https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 16 Apr 2026 16:03:17 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-use-a-name-you-love-if-its-stereotypical#post-427774 Sun, 02 Dec 2012 10:05:19 +0000 daniellemybelle 427774@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@808love: Hmm, I wonder if you are right :) Thanks for the vote of confidence! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-use-a-name-you-love-if-its-stereotypical#post-427557 Sun, 02 Dec 2012 03:28:16 +0000 808love 427557@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@daniellemybelle: I'm pretty sure I know what name it is. And my very white friends used it as a middle name for their son. It is super cute! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-use-a-name-you-love-if-its-stereotypical#post-427520 Sun, 02 Dec 2012 01:05:28 +0000 daniellemybelle 427520@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: At least it's not "stereotypical" for you guys!</p> <p>@zippylef: Nope! :) I think that is more of a "black" name than the one we plan to use. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-use-a-name-you-love-if-its-stereotypical#post-426588 Sat, 01 Dec 2012 05:23:39 +0000 anonysquire 426588@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Both me and my husband are as white as they come and we have a few "ethnic" names on our list. I just like names regardless or gender, race or anything else :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-use-a-name-you-love-if-its-stereotypical#post-426586 Sat, 01 Dec 2012 05:19:17 +0000 loveisstrange 426586@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@daniellemybelle: Darius? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-use-a-name-you-love-if-its-stereotypical#post-425761 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 17:52:29 +0000 dc yoga bee 425761@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm African-American, Hubs is White, so when we have our mixed child, I'd rather not have a "sterotypical" name. But, the name we LOVE is in the top 10 for 2012, AND is a top name for African-American boys. *Shrugs*. We will still probably use it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-use-a-name-you-love-if-its-stereotypical#post-425754 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 17:49:37 +0000 daniellemybelle 425754@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@zippylef: Haha, what do you think it is!?</p> <p>I've thought about it more and I think I was being silly! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-use-a-name-you-love-if-its-stereotypical#post-414765 Mon, 26 Nov 2012 11:53:10 +0000 BKCaribBaby 414765@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmm...Because I am Black and DH is white, we have had this conversation somewhat. We're Team Green and discussing both boys' and and girls', and I have to admit that I have my own biases about names and their associations. I've found that I feel that way about girls' names in particular. </p> <p>That said, if the name is Biblical, classic and one that you love, I don't think there any racial or ethnic associations should keep you from choosing it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-use-a-name-you-love-if-its-stereotypical#post-414560 Mon, 26 Nov 2012 10:45:13 +0000 tororojo 414560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you should use it if you love it! And I don't think Biblical names are stereotypical as much as they are classic. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-use-a-name-you-love-if-its-stereotypical#post-414313 Mon, 26 Nov 2012 07:22:22 +0000 heffalump 414313@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think ethnic names are necessarily bad. I'm Jewish and would be proud to use a Hebrew name. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-use-a-name-you-love-if-its-stereotypical#post-414282 Mon, 26 Nov 2012 03:37:08 +0000 SugarplumsMom 414282@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think the common names are stereotypically white. Maybe because I've seen everyone use them. Everyone I know names their kids "-den" now, same with Jacob and Noah. But I have to agree with some of the very ethnic AA names (the ones you don't see anyone else use). But even so, I have a friend that named her boy that and she's Asian.