https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 24 Apr 2026 09:31:25 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wouldwill-you-do-it-differently-with-your-next-child/page/2#post-2176630 Wed, 13 May 2015 09:55:17 +0000 renee 2176630@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was induced and had an epidural pretty early on. The problem was is I didn't dial up the epidural enough during delivery so it was awful. I'm not sure what it would have been like without an epidural, but it was the worst pain of my life. Next time, I'll make sure the epidural is turned up so I don't have to feel that again! I also would want to avoid being induced. I was given the choice to be induced or not because of very mild hypertension (which totally freaked the doctors out, but I'm sure wasn't a big deal, it was high because I was nervous). I was so uncomfortable being pregnant that I agreed to be induced. I hope next time to go into labor naturally. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wouldwill-you-do-it-differently-with-your-next-child/page/2#post-2176553 Wed, 13 May 2015 09:13:06 +0000 mrsrain 2176553@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am super happy with how my actual birth went (labored at home, med-free birth, doula and midwife-assisted), but I was supposed to give birth at the birth center and ended up transferring across the street to the hospital because of high blood pressure. Next time we are going to plan on a hospital birth (to avoid the possibility of a last minute transfer, and also because I liked being able to stay overnight which isn't an option in the birth center). Otherwise, I hope everything goes the same! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wouldwill-you-do-it-differently-with-your-next-child/page/2#post-2176498 Wed, 13 May 2015 08:40:48 +0000 Corduroy 2176498@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As I said in labor with #1, I will absolutely not have any more first babies. I'm hoping for much faster (but not too fast) and less tension with the hospital staff (hoping speed helps with that). </p> <p>I'm not having a doula this time (also hoping that helps with hospital staff tension) and I plan to ask my doctor at my next appointment what the hospital guidelines are for midwives/OBs wearing face masks. It really bothered me that I never saw the midwife's face, couldn't read her expressions, and couldn't hear her. I know that was because she didn't get the flu shot but I want to understand if I need to expect the same this time around. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wouldwill-you-do-it-differently-with-your-next-child/page/2#post-2176432 Wed, 13 May 2015 07:26:27 +0000 YouGotMe 2176432@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd like it to not be in the middle of a ice/snowstorm so I don't have to worry about the car sliding off the road on the way to the hospital. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wouldwill-you-do-it-differently-with-your-next-child/page/2#post-2176383 Wed, 13 May 2015 05:36:40 +0000 Dandelion 2176383@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'll adopt next time. If there even is a next time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wouldwill-you-do-it-differently-with-your-next-child/page/2#post-2176375 Wed, 13 May 2015 04:35:27 +0000 Ree723 2176375@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If there is another one (a big if!), I'd do the same as @yellowbird: said and be better prepared with some coping techniques in case the epi doesn't work! With my first, I had a dream labour and delivery - epi worked brilliantly, I felt absolutely nothing but was able to push DD out within an hour and had no complications. I assumed it would be the same for my second, but the epi only partially worked and it SUCKED having to cope with the pain when I had really only been prepared to deal with the pain until I got to the hospital and could get the epidural. Granted, the epi was working somewhat so I didn't feel everything, but it wasn't the dream epi of the first time and I was so unprepared for that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wouldwill-you-do-it-differently-with-your-next-child/page/2#post-2176367 Wed, 13 May 2015 01:39:15 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 2176367@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With my most recent l&amp;d, I labored as long as possible at home before heading to hospital. Once in the hospital, I spent the entire time laboring in the tub until it was time to push. I did some practice pushes in the tub, but ultimately ended up delivering on the bed (per OB's request).<br /> With this next baby, I would like to stay in the tub the whole time and push my baby out in the tub &amp; have a water birth. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wouldwill-you-do-it-differently-with-your-next-child/page/2#post-2176364 Wed, 13 May 2015 00:25:21 +0000 hummusgirl 2176364@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Things went pretty well the first time, but I'm hopeful it will be an overall easier experience since we've moved from NYC to Texas. In NY, I had to wait to get an epidural for hours because there wasn't a room available, and I had to share a recovery room with another mom/baby (or pay $900/night for a private room which I couldn't bring myself to do). I'm picturing Texas hospital rooms to be very large, luxurious and private. :-) </p> <p>@Anagram: I was BEGGING for an epi at only 2-3cm. Not sure if I just have a low pain threshold or what. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wouldwill-you-do-it-differently-with-your-next-child/page/2#post-2176310 Tue, 12 May 2015 22:14:24 +0000 birdofafeather 2176310@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would do a repeat of my first l&amp;d if I could! But I'm super nervous it's either a) going to be totally different and way longer or b) the same and way faster! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wouldwill-you-do-it-differently-with-your-next-child/page/2#post-2176284 Tue, 12 May 2015 21:49:32 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2176284@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I want the epi sooner!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wouldwill-you-do-it-differently-with-your-next-child/page/2#post-2176281 Tue, 12 May 2015 21:45:06 +0000 jhd 2176281@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If we have another I will have a csection. LO's shoulder was stuck and my OB said she would recommend a csection if we have more children. But I was happy with my epi. 27 hours and back labor I wasn't brave enough for med free! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wouldwill-you-do-it-differently-with-your-next-child/page/2#post-2176268 Tue, 12 May 2015 21:34:42 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2176268@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'll have a c section next time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wouldwill-you-do-it-differently-with-your-next-child/page/2#post-2176257 Tue, 12 May 2015 21:25:12 +0000 Caly 2176257@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lilteacherbee: *hyperventilates* Perhaps I'll catch you guys on y'alls 3rd go around. Maybe. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wouldwill-you-do-it-differently-with-your-next-child/page/2#post-2176254 Tue, 12 May 2015 21:15:34 +0000 sometimesshesings 2176254@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Overall, I wouldn't change much about my labor and birth-- great mama/baby friendly hospital with flexible staff, a mostly empowering experience, and tolerable pain levels even towards the end. But I'd love to have a shorter labor (as opposed to a 45 hour one) and avoid an epidural. I ended up asking for one about 42 hours into labor to get some rest, and I so appreciated the couple hours of sleep it gave me, but i hated losing control of my legs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wouldwill-you-do-it-differently-with-your-next-child/page/2#post-2176242 Tue, 12 May 2015 21:03:10 +0000 SupernovaJ 2176242@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i had a very empowering first labor even though i got pitocin after 19 hours, and then an epidural 4 hours after that. baby girl came into the world after 30 hours. i would love to try to go for an all natural med-free birth for the second labor, but i'm pretty sure if i am pressured into getting pit again, any chance of that is out the window! but i'd be totally fine with that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wouldwill-you-do-it-differently-with-your-next-child/page/2#post-2176229 Tue, 12 May 2015 20:46:43 +0000 lilteacherbee 2176229@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Caly: :shocked: Do it!! Come on, you know you wanna join the rest of us Nov '13 mamas :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wouldwill-you-do-it-differently-with-your-next-child#post-2176228 Tue, 12 May 2015 20:44:43 +0000 lilteacherbee 2176228@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Me3: I had a scheduled c-section with my first because of several reasons, one being that I had GD and they were going to induce early anyway. He always measured huge on growth ultrasounds and I really didn't want a failed induction/emergency c-section (would have been dangerous given some of my medical history). I'm so glad I listened to my gut because he was nearly 9lbs at 39 weeks and they had to vacuum him out during surgery! He was super stuck and definitely would have been a c-section in the end anyway. Totally don't regret my decision at all and I'll be having a RCS this time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wouldwill-you-do-it-differently-with-your-next-child#post-2176227 Tue, 12 May 2015 20:44:32 +0000 travellingbee 2176227@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cascademom: thanks yeah, I was GBS positive the first time and didn't know if this time I automatically would be too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wouldwill-you-do-it-differently-with-your-next-child#post-2176225 Tue, 12 May 2015 20:41:45 +0000 Anagram 2176225@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh Gosh, I am trying not to get my hopes up about any improvements in this second labor/delivery. The overall end result was fine last time (vaginal birth, no big complications with me or baby), but my labor was LOOOOONG and I found out I don't dilate quickly and I don't handle pain well.