https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 04 May 2026 21:46:56 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-still-have-married-your-so-if-heshe-didnt-want-any-kids/page/3#post-718424 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 21:48:42 +0000 LittleFox 718424@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Absolute dealbreaker, but it would have been for him, too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-still-have-married-your-so-if-heshe-didnt-want-any-kids/page/3#post-718401 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 21:31:29 +0000 sera_87 718401@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Before seeing that positive stick I was very meh about having kids. So yes, I would have married DH. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-still-have-married-your-so-if-heshe-didnt-want-any-kids/page/3#post-718345 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 20:52:32 +0000 Maysprout 718345@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Deal breaker. I think we had this conversation before we started dating. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-still-have-married-your-so-if-heshe-didnt-want-any-kids/page/2#post-718269 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 20:16:58 +0000 MrsRcCar 718269@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Children would be a dealbreaker for me. DH and I have always been on the same page about children though. Children are something that is extremely important to me and as it turns out extremely important to DH. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-still-have-married-your-so-if-heshe-didnt-want-any-kids/page/2#post-718256 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 20:12:00 +0000 MrsH 718256@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-still-have-married-your-so-if-heshe-didnt-want-any-kids/page/2#post-718247 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 20:08:43 +0000 IRunForFun 718247@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not sure. I'd like to think I would have, because now I absolutely can't imagine my life without him in it, but if I had found out very early on that he never wanted kids, I probably wouldn't have continued to pursue the relationship. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-still-have-married-your-so-if-heshe-didnt-want-any-kids/page/2#post-718235 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 20:03:02 +0000 chopsuey 718235@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@banana: DANG! That's so sad.. :( </p> <p>Before I married DH, we talked about kids and he wasn't sure he wanted biological children. I've always wanted to have babies, but I also knew that just because I wanted biological kids didn't mean I would be able to have them.<br /> I knew DH was the one for me so the fact that he didn't want kids didn't sway my decision to marry him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-still-have-married-your-so-if-heshe-didnt-want-any-kids/page/2#post-718211 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 19:47:10 +0000 Andrea 718211@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Your poor friend, but I am glad she found out now!</p> <p>It would have been a deal breaker for the both of us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-still-have-married-your-so-if-heshe-didnt-want-any-kids/page/2#post-718207 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 19:42:53 +0000 Ra 718207@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I still would have married him. No question. I can't imagine my life without DH. I'm sure I would have moments of sadness but I'd get over it. It would allow us a lifestyle of travel and leisure. I love DS with all my heart and am so happy to be a mom soon. Still, I'd be able to adjust if we chose a different life path. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-still-have-married-your-so-if-heshe-didnt-want-any-kids/page/2#post-718013 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 17:31:57 +0000 marionberry 718013@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It would be a dealbreaker for me. Kids are just a must! I was lucky that even though I married a man who was much older and already had kids that he really wanted more! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-still-have-married-your-so-if-heshe-didnt-want-any-kids/page/2#post-717712 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 15:15:49 +0000 kjpugs 717712@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So interesting to hear everyone's answers. @banana: I hope your friend figures it out, so frustrating! I hate when my DH changes his mind about dinner, haha, so that's A LOT.</p> <p>I was thinking about my answer more and I think it would be a dealbreaker. If he said up front definitely no kids I may have dated him a bit more but then if he didn't budge, it would've been over. If he was "meh" I would have kept dating him but when we got engaged or discussed engagement, I would make sure he knew it was non-negotiable for me and if he didn't come around, then probably it would end.</p> <p>I had a boyfriend in college who said if he didn't have "the money" to have kids he wouldn't, and that he would wait til he did. (No idea what the proper "money" is, meaning no debt, or what?) I asked him "what if you never have "the money" to have kids, will you not" and he said yeah he wouldn't then, and that really cooled our relationship. I just couldn't imagine being like "well I have a little too much debt so let's not have kids." Financial circumstances change so often... and the window of time to have children is small... it's worth it to me! (Although there is some value to being smart, like how we waited for DH to finish school, etc) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-still-have-married-your-so-if-heshe-didnt-want-any-kids/page/2#post-717645 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 14:59:41 +0000 regberadaisy 717645@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It would have been a deal breaker for me. I think wanting kids is part of a personality/character that is important to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-still-have-married-your-so-if-heshe-didnt-want-any-kids/page/2#post-717639 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 14:58:35 +0000 banana 717639@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Raindrop: That's what she's secretly hoping for too. But now she says she won't believe him even if he says he wants kids again! GAH! He broke her trust with that one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-still-have-married-your-so-if-heshe-didnt-want-any-kids/page/2#post-717630 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 14:56:34 +0000 sslm 717630@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, that would be a deal breaker for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-still-have-married-your-so-if-heshe-didnt-want-any-kids/page/2#post-717629 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 14:56:30 +0000 Raindrop 717629@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@banana: Wow really!? Sorry to say that would so annoy me!! BUT.. Maybe he will change his mind again? *crosses fingers* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-still-have-married-your-so-if-heshe-didnt-want-any-kids/page/2#post-717628 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 14:56:28 +0000 banana 717628@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@shopaholic: That's horrible! I feel sorry for your friend.:( Yes, I'm really glad that she found out before because at least she can now move on with her life. Although she keeps wanting to get back with him because she misses him.