https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 06 May 2026 07:22:43 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-want-your-dh-to-go-to-this-party#post-2520127 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 17:53:41 +0000 Pirouette 2520127@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@xInfinity: yup that makes sense. It's not the end of the world for him to miss it obviously. And so crazy how guys seem to get it!</p> <p>Thanks for the input everyone! I think we've 100% decided he's gonna sit this one out. I really appreciate having input from moms. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-want-your-dh-to-go-to-this-party#post-2520065 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 16:12:06 +0000 LemonJack 2520065@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely have him stay at home just in case. It's not worth the risk! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-want-your-dh-to-go-to-this-party#post-2520057 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 16:03:26 +0000 xInfinity 2520057@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I vote he stays home, it's just not worth it. My dd had it and gave it to my husband (another vote for dads seem to get it more often) so we've been there. I'd be ticked if I was there with my kid and somebody knowingly showed up still possibly contagious with it. If it was his brother's wedding or something important and once in a lifetime I might consider risking it but for a shower/family get together he can be an adult and miss it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-want-your-dh-to-go-to-this-party#post-2520040 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 15:40:46 +0000 Mrsbells 2520040@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted for him to stay home </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-want-your-dh-to-go-to-this-party#post-2520032 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 15:35:17 +0000 Pirouette 2520032@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travellingbee: thanks, thats good to know! And sorry you've had to deal with it too :(</p> <p>@MrsSRS: his family would say to come, no question. That's just how they are. But i dont think he or i can deal with the consequences if he gives it to them!</p> <p>@sapphire: @Modern Daisy: no need to apologize, that's what i expected to hear! I polled the group here because i knew I'd get honest answers rather than the "sure, it'll be fine!" I would get from his family! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-want-your-dh-to-go-to-this-party#post-2519912 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 13:44:30 +0000 Modern Daisy 2519912@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I was there with DS I would be upset about you DH coming. Sorry! It's hard enough to keep us healthy just for a 2 week stretch at a time with DS being in daycare. You want to think at least the weekends are safe! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-want-your-dh-to-go-to-this-party#post-2519835 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 12:47:27 +0000 sapphire 2519835@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Still contagious until sores heal over. Very contagious! I would not let him go and I'd be upset if my kid was there. Sorry! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-want-your-dh-to-go-to-this-party#post-2519773 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 12:20:21 +0000 MrsSRS 2519773@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If it's his family can he ask them? Or go and wear a mask? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-want-your-dh-to-go-to-this-party#post-2519677 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 10:58:15 +0000 travellingbee 2519677@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got it as an adult and it suuuucked. Doctor quarantined me until sores were gone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-want-your-dh-to-go-to-this-party#post-2519675 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 10:55:46 +0000 ustechie 2519675@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No way! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-want-your-dh-to-go-to-this-party#post-2519652 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 10:39:53 +0000 jetsa 2519652@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pirouette: I agree with THOU, if its his family then he can limit contact but still be social. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-want-your-dh-to-go-to-this-party#post-2519634 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 10:26:35 +0000 Pirouette 2519634@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: that's a good point - it is a house party, so he could probably just limit interaction with the kids, and maybe their parents. but I don't know...it's a tough call! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-want-your-dh-to-go-to-this-party#post-2519610 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 10:09:54 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2519610@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pirouette: I dont know, I mean I guess it would be different if he was going over to someone elses house for a party (like a family from daycare or something). But if its his family's house and he could find a spot to just sit and hang with the adults and not really interact with the kids, I think it would be fine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-want-your-dh-to-go-to-this-party#post-2519607 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 10:08:10 +0000 Pirouette 2519607@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: that was our alternative, but that's why i wanted to poll the moms here. I mean, not a single person has said they think he should go and I really don't disagree! I think he should just plan on sitting this one out and I'll try to make plans with his family for a few weeks from now when everyone is healthy (if ever!) If everyone was like "you guys are exaggerating, he's fine" i'd have thought about it, but I feel like it's just not a good idea.</p> <p>@psw27: I know! i have a newfound respect for my daughter (and all toddlers who go through it!) I don't know why I've been spared (at least so far), but I'm so so thankful I have been! I hope you never ever have to deal with it again! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-want-your-dh-to-go-to-this-party#post-2519603 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 10:04:06 +0000 psw27 2519603@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pirouette: It was incredibly painful, I now know why children are soooo sad when they get sick because these toddler germs are BRUTAL. My mouth hurt so bad and the fevers were intense! I hope you guys all get well soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-want-your-dh-to-go-to-this-party#post-2519600 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 10:01:58 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2519600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pirouette: Oh yuck. Since its his family, do you think he could go and just not be around the kids much? Like just hang out at the kitchen table or on a sofa or something? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-want-your-dh-to-go-to-this-party#post-2519598 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 10:01:12 +0000 Pirouette 2519598@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@psw27: haha seriously!! it's seriously the worst. he said he's never been so sick in his adult life, and I've certainly never seen him so sick!</p> <p>@T.H.O.U.: yea, that's the thing. I would bail on the party, but it's his family, and he LOVES spending time with his family, so he really does want to go. especially since we had to cancel easter because LO had it. plus he's been stuck home alone for over a week now, so he's getting a little stir crazy!</p> <p>@regberadaisy: that's so weird! why do dads get it more?! and yea, i agree with you - it's just one of those things, when kids are involved, you just don't want to risk it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-want-your-dh-to-go-to-this-party#post-2519590 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 09:55:49 +0000 regberadaisy 2519590@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pirouette: exactly, as a parent, I would be pretty peeved if he went. Even though I know technically he is no longer contagious. With young kids I just wouldn't want to risk it! And obviously adults can get it too, my DH did when Dd1 got it! I also know of one other dad that got it. Seems like dads get it more??? LOL </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-want-your-dh-to-go-to-this-party#post-2519586 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 09:54:44 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2519586@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is this really something he wants to attend? My DH would probably be excited to have the house to himself for the afternoon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-want-your-dh-to-go-to-this-party#post-2519576 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 09:45:17 +0000 psw27 2519576@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No way, I would keep him home. I also just had it, and I would not wish it on anyone. So while most adults are immune, not all - and it is so horrible! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-want-your-dh-to-go-to-this-party#post-2519575 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 09:45:10 +0000 Pirouette 2519575@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsBrewer: @aprild: thanks for confirming what I've been thinking. i didn't want to be totally overreacting and encourage him not to go to a party he would love to attend. but on the flip side, would I want that person to go to a party with my LO?</p> <p>@snowjewelz: haha! maybe he should just wear a mask just in case :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-want-your-dh-to-go-to-this-party#post-2519571 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 09:41:00 +0000 snowjewelz 2519571@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pirouette: Also if he has visible sores people might be very :shocked: and :meh: haha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-want-your-dh-to-go-to-this-party#post-2519566 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 09:38:59 +0000 cat620 2519566@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would keep him home to be on the safe side. Even though he's likely not contagious, I wouldn't want to chance it </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-want-your-dh-to-go-to-this-party#post-2519562 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 09:36:27 +0000 MrsBrewer 2519562@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know if he would still be contagious or not, but I feel like with sores still in his mouth, maybe contagious? Since you are saying it's so bad, I wouldn't risk it and just have him sit this one out..... :-( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-want-your-dh-to-go-to-this-party#post-2519561 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 09:35:54 +0000 Pirouette 2519561@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: that's kind of what we were thinking, even if it's an abundance of caution at this point. </p> <p>@regberadaisy: ahh that's good to know - LO isn't in daycare so i had no point of reference. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-want-your-dh-to-go-to-this-party#post-2519557 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 09:33:44 +0000 regberadaisy 2519557@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He is very likely no longer contagious. However, to be safe he should stay home. My daycare rules are they can't go back till the sores have scabbed over. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-want-your-dh-to-go-to-this-party#post-2519556 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 09:33:30 +0000 snowjewelz 2519556@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ehhhh I have no idea about the contagious period but for the sake of the children I think he should just stay home, JUST in case..... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-you-want-your-dh-to-go-to-this-party#post-2519554 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 09:30:22 +0000 Pirouette 2519554@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>OK, so here's the scenario:</p> <p>2 weeks ago, LO got a bad case of coxsackie. she was sick with a very high fever for an entire week, and had extremely painful sores that also lasted a full week. The day her fever broke (last thursday), DH got it, and he literally hadn't left the couch in over a week until yesterday. His fever finally went under 100 yesterday, but the sores in his mouth are not completely healed yet. He's been SO sick, but he's turned a corner for sure. I'd say he's almost entirely better today except for the sores.</p> <p>Tomorrow, we have a shower where there are expected to be a 1.5 year old, a 2.5 year old and possibly one or two other children as well. He caught this over a week ago, so probably still wouldn't be contagious, but we're concerned it might be possible to spread this until the sores are gone since it took him so long to catch it from LO. </p> <p>SO, long story short. Should he go or stay home? Suffice to say that after these past 2 weeks, I don't wish this on my worst enemy, and I'm simply not sure if we can live with ourselves if he gets these little girls sick! On the other hand, are we being overly cautious since he's better now? Obviously he's not going to share drinks with anyone!</p> <p>ETA: I think it's actually pretty rare for adults to catch this, so we'd be more concerned about the kids than the other adults there. I've been exposed very closely to it for weeks now, obviously, and i believe most adults are immune. </p>