https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 16 Apr 2026 03:04:45 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-bring-your-newborn-to-a-wedding#post-92603 Tue, 13 Mar 2012 11:42:24 +0000 mommacommaphd 92603@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd be less wondering about bringing the baby (it will be May- not cold and flu season or anything) and more wondering if you'll be up to it.</p> <p>I did leave my daughter with my mom for an evening out to dinner within the first month, but I was not in any shape for a wedding- I was practically a zombie and still physically recovering. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-bring-your-newborn-to-a-wedding#post-92038 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 12:52:27 +0000 banana 92038@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I personally wouldn't either. The baby will be too young and would be susceptible to too many possible germs/illnesses/diseases, etc. I wouldn't take any chances at that age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-bring-your-newborn-to-a-wedding#post-91992 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 11:31:26 +0000 regberadaisy 91992@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>thanks everyone! </p> <p>My husband and I talked and we decided it's best to leave baby home with my mom.</p> <p>As for me, I have every intention of going or at least going to the ceremony if there's a time lag. So unless it's a complicated birth or my doc advises against or I'm still in that much pain I'm going.</p> <p>@pastemoo:<br /> We're not super close but it's def family we like so I def plan to try my best to make it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-bring-your-newborn-to-a-wedding#post-91371 Sat, 10 Mar 2012 16:04:07 +0000 pastemoo 91371@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no choice. One of my husband's best friends from high school is getting married when baby will be around 4 weeks old (or so), and it's a 9 hour drive without stopping to feed baby/etc. </p> <p>We have to go. </p> <p>It's really up to you. Since you seem to be close (are you?) you can make an appearance like the PPs said. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-bring-your-newborn-to-a-wedding#post-91359 Sat, 10 Mar 2012 15:32:40 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 91359@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I felt pretty great about 2 days after I had Little Jacks. I would do it as long as people just looked and didn't touch, but with a May baby you are pretty safe! We took our newest baby to a rally at the state capital at Day 5 of life. I wore her the whole time, so no risk of exposures! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-bring-your-newborn-to-a-wedding#post-91352 Sat, 10 Mar 2012 15:20:07 +0000 MsMamaBear 91352@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I took my 3 month old to a wedding but that's different than a baby less than 2 months old. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-bring-your-newborn-to-a-wedding#post-91100 Sat, 10 Mar 2012 01:27:54 +0000 Boogs 91100@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I personally wouldn't because of germ exposure, stress, my recovery (if it was soon after the birth, it would have been hard after a c-section for me), and the noise level could be a bit much for the baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-bring-your-newborn-to-a-wedding#post-91075 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 23:20:46 +0000 Red 91075@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At 2-4 weeks after delivery, I didn't feel like doing anything but sleep. We were still trying to get our nursing/baby care routine down and going to a wedding would have been out of the question, especially with baby in tow. IMO, it's just too stressful.......not to mention, the risk of germ exposure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-bring-your-newborn-to-a-wedding#post-91030 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 21:24:48 +0000 BSB 91030@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At that age, I probably wouldn't. Or if I did go, I wouldn't take the baby along and would only stay for a short time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-bring-your-newborn-to-a-wedding#post-91027 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 21:19:58 +0000 Mrs. Oyster 91027@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One of my best friends is due to be married 8 days after my estimated due date. I was supposed to be in the wedding, but that obviously won't work out. I'm really, really hoping that I can be there, at least for some of the wedding itself, if nothing else - but I'm trying to come to terms with the fact that it might not work out in the end. I know whatever happens will be for the best, it's just hard to think I won't see my friend get married... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-bring-your-newborn-to-a-wedding#post-90772 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 15:39:01 +0000 heffalump 90772@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our doctor said not to take LO into public places until 2 months when she gets her shots. That being said, my sister got married when LO was one month old. It was a tiny wedding, 20 people, and I really didn't want to miss my sisters wedding. We went and just kept her away from people as much as we could, and sat off to the side of everyone. She did cry during the ceremony.... but my husband was able to stop her quickly and luckily my sister didn't care and was just glad that we were there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-bring-your-newborn-to-a-wedding#post-90697 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 14:27:16 +0000 regberadaisy 90697@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>thanks everyone for your input.