https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 05 Jul 2026 00:16:28 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-tell-your-so#post-1989242 Wed, 17 Dec 2014 21:45:17 +0000 BabyPenguinXO 1989242@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mae: @Mrs. Lemon-Lime: yes he did send me screen shots. </p> <p>For background, FI is working in KY, our son and I are in MN and I am pregnant.</p> <p>She had asked if I was coming over for Christmas and my FI said to text me and ask, that I was at my moms. She said no she always asks and she will just mail our Xmas presents. FI said nobody is at the house, and she was confused because she thought I wasn't flying out there until the 22nd. FI repeated that I was at my moms. FMIL kind of lives between my mom's house and our house. But its also east and adds a lot of drive time which is hard with a 13 month old. Anyways, FMIL then said oh its nice her mom gets to see Gavin so much. I come to my moms once a month for a few days because I'm high risk and seeing a specialist in Minneapolis and my mom lives around here.<br /> FI explained that to her again, and said that its also frustrating that whenever we visit she tends to lecture and that gets old. FMIL said "Thanks. Did she kill the cats too or just your dog?"</p> <p>---FI rescued a dog with his own money at 12 years old. FMIL forced us to take said dog who is now 15 years old, has arthritis and is deteriorating because her bf wants to get another dog. Our landlord does not allow dogs in the house. She started losing control of her bladder, ruined our carpet, and has been losing tons of weight. She's also depressed that FI is gone. So I had to have the dog put down. FMIL evidently was pissed about this and made a rude remark to me in a prior conversation and I have not talked to her since.. that was probably 12 day ago now. She then dragged it out about she bailed us out (bad car loan) when my "mommy" wouldn't. </p> <p>Anywho, the killing the cat/dog comment was completely out of line. I haven't said a word to her.</p> <p>I'm also not sure how to go about mending things. Surely she knows FI was going to talk to me about his frustrations because he was not happy with her for saying that. But quite frankly I think she owes us both an apology for that and the previous remark to made to me about not bringing her a dead dog to burry when I asked if the ground was too cold to burry the dog there since it would mean a lot to FI and she has 20 acres.</p> <p>this is somewhat of a rant now thanks for listening! lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-tell-your-so#post-1989128 Wed, 17 Dec 2014 20:37:56 +0000 Mae 1989128@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I probably would've said something but wouldn't have shared exact words/screenshots because that is only going to breed bad feelings. Like probably just "My mom was giving me a hard time because she thought you were coming over today, was there some sort of miscommunication or was she being crazy?" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-tell-your-so#post-1989114 Wed, 17 Dec 2014 20:25:19 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1989114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would have said something. It sounds like your FI stuck up for you and maybe he was just making sure he was right to do so. It would have sucked for him to get in a fight with his mom if you in fact were in the wrong. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-tell-your-so#post-1989081 Wed, 17 Dec 2014 19:51:00 +0000 mrbee 1989081@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It would depend for me, on whether or not I felt I needed her perspective and also on whether or not I thought telling my SO would hurt her relationship with my mom in the long term. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-tell-your-so#post-1989079 Wed, 17 Dec 2014 19:49:05 +0000 Dandelion 1989079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah...if it involves DH, I tell him. I don't hold anything back. I'm always on his side with stuff like that, too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-tell-your-so#post-1989075 Wed, 17 Dec 2014 19:45:12 +0000 BabyPenguinXO 1989075@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My FMIL recently was texting FI about me. Apparently she thought I was coming over and texted FI about why I hadn't which led to a nasty conversation.</p> <p>Fiancé of course, told me. A) he was pissed off about what she said/how she acted because she was being rude to him too B) was asking me about the situation and if I had said I would go there.</p> <p>Would you have told your FI/SO/DH in the same situation? I didn't ask, he just told me. He sent me screen shots of what was said. I fully admit I'm pretty pissed but I was already upset with Her to begin with for something rude she had said.</p> <p>Anyways, just curious what you would do :) </p>