https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 30 Apr 2026 10:56:20 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-so-have-married-you-if-you-didnt-want-children#post-718420 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 21:47:26 +0000 Running Elley 718420@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just asked him (even though I already knew the answer) and nope, he wouldn't have. It was very important to both of us to have children. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-so-have-married-you-if-you-didnt-want-children#post-718411 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 21:39:42 +0000 LittleFox 718411@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know he would not have married me. We actually discussed this while we were engaged, to make sure we were both on the same page. If we hadn't been, we would not have gotten married. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-so-have-married-you-if-you-didnt-want-children#post-718409 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 21:37:51 +0000 Mrs. Pen 718409@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Perhaps...</p> <p>We actually had to deal with this. I had a dream of becoming a cardiologist and I was adamant that if I chose a medical career, I couldn't have a family. At that time in my life, that dream consumed me and I definitely wanted that more than children. And I was okay with that!</p> <p>I told DH that a few weeks after he proposed and he started crying. BUT he didn't break up with me. And we didn't talk about it again for several months. </p> <p>Eventually though I gave up that dream of being a doctor, although a part of my heart will always want that, and chose to have a family instead. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-so-have-married-you-if-you-didnt-want-children#post-718390 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 21:22:41 +0000 blackbird 718390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope-it was a dealbreaker for him </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-so-have-married-you-if-you-didnt-want-children#post-718385 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 21:18:00 +0000 yoursilverlining 718385@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes; neither of us were sure we wanted kids and we both were completely happy with it just being the two of us if that's how it worked out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-so-have-married-you-if-you-didnt-want-children#post-718298 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 20:34:25 +0000 Penny Lane 718298@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely not. Family is a big thing for him. He's the one who talked ME into ttc earlier than planned </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-so-have-married-you-if-you-didnt-want-children#post-718275 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 20:18:53 +0000 MrsRcCar 718275@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. DH wanted children as much as me. Deal breaker both ways. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-so-have-married-you-if-you-didnt-want-children#post-718231 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 19:59:41 +0000 IRunForFun 718231@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think if he had found out really early on that I didn't want kids, he might not have pursued a serious relationship, but if he had found out after we had already fallen in love, he still would have married me. There have been a few points where I've wavered on whether I really want biological kids, and he's always said he would still marry me/be happy with me either way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-so-have-married-you-if-you-didnt-want-children#post-718212 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 19:47:28 +0000 Ra 718212@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep! He didn't even want kids. He would have been perfectly happy if it was just us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-so-have-married-you-if-you-didnt-want-children#post-718187 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 19:16:24 +0000 mrs. bird 718187@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>no, having a family is very important to him </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-so-have-married-you-if-you-didnt-want-children#post-718181 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 19:09:32 +0000 MrsH 718181@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-so-have-married-you-if-you-didnt-want-children#post-718176 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 19:05:10 +0000 chopsuey 718176@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep. He definitely would have still married me. Dh wasnt sure he wanted biological children when first started talking. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-so-have-married-you-if-you-didnt-want-children#post-718148 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 18:40:38 +0000 MsLipGloss 718148@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, he would have married me. Neither one of us knew for sure we wanted children, but we were open to the idea. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-so-have-married-you-if-you-didnt-want-children#post-718145 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 18:38:42 +0000 Rhdscait 718145@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I believe he would have. But, I think he would have visited the issue time and time again until I had changed my mind. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-so-have-married-you-if-you-didnt-want-children#post-718140 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 18:35:52 +0000 babycanuck 718140@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope - he made it clear that was a deal breaker. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-so-have-married-you-if-you-didnt-want-children#post-718136 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 18:33:03 +0000 sarac 718136@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. Being a father was as non-negotiable for him as it was for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-so-have-married-you-if-you-didnt-want-children#post-717465 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 14:14:48 +0000 immabeetoo 717465@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope would've been a deal breaker for him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-so-have-married-you-if-you-didnt-want-children#post-717441 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 14:09:26 +0000 banana 717441@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, I don't think he would have. Having children was really important to him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-so-have-married-you-if-you-didnt-want-children#post-717426 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 14:08:03 +0000 MamaJ 717426@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. I did not want kids when we were dating or when we got married. I think he either hoped I would change my mind or loved me enough to where it was ok if we didn't. We have one LO now and DH wants another but I don't. I told him he was lucky he got one out of me and its a compromise because he wanted 2 and I wanted none! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-so-have-married-you-if-you-didnt-want-children#post-717425 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 14:07:51 +0000 Mrs Hedgehog 717425@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I doubt it. While we love each other so darn much, having a family is so incredibly important to us it would have been a deal breaker either way. Heck, I was willing to marry somebody of a different religion but somebody who didn't want kids? Out of the question. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-so-have-married-you-if-you-didnt-want-children#post-717414 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 14:06:06 +0000 Dandelion 717414@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep...he didn't care either way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-so-have-married-you-if-you-didnt-want-children#post-717403 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 14:03:31 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 717403@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. Deal breaker for him too. Those early convos about family was very easy because we both wanted children. </p> <p>I did ask DH if we never had kids because we just couldn't conceive if he would need fine, if I was enough and I was happy he said yes. There's alot of pressure to fulfill a dream even when it's shared by two. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-so-have-married-you-if-you-didnt-want-children#post-717385 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 13:57:36 +0000 Pirouette 717385@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely not. In fact, i had to come around to wanting kids at all because he wanted them so badly! But, somehow seeing how much he wanted to be a dad helped convince me i wanted to be a mom too...i just had never thought about it before him, honestly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-so-have-married-you-if-you-didnt-want-children#post-717366 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 13:52:45 +0000 lawbee11 717366@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. He already had children from a previous marriage, so I am sure he would have. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-so-have-married-you-if-you-didnt-want-children#post-717365 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 13:52:34 +0000 heffalump 717365@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think so. He also wouldn't have married me if I didn't want a dog. Good thing I wanted both of those things :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-so-have-married-you-if-you-didnt-want-children#post-717363 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 13:52:13 +0000 MamaMoose 717363@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. His father was actually married before his mom and that marriage ended because his father wanted children and she didn't. So my husband was very aware of that issue and we discussed it before marrying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-so-have-married-you-if-you-didnt-want-children#post-717360 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 13:51:18 +0000 littlek 717360@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think it would be a deal breaker for DH. DH LOVES being a dad, but he is very career oriented. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-so-have-married-you-if-you-didnt-want-children#post-717359 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 13:51:15 +0000 pui 717359@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No I don't think so. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-so-have-married-you-if-you-didnt-want-children#post-717353 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 13:49:24 +0000 wheres_c 717353@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, he said he wanted kids but when we discussed my potential infertility he said he would be ok without them too. (Whether I couldn't or didnt want to) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/would-your-so-have-married-you-if-you-didnt-want-children#post-717250 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 13:30:41 +0000 yerpie110 717250@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He would have, but I don't think I would have let him. it wouldn't be fair to him and i wouldn't want to worry for the rest of my life about him potentially resenting me. </p>