https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 09 Apr 2026 15:17:45 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-this-is-the-saddestmost-important-thing-ive-read-in-a-long-time#post-1391652 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 23:46:40 +0000 dojo 1391652@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So heartbreaking. I had to stop a couple of times while reading this. :crying: </p> <p>@wonderstruck: I felt the same way initially - thinking how could someone do this?! But the realization that it could happen to anyone under the right circumstances hit me pretty hard. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-this-is-the-saddestmost-important-thing-ive-read-in-a-long-time#post-1391643 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 23:28:25 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1391643@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pepper: the same thing happened to me- it was like after reading it I became forever tainted with saddness and worry. It is literally the saddest thing I have ever heard of and it bring fears directly to the core of my bones.<br /> Forgetfulness can happen to ANYone. It is just so so scary. God forbid it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-this-is-the-saddestmost-important-thing-ive-read-in-a-long-time#post-1391637 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 23:21:31 +0000 MrsB2012 1391637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I started reading it, then stopped, then started again. It took me a long time to read and I'm usually a very quick reader. So heartbreaking. One of those things that you always think would never happen to you. Just so many series of unfortunate events that lead to a devastating outcome.</p> <p>Thanks for the share. A tough read but a good reminder. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-this-is-the-saddestmost-important-thing-ive-read-in-a-long-time#post-1391629 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 23:12:36 +0000 mrskc 1391629@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@scg00387: yeah that "worst case" part haunts me so much. </p> <p>@Dagny: other options are to leave a stuffed toy in the car seat. When you buckle your LO in, you move the toy to the front seat as a reminder that your child is in the back. Or I've heard people using a string or bungee cord where it would block them from getting out of the car as a mental reminder your child is in the back. I personally put my purse in the backseat. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-this-is-the-saddestmost-important-thing-ive-read-in-a-long-time#post-1391531 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 21:45:08 +0000 Pepper 1391531@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I read this article years ago before having a child and it has haunted me ever since. I don't think I've ever read something that has affected me as strongly as this article has. Seriously. Every time I'm in the car alone, I check his carseat several times to make sure he's not in there with me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-this-is-the-saddestmost-important-thing-ive-read-in-a-long-time#post-1391515 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 21:34:08 +0000 tequiero21 1391515@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PawPrints: what kills me is that one guy who did have a motion sensor but thought it was malfunctioning so he turned it off. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-this-is-the-saddestmost-important-thing-ive-read-in-a-long-time#post-1390153 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 12:01:04 +0000 PawPrints 1390153@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I have heard some auto manufacturers are starting to introduce an optional feature where there's a motion sensor in the backseat and your car alarm goes off if it senses motion after you turn off and lock the car. That could be a solution, if the car alarm also alerts you via remote. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-this-is-the-saddestmost-important-thing-ive-read-in-a-long-time#post-1390132 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 11:57:19 +0000 Adira 1390132@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PawPrints: I felt the same way when I first read it, years before I had a child of my own. I think of this story daily, especially because my husband is in charge of daycare drop-off. It's my biggest fear that he'll forget one day. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-this-is-the-saddestmost-important-thing-ive-read-in-a-long-time#post-1390124 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 11:53:34 +0000 wonderstruck 1390124@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've read it before and cried the whole way through. Heartbreaking, but I think it's SUCH an important article to read. The mindset (that I admittedly had before reading it) of thinking anyone who could leave their child in the seat must be some bad neglectful parent, that it could never happen to ME, is so common. And when you believe that you don't think about how you could prevent it.</p> <p>My heart aches for those poor children and what they went through, and their parents for the moment realization and panic kick in, and the anguish they'll always carry with them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-this-is-the-saddestmost-important-thing-ive-read-in-a-long-time#post-1390123 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 11:53:26 +0000 78h2o 1390123@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is a huge fear of mine. I worried myself sick about it over the summer when my husband sometimes took LO to daycare. We were always changing our schedule of who would take her and what days she would go, so there was no routine or reason for daycare to miss her. I showed this article to be husband, but he still thought I was being neurotic. he refused to call my after drop off because he didn't want to encourage my worrying. So basically I invented every reason under the sun to call DH or the daycare to casually ask a out something and make sure she arrived safely. With myself, I made a point to put my purse in the back and I set an alarm on my phone to ring every morning after drop off time w/ a reminder to make she she was at daycare. </p> <p>I'm less worried right now because Im the only who takes her and I'm pretty paranoid/careful. I do think I will talk to her current daycare about calling me if she doesn't show up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-this-is-the-saddestmost-important-thing-ive-read-in-a-long-time#post-1389928 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 10:54:44 +0000 mrsjyw 1389928@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you for sharing. A very tough, but necessary read. This has also been on my list of fears. Reality check. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-this-is-the-saddestmost-important-thing-ive-read-in-a-long-time#post-1389898 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 10:44:42 +0000 MamaMoose 1389898@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dagny: My husband and I have an agreement that whoever drops LO off at day care takes a picture at drop off to send to the other parent. It helps us keep in check because if I haven't seen a text from my husband by about 8:30 I call him to make sure he dropped her off safely. It's also just nice to get pictures of her every morning : ) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-this-is-the-saddestmost-important-thing-ive-read-in-a-long-time#post-1389887 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 10:40:14 +0000 Mrs. Sketchbook 1389887@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think a secondary benefit to putting your purse in the backseat is that it keeps you from texting/talking on the cell while driving! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-this-is-the-saddestmost-important-thing-ive-read-in-a-long-time#post-1389830 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 10:25:20 +0000 MrsSCB 1389830@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I read this when it came out, long before even thinking of having kids, and will never forget it. It's why I never rush to judge a parent when this happens, unless there is clear negligence. One little change in routine, one extra tired or rushed day and it could happen to anyone. Heartbreaking. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-this-is-the-saddestmost-important-thing-ive-read-in-a-long-time#post-1389823 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 10:23:39 +0000 LuLu Mom 1389823@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is a huge fear of mine, I always do pick up/drop off, so for some reason if DH does, I call when I know he would be at owrk to make sure he did drop her off/pick her up/ect. Just a check. I can't imagine the pain these parents feel, it's just such a horrible accident. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-this-is-the-saddestmost-important-thing-ive-read-in-a-long-time#post-1389707 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 09:54:26 +0000 tequiero21 1389707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, this is my worst fear, somehow killing my lo. I think one advantage I have is very rarely ever will I have only one kid. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-this-is-the-saddestmost-important-thing-ive-read-in-a-long-time#post-1389702 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 09:53:11 +0000 Foodnerd81 1389702@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This was a really, really tough read-- and I only skimmed page 5. I just can't imagine it happening to me, but I know every single person they talked about felt the same way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-this-is-the-saddestmost-important-thing-ive-read-in-a-long-time#post-1389672 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 09:45:25 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1389672@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've read this before. It's a huge fear of mine, especially because it's SO hot 9 months out of the year here. I have actually made it a point to tilt my rear-view mirror so that I can see her at all times, while still having a clear view of the back window. (Everyone tries to correct it). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-this-is-the-saddestmost-important-thing-ive-read-in-a-long-time#post-1389648 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 09:35:48 +0000 Mae 1389648@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Gah, that is heart wrenching. I feel like I will be totally neurotic about this. The best thing I can think of is to make a rule for my husband and me that he ALWAYS puts his brief case next to the car seat (he'll be responsible for drop offs) and I always put my purse next to the car seat. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-this-is-the-saddestmost-important-thing-ive-read-in-a-long-time#post-1389589 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 09:09:59 +0000 blackbird 1389589@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh man, i can't read this. </p> <p>When i was driving E to daycare, she was SO QUIET in the back, that i had to look over my shoulder to remind myself that she was there. It was such an unnerving feeling.</p> <p>I actually put my lunchbox or purse in the backseat now. Mostly b/c it's out of my way, but i guess it's a secondary reminder, too </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-this-is-the-saddestmost-important-thing-ive-read-in-a-long-time#post-1389524 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 08:21:02 +0000 mediagirl 1389524@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I couldn't finish this article, but it hurt my heart. I really enjoyed the point of it and where the writer was coming from. I was paranoid all summer long that I would leave M in the car. I would check the carseat when I went into the office and then check it when I went out for lunch or to leave for the day, just making sure she wasn't there!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-this-is-the-saddestmost-important-thing-ive-read-in-a-long-time#post-1389519 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 08:19:15 +0000 looch 1389519@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is also timely in the summer (obvs. not hypothermia) but heat related as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-this-is-the-saddestmost-important-thing-ive-read-in-a-long-time#post-1389517 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 08:17:08 +0000 hilsy85 1389517@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dagny: I think that is the big one--putting something that you will need to get out of the car in the backseat with the baby. </p> <p>So scary! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-this-is-the-saddestmost-important-thing-ive-read-in-a-long-time#post-1389483 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 07:50:37 +0000 edelweiss 1389483@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i couldn't finish it. so scary that this could happen to anyone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-this-is-the-saddestmost-important-thing-ive-read-in-a-long-time#post-1389480 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 07:48:14 +0000 Mamaof2 1389480@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Heartbreaking :crying: </p> <p>You always hear about this stuff in the summer with the heat but I have never thought about it happening in the cold too </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-this-is-the-saddestmost-important-thing-ive-read-in-a-long-time#post-1389472 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 07:41:36 +0000 rsp213 1389472@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I read this a few years ago and sobbed at my desk at work. This is one of my biggest fears and even though L is now 2 and much more awake/talkative in the car I feel like I'm always double and triple-checking. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-this-is-the-saddestmost-important-thing-ive-read-in-a-long-time#post-1389401 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 02:17:24 +0000 Dagny 1389401@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That was tough to read.. </p> <p>I didn't see any suggestions to try to prevent this (I did skim over some parts so perhaps I missed them). The only thing I can think of is always putting my diaper bag/wallet/purse in the back seat. </p> <p>It definitely makes me most worried about when others are transporting LO, but I guess part of the point of this article is that it could happen to anyone, including mom. </p> <p>:-( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-this-is-the-saddestmost-important-thing-ive-read-in-a-long-time#post-1389389 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 01:34:00 +0000 SugarplumsMom 1389389@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I remember this article. It's one of those things you can never unsee/read, but I think it's one that we all need to read, just so we'll remember. </p> <p>I've actually thought about having my mom read this, for when we visit her and she has LO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-this-is-the-saddestmost-important-thing-ive-read-in-a-long-time#post-1389374 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 00:48:07 +0000 JennyD 1389374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@scg00387: Yes. The worst case one. That will haunt me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wow-this-is-the-saddestmost-important-thing-ive-read-in-a-long-time#post-1389371 Fri, 31 Jan 2014 00:39:46 +0000 immabeetoo 1389371@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Sketchbook: I didn't realize the link went to page 5 until I'd read the whole page 5 -</p> <p><a href="http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/02/27/AR2009022701549.html?sid=ST2009030602446" rel="nofollow">http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/02/27/AR2009022701549.html?sid=ST2009030602446</a></p> <p>here is the start if anyone else is sleepy like me.</p> <p>I really wish I could un-read the "worst case" that that woman had ever heard of (or the detail at least". This is one of my constant phobias too. Oof. Thanks for sharing. </p>