https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 03 May 2026 08:00:15 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-announcing-before-a-wedding#post-766391 Tue, 07 May 2013 18:19:52 +0000 googly-eyes 766391@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: I agree with this! You know her best. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-announcing-before-a-wedding#post-766386 Tue, 07 May 2013 18:16:08 +0000 runsyellowlites 766386@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Considering I wasn't able to "hide" this pregnancy past 9 weeks I think telling sooner rather than later &amp; having your news "farther" from her day is less likely to steal her thunder than wait &amp; possibly have to spill the beans the week OR day of! </p> <p>I do think it's sweet of your DH considering this though! kudos for him &amp; Congrats!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-announcing-before-a-wedding#post-766382 Tue, 07 May 2013 18:11:35 +0000 amreis 766382@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Happygal: @Cherrybee: I hadn't thought of people figuring it out at the wedding. That's such a good point. It'll look strange if I'm not drinking, especially because we already had booked a hotel room a few months ago, so there's really no other plausible excuse. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-announcing-before-a-wedding#post-765809 Tue, 07 May 2013 13:40:44 +0000 heffalump 765809@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it just depends on your SIL's personality. Most people I know wouldn't care and would just be super excited, but there are a few who do believe in thunder stealing and would be mad if I happened to announce my pregnancy during the birthday month or something crazy like that. Obviously announcing AT the wedding would be a little much, but I think this far in advance is fine. People are always paying attention to the girl in a big white dress at weddings so she'd have nothing to worry about. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-announcing-before-a-wedding#post-765380 Tue, 07 May 2013 11:34:59 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 765380@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Tell them but I would not tell anyone else (wedding guests) because you don't want them coming to the wedding and being like "where's the new mom!?" Instead of the bride. But, as far as parents go, I'd say just tell them now. </p> <p>Honestly though, I say that because my sis is awesome. But, if you have a competitive sister then if hold off. I know some chicks be crazzzyy </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-announcing-before-a-wedding#post-765350 Tue, 07 May 2013 11:25:31 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 765350@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Share the news when you feel like sharing it at 7 weeks. Good news multiplied is a good thing in my opinion. Holding off wedfings, engagements, pregnancies -announcements and events seems so silly to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-announcing-before-a-wedding#post-765236 Tue, 07 May 2013 10:45:43 +0000 Cherrybee 765236@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First of all - many congratulations!! </p> <p>It's lovely that your DH is thinking about stuff like this! I personally would either tell parents and siblings right now or wait until a couple of weeks after the wedding. It's still a month away so it's hardly thunder stealing now! </p> <p>My BFF was 6-7 weeks pregnant at my wedding and, of course, when everyone noticed her not drinking and looking tired they put two and two together, asked her if she was pregnant and, basically, were ALL OVER her at my wedding! And you know what? It didn't bother me!! I was just having too much fun to care that the limelight wasn't all on me! Bearing in mind that this is coming from the person who threw a tantrum (in private!) when I was told that she was going to start trying (mind, that was 10 months before my wedding, in which she had already agreed to be my MOH! I mean - what??!!). I guess what I'm trying to say is - perhaps it's better that you share now rather than risk everyone guessing at the wedding! Now that's thunder stealing at it's best!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-announcing-before-a-wedding#post-765200 Tue, 07 May 2013 10:33:44 +0000 amreis 765200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks for all the input! I'm glad I'm not the only one who's been in this situation before. </p> <p>I think it would be much different if we rarely saw our family, but since we live about 5 minutes away and see parents/siblings quite frequently, it's hard. My other sister lives with us, and we'll definitely be telling her this weekend. It's too hard not to be able to talk about it in my own home! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-announcing-before-a-wedding#post-765188 Tue, 07 May 2013 10:29:04 +0000 kjpugs 765188@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This VERY similar situation happened to me. I found out I was pregnant 2 months before my sister's wedding. I told sisters/mom 2 weeks later. 12 weeks was the week of her wedding, and my birthday, so I still wanted to go public then. My sister didn't care (I asked her if she was ok with it beforehand, but she's a good/decent person so I wasn't expecting her to say no! She was so excited she was like ANNOUNCE IT AT THE WEDDING IF YOU WANT I AM SO EXCITED!) My mom though asked that I tell extended family (aunts, uncles cousins) a bit earlier. We were planning on telling them a few days before we went "public" but told them at 10 weeks just to space it out a little. It was just a respect thing so the entire wedding didn't JUST find out about that. I think you should tell your family (close family) and see what they think! It really depends on how touchy they are. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-announcing-before-a-wedding#post-765177 Tue, 07 May 2013 10:24:12 +0000 anbanan15 765177@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband had the same concerns as yours about our wedding. I was (unexpectedly) ~13 weeks at our wedding and DH request we not tell anyone until after we came back from our honeymoon because he didn't the news of a baby taking away from our wedding itself...I totally understood where he was coming from so we only told my mom (she figured it out) and during the week of our wedding she told my dad (he kept asking me to lift heavy things and she was super mad at him since I was pregnant). We waited to tell everyone else until ~16 weeks after we returned home. </p> <p>Personally I would wait....people get so excited about babies and families like to plan early, especially if this is the first grandchild on either side. DS was our first and I was not showing at all at our wedding so no one was the wiser. DH and I really don't drink and the caterer switched out my champagne for cider so no one really second guessed my lack of alcohol consumption. