https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 03 May 2026 17:04:34 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-dh-ever-be-a-stay-at-home-dad-would-you-be-ok-with-it/page/2#post-184632 Sun, 10 Jun 2012 11:44:25 +0000 TubeAlloy 184632@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Interesting mix of responses.</p> <p>I don't know that my husband would enjoy staying at home full time (maybe when the kid is a bit older and more interactive), but the plan at this point is for him to work part time and for our son to go to day care 2 or 3 days a week when my leave is up.</p> <p>It's a financial no-brainer...depending on my end-of-year bonus, I make 4 to 5 times what he did at his last job. And I'm just not cut out to stay home. He, on the other hand, has various art-related pursuits that sometimes bring in some income, and he's never particularly loved his "day job" (and hated the last one). So maybe if those take off a bit he could work at home with help from a babysitter a couple of days a week. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-dh-ever-be-a-stay-at-home-dad-would-you-be-ok-with-it/page/2#post-184511 Sun, 10 Jun 2012 09:23:10 +0000 daniellemybelle 184511@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love reading everyone's responses as usual! It's encouraging to hear that so many would be willing.</p> <p>At the end of the day, I don't think DH would be really happy as a SAHD. He is already struggling a bit with the recently accelerated trajectory of my career and is talking a lot about how he can keep up! It's unfortunate because honestly he'd be great at it, but those pesky male gender roles get in the way, I think. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-dh-ever-be-a-stay-at-home-dad-would-you-be-ok-with-it/page/2#post-183770 Fri, 08 Jun 2012 20:25:49 +0000 sslm 183770@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Yoyo: I am amazed at all of the responses actually. My DH is also a workaholic and has very ambitious career goals, I know he would be miserable staying at home! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-dh-ever-be-a-stay-at-home-dad-would-you-be-ok-with-it/page/2#post-183736 Fri, 08 Jun 2012 19:34:29 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 183736@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Surprised to read that so many of the menfolk would do this, which is awesome. My husband is way too much of a workaholic; I doubt he could be a SAHD without going crazy. I feel like he might say he would ... Until he realized what it actually entailed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-dh-ever-be-a-stay-at-home-dad-would-you-be-ok-with-it/page/2#post-183624 Fri, 08 Jun 2012 17:23:48 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 183624@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ninja: LOL, well, ok :) Mr. Jacks is a programmer, so he's infinitely tied to the computer... and he runs a SAHD blog, so there's that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-dh-ever-be-a-stay-at-home-dad-would-you-be-ok-with-it/page/2#post-183602 Fri, 08 Jun 2012 16:56:48 +0000 ninja 183602@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: Thanks, but my mr. doesn't do the whole "internet thing" as he calls it. I'll let you know if he changes his mind :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-dh-ever-be-a-stay-at-home-dad-would-you-be-ok-with-it/page/2#post-183382 Fri, 08 Jun 2012 13:37:16 +0000 plantains 183382@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think I'd be happy with having him be a SAHD. I come from a very strong culture of dual income families so don't really want either of us staying at home. We do both have jobs that offer good flexibility so we can spend plenty of time with kiddos. DH is a teacher so he has summers off and I have really good hours. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-dh-ever-be-a-stay-at-home-dad-would-you-be-ok-with-it/page/2#post-183159 Fri, 08 Jun 2012 11:22:53 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 183159@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ninja: I can put him in touch with the mr if you want! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-dh-ever-be-a-stay-at-home-dad-would-you-be-ok-with-it#post-183119 Fri, 08 Jun 2012 10:55:09 +0000 skibobrown 183119@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're moving halfway across the country in August for *my* new job. DH doesn't have work lined up yet, so he'll probably be a SAHD for a while. It's not our long-term plan, but if he likes it a lot maybe we'll change our minds. He's also taking a month of paternity leave next month, so that will be his first shot at being a full-time parent. I have to say, I could never be a SAHM. Maternity leave has been really tough for me. I love my daughter immensely, but I am so ready to return to work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-dh-ever-be-a-stay-at-home-dad-would-you-be-ok-with-it#post-183104 Fri, 08 Jun 2012 10:45:17 +0000 Shimmer 183104@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH said that he would be okay with being a SAHD, but he makes much more than I did before I stopped working, so it wouldn't be financially possible. </p> <p>The best thing, though, is that he'll be a WAHD 3-4 days a week! With twins it'll be a godsend, because I know there will be days that I cry louder than they do! