https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 10 Apr 2026 01:08:21 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-tell-your-lo-about-their-traumatic-birth-story#post-2043952 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 14:52:09 +0000 autumnlove 2043952@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@knittylady: I had the same experience for LO 1! I will probably share if she asks but I will leave some of the details out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-tell-your-lo-about-their-traumatic-birth-story#post-2043919 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 14:36:51 +0000 sarac 2043919@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, I'd talk about it whenever in age appropriate ways. Like, 'your birth was really scary for us, so thankfully we had a lot of nice people helping us out!' Etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-tell-your-lo-about-their-traumatic-birth-story#post-2043790 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 13:42:25 +0000 loveisstrange 2043790@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If she asks and probably not every detail unless she specifically asked. </p> <p>My mom had an extremely strange pregnancy with me and an emergency c-section, and I know the general idea but not every detail. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-tell-your-lo-about-their-traumatic-birth-story#post-2043777 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 13:37:43 +0000 illumina 2043777@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't have a traumatic birth with my Daughter, but if I were to have one in future I would definitely tell my children if they asked about it. My Mum had a traumatic delivery with me and I didn't mind that she told me about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-tell-your-lo-about-their-traumatic-birth-story#post-2043771 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 13:35:45 +0000 Raindrop 2043771@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: Thank you! It's nice to know you didn't dig when your mom didn't want to explain more. I would probably give as much detail as he asks for. :) </p> <p>@BabyMats: Thank you so much! Haha your last sentance made me laugh so hard! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-tell-your-lo-about-their-traumatic-birth-story#post-2043758 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 13:29:05 +0000 BabyMats 2043758@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Raindrop: I say yes. My mom had a crazy traumatic birth with me where they told her her they were positive one of is wasnt going to survive and to sign a paper as to which one to work on. The details are like a war story she bled so much. But we are both here and we both were ok.it took my mom a long time to recover but she was fine. I never felt guilty. it is just a crazy event that got me here. I ended up being the best and most behaved child of hers to this day :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-tell-your-lo-about-their-traumatic-birth-story#post-2043519 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 11:39:24 +0000 blackbird 2043519@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If they asked, yes. I can't speak from experience, but my mom had an emergency c-section and supposedly, she and I both almost died. But I don't really know details because, despite asking, she's never elaborated. So it's always been a question mark for me, but I've never really put much thought into it. </p> <p>15+ years does a lot to heal the soul :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-tell-your-lo-about-their-traumatic-birth-story#post-2043512 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 11:35:14 +0000 Raindrop 2043512@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Maysprout: @knittylady: @swurlygurl: @Grace: @LuLu Mom: @coopsmama: Thank you everyone for your input! This has made me feel better. I know I'm being a bit unreasonable for being worried about this.... but it's really comforting to know that it's very likely LO will be fine when we tell him about this. :) Thank you so much! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-tell-your-lo-about-their-traumatic-birth-story#post-2043491 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 11:24:40 +0000 coopsmama 2043491@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a traumatic birth with my first although it was nothing like what you experienced. I'm so sorry for your story and what you had to go through -- so glad your life was saved! :heart: </p> <p>That said, in my case I will share whenever he asks because I figure it's as much as part of his story as it is mine. I will share in an age appropriate way, though, and leave out details until he is ready. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-tell-your-lo-about-their-traumatic-birth-story#post-2043489 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 11:24:07 +0000 LuLu Mom 2043489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think because it's so fresh in your mind you have a very different outlook on it than you might have in 5-10-15 years. Kids aren't going to think about that, they are just going to think about the story. </p> <p>My mom went into labor with my sister 8 weeks early, she had to have an emergency C-section (like completely knocked out) where both her and my sister were given grim outlooks. I've known this story since I was a child, my sister knew as well that she was a "special miracle baby who beat the odds" and in no way did she ever feel guilty. I would tell my daughter when she asks. I had a rough delivery and I will tell her when she asks, like "yep you put mommy through a lot, but you were worth it." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-tell-your-lo-about-their-traumatic-birth-story#post-2043480 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 11:19:15 +0000 Grace 2043480@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Absolutely. It's health information and important to know. Especially having a daughter, I would want her to be armed with as much knowledge as possible. I couldn't imagine her having to go through something and have me say (after the fact), "yeah, that happened to me too". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-tell-your-lo-about-their-traumatic-birth-story#post-2043479 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 11:18:50 +0000 swurlygurl 2043479@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would probably tell it age-appropriately. A 5 year old doesn't need the same details a 20 year old would.