https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 24 Apr 2026 15:04:20 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something#post-945926 Fri, 19 Jul 2013 11:55:44 +0000 banana 945926@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess it depends on how my son reacted. If he was "whatever" about it, I probably wouldn't intervene. But if he was upset, I would most definitely intervene. I think you handled it perfectly! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something#post-945829 Fri, 19 Jul 2013 11:24:41 +0000 luckypenny 945829@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't intervene unless she was upset. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something#post-945753 Fri, 19 Jul 2013 11:00:50 +0000 mrsjazz 945753@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I intervene if it keeps happening. But most parents are pretty attentive in some of the groups and play areas we've gone to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something#post-945745 Fri, 19 Jul 2013 10:59:31 +0000 pinkcupcake 945745@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: hahaha yes, it's so the tiger mom in me ;) DH always jokes that it is bc I'm an attorney and always all up in your face ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something#post-945740 Fri, 19 Jul 2013 10:58:27 +0000 pinkcupcake 945740@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: I totally agree with you that it's not my place to teach other kids. I definitely didn't lecture / have any sort of conversation about sharing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something#post-945701 Fri, 19 Jul 2013 10:51:37 +0000 Navy_Mommy 945701@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mewtill: I'm pretty similar. The only time I intervene is if a) the child (or W) is on a ride on toy and the other tries to push them off to get it since it isn't safe or b) if the child being stolen from is getting really upset to the point it would ruin the playdate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something#post-945697 Fri, 19 Jul 2013 10:50:50 +0000 littlek 945697@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I personally wouldn't intervene unless my LO was getting upset or the other child was slapping my LO with the toy. Little guys play funny at this age and taking toys is part of how they play. My LO loves to give me a toy and then take it away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something#post-945685 Fri, 19 Jul 2013 10:47:07 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 945685@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm on the other side of this. When I watch my kid play in a playgroup, I don't intervene even if he takes a toy. Maybe the other parent didn't see it as a problem, since your daughter wasn't upset? I think adults have a very different view of "sharing" than toddlers. Developmentally, toddlers are rarely ready for true cooperative, "sharing" play - they are mainly exploring the world around them and looking for reactions. </p> <p>Here's a link to a blog post that explains better how I feel about toddler sharing:<br /> <a href="http://www.janetlansbury.com/2011/09/baby-teamwork-sharing-because-they-want-to/" rel="nofollow">http://www.janetlansbury.com/2011/09/baby-teamwork-sharing-because-they-want-to/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something#post-945682 Fri, 19 Jul 2013 10:45:54 +0000 Navy_Mommy 945682@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have an acquaintance who would intervene any time another kid would try to play with a toy her daughter had and now the little girl who's almost two screams if another kid even looks at the toy she's playing with. I don't want to "teach" W inadvertently that other kids shouldn't come near whatever he's playing with. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something#post-945671 Fri, 19 Jul 2013 10:43:20 +0000 MamaMoose 945671@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If my child wasn't getting upset I would let it go since I don't see it as my responsibility to teach other people's children how to behave properly. However, if my child was upset/crying, then I would intervene on her behalf. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something#post-945668 Fri, 19 Jul 2013 10:43:03 +0000 regberadaisy 945668@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>After a few times tiger mom will emerge and say something! ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something#post-945667 Fri, 19 Jul 2013 10:42:34 +0000 Navy_Mommy 945667@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If W doesn't seem bothered by it I don't say anything - if it doesn't bother him why should it bother me? If he seems upset I would say something. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something#post-945660 Fri, 19 Jul 2013 10:41:09 +0000 mamimami 945660@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What you did was perfect although maybe you should have done it earlier, before you started getting annoyed? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something#post-945652 Fri, 19 Jul 2013 10:39:40 +0000 Modern Daisy 945652@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you handled it perfectly. You didn't lecture the other LO about not stealing toys and you didn't confront the other Mom about the toy-stealing. But you managed to get the other Mom's attention finally without ruffling any feathers adn it ended up working out since clearly she knew that her LO had to stop the behavior. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something#post-945633 Fri, 19 Jul 2013 10:34:26 +0000 pinkcupcake 945633@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were at a large play group recently and my 17 month old was playing with a ball. Another little girl around the same age kept following her around and taking the ball from her. My LO is really laid back and doesn't take toys from other kids (yet) so she didn't try to take it back or anything. This happened several times- whenever my LO would find a toy, this other kid would come grab it from her! I was getting so irritated. Usually the parent will intervene and tell their kid not to take toys but this mom was either not paying attention or didn't care, so after the third or fourth time, I told the kid (very nicely), "LO was playing with that, is it ok if you play with this other toy?" At that point, the other mom finally woke up and distracted her kid away. </p> <p>I usually try not to intervene when kids are playing and usually, the parents are pretty attentive so I really don't have to. In this case though, I was getting so annoyed. What do you usually do? </p>