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-dh-ever-be-a-stay-at-home-dad-would-you-be-ok-with-it#post-183091 Fri, 08 Jun 2012 10:35:01 +0000 ninja 183091@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: Thanks for the advice! I appreciate hearing about how it works for others, which just bolsters my confidence that it will work wonderfully for us come October. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-dh-ever-be-a-stay-at-home-dad-would-you-be-ok-with-it#post-183053 Fri, 08 Jun 2012 10:03:09 +0000 littlebug 183053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hubs has said many times that he would love to be a SAHD. I'd be totally fine with it if I thought we could financially support it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-dh-ever-be-a-stay-at-home-dad-would-you-be-ok-with-it#post-183013 Fri, 08 Jun 2012 09:25:56 +0000 Minnie_Girl 183013@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We dream of freeing ourselves from the 9-5 grind completely and making our own schedules. So yes, I can imagine that my husband would be open to the idea of being a WAHD, like I'll be a WAHM. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-dh-ever-be-a-stay-at-home-dad-would-you-be-ok-with-it#post-183012 Fri, 08 Jun 2012 09:25:15 +0000 EloiseKE 183012@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband would be an amazing SAHD, I know he would. He has boundless energy and is always up for trips to the park, he's very calm about injuries (unlike me) and can cook! But the type of work he does brings in the bigger income, so I'm the one who is at home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-dh-ever-be-a-stay-at-home-dad-would-you-be-ok-with-it#post-183001 Fri, 08 Jun 2012 09:18:39 +0000 Modern Daisy 183001@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks - that's great advice! We kind of do that now, believe it or not, so I completely agree with you. We have our assigned household tasks - and there is NO criticism or micromanaging allowed when it comes to the other persons tasks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-dh-ever-be-a-stay-at-home-dad-would-you-be-ok-with-it#post-182992 Fri, 08 Jun 2012 09:11:20 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 182992@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I should say that for those going this route, never ever be critical of the way they do things or whether the house is clean. Only provide suggestions if they are asked for. Otherwise you'll have a miserable sahd. We made home a no-criticism zone. At first there was no housework done at all (and it drove me crazy), then we entered the era of shrunk, pink laundry. Now it all works great! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-dh-ever-be-a-stay-at-home-dad-would-you-be-ok-with-it#post-182985 Fri, 08 Jun 2012 09:08:14 +0000 MegWag 182985@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My hubs has said since before we got married that he'd happily be a sahd (though I can't imagine that it wouldn't really be a wahd since he's a little bit of a workaholic!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-dh-ever-be-a-stay-at-home-dad-would-you-be-ok-with-it#post-182980 Fri, 08 Jun 2012 09:06:48 +0000 Modern Daisy 182980@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would love for DH to be a SAHD! He loves his job, but I think he would really enjoy staying home and raising Jr. I think he actually might do it if we were in a position that I made substantially more money than he did, but in reality we make the same amount almost to the penny :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-dh-ever-be-a-stay-at-home-dad-would-you-be-ok-with-it#post-182973 Fri, 08 Jun 2012 09:03:44 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 182973@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I decided to skip the comments for now but wanted to tell you that it's been great. Did mr jacks always do things the way I wanted? No. But that's totally ok. In the early days there were times I came home to Lala in pjs for goodness sake. But after a while he found his own way and rhythm... And now he's better at getting two kids and a dog ready for a walk.</p> <p>Sure, he doesn't do things the way I would, but let's face it, I'm a control freak anyway. </p> <p>I married this man in part because he'd be an excellent dad! So I had great faith he could do it!</p> <p>You should have your honey talk to mine if he's interested because Mr has lots of insight to share!</p> <p>On our block alone, there are four sahds. One because he'd been laid off and three as an intentional family decision.