https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 27 Jun 2026 16:10:13 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-no-one-should-be-getting-divorced-at-my-age#post-255591 Sat, 11 Aug 2012 10:25:41 +0000 ChelseaRose 255591@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsdaredevil: Wow. It sounds like she didn't take the time to really know the guys before getting married if she already had to do all that by 22. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-no-one-should-be-getting-divorced-at-my-age#post-255573 Sat, 11 Aug 2012 09:34:02 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 255573@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a friend who is 22 and has been divorced twice. Kind of bizarre. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-no-one-should-be-getting-divorced-at-my-age#post-255563 Sat, 11 Aug 2012 09:08:26 +0000 MsMamaBear 255563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yikes..well at least she can find love again, marry and have kids in no time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-no-one-should-be-getting-divorced-at-my-age#post-255561 Sat, 11 Aug 2012 09:04:22 +0000 LemonLong 255561@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband was married at 22 and their marriage only lasted about two years. It was especially hard because they were Mormon. It just wasn't the right fit though. His ex is also remarried now and she's expecting her first child too!</p> <p>Divorce is hard. We had the Divorce talk within our first year of marriage. We even got to the point of splitting assets. However we made it through it and I think our relationship is better for it now. We have more open communication and a better understanding of each other's needs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-no-one-should-be-getting-divorced-at-my-age#post-255493 Sat, 11 Aug 2012 04:47:28 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 255493@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: honestly marriage is tough and even in our case kids has made it so much more difficult. Glad to hear things are better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-no-one-should-be-getting-divorced-at-my-age#post-255492 Sat, 11 Aug 2012 04:46:08 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 255492@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: I'm so sorry things are rough. To be honest you aren't alone. Like you the D word scares me. But the idea of being a single mom even more. Take it one day at a time and know whatever you decide is the best option for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-no-one-should-be-getting-divorced-at-my-age#post-255489 Sat, 11 Aug 2012 04:16:48 +0000 Boogs 255489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: Agreed. Sometimes it just doesn't work. And you know how to get a hold of me if you want to chat, the D word did come up for us at one point so I know it's not an easy thing.</p> <p>@Coco Bee: Statistically younger people are more likely to get married I believe. Divorce is a sad thing, but it is usually for the best. In your friend's case, since she sounds like she's happy you should be happy for her. It probably took a lot of courage to decide to end her marriage, so when you speak to her at least give her kudos for that. At the end of the day her happiness is what matters most. Thankfully for them kids weren't involved, so hopefully that makes moving forward easier on all the involved parties. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-no-one-should-be-getting-divorced-at-my-age#post-255485 Sat, 11 Aug 2012 03:18:31 +0000 looch 255485@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I had gotten married when I was in my early 20's, I know for sure I would be divorced now. I was just too immature to be married...I was busy living it up in NYC.</p> <p>Deciding to end a relationship is tough at any age, I really think it's more about maturity and stage of life more than just age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-no-one-should-be-getting-divorced-at-my-age#post-255117 Fri, 10 Aug 2012 17:04:36 +0000 Mrs. Pen 255117@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: man I cannot even imagine. I'm so sorry you had to go through that... I just hope and pray it makes you two stronger! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-no-one-should-be-getting-divorced-at-my-age#post-255115 Fri, 10 Aug 2012 17:03:25 +0000 sorrycharlie 255115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Coco Bee: aw thank you! I think he's just overwhelmed with a baby so young, but wasn't verbalizing his worries, so after a huge talk we are doing better. It's such a sick feeling though imagining divorce! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-no-one-should-be-getting-divorced-at-my-age#post-255108 Fri, 10 Aug 2012 16:56:29 +0000 Mrs. Pen 255108@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: oh no!! honey... I'm so sorry! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-no-one-should-be-getting-divorced-at-my-age#post-255100 Fri, 10 Aug 2012 16:47:44 +0000 sorrycharlie 255100@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: DH told me a few weeks ago that he thought we might need to split. We are since working on some things but if you want to PM feel free to wall me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-no-one-should-be-getting-divorced-at-my-age#post-255073 Fri, 10 Aug 2012 16:17:37 +0000 Mrs. Pen 255073@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: oh honey ((hugs)) I wouldn't judge, and I'm not even judging my friend - it just makes me sad. I hope things start looking up :( I'm so sorry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-no-one-should-be-getting-divorced-at-my-age#post-255071 Fri, 10 Aug 2012 16:16:57 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 255071@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i'm not sure if I have any advice as to how...but I agree with you that you should see her. A divorce can make people feel so alone, so knowing that you're her friend and you're there for her despite the fact that she's divorced will mean a lot. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-no-one-should-be-getting-divorced-at-my-age#post-255067 Fri, 10 Aug 2012 16:15:10 +0000 blackbird 255067@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>On the flip side, she gets to start her life over while she is still young. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-no-one-should-be-getting-divorced-at-my-age#post-255053 Fri, 10 Aug 2012 15:59:37 +0000 Honeybee 255053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: Hugs. We went through a really tough transition right after DD was born; if you ever wanna talk, I'll PM you my email. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-no-one-should-be-getting-divorced-at-my-age#post-255048 Fri, 10 Aug 2012 15:54:59 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 255048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>3 people very close to me have been divorced recently. All had kids and it definitely takes it's toll, but I will say that they all seem SO much happier now and I think even though it's been awful on all the kids, that they are all better off for it.</p> <p>I do love seeing my girlfriends bloom and if it takes getting out of a toxic relationship, then so be it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-no-one-should-be-getting-divorced-at-my-age#post-255028 Fri, 10 Aug 2012 15:36:53 +0000 Red 255028@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Divorce is sad but I think it's worse to stay in a relationship that doesn't make you happy. If your friend is happy/relieved about her divorce then you should be happy for her as well. We all make mistakes (some bigger than others) and it's always great to have friends who support you no matter what.</p> <p>I'd give her a call and schedule some girl time to celebrate/commiserate. Maybe a mani/pedi, wine tasting, or spa day? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-no-one-should-be-getting-divorced-at-my-age#post-255020 Fri, 10 Aug 2012 15:32:01 +0000 rachiecakes 255020@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: ((hugs)) you're right. sometimes it just doesn't work.<br /> and people are supposed to change. no one knows how or even who they're going to be after going through life's changes. I'm feeling this firsthand. I'm definitely a different person than I was when I first met DH. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-no-one-should-be-getting-divorced-at-my-age#post-255017 Fri, 10 Aug 2012 15:28:42 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 255017@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That is really sad. :( I have a friend who got divorced while she was pregnant. She was 21 at the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-no-one-should-be-getting-divorced-at-my-age#post-255015 Fri, 10 Aug 2012 15:26:35 +0000 DigAPony 255015@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My best friend got divorced at 21. Her marriage ended when her son was only four months old. I'd say just let your friend know you're thinking of her and you'd love to hang out before she moves away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-no-one-should-be-getting-divorced-at-my-age#post-255009 Fri, 10 Aug 2012 15:20:53 +0000 BSB 255009@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, I know a few friends who got divorced a few years after getting married. </p> <p>It is sad but sometimes a relationship just doesn't work. </p> <p>My DH and I are going through a rough time, right now. I don't know what our future will be. I hope it works out. But, please don't judge. It's a horrible feeling and really hard on me that I even have to think of the D word. :/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-no-one-should-be-getting-divorced-at-my-age#post-255006 Fri, 10 Aug 2012 15:19:00 +0000 rachiecakes 255006@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Coco Bee: yeah! I kind of get it. (I mean, I'm not even close to being there) I understand how having a baby can change who you are. I imagine if your partner isn't as understanding or isn't on board the same way that you are, I see how it could happen. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-no-one-should-be-getting-divorced-at-my-age#post-255004 Fri, 10 Aug 2012 15:18:34 +0000 Mrsbells 255004@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree that divorce is heartbreaking at any age, although its more shocking when they are still within the first few years of marriage </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-no-one-should-be-getting-divorced-at-my-age#post-254999 Fri, 10 Aug 2012 15:16:15 +0000 cyndistar3 254999@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Coco Bee: I have to agree with you, my mom did exactly the same thing and now in her mid forties she still hooks up with random guys all the time. I have lost all respect for her... So I hope for her and her children's sake she will get over it soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-no-one-should-be-getting-divorced-at-my-age#post-254997 Fri, 10 Aug 2012 15:14:35 +0000 heffalump 254997@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also have a friend who is going through a divorce. They have a three year old.... and one day he came home and told her (my friend, not their daughter) that he has a girlfriend. Awful! He was actually married when he met this girl so it wasn't a huge surprise to most people because he had already done something just like this, just no kid last time.</p> <p>I just try to ask her to hang out as much as possible. I know she lost a lot of her friends when she was married because nobody liked him so they didn't want to hang out with them. I know when I invited them to parties I would always hope he wouldn't be able to come. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-no-one-should-be-getting-divorced-at-my-age#post-254988 Fri, 10 Aug 2012 15:10:04 +0000 Mrs. Pen 254988@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rachiecakes: really?! that's so crazy... I mean, I understand it, but for my husband and me it really just made us stronger together. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-no-one-should-be-getting-divorced-at-my-age#post-254981 Fri, 10 Aug 2012 15:07:06 +0000 rachiecakes 254981@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree, it's sad. </p> <p>I know a lot of friends that have been together forever and having kids just changed their relationship... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-no-one-should-be-getting-divorced-at-my-age#post-254970 Fri, 10 Aug 2012 15:00:01 +0000 Mrs. Pen 254970@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@eiko2010: sad to say, but it sounds like they are going to have severe teenage/adult issues. It's one thing to get divorced and be involved with your kids in the process so they don't feel like victims. A whole other thing to have two parents leave, essentially.</p> <p>@MrsBrewer: that's so true. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-no-one-should-be-getting-divorced-at-my-age#post-254969 Fri, 10 Aug 2012 14:57:58 +0000 littlebug 254969@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Coco Bee: Yeah, I mean obviously we all feel terrible for her, but we just feel so sad for her girls. She is leaving them with her parents all the time. I just feel like they must feel so sad and abandoned. </p>