</p> <p>I agree with pp, if you love the name, there's no limit :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-use-a-name-you-love-if-its-stereotypical#post-414280 Mon, 26 Nov 2012 03:18:18 +0000 Cherrybee 414280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My friend had exactly this problem for exactly the same reason - think Shaft!!! Anyway, her husband was dead set on using the name so they went with it - and you know what my Mother-in-law said when i told her what their son was called? "Oh, that's an usual name for a non-Jewish child!!!" I think names have different connections to different people and these connections do change over the years, too. I wouldn't worry that it's a "stereotypical" name - if you love it, go for it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-use-a-name-you-love-if-its-stereotypical#post-414276 Mon, 26 Nov 2012 02:52:17 +0000 loveisstrange 414276@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always swore I wouldnt name my kids a name in the top 100. I grew up with one of those 80s names and there was always someone else with the same name in my class. I hated it. </p> <p>When we came up with C's name, we loved it right off. I had serious misgivings because it is becoming increasingly popular. If you factor in that she was born in the UK, its super popular. We still named her it because we love it. </p> <p>If you live the name, use it.</p> <p>Also, if its the name I think it is. I like it. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-use-a-name-you-love-if-its-stereotypical#post-414233 Mon, 26 Nov 2012 01:09:27 +0000 MaisyMay 414233@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@daniellemybelle: Eh, we're all just nosy...oops, I mean curious and very well-intentioned! lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-use-a-name-you-love-if-its-stereotypical#post-414231 Mon, 26 Nov 2012 01:08:32 +0000 daniellemybelle 414231@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MaisyMay: See my response to @Mrs. Pen! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-use-a-name-you-love-if-its-stereotypical#post-414230 Mon, 26 Nov 2012 01:07:33 +0000 daniellemybelle 414230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: I will tell you and then delete it really quickly! I just don't want anyone I know IRL to find this. It happened to me on WB so I'm extra careful. I'm going to bed now though so maybe sometime tomorrow? Haha, this is becoming a bigger deal than it should be! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-use-a-name-you-love-if-its-stereotypical#post-414229 Mon, 26 Nov 2012 01:07:12 +0000 MaisyMay 414229@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: Hmmm, I think I know what name it might be. I wonder if she'd tell us if we asked really nicely? :-)</p> <p>@daniellemybelle: Was he a Persian king? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-use-a-name-you-love-if-its-stereotypical#post-414211 Mon, 26 Nov 2012 00:44:37 +0000 Mrs. Pen 414211@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I will admit I'm scouring name lists trying to guess.. I have it narrowed down to three names I'm pretty sure lol will you tell me if I guess?!?!</p> <p>Also I think you should go with what you love! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-use-a-name-you-love-if-its-stereotypical#post-414203 Mon, 26 Nov 2012 00:33:43 +0000 MaisyMay 414203@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I were attached to the name, I'd probably use it, regardless of connotations. Now I'm curious as to what name it is! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-use-a-name-you-love-if-its-stereotypical#post-414201 Mon, 26 Nov 2012 00:32:59 +0000 Arden 414201@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think race should play into name choices. </p> <p>That said, I've had people raise their eyebrows at my mentions of the names "Nahla" or "Amirah" because "um... those names sound kind of... not white.". Yours is a reverse of my problem.</p> <p>Choose the name you love, and try to ignore any negative voices around you. If that's the name that fits your child, then by all means! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-use-a-name-you-love-if-its-stereotypical#post-414192 Mon, 26 Nov 2012 00:18:31 +0000 daniellemybelle 414192@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There's a boy's name that my husband and I really like. I'm not going to say it because I want to keep our names secret. :) It's a fairly traditional, Biblical name but I don't know anyone with it. It's not a super popular name overall, though it is in the top 100. DH doesn't care if a name is popular, but I would prefer not to use a very common name. </p> <p>However, the name seems to be more popular with African Americans. My husband is African American, and I don't have anything against "ethnic" names at all. In fact, it did cross my mind that this name would particularly suit a man of color for some reason. Out of curiosity I Googled it and it is a top 10 name for African American boys. </p> <p>I started to wonder if naming a little AA boy this name would be the equivalent of naming a white little boy Jacob or Noah. (No offense to those that choose those awesome names - they are just very popular!) I wouldn't want our son to be fulfilling a stereotype by having a very common name for his ethnicity. I also wouldn't want anyone to think we intentionally chose a "black name" for that reason alone... but maybe I'm over-thinking it.</p> <p>What do you think? Does it matter? Would you make the same choice? </p>