</p> <p>@Mrs. High Heels: I agree! He should've brought it up earlier, that jerk! He says he JUST realized he didn't want kids but I just can't believe that he would go from 100% wanting kids to 100% not wanting kids overnight. I don't know... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-still-have-married-your-so-if-heshe-didnt-want-any-kids/page/2#post-717623 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 14:54:55 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 717623@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Probably not - that is a non-negotiable for me. I feel so bad for your friend that she didn't find that out until after they got engaged! He should've brought it up much much sooner. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-still-have-married-your-so-if-heshe-didnt-want-any-kids/page/2#post-717618 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 14:53:40 +0000 shopaholic 717618@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly, no. That would be a deal breaker for me too. If we COULDN'T have kids, it would be different. Sucks for your friend but at least she found out before. I had a friend whose DH changed his mind AFTER they'd been married a few years. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-still-have-married-your-so-if-heshe-didnt-want-any-kids/page/2#post-717558 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 14:38:02 +0000 Mrs Hedgehog 717558@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would have been a deal breaker. But, I brought it up early so I don't think I would have gotten far enough into the relationship before finding out that it would have hurt that bad. It is super important to both of us and I know he would have done the same. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-still-have-married-your-so-if-heshe-didnt-want-any-kids/page/2#post-717536 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 14:33:04 +0000 banana 717536@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Raindrop: She actually mentioned it to him early on (like the 1st date!) and he said at the time that he definitely wanted kids. But now, a year later, he says "no way". UGH. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-still-have-married-your-so-if-heshe-didnt-want-any-kids/page/2#post-717263 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 13:32:24 +0000 Raindrop 717263@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is a deal breaker for me too. But I'm suprised your friend got to being engaged before finding this out. This is like a third date question for me. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-still-have-married-your-so-if-heshe-didnt-want-any-kids/page/2#post-717192 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 13:20:58 +0000 Rhdscait 717192@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmmm... I think that may have been a deal breaker for me, as well. I can't say that I'm 100% sure that I would have walked away after that but I cannot imagine myself without my two boys. I would be heartbroken, though, as my husband is truly the one and only love of my life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-still-have-married-your-so-if-heshe-didnt-want-any-kids/page/2#post-716887 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 12:11:40 +0000 JennyLayneAZ 716887@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I married my husband knowing there is a possibility that we won't have kids. He makes me happy and I love him with all my heart. I'll be fine if we don't have any children. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-still-have-married-your-so-if-heshe-didnt-want-any-kids/page/2#post-716883 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 12:11:09 +0000 kml636 716883@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well, not exactly... my DH was pretty jaded when I met him and said he didn't want kids but he was open to it. So, we were married 2 years before I even brought it up. Now he's an awesome dad and he absolutely loves it. So, people can change. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-still-have-married-your-so-if-heshe-didnt-want-any-kids/page/2#post-716867 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 12:07:18 +0000 autumnlove 716867@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Tough question but I think I would have still married him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-still-have-married-your-so-if-heshe-didnt-want-any-kids/page/2#post-716844 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 12:02:15 +0000 banana 716844@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@dookie32: My friend's ex-fiancee told her he wanted to have kids for years! He said he was now 1000% sure he didn't want kids anymore. I feel so bad for my friend. She's 40 years old so (in her words) she feels that this is her last chance at love. I guess she's just a bit down right now. She just told me yesterday that she's considering going back to him and forgoing kids because of her age. =( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-still-have-married-your-so-if-heshe-didnt-want-any-kids/page/2#post-716567 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 10:51:16 +0000 LazyLightning 716567@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Absolutely. I was on the fence whether I wanted them myself. Now we're having one, and that'll be it. But I could see us child-free, too. The relationship I have with my husband is so valuable to me, with or without kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-still-have-married-your-so-if-heshe-didnt-want-any-kids/page/2#post-716307 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 09:35:20 +0000 jetsa 716307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It was a deal breaker for both my husband and I. We actually just had this happen to a friend and so we discussed it. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-still-have-married-your-so-if-heshe-didnt-want-any-kids/page/2#post-716304 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 09:34:30 +0000 sarac 716304@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. My husband and I knew early on that kids were both not optional for us. I wouldn't have partnered with him otherwise. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-still-have-married-your-so-if-heshe-didnt-want-any-kids/page/2#post-716259 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 09:22:00 +0000 LuLu Mom 716259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, and actually I had a boyfriend pre-DH that I was very much in love with &amp; this was our dealbreaker. He had a daughter he had in high school and he did not want any more children, and I was not willing to give up the chance of being a mother. </p> <p>It was actually one of the first "serious" conversations I had with DH whe we were dating, I didn't want to invest several months/years only to have the same heartache again. Luckily we were on the same page and the rest is history! </p>