</p> <p>I was in intense, intense pain when I was only 3 cm dilated. That was a surprise because I thought it didn't get bad till 5-8 cm dilated. Not in my case!</p> <p>I would love to make it to 5 cm this time before getting the epi, but if the pain is like last time, pfff......I'll get it ASAP again.</p> <p>Everything else, I'd be pleased with a repeat performance. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wouldwill-you-do-it-differently-with-your-next-child#post-2176221 Tue, 12 May 2015 20:31:53 +0000 marionberry 2176221@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Answering this for my recent delivery. Going into it I knew I wanted to push myself to be active through the pain sooner after surgery (standing, walking, etc.) to help with long-term recovery. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wouldwill-you-do-it-differently-with-your-next-child#post-2176203 Tue, 12 May 2015 19:55:35 +0000 Happygal 2176203@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>From the beginning, I said I wasn't get too attached to an ideal birth plan which helped me accept having a planned c-section for my breech baby. I'll keep that same mindset, but do hope to go for a VBAC. </p> <p>Post delivery, I'll be more patient with recovery. I tried to skip pain meds and fit into pre-pregnancy clothes really soon afterwards b/c I simply wanted to feel normal again. I stressed about still having pain and should have trusted things would get better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wouldwill-you-do-it-differently-with-your-next-child#post-2176188 Tue, 12 May 2015 19:32:08 +0000 Mrs.Panda 2176188@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would like to try for a VBAC if it's safe enough. And I'd prefer not to be in labor for 40 hours with a long induction :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wouldwill-you-do-it-differently-with-your-next-child#post-2176185 Tue, 12 May 2015 19:25:34 +0000 Kemma 2176185@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Try to do more walking in early labour and hopefully have a smaller baby! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wouldwill-you-do-it-differently-with-your-next-child#post-2176157 Tue, 12 May 2015 18:42:24 +0000 ScarletBegonia 2176157@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Get the epidural BEFORE 10cm and pushing for an hour. Ideally, get the epidural the minute I set foot in the hospital.<br /> No forceps (although it was uncomplicated and no damage to my son's head/face - would just prefer not to have to be completely numbed out next time).<br /> Other than that - the experience was great! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wouldwill-you-do-it-differently-with-your-next-child#post-2176083 Tue, 12 May 2015 17:06:22 +0000 Me3 2176083@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mamasig Thank you! I feel like people will think I'm crazy to ask for a C-section, but after the two vaginal deliveries I've had, I really think it will be better. If I could go back knowing how things would go, I would have asked for C-sections for my first two. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wouldwill-you-do-it-differently-with-your-next-child#post-2175998 Tue, 12 May 2015 15:34:58 +0000 littlebittyhouse 2175998@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I will be more relaxed about my birth plan this time - although I think I would like to go without the epidural this time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wouldwill-you-do-it-differently-with-your-next-child#post-2175959 Tue, 12 May 2015 15:13:06 +0000 KT326 2175959@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I want to be more mobile during my time before the epidural. I had to be on constant monitoring because of my blood pressure. But if that isn't an issue next time I would like to be able to move around and find more comfortable positions. Also, with my first one after 2.5 hours of pushing I needed forceps assistance, I would really like to avoid that next time. I think DH is still traumatized by it 3 years later! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wouldwill-you-do-it-differently-with-your-next-child#post-2175955 Tue, 12 May 2015 15:07:57 +0000 Caly 2175955@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Have a singleton. But that's a big huge IF we have another :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wouldwill-you-do-it-differently-with-your-next-child#post-2175952 Tue, 12 May 2015 15:05:22 +0000 Mamasig 2175952@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Me3: do it! this was my fear! My 1st was weighing an estimated 9lbs 3 oz at 37 weeks and I'm a petite person. My OB saw that and threw out c section. I took it and had a scheduled c section at 39+1. He was 10 lbs 9 oz. </p> <p>I have zero regrets with both of my births - scheduled c sections. I plan to do the same next time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wouldwill-you-do-it-differently-with-your-next-child#post-2175943 Tue, 12 May 2015 14:59:32 +0000 blackbird 2175943@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was hoping to go into labor on my own, but my BP shot up and protein spilled into my urine, so.....things are out of my control lol. I am more winging it this time </p>