https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 15 May 2026 16:44:11 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something-to-someone-who-forward-faced-their-baby-at-8-months/page/2#post-1785629 Mon, 28 Jul 2014 17:03:33 +0000 Adira 1785629@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Purpledaisy: Damn! Maybe you could just say "What a big boy!! I can't believe he's FF already! Although I thought it was illegal here before one... is that not the case?" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something-to-someone-who-forward-faced-their-baby-at-8-months/page/2#post-1785622 Mon, 28 Jul 2014 16:57:36 +0000 Purpledaisy 1785622@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: She just posted his 8 month picture like the day before :bummed: that is a good idea though... maybe she would just assume that I didn't see it... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something-to-someone-who-forward-faced-their-baby-at-8-months/page/2#post-1785449 Mon, 28 Jul 2014 14:41:15 +0000 Mommy Finger 1785449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My sister in law FF my niece at 10 months. She knew that she shouldn't and even made the "i'm a bad mom" comment about it without anyone bringing anything up about it. So, I didn't say anything. It wouldn't have changed her mind. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something-to-someone-who-forward-faced-their-baby-at-8-months/page/2#post-1785066 Mon, 28 Jul 2014 12:01:34 +0000 autumnlove 1785066@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't say anything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something-to-someone-who-forward-faced-their-baby-at-8-months/page/2#post-1785058 Mon, 28 Jul 2014 11:58:26 +0000 Adira 1785058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Purpledaisy: Is it obvious in the picture/post the age of her LO? Maybe you can say something like "Wow! I didn't know your LO was one already!" and then when she says "He isn't. He's ____ months", you can say "Oh wow, I thought it was illegal here to forward-face before one! Is that not the case?" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something-to-someone-who-forward-faced-their-baby-at-8-months/page/2#post-1785047 Mon, 28 Jul 2014 11:53:55 +0000 Purpledaisy 1785047@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So, I have been waiting all weekend hoping that someone would post something on her picture about it but they didn't. I want to but I don't think that I am going to say anything... ugh, it is killing me though! </p> <p>Also, we are in California and the law is one and 20 pounds, so it is illegal here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something-to-someone-who-forward-faced-their-baby-at-8-months/page/2#post-1784217 Sun, 27 Jul 2014 22:06:05 +0000 Katrocap 1784217@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't say anything unless we were close. Although we will<br /> rear-face at least until DS is two, it is not illegal in the US to forward face before a certain age/weight. Perhaps some states have such laws but my state, Maryland, just advises that infants RF before age one and 20 lbs. The only actual child passenger safety laws pertain to seat belts and children under age 8 being in appropriate child restraints. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something-to-someone-who-forward-faced-their-baby-at-8-months/page/2#post-1783691 Sun, 27 Jul 2014 14:15:44 +0000 skibobrown 1783691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've said things like "gosh, I'm so jealous of your front-facing setup. It seems so much easier, but we're still rear facing," When they inevitably ask why we're still rear-facing I tell them that where we live we do a lot of highway driving, and rear facing is just so much safer were we ever to be in a major accident. That at least gets it in their head that rear facing is worth it for safety reasons. What they decide to do from there is their own decision. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something-to-someone-who-forward-faced-their-baby-at-8-months/page/2#post-1783684 Sun, 27 Jul 2014 14:05:47 +0000 looch 1783684@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't say anything, because I don't think anyone would change their mind, quite frankly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something-to-someone-who-forward-faced-their-baby-at-8-months/page/2#post-1783640 Sun, 27 Jul 2014 12:56:31 +0000 Cherrybee 1783640@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: Yeah, 9months is standard here. My friend switched at 6 months! Our cars in the UK are much smaller than US cars for one - our 2nd car is a Nissan Micra, the car seat we bought (which could RF until 15 months) didnt fit in rear facing (!) and, as the car doesn't have back doors, getting her in and out of a rear facing seat would be a nightmare!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something-to-someone-who-forward-faced-their-baby-at-8-months/page/2#post-1783609 Sun, 27 Jul 2014 12:26:17 +0000 fairy 1783609@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>To me, this is a life-or-death situation and if anything happened, I would feel horrible that I never said anything. Internal decapitation is no joke and it is my hope that noone would FF so early if they knew how dangerous it was. I have politely brought it up to a friend before and she had no idea and was very thankful that I said something. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something-to-someone-who-forward-faced-their-baby-at-8-months/page/2#post-1783604 Sun, 27 Jul 2014 12:19:31 +0000 catomd00 1783604@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, it's not my business. If it was a close friend or family I would make sure they were aware it was safer to keep rear facing. But if they knew and made that choice then it's not my issue. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something-to-someone-who-forward-faced-their-baby-at-8-months/page/2#post-1783573 Sun, 27 Jul 2014 11:45:53 +0000 autumn865 1783573@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If it was a close friend I would privately message/ call/ email about it. I would try to choose my wording carefully not to sound attacking of her but instead sound concerned for her child out of love. I would not post it on a public message board or say something if it is just a "Facebook friend." In those instances it is not my place to say anything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something-to-someone-who-forward-faced-their-baby-at-8-months/page/2#post-1783163 Sat, 26 Jul 2014 18:09:14 +0000 Mamaof2 1783163@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes and I did say something!</p> <p>I told her " yikes! Did you know that's illegal?"</p> <p>She said " he was close enough to 1"</p> <p>He was 10 months- </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something-to-someone-who-forward-faced-their-baby-at-8-months/page/2#post-1783159 Sat, 26 Jul 2014 18:05:47 +0000 erinpye 1783159@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know if I would say something, luckily no one I know has done this. But...oh my God, that's dangerous. That kid risks internal decapitation in the event of a collision. Yeah, I guess I think I probably would. I hate when "s/he is fussy in the car" is used as an excuse for turning super young kids. My first baby cried her head off in the car until she was nearly a year old. We flipped her at 2, causing her to be FUSSIER again for a while. You can hear anecdotal stories both ways, but I'd rather has a fussy safe baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something-to-someone-who-forward-faced-their-baby-at-8-months/page/2#post-1783070 Sat, 26 Jul 2014 15:12:53 +0000 MamaMoose 1783070@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would absolutely say something in a private message. Just tell her it's illegal because it's much less safe. Act like you're trying protect her from a ticket as opposed to judging her parenting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something-to-someone-who-forward-faced-their-baby-at-8-months/page/2#post-1783059 Sat, 26 Jul 2014 14:54:44 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1783059@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kemma: lol!!!!! I can't tell if your serious or not, but I'm totally adopting this trick.</p> <p>I guess I wouldn't? But that would bug me to no end. Poor kid :/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something-to-someone-who-forward-faced-their-baby-at-8-months/page/2#post-1783055 Sat, 26 Jul 2014 14:48:45 +0000 meganmp 1783055@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Check on your state's laws- it's not illegal in Washington if your kiddo is over 20 lbs. </p> <p><a href="http://www.wsp.wa.gov/traveler/d4faqs.htm" rel="nofollow">http://www.wsp.wa.gov/traveler/d4faqs.htm</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something-to-someone-who-forward-faced-their-baby-at-8-months/page/2#post-1783024 Sat, 26 Jul 2014 14:15:47 +0000 Sapphiresun 1783024@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I probably would. It's illegal here to forward face before one year, and work in policing so I'd just frame it as "hate for you to get a ticket". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something-to-someone-who-forward-faced-their-baby-at-8-months/page/2#post-1782998 Sat, 26 Jul 2014 13:49:51 +0000 irene 1782998@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No I wouldn't say anything. I guess it is not an issue that is on top of my priority list, besides you said she is just an aquaintance not a good friend. Not my place.</p> <p>But if it is illegal, I would casually comment saying, "I thought it was illegal to do forward facing before 1 year? Better check it out?" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something-to-someone-who-forward-faced-their-baby-at-8-months/page/2#post-1782996 Sat, 26 Jul 2014 13:47:30 +0000 Mrs. Deer 1782996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Purpledaisy: I would definitely send them a private message. A couple of good ways to phrase it have been suggested. I did a similar thing for a Facebook "friend" who was giving her 2 month old rice cereal and she ended up being appreciative. </p> <p>Let us know what you do! Curious if she really knows it's illegal? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something-to-someone-who-forward-faced-their-baby-at-8-months/page/2#post-1782991 Sat, 26 Jul 2014 13:39:39 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 1782991@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Probably, especially since it's illegal. If we aren't particularly close, then nothing to lose. Many people simply don't know better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something-to-someone-who-forward-faced-their-baby-at-8-months#post-1782990 Sat, 26 Jul 2014 13:39:18 +0000 travelgirl1 1782990@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't say anything, not my place to.</p> <p>@Cherrybee: It's very common in the UK to ff before a year, isn't it? I only say because when we visited last summer, and A was nine months old, our parents and siblings all installed car seats for her ff and thought I was a right weirdo when I argued with them about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something-to-someone-who-forward-faced-their-baby-at-8-months#post-1782989 Sat, 26 Jul 2014 13:37:34 +0000 californiadreams 1782989@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i have been in this situation (baby was maybe closer to 9 or 10 months i think, but i believe the law is one year) and I did not say anything. The person does not take criticism well and would have turned it around on me and not changed what she was doing so it would have been futile. </p> <p>If it was someone else, i might go about passively, like "i thought it was the law to keep them rear facing for a year - you don't want to get caught"). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something-to-someone-who-forward-faced-their-baby-at-8-months#post-1782967 Sat, 26 Jul 2014 13:14:25 +0000 Ash 1782967@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@loveisstrange: doesn't this mean 1 year AND 20lbs... Not OR? "Im my state, it's 20lbs or 1 year. Its worded something like "rear-facing is for infants 0-1 year of age and at least 20lbs".</p> <p>In the us, it's illegal to FF before 1 year, I believe, regardless of weight. </p> <p>Our neighbor has their 9 month old FF and I kept my mouth shut even though I don't want to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something-to-someone-who-forward-faced-their-baby-at-8-months#post-1782959 Sat, 26 Jul 2014 12:53:50 +0000 winniebee 1782959@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sister or close friend yes. Otherwise no. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something-to-someone-who-forward-faced-their-baby-at-8-months#post-1782954 Sat, 26 Jul 2014 12:44:10 +0000 NovBaby1112 1782954@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I was close to the person, I would absolutely say something! Not in a judging way, but just out of concern- and I would hope someone that was close to me would say something as well, esp. if I didn't know any better or wasn't up to date on the latest recommendations. I think we forget that a lot of people aren't huge internet crazy researchers like most of us. If not close to the person, I probably wouldn't say anything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something-to-someone-who-forward-faced-their-baby-at-8-months#post-1782946 Sat, 26 Jul 2014 12:25:12 +0000 pui 1782946@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't want people judging my parenting choices. I am sure there are lots of parenting things I plan to do that people would have a problem with and I'd rather them keep their opinions to themselves. Even though I agree with you and think 8 months is very early for forward-facing, I would likely say nothing. It might depend on how close I am to them I guess. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something-to-someone-who-forward-faced-their-baby-at-8-months#post-1782889 Sat, 26 Jul 2014 10:51:34 +0000 loveisstrange 1782889@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jmarionsmith: Im my state, it's 20lbs or 1 year. Its worded something like "rear-facing is for infants 0-1 year of age and at least 20lbs". A lot of states go by either/or but it varies state by state, so it depends on where she lives. When I lived in the UK, it was 9kg OR 9 months of age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-say-something-to-someone-who-forward-faced-their-baby-at-8-months#post-1782875 Sat, 26 Jul 2014 10:36:57 +0000 Mrs. Lion 1782875@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it depends on a lot of things....To me, if i was doing something dangerous and just didn't know any better, i would want someone to tell me. Probably not publicly on fb because that would make me feel like an idiot i think, but in a private conversation maybe. If you aren't close enough with this person to have a private conversation, i wouldn't say anything. I also think posting links or tying it into compliments could come across as kinda passive aggressive, even though i know that wouldn't be the intent. If your goal is to educate her because you think she doesn't know better, asking a question to determine how much research she has done would be a good place to start..but again, only in a private conversation, not publicly. </p>