</p> <p>For me, whether I go or not I'm definitely leaving it open. Hence I want to know when their final #s are due. Just because I have no way of knowing how the delivery will go. It's my husband's older cousin's daughter's wedding. And they're a family we both really like so I really want to make it if I can. </p> <p>A lot of the things you mentioned are things I have thought about. I think my husband and I will just have to talk about it after she's here under advisement of our pediatrician. It'll likely be a game time decision!</p> <p>@Mrs. Bee:<br /> Go you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-bring-your-newborn-to-a-wedding#post-90686 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 14:12:48 +0000 Mrs. Bee 90686@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>for the record i went to a wedding 2 weeks after giving birth to olive in heels! but i left her at home.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-bring-your-newborn-to-a-wedding#post-90661 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 13:55:03 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 90661@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't unless the baby was in a moby carrier or something similar where other people couldn't touch/pick up. I personally wasn't up to going to something like a wedding 2 weeks postpartum anyway though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-bring-your-newborn-to-a-wedding#post-90645 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 13:47:36 +0000 aunt pol 90645@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What if your baby is a week late?! Then you'd only be one week pp for the wedding! I think it's too soon- as well as baby being so young, how would you be able for it, straightforward delivery or section or anything?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-bring-your-newborn-to-a-wedding#post-90629 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 13:41:08 +0000 hilsy85 90629@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think I would feel comfortable bringing my baby around that many people when he/she is that little...I would try and stop by the wedding myself for a little bit, like go to the ceremony and part of the reception, assuming I was feeling okay. But I would leave the baby with family at home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-bring-your-newborn-to-a-wedding#post-90627 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 13:40:29 +0000 sulli301 90627@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't want to because I wouldn't want everyone trying to touch or hold the brand new baby. It will be loud for baby &amp; lots of yucky germs plus a total hassle as far as feeding, changes, naps, etc &amp; you won't really be able to enjoy yourselves. You also may still be healing. Good luck! Sorry I don't have much advice except make sure if you agree to go it's very very tentative. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-bring-your-newborn-to-a-wedding#post-90624 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 13:38:37 +0000 lemondrop 90624@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had a family wedding across the country when our son was a month old- we would have gone if it didn't involve a plane ride. We checked with the bride and groom early on if it would be ok, but in the end traveling was just too much. It would have been fun for the rest of the family to meet him so early!</p> <p>After about 2 weeks I would have been happy to go anywhere, as long as I could sit and relax, and visit with family. I wouldn't be up dancing or wanting to run around much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-bring-your-newborn-to-a-wedding#post-90578 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 13:05:09 +0000 eeh 90578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For me it would depend on the atmosphere of the wedding. I wouldn't hesitate to take a baby to a wedding similar to mine where there weren't a bunch of drunk people, no loud music, etc. If it's going to be rowdy and people will be acting stupid then I wouldn't take a baby (or really any kid for that matter). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-bring-your-newborn-to-a-wedding#post-90568 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 13:01:48 +0000 emahlee 90568@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have two weddings within 5 weeks of my due date, one of which is the weekend right after. I've decided to skip that one for a myriad of reasons (e.g. baby might be late, germs, wedding is 5 hours away, I will be sleep deprived/recovering from child birth etc.) but I'm still on the fence about the one 5 weeks from my due date. </p> <p>I'm glad you started this thread! Reading what other Bees have to say is helping me make a decision (thanks everyone!). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-bring-your-newborn-to-a-wedding#post-90421 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 11:23:46 +0000 SAHM0811 90421@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think this depends on how close you are the the couple getting married. I've been to a wedding where one bridesmaid brought her 1 week old baby. She still looked pregnant (as most postartum moms do so soon after) and people asked her when the baby was due and she'd point to the baby her hubby was carrying :) it was baby #3. I also was MOH at my sister's wedding and brought #2 along (to Hawaii) at 4 weeks old. We made it work. No one really asked to carry her. She was all snug in her swaddle and people would look, but she was generally out of the way/limelight. Our ped okay'ed the trip and the outing. If your mom can watch the baby at home, I say go for it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-bring-your-newborn-to-a-wedding#post-90403 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 11:10:57 +0000 skibobrown 90403@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmm... I would bring a young baby to a wedding, but I'm not sure if I would bring a baby that was quite that young. One of my friends brought her baby to a wedding around 2 months, and you could tell they were still trying to figure everything out with taking care of baby away from the house -- feeding, baby carrying, changing, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-bring-your-newborn-to-a-wedding#post-90383 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 10:52:43 +0000 Maysprout 90383@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I took my daughter to my BIL engagement party when she was around 6 weeks or so. Both of our parents were there and they were the only ones besides us to hold her. No one else even asked to hold her. It was mainly outdoors so that helped and there was music but it wasn't a rowdy party. </p> <p>If the wedding is that close to your house though I'd probably prefer to leave her at home and be able to leave if your mom calls. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-bring-your-newborn-to-a-wedding#post-90375 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 10:44:27 +0000 mediagirl 90375@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm on the don't do it bandwagon. That is so soon after your give birth, you want to make sure you're healthy enough to go, healed enough and then your baby will be so tiny...you really don't need her/him around all of those germs so early in his/her life. I would leave the baby at home and go alone if the wedding was important to me and I was feeling up to it. If they need an excuse, just say you think the baby may have her first cold. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-bring-your-newborn-to-a-wedding#post-90374 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 10:42:33 +0000 polkadots 90374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we were in the same boat. baby was due september 25th and a wedding to go to october 15. DH was originally suppose to sing in it, but it was 5 hours away and I knew I would't be ready! (I couldn't walk/sit down comfortably for more than a month. We didn't go. I'm glad we didn't because we wouldn't have enjoyed it. I would have been freaking out the whole time about no one touching the baby and I forsure couldn't leave her behind to attend a wedding! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-bring-your-newborn-to-a-wedding#post-90357 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 10:35:00 +0000 Lozza 90357@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If it were super duper important to me to go, AND I felt ok (which I did not- I wouldn't have wanted to attend any big events before 5-6 weeks postpartum at the absolute earliest, and even then, nothing would have fit and I'd have wanted to go home early), AND it wouldn't be too loud, AND DH or I could only go for a little while and wear the baby so people wouldn't touch him/her....<br /> then maybe. But the chance of all those things aligning seems... small. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-bring-your-newborn-to-a-wedding#post-90348 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 10:30:52 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 90348@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I *might* only if I knew there was a quieter spot to take her and that she would be covered with a blanket at all times/have a bodyguard to prevent random touching. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-bring-your-newborn-to-a-wedding#post-90331 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 10:19:36 +0000 ecogirl 90331@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with all of the reasons listed above. I have had to see so many little babes get spinal taps because they've gotten sick from being out at too young of an age. I know people that insist nothing will happen to their baby and do it anyway and even a handful of the most careful of my friends have had to bring their infants in to get a spinal tap and other tests because they caught an infection. I really would not risk it especially since everyone will want to hold him/her.</p> <p>I also don't like to see little kids at weddings if there will be very loud music and a lot of drinking. That's just my own personal feelings though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-bring-your-newborn-to-a-wedding#post-90301 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 09:53:05 +0000 chopsuey 90301@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't for all of the reasons listed above. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-bring-your-newborn-to-a-wedding#post-90296 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 09:50:54 +0000 Mrs. Bee 90296@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i wouldn't just because i wouldn't want people trying to hold her when she's so young. and since it's family, i'm sure a lot of people will want to hold her! </p>