https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 08 Apr 2026 20:25:59 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-friends-wedding-and-dhs-birthday#post-2771300 Fri, 01 Sep 2017 20:20:20 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2771300@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: HBD :grin: I'm two days ahead of you on 9/5. Fun fact, I share the same date as the doctor who delivered me. @nana87: thanks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-friends-wedding-and-dhs-birthday#post-2771286 Fri, 01 Sep 2017 19:23:20 +0000 SweetiePie 2771286@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@nana87: aw that'll be nice to have a friend dinner on that Friday! Glad it's working out! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-friends-wedding-and-dhs-birthday#post-2771283 Fri, 01 Sep 2017 19:03:09 +0000 nana87 2771283@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: @SweetiePie: happy birthday ladies!!</p> <p>@SweetiePie: ooh I hadn't thought of that! Maybe they are planning something? That would def be unexpected and sweet! That's so thoughtful that you did that for your uncle, he must have been touched. Your bday plans sound like our typical go to-- we were just going to go out to dinner alone before the wedding was planned (actually it was going to be a joint bday/anniversary celebration since we didn't go out last month since lo2 hadn't really taken a bottle yet). Haha we're bad about celebrating! </p> <p>Update: Dh finally got word from the groom that there is an informal breakfast on the Sunday, but that the Friday dinner is just family, so I'm going to ask the other friends coming in about dinner on his actual bday </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-friends-wedding-and-dhs-birthday#post-2771264 Fri, 01 Sep 2017 17:10:22 +0000 SweetiePie 2771264@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: what's your bday? Mine is 9/7. I was born on Labor Day 1981! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-friends-wedding-and-dhs-birthday#post-2771262 Fri, 01 Sep 2017 17:09:30 +0000 SweetiePie 2771262@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If it's his best friend is it possible they are already planning something small at the wedding? I had an uncles bday at my wedding and we did a small extra cake for him and sang. As a surprise, he didn't know. Maybe that's why his friend was being shifty when he asked?</p> <p>I'd also ask the bride if they have plans on Sunday if you feel strongly about planning something, but really think that if you do something with him on Friday just you two, maybe he meets up with his friends after...then the wedding Saturday is more time wth friends regardless of the reason - that sounds like plenty to me. Way more than anything that happened for my 35th! Lol. My husband was away for my 35th so I bought myself a cake. 😆<br /> My bday is next week (36) and we're just going to dinner the two of us.<br /> Now 40....that's going to be a month long celebration with trips and parties and showering myself with gifts :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-friends-wedding-and-dhs-birthday#post-2771256 Fri, 01 Sep 2017 16:55:22 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2771256@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LAZB: thank you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-friends-wedding-and-dhs-birthday#post-2771224 Fri, 01 Sep 2017 14:25:58 +0000 LAZB 2771224@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: happy early birthday! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-friends-wedding-and-dhs-birthday#post-2771221 Fri, 01 Sep 2017 14:21:45 +0000 catomd00 2771221@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not big on birthdays, so it wouldn't be worth it to me to potentially step on their toes over it. I don't really see 35 being a big one, though either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-friends-wedding-and-dhs-birthday#post-2771203 Fri, 01 Sep 2017 13:10:37 +0000 nana87 2771203@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: lol it does end in 5! also, this bride planned a big surprise party for the groom for his 35th last year, so I know that THEY think it's a big one! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-friends-wedding-and-dhs-birthday#post-2771202 Fri, 01 Sep 2017 13:09:29 +0000 nana87 2771202@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: @erinbaderin: dh actually asked the groom but he didn't know or didn't want to say, or at least dh didn't think it was a very clear answer, lol. I should just ask the bride myself though! I like your wording Adira! :)</p> <p>@LAZB: I wouldn't think it was a big deal for me, but I have a feeling dh wouldn't say anything until after the fact but then might feel a bit bummed. A lot of our close friends have moved from where we live and he doesn't see some of these guys very often, and I know it bums him out that we don't socialize as much as we used to. </p> <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: that is sweet that they checked! this couple actually did with us too--they actually didn't chose a date in november because we're going to be out of town, so the fact that they were willing to do that def means we don't care that it's the same weekend as his bday! I'm not sure what the other plans will be for the wedding weekend, like if the groom will be gathering all the guys while he gets ready like in more traditional, formal weddings. