 PrincessBaby 306742@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would like to be a SAHM. We could do it, fairly easily. But the kicker is that I have a really good job in sales, and get a lot of perks like a free company car and gas, and the bottom line is that it would just be STUPID to walk away from it. </p> <p>Plus my job is what allows me to feel totally comfortable doing whatever I want in the way of fun stuff without a second thought - new purse, or something really cute for Harper. I wouldn't have the same leisure if we were just on DH's income. I would have some explaining to do!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-work-or-be-a-stay-at-home-mom#post-306738 Sun, 23 Sep 2012 09:23:05 +0000 Jumpingjacks 306738@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would like to work 1/2 time doing what I am most passionate about and be with kiddo the rest of the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-work-or-be-a-stay-at-home-mom#post-306733 Sun, 23 Sep 2012 09:14:31 +0000 yoursilverlining 306733@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd rather work. I found while I was out on mat leave that I really need to be intellectually stimulated and challenged every day; which I just don't get from caring for a baby. I also think it's better for LO to be around other babies and kids for a good chunk of each day - she's very social and she LOVES to watch the older babies. She just loves to watch them eat and crawl; and then tries to mimic their actions. I don't think she would interact the same way if I were there as a distraction for her (like, via mommy-and-me groups). So, for both of us, I think it's better that I work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-work-or-be-a-stay-at-home-mom#post-306671 Sun, 23 Sep 2012 07:21:29 +0000 looch 306671@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel very lucky to have options, but I am currently staying at home and really need to get back to work. My son is challenging and I am just better when I have regular breaks. It's not so much that working would make me a better mom, but having more time to focus on my health (exercise especially) would benefit my entire family. </p> <p>Sorry for the novel! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-work-or-be-a-stay-at-home-mom#post-306665 Sun, 23 Sep 2012 07:15:11 +0000 heffalump 306665@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel very lucky that I do have the option to be a SAHM, and I love it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-work-or-be-a-stay-at-home-mom#post-306661 Sun, 23 Sep 2012 06:43:06 +0000 chopsuey 306661@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love being a sahm </p>