</p> <p>My mom had a still born baby and while my sister and I knew about her from a very young age, we didn't really understand much until we were older, and I didn't get the full story until I was ready to start having kids myself. I don't think I would have wanted any of that information before - it's just not something I was in a place to understand. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-tell-your-lo-about-their-traumatic-birth-story#post-2043478 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 11:18:41 +0000 knittylady 2043478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom was awake but unable to move during her/my c section. Incredibly traumatic- she felt every cut. She told me when I was a teenager- I must have asked. I didn't feel responsible at all, just felt awe at what she went through. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-tell-your-lo-about-their-traumatic-birth-story#post-2043469 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 11:16:43 +0000 Maysprout 2043469@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's fine to share details in an age-appropriate way. According to my mom birth was painless and no big deal, so I wouldn't have minded a few more details. maybe it will make him more supportive partner when the time comes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-tell-your-lo-about-their-traumatic-birth-story#post-2043468 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 11:16:37 +0000 LBee 2043468@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Raindrop: Walled you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-tell-your-lo-about-their-traumatic-birth-story#post-2043451 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 11:05:41 +0000 Raindrop 2043451@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LBee: Thank you so much for sharing that! I hope LO will think it's not his fault either... I mean he is just a baby! Things just were bad luck for me... but at the same time good luck because my life was saved.</p> <p>I am trying to stay postive about the whole experience but it still makes me sad when I think about it.... what I went through... what DH went through during that time... and even our family that DH was trying to update during that time. It only happened a week ago so it is still really fresh and I just got out of hospital recently and have time to reflect on this without nurses and doctors consently checking in on me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-tell-your-lo-about-their-traumatic-birth-story#post-2043449 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 11:05:20 +0000 stiletto_mom 2043449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I vote for 20s. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-tell-your-lo-about-their-traumatic-birth-story#post-2043440 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 11:01:00 +0000 Raindrop 2043440@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjazz: I added a new voting item. Thank you for your input! :)</p> <p>@Mrs. Tiger: *big hugs* Reading your story really helped me with what happened to me. Thank you for sharing it. I'm glad to hear your thoughts about this subject. I was lucky that LO #2 is okay... all the traumatic things just happened to me and looking back on that I'm happy to take on anything for him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-tell-your-lo-about-their-traumatic-birth-story#post-2043436 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 10:58:53 +0000 LBee 2043436@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom had an incredibly traumatic birth with my sister (complete with my mom having a stroke) and she told us when we were teenagers and asked about it. We didn't really understand it until we got pregnant / had kids ourselves, though. </p> <p>My sister definitely doesn't feel bad for what happened. It's not like it was her fault - my mom's doctors let her go WAY overdue and things just spun out of control. Infections developed, emergency c-section, etc etc. </p> <p>I'm so sorry you had a traumatizing birth. My mom's was pretty horrendous and she definitely can talk about it without feeling emotional. Time is an incredible thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-tell-your-lo-about-their-traumatic-birth-story#post-2043434 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 10:57:41 +0000 mrsjazz 2043434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would vote yes, but same as @Mrs. Tiger: whenever she asks. I would tell her in age appropriate manner.</p> <p>Right now she is almost 3 and she knows that the doctors cut Mommy's tummy to take her out and that it hurt. She likes to pretend to make sawing motions when she tells me--that is her own addition to the story but pretty accurate about how I felt! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-tell-your-lo-about-their-traumatic-birth-story#post-2043429 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 10:54:57 +0000 Mrs. Tiger 2043429@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would vote yes, whenever they ask about it. I've written about it publicly and it's not something to be ashamed of, I have no intention to hide it from him. He has lasting complications from his birth though, maybe that changes things... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-tell-your-lo-about-their-traumatic-birth-story#post-2043422 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 10:52:38 +0000 Raindrop 2043422@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know this isn't for a long time. I'm still recovering from the crazy things that happened in my second child's birth. I have wrote it down but I have been talking to my DH off and on about this... and for some reason on my mind is... do we ever tell him what happened in detail?</p> <p>DH said yeah maybe when he's a late teenager. I'm thinking never.... LO is a boy... hopefully he will never ask. Of course if he asked... we would tell him. </p> <p>I know it's weird to think about this... but I don't want him to feel bad about what happen... also I'm not sure if I can retell without getting emotional in the future. Maybe time will tell.</p> <p>Anyways this is just on my mind so I thought I would crowd source to see what other people thought. :) </p>