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-announcing-before-a-wedding#post-765137 Tue, 07 May 2013 10:08:04 +0000 Thenetexan 765137@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was 12 weeks when my sister got married. My parents knew and my sister and two close friends (I was worried they might notice something off at the bachelorette weekend and call me out in front of everyone). I drink enough that no one would buy me not drinking for any other reason than pregnancy. I fake drank at several pre wedding parties and the wedding. By fake drinking, I held a glass or beer. It turns out most people are not<br /> observant enough to watch you put a drink to your mouth and swallow. A week later, another friend got engaged, so I<br /> fake drank at her celebration dinner. I also reminded my parents that their focus needed to be on my sister and her wedding. There was plenty of time for baby talk later. I would wait, but every family is different, so you need to do what makes sense for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-announcing-before-a-wedding#post-765100 Tue, 07 May 2013 09:44:17 +0000 Happygal 765100@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That is sweet of your husband.</p> <p>I would share. I think there's more possibility of "stealing her thunder" if you were trying to hide it and people were starting to get suspicious b/c you were tired or not drinking booze, etc.</p> <p>Enjoy sharing your good news! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-announcing-before-a-wedding#post-765082 Tue, 07 May 2013 09:34:10 +0000 looch 765082@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>To me, stealing someone's thunder is rolling out a gender reveal cake at someone else's wedding!</p> <p>I'd just go ahead and tell your family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-announcing-before-a-wedding#post-765079 Tue, 07 May 2013 09:33:41 +0000 Bao 765079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A month in advance is quite far to steal thunder! I say go ahead and tell them :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-announcing-before-a-wedding#post-765071 Tue, 07 May 2013 09:30:29 +0000 Mrsbells 765071@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I never get the whole thunder stealing thing... I think you only steal someones thunder if you have an event on the same day as them </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-announcing-before-a-wedding#post-765049 Tue, 07 May 2013 09:22:37 +0000 Foodnerd81 765049@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Tough one! I would either tell this weekend, or wait until a little while after the wedding. Can you tell immediate family now but wait to tell all the aunts and uncles, etc, until a week or two after the wedding?</p> <p>I don't know about you, but if i went to a family wedding and wasn't drinking, my family would talk about it and I think that would take more attention off the bride than telling a month in advance. If you do it now, people have a month to be all excited about it and then get back into wedding excitement mode. </p> <p>While I don't really believe in "stealing thunder" there are also better and worse times to make big announcements. Any closer to the wedding and I would feel like you were getting into that territory. It also depends on the person-- some people will be so excited, and don't want gobs of attention on themselves, and wouldn't care, but other people would get really bent out of shape. FWIW my sister was planning to wait until after my bridal shower to tell our relatives that she was pregnant, and I was like, if you want to wait for you, go ahead, but don't hold off for me-- I was so thrilled about a nephew that I wanted to talk about that more than my wedding plans over and over.</p> <p>ETA: I did wait to announce my pregnancy until after my little sister got engaged-- her fiance planned a big surprise dinner so I knew the date and it was right around the time I would have felt comfortable telling family, so I waited a few extra weeks. But it was easy to hide since I live 4 hours from everyone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-announcing-before-a-wedding#post-765042 Tue, 07 May 2013 09:18:14 +0000 Modern Daisy 765042@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I personally don't think you'd be stealing her thunder announcing this early but I see your DH's point. I intentionally waited to announce to my friends because I was a BM in my friends wedding at around 8 weeks and I didnt' want to steal her thunder. I didn't want people fawning over me all day on her wedding day talking about baby stuff, I wanted the focus on her. If I wasn't in the wedding I would have felt more comfortable telling her, but we decided to wait until the 1st tri was over regardless. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-announcing-before-a-wedding#post-765039 Tue, 07 May 2013 09:17:56 +0000 pui 765039@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know there is no such thing really as stealing thunder, and there is enough love to go around, ectectect</p> <p>I would still wait until after the wedding to announce. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-announcing-before-a-wedding#post-765033 Tue, 07 May 2013 09:15:22 +0000 amreis 765033@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I are planning on telling our parents and siblings the news this weekend (at only 7 weeks), but he brought up a concern this morning. My step sister is getting married June 14th, and he doesn't want to steal her thunder. I can definitely see where he's coming from, and I think it's sweet that he's thinking about that. My thought is that it's over a month in advance, so it wouldn't really be stealing her thunder since we're not telling everyone. I kind of thought she would want to know, in case I can't participate in pre-wedding festivities. Also, if we waited until 12/13 weeks, it would be the weekend of the wedding, which would definitely steal her thunder.</p> <p>I think DH has a valid point, but I'm just not sure how to handle the situation. </p>