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-friends-wedding-and-dhs-birthday#post-2771194 Fri, 01 Sep 2017 12:57:37 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2771194@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LAZB: hey now it ends in 5! big deal to me, mine is in a few days. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-friends-wedding-and-dhs-birthday#post-2771193 Fri, 01 Sep 2017 12:55:22 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2771193@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The Vegas wedding we are going to is actually on DH's bday. The B&amp;G called before solidifying their date to make sure he was ok with it. Sweet, but unnecessary. Anyway, we are not planning to capitalize on the fact DH will be around some common friends and eek out a little bday celebration. He's going to be spending so much time with them already- Tux fitting, Bach party, and Rehearsal dinner plus the actual wedding. In your case I don't see the harm in inviting the OOTers over for brunch if their travel plans permit and having a bday cake out as part of dessert. Three days of cake is a fun way to celebrate your birthday! :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-friends-wedding-and-dhs-birthday#post-2771191 Fri, 01 Sep 2017 12:50:19 +0000 LAZB 2771191@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would just check to make sure they weren't already planning a brunch or whatever for Sunday. 35 really isn't a big birthday, but I totally get wanting to get together if nothing else is already happening.<br /> Fwiw, I was the MoH at a wedding and the rehearsal dinner was on my 30th bday. No big deal, I pretended the party was for me lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-friends-wedding-and-dhs-birthday#post-2771190 Fri, 01 Sep 2017 12:49:32 +0000 erinbaderin 2771190@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with @Adira - I think it's totally fine, but I'd double check with the bride and groom to make sure they don't have anything planned. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-friends-wedding-and-dhs-birthday#post-2771189 Fri, 01 Sep 2017 12:47:21 +0000 Adira 2771189@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Can you reach out to the bride or groom and just double-check their Sunday plans? Maybe a "Hey, while everyone is in town, we were thinking of having brunch on Sunday to celebrate DH's birthday, but only if you guys aren't already planning something wedding-related!" Weddings shouldn't monopolize an entire weekend, so I think it's totally fine to have a brunch on Sunday! Just invite the bride and groom too. :D </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-friends-wedding-and-dhs-birthday#post-2771187 Fri, 01 Sep 2017 12:40:15 +0000 nana87 2771187@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So I have a bit of an awkward question. Dh's best friend is getting married in a couple weeks, and the wedding just happens to be the day after dh's 35th birthday--kind of a big one! The wedding is going to be really small, like less than 50 people, and they just got engaged (like, 7 weeks between engagement and wedding). Since it's small, they aren't having a bridal party, but dh was asked to plan the bachelor party so he's sort of the best man but not officially. Of the very few people invited to the wedding are 3 of dh's (and the groom's) other best friends who will be coming from out of town (+2 of their wives). Apparently on dh's actual birthday (friday before the saturday wedding), there's a small thing for the out-of-towners, so all of those friends but not us.</p> <p>Would it be awkward or stepping on the bride and groom's toes if I plan a small brunch for dh's birthday the day after the wedding and invite those 5 out of towners? it doesn't seem like there's a wedding-related brunch or anything after (though if there was we'd cancel our plans). </p> <p>on one hand, we're adults and birthdays are kind of whatever at this point imo, and yay dh gets to see his close friends anyway on his bday who he wouldn't normally get to see (some of these friends actually came in from out of town for dh's 30th, when I planned a legit surprise party).</p> <p>on the other, it seems sort of like a shame to have these friends in town on his birthday and not do something...</p> <p>And then on the third hand, we could just go with the flow and assume we'll get together more informally during the wedding weekend, but it's complicated by us being the only ones with kids (including a 6 month old who is ebf and a toddler with both a ballet class and birthday party on that saturday...) and that we live about 45min-1hr away from the wedding venue/hotel area where I assume the guests will be staying...</p> <p>Trying to be both a good friend and a good wife at the same time! Wwyd? </p>