https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 02 Jun 2026 12:55:24 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-visit-a-newborn-with#post-2220955 Sun, 28 Jun 2015 16:43:06 +0000 Foodnerd81 2220955@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@aprild: yeah, exactly. DH went and met the baby. C and I hung out at home and I know it was the right move. Glad I remembered that a runny nose is actually a much bigger deal with you are talking about a two week old! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-visit-a-newborn-with#post-2220934 Sun, 28 Jun 2015 16:01:19 +0000 cat620 2220934@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I probably wouldn't just because I know how paranoid mothers can be about getting their newborns sick (and I don't blame them!). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-visit-a-newborn-with#post-2220789 Sun, 28 Jun 2015 09:20:01 +0000 Foodnerd81 2220789@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: uh yeah, vomiting and diarrhea that week are not cool. I'd be mad too. </p> <p>I'm remembering we went to a bday party when c was about 6 weeks old. She was in her car seat or the moby on me the whole time, but still got a tiny little cold after. I remember how crazy I was about that, even I am the one who brought her to the party. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-visit-a-newborn-with#post-2220753 Sun, 28 Jun 2015 08:19:17 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2220753@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd skip it.<br /> I had a friend bring her toddler to meet the baby when she was five weeks. Turns out she had missed daycare that week for vomiting and diarrhea. That was five months ago and I'm still livid. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-visit-a-newborn-with#post-2220746 Sun, 28 Jun 2015 08:05:10 +0000 Pancakes 2220746@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would've checked with the mom. 99.2 is *not* a fever. She may have appreciated you skipping the visit but it doesn't sound like your DD is that sick. I can see I'm in the minority though :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-visit-a-newborn-with#post-2220655 Sun, 28 Jun 2015 01:02:42 +0000 PrincessBaby 2220655@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I wouldn't go. I just wouldn't want to take the chance that *my child* got a newborn sick. Any elevated temperature at all would make me uncomfortable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-visit-a-newborn-with#post-2220618 Sat, 27 Jun 2015 22:32:41 +0000 Torchwood 2220618@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would definitely be upset (and I'm even aware it would be irrational!) if you brought the toddler. Just new mom worries! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-visit-a-newborn-with#post-2220615 Sat, 27 Jun 2015 22:30:57 +0000 raintreebee 2220615@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: sorry. Didn't mean to sound judgy. Just what my reaction would be. And I'm not saying my reaction would be totally rational, but new moms can get crazy. If it were me, I'd have my husband check with his friend first just in case they are as crazy as me. But maybe your husband has a good idea of how his friend would react. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-visit-a-newborn-with#post-2220606 Sat, 27 Jun 2015 22:05:58 +0000 Foodnerd81 2220606@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@raintreebee: well, the toddler doesn't even have a cold. It's a runny nose that could well be allergies since she has no other symptoms. (Though I personally don't think of a 99 temp as a fever at all, in the absence of other symptoms). So I think if DH washes his hands well and doesn't do anything stupid they will be fine. The dad is a teacher and I'm sure is exposed to more germs every day when he goes to work.<br /> Not to say I don't think 99 degrees in a newborn isn't scary, just that in a toddler it could mean she was running around too much. C and I will stay home but i think DH is safe. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-visit-a-newborn-with#post-2220605 Sat, 27 Jun 2015 22:04:01 +0000 mrsjyw 2220605@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you made the right choice! I just wouldn't risk it with a newborn! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-visit-a-newborn-with#post-2220599 Sat, 27 Jun 2015 21:59:46 +0000 raintreebee 2220599@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I may be an outlier here but I'd be livid if even just your DH went since he could be carrying it. I mean if a newborn gets a mild fever, they have to get a spinal tap! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-visit-a-newborn-with#post-2220594 Sat, 27 Jun 2015 21:56:08 +0000 catomd00 2220594@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: I would totally be cool with you all still coming, but I am super laid back. So, I guess you Should check with the mom. I would probably hesitate to go only because I wouldn't want to be seen as "that" mom if I knew the new mom was more germaphobic than I. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-visit-a-newborn-with#post-2220543 Sat, 27 Jun 2015 20:27:53 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2220543@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry just saw your update. It sucks but I think you're doing the right thing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-visit-a-newborn-with#post-2220542 Sat, 27 Jun 2015 20:26:43 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2220542@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No and I would not appreciate someone bringing their illness around my newborn either..sorry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-visit-a-newborn-with#post-2220535 Sat, 27 Jun 2015 20:20:51 +0000 lady grey 2220535@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No I would not, and I wouldn't put it on the newborn's parents to decide either. They may feel bad saying no to you. Just have DH drop off the gift or wait a week or two to go over. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-visit-a-newborn-with#post-2220518 Sat, 27 Jun 2015 19:25:24 +0000 Bao 2220518@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs.Pinecone316: same!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-visit-a-newborn-with#post-2220517 Sat, 27 Jun 2015 19:23:43 +0000 regberadaisy 2220517@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you made the right decision! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-visit-a-newborn-with#post-2220516 Sat, 27 Jun 2015 19:20:49 +0000 LAZB 2220516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely not </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-visit-a-newborn-with#post-2220511 Sat, 27 Jun 2015 19:09:03 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 2220511@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't. There's just too much to chance with a newborn. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-visit-a-newborn-with#post-2220507 Sat, 27 Jun 2015 19:06:03 +0000 Foodnerd81 2220507@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The low fever actually may have just been from running around (forehead one, she felt cooler later). But the runny nose has been there for a few days. </p> <p>It's funny, now I would definitely say come on over, since my LO is almost two and exposed to much worse every time she picks up trash at the park. I almost forgot how tiny newborns are and how incredibly fragile they seem. Glad I remembered in time. </p> <p>The bummer is we were going to go last week when everyone was 100% healthy, but the timing didn't work out. Oh well, I'll see her soon enough. DH will send my best wishes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-visit-a-newborn-with#post-2220504 Sat, 27 Jun 2015 19:03:10 +0000 Mrs.Pinecone316 2220504@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, sorry. As a mom of a newborn I personally didn't want any children visiting my new baby. As a worried FTM I probably would have had a panic attack if one with a runny nose and low grade temp came over. Better to be safe and leave the little one home with daddy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-visit-a-newborn-with#post-2220502 Sat, 27 Jun 2015 19:00:35 +0000 autumn865 2220502@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would reschedule because it's better to be safe than sorry. I would think the new mom would appreciate you making the decision instead of putting her on the spot to say don't come or not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-visit-a-newborn-with#post-2220491 Sat, 27 Jun 2015 18:17:55 +0000 Foodnerd81 2220491@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rockies11: I normally wouldn't consider this a temp, really, but when it's related to a teeny baby... It is. You all are right. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-visit-a-newborn-with#post-2220490 Sat, 27 Jun 2015 18:14:34 +0000 travelgirl1 2220490@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I would rearrange the visit. Even if it were an older baby, I like to give parents the choice whether to have my sick kid over, and I really appreciate it when others let me know their kid is sick before a visit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-visit-a-newborn-with#post-2220488 Sat, 27 Jun 2015 18:09:21 +0000 Rockies11 2220488@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am not a safety parent, but I wouldn't with a temp or a cold. A friend of mine brought hers over with runny noses when mine was 6 days old, and my toddler got a horrible cold that made a difficult transition even worse. I think whether you ask depends on your relationship with the mom - I would have said "no" with no hesitation had I been asked. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-visit-a-newborn-with#post-2220487 Sat, 27 Jun 2015 18:09:10 +0000 Foodnerd81 2220487@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>And this is why sometimes I have to ask HB. I mentioned it to DH and he was like, huh? Why? </p> <p>Boo, I wanted to see them. But I very much do NOT want to get her sick. At least I put together a cute gift to send with DH. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-visit-a-newborn-with#post-2220486 Sat, 27 Jun 2015 18:07:07 +0000 FannyMae 2220486@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd say stay home - nobody wants to be that guy who got the baby sick :/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-visit-a-newborn-with#post-2220483 Sat, 27 Jun 2015 17:59:53 +0000 BandDmommy 2220483@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would not. Better safe than sorry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-visit-a-newborn-with#post-2220482 Sat, 27 Jun 2015 17:54:42 +0000 Foodnerd81 2220482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jess1483: I am sure dad would say fine, but that doesn't mean I should go. I don't want to put the mom in an awkward position. I'll see how C is in the morning but if she has any elevated temp I think I will send Dh alone. Normal temp but runny nose maybe I will check with the mom. And not let C touch the baby or anything of course. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-visit-a-newborn-with#post-2220478 Sat, 27 Jun 2015 17:49:50 +0000 hilsy85 2220478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope </p>