https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 19 Jul 2026 08:38:26 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-stay-with-a-great-doctor-if-you-didnt-feel-really-supported-mentally-by-her#post-505027 Tue, 15 Jan 2013 10:27:26 +0000 tororojo 505027@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you should love your doctor! Who cares what other people think if you don't feel supported? I would look around for another one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-stay-with-a-great-doctor-if-you-didnt-feel-really-supported-mentally-by-her#post-504940 Tue, 15 Jan 2013 09:53:00 +0000 Alivoo01 504940@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd switch. I've actually switched OBGYN's and dermatologist in the past because I didn't "connect" with them. These doctors were highly rated and even voted as one of Dallas' best! They're published annually in our D Magazine. I felt like I was just another patient of theirs and they were just there to take my money. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-stay-with-a-great-doctor-if-you-didnt-feel-really-supported-mentally-by-her#post-504930 Tue, 15 Jan 2013 09:50:58 +0000 Arden 504930@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would absolutely change providers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-stay-with-a-great-doctor-if-you-didnt-feel-really-supported-mentally-by-her#post-504919 Tue, 15 Jan 2013 09:45:51 +0000 runsyellowlites 504919@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would switch for sure. Just because she performs surgery or delivery well doesn't make her a good obgyn.... There is way more care involved than just that moment &amp; her lack of care or follow through after having your baby, especially with you ppd, would be a huge red flag &amp; deal breaker for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-stay-with-a-great-doctor-if-you-didnt-feel-really-supported-mentally-by-her#post-504894 Tue, 15 Jan 2013 09:36:23 +0000 meredithNYC 504894@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmmm... probably not. I went to one of those huge practices with like, 8 doctors and of course, there were some I loved, one I hated, and a few in-between. But luckily, when I had PPD I was able to talk to their fantastic, supportive midwife on staff. If you don't have that kind of option, I would say look elsewhere. Apparently if you have PPD the first time around there is a greater chance you will have it again (which scares the bejeesus out of me! Ugh), so it's something you might be dealing with again, unfortunately. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-stay-with-a-great-doctor-if-you-didnt-feel-really-supported-mentally-by-her#post-504891 Tue, 15 Jan 2013 09:35:00 +0000 prettylizy 504891@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep, I'd be out of there. My OB is a great guy and came highly recommended, but I won't go back to him. He was very pleasent and I'm sure he's very good at what he does (he didn't end up delivering LO) but I only saw him for 5-10 minutes at a time and if I were to run into him on the street he wouldn't know who I was. Next time I'm going to see a midwife. </p> <p>I think if you don't feel comfortable with the all around care, it's not the right choice for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-stay-with-a-great-doctor-if-you-didnt-feel-really-supported-mentally-by-her#post-504860 Tue, 15 Jan 2013 09:18:36 +0000 Weagle 504860@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would switch. If I was looking for someone to perform brain surgery, I wouldn't care how much emotional support I got. But there is SO much involved with pregnancy/post-partum that I think emotional support from a doc is really important. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-stay-with-a-great-doctor-if-you-didnt-feel-really-supported-mentally-by-her#post-504850 Tue, 15 Jan 2013 09:12:29 +0000 MrsTiz 504850@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would change doctors, and I am actually. My OB is the same way, a fantastic medical doctor but she has awful bedside manor and that doesn't fly well with me. I'll have a different OB next time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-stay-with-a-great-doctor-if-you-didnt-feel-really-supported-mentally-by-her#post-504829 Tue, 15 Jan 2013 09:03:59 +0000 SleepyMonkey 504829@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i would change doctors. i had a bad case of the baby blues (i think) that lasted up until 7 weeks, and my doctor was really concerned. she gave me a list of doctors to contact, and then made me schedule a follow up appt with her in a month. i would not feel comfortable with a doctor that was brushing me off like that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-stay-with-a-great-doctor-if-you-didnt-feel-really-supported-mentally-by-her#post-504816 Tue, 15 Jan 2013 08:57:05 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 504816@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely change docs if you don't feel comfortable. I went through 3 doctors before finding one I was felt was on the same page as me, and the other two were excellent doctors. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-stay-with-a-great-doctor-if-you-didnt-feel-really-supported-mentally-by-her#post-504757 Tue, 15 Jan 2013 08:15:37 +0000 pelikila 504757@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just because someone is great for the majority doesn't mean she/he is right for you. You are as individual as everyone else and if it were me, I'd find another doctor. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-stay-with-a-great-doctor-if-you-didnt-feel-really-supported-mentally-by-her#post-504755 Tue, 15 Jan 2013 08:13:50 +0000 regberadaisy 504755@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't because to ME that's not a great doctor. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. She has to be a great doctor for YOu! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-stay-with-a-great-doctor-if-you-didnt-feel-really-supported-mentally-by-her#post-504744 Tue, 15 Jan 2013 07:59:02 +0000 Sugar.Biscuit 504744@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just wanted to say that I'm sorry that you're going through this &amp; let you know you're not alone. I'm in a similar situation right now with my GP. </p> <p>I've been through years of tests for simple disorders and after she dismissed my concerns about my MC last week, well that was the last straw. I feel bad about leaving because I am a loyal patient &amp; have been seeing her for over 7 years. </p> <p>Point is you need to have a Dr. you can trust. I don't feel like I can trust her anymore. I've given her several months to see a change and it's only been worse. You have to do what yours gut is telling you. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-stay-with-a-great-doctor-if-you-didnt-feel-really-supported-mentally-by-her#post-504741 Tue, 15 Jan 2013 07:51:11 +0000 betsyboop 504741@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with the others that PPD is a big deal and your OB should have taken your concerns more seriously. On the other hand, if I really thought the doctor was competent in other aspects I would consider staying with her. Example: I considered switching OBs before I delivered because I felt mine often brushed off my questions or concerns when I was pregnant, but when it came to the actual delivery, there were issues that arose that could have warranted a C-section but my OB was committed to helping me deliver vaginally that she was so patient and persistent, and really helped me through it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-stay-with-a-great-doctor-if-you-didnt-feel-really-supported-mentally-by-her#post-504721 Tue, 15 Jan 2013 07:26:11 +0000 mrbee 504721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Could she be your OB, and another doctor be your GP? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-stay-with-a-great-doctor-if-you-didnt-feel-really-supported-mentally-by-her#post-504694 Tue, 15 Jan 2013 03:46:49 +0000 MamaMoose 504694@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would say that she is in fact not a good medical doctor. Mt OB is not really a cuddly person and she's not my cheerleader like some OBs are but she was/is an incredibly competent doctor. I thought you were going to describe a similar situation. But ignoring PPD is a really big deal. I hate to think how things could have gone for you if you weren't strong enough to push her for help, I would find another doctor before getting pregnant again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-stay-with-a-great-doctor-if-you-didnt-feel-really-supported-mentally-by-her#post-504693 Tue, 15 Jan 2013 03:44:06 +0000 LaineysMom 504693@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't be comfortable with a doctor that didn't support me. PPD is a very serious condition. Further, it took you a lot of courage to tell her that you needed help and needed anti-depressants. The fact that she didn't take you seriously enough to help you in your time of need tells me that you need to find a new doctor. Any decent OB will be able to perform a complication free cesarean, so don't let that be your primary deterrent. Best of luck to you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-stay-with-a-great-doctor-if-you-didnt-feel-really-supported-mentally-by-her#post-504683 Tue, 15 Jan 2013 02:43:52 +0000 BeachMama 504683@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know why I'm even thinking about this since LO is only 7 months and we are nowhere near having #2, but it's been on my mind a lot lately....</p> <p>My OB is very well respected and a great doctor. I ended up having a c-section and I had no complications. All of the nurses in the hospital talked about how they loved her and all had her as a doctor. My lactation consultant (from a separate company) commented on how great she is. I really have no complaints from a medical/surgical standpoint. </p> <p>However, I got PPD pretty bad and it was really difficult to get her to believe it was more than "baby blues" and took me sobbing on her voicemail one day to get a prescription for zoloft. When I asked for a referral for a psychologist she gave me someone's name but had no contact info. I had to do a lot of searching online to get a hold of the therapist. And at my 6 month follow up, she never once asked how I was feeling (mentally), or asked about the zoloft, etc.</p> <p>So now when I think about having baby #2 I don't know if I'd stay with her or try to find someone new. I'd possibly have another c-section, which scares me, and since I had no complications from the first one I'm tempted to just stay with her. But I don't feel like she really takes care of ME.</p> <p>Anyhow....after this long post....what would you do? Stay with a doctor you know is a really good doctor/surgeon, or try to find someone who is more supportive of you physically and mentally? </p>