</p> <p>It has truly been a wonderful thing for us, even as Mr looks toward re-entering the work force soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-dh-ever-be-a-stay-at-home-dad-would-you-be-ok-with-it#post-182942 Fri, 08 Jun 2012 08:48:27 +0000 MsMamaBear 182942@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He wouldn't want to, he likes being active outside the house.His degree is in IT mine teaching....yeah....LOL </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-dh-ever-be-a-stay-at-home-dad-would-you-be-ok-with-it#post-182791 Fri, 08 Jun 2012 02:14:14 +0000 BoogieBea 182791@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband does not have the patience to be a SAHD. They'd all be just playing video games all day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-dh-ever-be-a-stay-at-home-dad-would-you-be-ok-with-it#post-182724 Thu, 07 Jun 2012 21:50:16 +0000 chopsuey 182724@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think DH would love to stay at home with LO. Now that she's older I wouldn't mind it! Too bad I'll never be able to make as much as he does! :P :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-dh-ever-be-a-stay-at-home-dad-would-you-be-ok-with-it#post-182723 Thu, 07 Jun 2012 21:48:50 +0000 Grace 182723@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know. I'll have to ask him when he comes home from a business trip. But really, I can't see it ever being an option. He makes almost double my salary. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-dh-ever-be-a-stay-at-home-dad-would-you-be-ok-with-it#post-182153 Thu, 07 Jun 2012 16:37:26 +0000 Mrs. Cat in the Cradle 182153@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd be totally fine if that is what our work/financial situation turned into. Mr. Cat would have to brush up on his housework skills, though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-dh-ever-be-a-stay-at-home-dad-would-you-be-ok-with-it#post-182111 Thu, 07 Jun 2012 15:55:54 +0000 LuLu Mom 182111@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have all the faith that DH will be a great father, however a SAHD is not in his comfort zone. And his lack of attention to details/housework would stress me out! I trust him with our LO when she arrives, however I don't think this would be a good fit for us at all!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-dh-ever-be-a-stay-at-home-dad-would-you-be-ok-with-it#post-182084 Thu, 07 Jun 2012 15:19:00 +0000 ninja 182084@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH will be a SAHD come October when baby ninja arrives. We had always talked about how we would want one of us to stay at home with any children. Since I have the better job/advancement potential, he is more than happy to stay at home with baby. I think it will be hard on him at first, when he no longer has separate income coming in, but I'm sure he'll get over it. DH is definitely the better housekeeper/cook too, so that will work quite well! I know I will have to be vigilant to make sure he knows that I feel his contributions are just as valuable as any paycheck I bring home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-dh-ever-be-a-stay-at-home-dad-would-you-be-ok-with-it#post-182065 Thu, 07 Jun 2012 15:01:19 +0000 rachiecakes 182065@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is a WAHD - his job allows him to work mostly from home and the few times he does stop into his work, he can bring DS. So far it's been great for us. I can continue my job, go home and see them for lunch and DH continues on doing what he does. The only things he misses out on is the part time teaching job he used to do on top of everything else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-dh-ever-be-a-stay-at-home-dad-would-you-be-ok-with-it#post-182037 Thu, 07 Jun 2012 14:30:27 +0000 Jumpingjacks 182037@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, DH would definitely be a stay at home dad and he would be terrific at it. I would love it if he were, but less so if I was unhappy in my own career (which I am at the moment). So selfish of me, I know. For my part, I don't think I could a full-time SAHM. I would find it very challenging. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-dh-ever-be-a-stay-at-home-dad-would-you-be-ok-with-it#post-182033 Thu, 07 Jun 2012 14:22:38 +0000 mrs. wagon 182033@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think we would both be inclined to say he would be fine with it and even enjoy it. The childcare part, that is. And he could probably learn how to do the housework as well. But we are both very traditional and conservative very deep down and i know we would both struggle with it as life roles. I think I would resent the pressure of being breadwinner, and he would have a complex about not contributing financially. Not to menton I'm so type A with all the tasks of childcare and housekeeping. </p> <p>If I were more of a careerwoman, maybe it would work. But I only work to provide money. My career is not my passion.. My family is. So I think Wagon Sr. Could adjust, with some issues to deal with of course, but I would not. </p> <p>This is the perspective after almost 7 years of marriage, 18 months as a SAHM, and 9 months as a WOHM. :-) </p> <p>Oh... Wagon Sr. Was a SAHH (stay at home hubby!) for almost a year while he went to school... The house was never clean and he did not cook!! The only difference was he drove me to work. :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-dh-ever-be-a-stay-at-home-dad-would-you-be-ok-with-it#post-182022 Thu, 07 Jun 2012 14:12:22 +0000 heffalump 182022@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd be fine with DH being a SAHD, I think he's an awesome daddy! But he wouldn't like it. He doesn't have the patience for it. There are days where LO is fussy and he comes home from work and takes her.... and after an hour starts complaining. Really?! I've been with her all day long! </p>