https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 01 May 2026 17:41:49 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-skip-this-wedding#post-2879741 Mon, 08 Apr 2019 09:18:58 +0000 psw27 2879741@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Heck no I would not go. First, because flying and traveling that long at 31 weeks would be a hard no for me because I am high risk for preterm labor and second, it sounds like a mess for numerous other reasons. New GF, weird family stuff, facebook invites.... nah! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-skip-this-wedding#post-2879706 Sun, 07 Apr 2019 22:55:19 +0000 thepicklemonster 2879706@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>OMG NO WAY. 31 weeks pregnant, two young children, and family drama? I wouldn’t go if even ONE of these conditions existed! This is not even a close one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-skip-this-wedding#post-2879617 Sat, 06 Apr 2019 20:39:32 +0000 Ms. RV 2879617@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So I talked it over with my other half today and he says he doesn't even think he'll feel guilty if he doesn't go. He was all on board to go until his brother (who is 36 with a really, really good job) hit their parents up for money to pay for a $30k wedding. Cue more family drama. :shocked: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-skip-this-wedding#post-2879432 Thu, 04 Apr 2019 22:25:21 +0000 lamariniere 2879432@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Another no vote here. In addition to the pregnancy concerns, it sounds like you barely know them as a couple and there isn't much of a relationship. I don't think either you or they will regret you not going. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-skip-this-wedding#post-2879404 Thu, 04 Apr 2019 17:14:29 +0000 SweetiePie 2879404@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn’t go and I wouldn’t have guilt. Weddings are not mandatory yet so many people act like they are.<br /> I’ll never take my kids to a wedding until bedtime and/or naps and/or flights aren't an issue. So as long as they are young enough to need a caregiver, that is enough reason for me. Now, I’ll happily go without them :-) But being 31 weeks pregnant is also a legit reason. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-skip-this-wedding#post-2879377 Thu, 04 Apr 2019 12:51:39 +0000 periwinklebee 2879377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, it would be a hard no from me. I wouldn't want to travel at 31 weeks even with a low risk pregnancy, let alone with a higher risk. I actually know a couple of people who have delivered doing this and ended up with an extended nicu stay far from home, with potentially complicated insurance implications. I decided for my last pregnancy that I wouldn't fly in the third trimester, not against others doing it but the risks aren't worth it for me... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-skip-this-wedding#post-2879372 Thu, 04 Apr 2019 12:32:37 +0000 Mrsbells 2879372@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would skip. Peace of mind comes first. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-skip-this-wedding#post-2879308 Wed, 03 Apr 2019 23:57:53 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2879308@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Even if you weren't high risk, I say don't go. If something were to happen, you would regret it. Even if it all went relatively smoothly, the stress of traveling that long with kiddos in tow, while pregnant is just way too much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-skip-this-wedding#post-2879307 Wed, 03 Apr 2019 23:40:15 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2879307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Because of you being high risk, I'd say no. I flew past that point in pregnancy but I was low risk. I bet your doctor wouldn't recommend it anyway! Sorry you're having to make this decision, family drama sucks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-skip-this-wedding#post-2879298 Wed, 03 Apr 2019 19:51:08 +0000 Foodnerd81 2879298@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ms. RV: have you asked your doctor? I wouldn’t be surprised if they really did just say no anyway and then it’s a moot point. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-skip-this-wedding#post-2879296 Wed, 03 Apr 2019 19:37:24 +0000 LemonJack 2879296@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn’t go in this situation. I would be nervous to fly that far when I was 31 weeks pregnant, especially considering the history you described. </p> <p>My BIL’s cousin was cleared to fly by her doctor and ended up going into labor early (I think it was around 32-33 weeks). They were stranded halfway across the country for a couple of months while the baby was in the NICU. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-skip-this-wedding#post-2879293 Wed, 03 Apr 2019 19:12:31 +0000 ALV91711 2879293@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn’t go. Just sounds like too much. </p> <p>FWIW my BIL is getting married this fall and DH is going solo. I’ll be about a month back to work after maternity leave and it is just too expensive to fly all of us for a weekend. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-skip-this-wedding#post-2879292 Wed, 03 Apr 2019 18:43:46 +0000 JCCovi 2879292@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you’re fine to skip just based on your pregnancy and history. If it were me I’d send both kids with DH and have a little time to myself before #3 arrives! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-skip-this-wedding#post-2879291 Wed, 03 Apr 2019 18:23:26 +0000 pachamama 2879291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh god no. I would not go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-skip-this-wedding#post-2879290 Wed, 03 Apr 2019 18:07:52 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 2879290@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Don’t go. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-skip-this-wedding#post-2879289 Wed, 03 Apr 2019 17:53:26 +0000 jhd 2879289@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No I would not go. You had me at #1. If there’s even a chance you could end up with an extended NICU stay halfway across the country it’s not worth the risk to me. But this is coming from a two time NICU mama who has to travel to get to specialists we need so I have a different perspective. I would not take that risk regardless of how my husband felt. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-skip-this-wedding#post-2879287 Wed, 03 Apr 2019 17:48:08 +0000 Ms. RV 2879287@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@annem1990: I know you meant big as in amount, but now I kind of have in my head to send them one of those big sweepstakes checks :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-skip-this-wedding#post-2879285 Wed, 03 Apr 2019 17:44:41 +0000 Reese 2879285@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I said no by #3</p> <p>Pass </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-skip-this-wedding#post-2879283 Wed, 03 Apr 2019 17:42:12 +0000 Ms. RV 2879283@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:heart: Thank you all so much for all of you confirming I'm not a bad person for skipping!!! Hopefully SO is okay with. I've decided I really don't care what he rest of the family thinks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-skip-this-wedding#post-2879279 Wed, 03 Apr 2019 17:29:53 +0000 annem1990 2879279@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Heck no. We fly a ton with our toddler, but 5 hours is brutal and being that pregnant would be a hard pass. I’d bet your Doctor would agree (although I know lots of women fly past that point and I’m sure it’s generallyy safe). Send your SO alone and/or a big check. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-skip-this-wedding#post-2879261 Wed, 03 Apr 2019 16:01:49 +0000 agold 2879261@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’d definitely skip it. Zero guilt. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-skip-this-wedding#post-2879260 Wed, 03 Apr 2019 15:58:42 +0000 MsMini 2879260@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If my DH wanted me there I would go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-skip-this-wedding#post-2879259 Wed, 03 Apr 2019 15:56:10 +0000 bees_knees 2879259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Noooooope. Wouldn't go. And I wouldn't feel badly about it either. Bride/Groom will probably think it's because you don't want to (I certainly wouldn't want to either!) but you have really really good reasons to skip. </p> <p>P.S. The happy couple sounds super fun (eyeroll) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-skip-this-wedding#post-2879254 Wed, 03 Apr 2019 15:16:13 +0000 shabang 2879254@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’d skip it after #1, I wouldn’t feel weird, and I wouldn’t let anyone give you a guilt trip! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-skip-this-wedding#post-2879252 Wed, 03 Apr 2019 15:09:20 +0000 LCTBQE 2879252@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hard no with zero guilt. If your SO found out about this on Facebook, you and your tiny children will not be missed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-skip-this-wedding#post-2879251 Wed, 03 Apr 2019 15:01:14 +0000 lioneyes 2879251@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>NOPE. Didn't even need to see the other stuff, just that you will be 31 weeks pregnant, have had complicated deliveries previously, and this is your 3rd child.</p> <p>I think since you haven't delivered early with your other pregnancies, your SO could go IF YOU WANTED HIM TO! but there is no reason you need to have that physical (and emotional!) stress of traveling with 2 small kids when you are that pregnant (and don't actively want to go!). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-skip-this-wedding#post-2879250 Wed, 03 Apr 2019 14:59:27 +0000 bhbee 2879250@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I definitely would not go. I’d probably say I discussed it with OB and they said no to avoid drama if possible. I know that’s not always how family drama works though ... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-skip-this-wedding#post-2879247 Wed, 03 Apr 2019 14:40:26 +0000 Rocker2014 2879247@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Forgetting all the other issues, I personally wouldn't go at 31 weeks pregnant with a possibly medically complex baby. Just not worth the risk, for me. </p> <p>(no judgement for anyone else who would, just my own personal choice). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-skip-this-wedding#post-2879245 Wed, 03 Apr 2019 14:34:00 +0000 Ms. RV 2879245@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@maybebaby: I really don't. Flying is such a pain. We live an hour from the airport with no traffic, two with. If it were an eight hour drive I would go in a heartbeat. But it is a 30 hour drive...</p> <p>@graceandjoy: Thanks! I just hope everyone else sees it that way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-skip-this-wedding#post-2879243 Wed, 03 Apr 2019 14:26:48 +0000 graceandjoy 2879243@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>31 weeks pregnant with 2 kids tagging along and transferring flights, I feel like that would be reason enough not to go, seriously, out of concerns for you. Even if we all have a great relationship, I def would put yours and your baby's health first. </p>