https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 06 Aug 2026 14:22:51 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-your-kids-be-attractive-or-talented#post-54956 Wed, 18 Jan 2012 19:47:11 +0000 BSB 54956@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would say a little of both but since I have to pick one. It would pick talent. That talent could turn into self confidence and I think that's all my child would need. I don't think it's all about looks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-your-kids-be-attractive-or-talented#post-54851 Wed, 18 Jan 2012 17:27:33 +0000 banana 54851@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@photojane: I see what you're saying. I was kind of thinking about talent along the lines of someone who can sing or play piano or cook really well. I wasn't thinking about it in terms of intelligence or hard working. I'd rather my child be attractive and not necessarily have any specific "talent". But if I had to choose attractive vs smart, I'd go for smart! </p> <p>But anyhow, that's just me. I'm sure tons of people would totally disagree. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-your-kids-be-attractive-or-talented#post-54849 Wed, 18 Jan 2012 17:23:22 +0000 MrsApricot 54849@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Talented. No question. I'm sad that so many Bees have said attractive!</p> <p>To me, attractiveness is a matter of perspective and taste. For example, many people find Angelina Jolie attractive. I don't. I think she looks fake, (and man, her lips bug the crap out of me!). Many people may not think I am attractive, but some might; most importantly, my HUSBAND does, and that's what matters.</p> <p>Attractiveness can also be changed. With the right make-up, the right clothes, confidence...you can seem more attractive. I had a coworker come to work one day with no make-up on, and I honestly did not recognize her until nearly the end of our conversation! Heck, you can even get plastic surgery to appear more attractive.</p> <p>Talent on the other hand, there is no surgery for, no make-up for. Skills can be learned, but to me, you either have TALENT, or you don't. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-your-kids-be-attractive-or-talented#post-54844 Wed, 18 Jan 2012 17:21:41 +0000 yoursilverlining 54844@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@photojane: totally agree with you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-your-kids-be-attractive-or-talented#post-54841 Wed, 18 Jan 2012 17:19:53 +0000 photojane 54841@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@banana: i guess i just see more of a connection between talent and warranted success. if they're good at something, then they're more likely to work at it and progress towards a successful place. versus, just getting to that place because someone at the top was sexually attracted. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-your-kids-be-attractive-or-talented#post-54836 Wed, 18 Jan 2012 17:13:37 +0000 banana 54836@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: Oh yeah. Totally. I always see couples where one of them is very good looking and the other isn't. Most of the time (based on my experience) it's the woman that has the slight edge over the man (just based on what I've seen).</p> <p>@photojane: I totally agree with you that I don't want my children taking shortcuts either. But if any shortcuts/opportunities WERE presented to my children (whether it's due to attractiveness/talent/whatever) I would encourage them to seize it and make the most of it. I certainly wouldn't expect them to solely ride on being attractive. Since this is about talent vs attractiveness, I would totally choose attractiveness. If the question was talented/hard working vs attractive/lazy, I would definitely choose talented/hardworking over attractive/lazy. Like @andrea said, if they could be smart &amp; good looking, I would totally go for that! I'm hoping at least for one of the two! =) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-your-kids-be-attractive-or-talented#post-54809 Wed, 18 Jan 2012 16:57:21 +0000 photojane 54809@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>talented. i don't want my children to be the kind of people who take shortcuts. i don't want them to get anything because of their appearance -- i want them to be hard workers. after all, it's the hard work that makes success so rewarding... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-your-kids-be-attractive-or-talented#post-54792 Wed, 18 Jan 2012 16:39:16 +0000 heffalump 54792@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@banana: I think beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I don't consider myself that attractive, but I found someone who thinks I'm beautiful. Really, don't you ever see a couple where one of them is very good looking and the other is.... not? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-your-kids-be-attractive-or-talented#post-54789 Wed, 18 Jan 2012 16:36:35 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 54789@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's really hard to choose, but I think I have to agree with @banana and @theknest. Kids are mean, and society in general can be, too. I don't want them to be picked on, but I also don't want them to get through life based on their looks. So I guess I'm torn. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-your-kids-be-attractive-or-talented#post-54786 Wed, 18 Jan 2012 16:31:55 +0000 chopsuey 54786@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rubies: HAHA. I'm not super talented either. I'm just okay at everything--art, music, cooking, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-your-kids-be-attractive-or-talented#post-54783 Wed, 18 Jan 2012 16:26:15 +0000 Rubies 54783@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: Darn. :D </p> <p>Okay, fine, if intelligence isn't considered a talent then I would want my kids to be attractive. I don't possess any talents that could make me successful... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-your-kids-be-attractive-or-talented#post-54774 Wed, 18 Jan 2012 16:22:35 +0000 chopsuey 54774@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: @mrbee: Kim K and her mom are freaking genius! You know her name's linked to.. DOZENS of products/companies? She started off selling things on ebay too. </p> <p>I'd rather my kids be attractive than talented. You can live life successfully without singing/acting/painting/drawing well, etc. </p> <p>@Rubies: I wouldn't consider intelligence a "talent." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-your-kids-be-attractive-or-talented#post-54761 Wed, 18 Jan 2012 15:59:29 +0000 theknest 54761@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What a difficult question. I really want to say talented but then I think of Junior High/High School age and how mean kids can be - if good looks keep them from getting picked on then I'll go with that one. It's a good thing all of our kids will be attractive and talented. ;-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-your-kids-be-attractive-or-talented#post-54731 Wed, 18 Jan 2012 15:04:41 +0000 yoursilverlining 54731@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>talented - but I'd most want them to be smart (not sure if that's included in "talent").</p> <p>I wouldn't want my kid to get ahead based on their looks, that doesn't do anyone any favors. Besides, you can fake attractiveness; you can't fake talent or smarts as easily. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-your-kids-be-attractive-or-talented#post-54728 Wed, 18 Jan 2012 14:59:41 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 54728@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Talented for sure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-your-kids-be-attractive-or-talented#post-54720 Wed, 18 Jan 2012 14:51:17 +0000 Rubies 54720@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is being smart a talent? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-your-kids-be-attractive-or-talented#post-54719 Wed, 18 Jan 2012 14:49:46 +0000 Andrea 54719@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>hmmm, i may choose looks, too. i don't think you necessarily need to possess some great talent. if my LO is smart and good looking - i would pick that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-your-kids-be-attractive-or-talented#post-54713 Wed, 18 Jan 2012 14:45:36 +0000 katdevargas 54713@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>talented, fo sho. attractiveness is something that ebbs &amp; flows depending on who is viewing you, anyway. I'd rather have a talented kid &amp; raise them to be respectful, kind, courteous, etc b/c good qualities like that always make someone more attractive to me, personally. but no amount of training can make someone more talented, though it can hone the talent already present. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-your-kids-be-attractive-or-talented#post-54673 Wed, 18 Jan 2012 14:15:13 +0000 banana 54673@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: I know...it IS sad. =( I wish the world wasn't like that. But I've seen so many attractive women get shortcuts in life and things sometimes just come easier for them. The smart ones are the ones that take those opportunities and seize the moment. The not so smart ones are the ones that just take it for granted. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-your-kids-be-attractive-or-talented#post-54669 Wed, 18 Jan 2012 14:13:18 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 54669@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@banana: you are very right.</p> <p>i think the concept of talentedness is kind of a weird thing as well. i am a trained classical pianist and a singer/vocal performer. most people consider that "talent."</p> <p>on the other hand, my husband does not believe he is talented, and his mom has even said that he does not really have any special talents. however, he is the most handy person i have ever met. he can literally fix anything, whether it's a car, a piece of jewelry, an old washing machine, or an antique chandelier. he is amazing...and although most people don't call him talented because his not musical or athletic...i think it's a talent. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-your-kids-be-attractive-or-talented#post-54654 Wed, 18 Jan 2012 14:03:18 +0000 mrbee 54654@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@banana: Aww... your answer made me sad. :-( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-your-kids-be-attractive-or-talented#post-54651 Wed, 18 Jan 2012 14:02:20 +0000 tequiero21 54651@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i'm with @banana. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-your-kids-be-attractive-or-talented#post-54649 Wed, 18 Jan 2012 14:01:32 +0000 mrbee 54649@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: I think Kim K is a genius at self-promotion. I used to think that wasn't a real talent, but I've changed my mind after realizing how bad I am at it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-your-kids-be-attractive-or-talented#post-54646 Wed, 18 Jan 2012 14:00:38 +0000 banana 54646@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly, I would want my son to be talented and my daughter to be attractive. I just think in this society, attractiveness goes a long way for women. Whether it's mating or career, we unfortunately live in a world where looks matter, especially for women. Sad but true. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-your-kids-be-attractive-or-talented#post-54643 Wed, 18 Jan 2012 13:59:16 +0000 heffalump 54643@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsdaredevil: I don't think that's true. Kim Kardashian is beautiful... but what's her talent? Being pretty and having a nice tush is not talent.</p> <p>I'd rather her be talented. But really I'll think she's beautiful and talented no matter what, and that's really all that matters. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-your-kids-be-attractive-or-talented#post-54641 Wed, 18 Jan 2012 13:58:23 +0000 Mrs.KMM 54641@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Talented - without question. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-your-kids-be-attractive-or-talented#post-54636 Wed, 18 Jan 2012 13:55:55 +0000 cyndistar3 54636@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would definitely rather them be talented, I wouldn't be nearly as proud of them for getting somewhere in life because of their looks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-your-kids-be-attractive-or-talented#post-54625 Wed, 18 Jan 2012 13:51:26 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 54625@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>attractive.<br /> i know it sounds shallow, but when you're attractive, people think you're talented anyways. :)<br /> it's awful, but a lot of times it is hard to get anywhere with your talent if you're not attractive as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-rather-your-kids-be-attractive-or-talented#post-54623 Wed, 18 Jan 2012 13:50:39 +0000 mrbee 54623@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was just listening to a 12-year-old girl sing on YouTube and was blown away by her talent.</p> <p>For me, there's no contest: I'd want my kids to be talented over having good looks. Talent to me is the world's great equalizer... if you are talented, the world is your oyster.</p> <p>Would you rather your kids be attractive or talented? </p>