https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 12 Apr 2026 12:00:01 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-mom-has-annoying-conversation-habit#post-2729083 Tue, 25 Apr 2017 19:41:50 +0000 ShootingStar 2729083@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I sometimes finish sentences when people have really long pauses in what they're saying. DH does that and so does a co-worker there. Apparently I really don't like awkward silence, so when they're struggling for the words I sometimes fill in what I think they're going to say. </p> <p>But post partum anything and everything can make you nuts. It might be worth holding off and waiting until you're in a better state of mind to bring up something to someone sensitive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-mom-has-annoying-conversation-habit#post-2729017 Tue, 25 Apr 2017 17:02:25 +0000 GoGoSnoGirl 2729017@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH does this &amp; every once in a while I do, too. I hate it &amp; try my best to be a patient listener and I have tried in a few ways to let DH know he's doing it--he's working on it. I think especially because you are hormonal &amp; dealing with a newborn, I'd just say it as straightforwardly as you can. It is her bad habit, not yours. She may have hurt feelings for a bit, but it is disrespectful (even if well-intentioned), and I think she'll want to try &amp; modify her behavior for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-mom-has-annoying-conversation-habit#post-2729004 Tue, 25 Apr 2017 16:54:35 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2729004@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DesertDreams88: I think that's different than doing it all the time no matter how they are speaking! At least you mean well, haha.</p> <p>Could you maybe just stop speaking and when she realizes several times you've stopped maybe she will correct herself? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-mom-has-annoying-conversation-habit#post-2728986 Tue, 25 Apr 2017 16:18:58 +0000 Shantuck 2728986@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My SIL does this. I'd just let it go. It's annoying but relatively harmless. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-mom-has-annoying-conversation-habit#post-2728983 Tue, 25 Apr 2017 16:14:19 +0000 Miss Ariel 2728983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I definitely do this at times and it's hard to stop. I feel like I tend to do it with people in closer to/more comfortable with. I don't know that anyone has ever said anything to me about it specifically, but my college roommate used to give me a weird look when I did it that I distinctly remember. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-mom-has-annoying-conversation-habit#post-2728929 Tue, 25 Apr 2017 15:00:22 +0000 youboots 2728929@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JennyPenny: just send her the link. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-mom-has-annoying-conversation-habit#post-2728925 Tue, 25 Apr 2017 14:56:20 +0000 DesertDreams88 2728925@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>N o advice, because I do this a lot to other people, haha. I mainly do it when the other person is talking very slowly (a pet peeve of mine) or seemingly not sure where they are "going" with their statement. Is that the case at all with you, especially since you're newly postpartum? Just wondering if maybe that's what's behind it, for your mom. </p> <p>If someone told me directly that it annoyed them, I'd stop. It's just a habit of mine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-mom-has-annoying-conversation-habit#post-2728815 Tue, 25 Apr 2017 12:51:22 +0000 JennyPenny 2728815@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Chuckles: I would imagine it's only a few more weeks, but she lives 15 min away so we see her a lot even if it's not 1:1 time. I remember feeling this way when DS1 was born and it went from major annoyance to minor problem in time.</p> <p>I was surprised how many of you know someone who does this! A quick google revealed that tons of people are bothered by someone in their life doing this. Makes me feel less crazy about finding it so irritating and also like I might do my mom a favor if she does this to other people in her life. I found this wikihow quite funny - <a href="http://m.wikihow.com/Stop-Finishing-Other-People%27s-Sentences" rel="nofollow">http://m.wikihow.com/Stop-Finishing-Other-People%27s-Sentences</a> The article also says this behavior may be associated with insecurity, which so fits my mom! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-mom-has-annoying-conversation-habit#post-2728810 Tue, 25 Apr 2017 12:35:36 +0000 Chuckles 2728810@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh my goodness, an old grad school friend used to do this. We were in school for clinical psychology, so I think she was trying to show that she was a good listener, but it was so annoying! Will you continue to have lots of 1:1 time with your mom once your baby is a little older? If it's a temporary thing, I would wait and see if it's still bothering you so much once the hormones have calmed down and you don't see her as much. (Although FWIW, I don't think I'd be able to do that. I'd try to wait and then just blurt it out when it was driving me crazy) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-mom-has-annoying-conversation-habit#post-2728787 Tue, 25 Apr 2017 12:11:28 +0000 LCTBQE 2728787@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@elljay: yes, exactly on the explanation of being tuned-in but subconscious. The person I supervise at work does this constantly. @JennyPenny: because it's a colleague and I want to be nice (and it doesn't bother me that much) when she starts finishing my sentence I just stop talking and when she is finished sometimes I will say "yes, that." --which has helped bring her attention to it, I think. But if it was just my mom I would definitely point it out over and over (nicely but every time) until she stopped. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-mom-has-annoying-conversation-habit#post-2728765 Tue, 25 Apr 2017 11:40:32 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 2728765@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe try doing it to her and see if she notices! Then explain to her that she does it all the time. Moms 🙄... haha. I'm sure we will all drive our kids crazy somehow at some point! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-mom-has-annoying-conversation-habit#post-2728744 Tue, 25 Apr 2017 10:48:27 +0000 MrsRoo 2728744@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JennyPenny: that sounds like a good approach! You know your mom best, but if it's driving you crazy I would think it's better to mention it while your level headed vs waiting until it got so bad you snap at her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-mom-has-annoying-conversation-habit#post-2728690 Tue, 25 Apr 2017 09:21:34 +0000 JennyPenny 2728690@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinbaderin: my mom is really sensitive, unfortunately so if I do say something I probably need to be very careful...</p> <p>@elljay: @MrsRoo: yeah, I bet she has no idea she's doing it. Maybe it would be best to phrase as a question. "Mom, did you realize you do this?" And probably not point out that it's bugged me for years :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-mom-has-annoying-conversation-habit#post-2728667 Tue, 25 Apr 2017 08:56:41 +0000 MrsRoo 2728667@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Haha, oh no- I do this to my husband. 🙈 It drives him crazy and he has no problem telling me. I never even realized I was doing it until he started mentioning it to me. He started saying it half jokingly and once I started realizing it and trying to correct it he mentions it less or just gives me "the look" and I can stop it. I say talk to her about it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-mom-has-annoying-conversation-habit#post-2728655 Tue, 25 Apr 2017 08:37:19 +0000 elljay 2728655@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a boss that did this! It was the weirdest thing and it always threw me off. I think it was a way of showing that he was tuned in or on the same page with whoever was speaking, but it also seemed to be completely subconscious for him. I wonder if your mom even really realizes she's doing it?</p> <p>I didn't feel like I could say anything because he was my boss, but I'm sure you can bring it up with your mom - maybe acknowledge that it might be unintentional, but that you're particularly sensitive to it at the moment because your nerves are so frayed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-mom-has-annoying-conversation-habit#post-2728653 Tue, 25 Apr 2017 08:27:34 +0000 erinbaderin 2728653@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you know your relationship with your mom best, but there are definitely ways to say something like "Mom, can you please let me finish my sentence instead of trying to guess what I'm going to say?" You could even make it a bit of a joke and use the new baby thing, something like "It's probably the hormones and sleep deprivation but it's making me crazy!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-mom-has-annoying-conversation-habit#post-2728650 Tue, 25 Apr 2017 08:18:53 +0000 JennyPenny 2728650@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel terrible even posting this because it's such a minor problem, but I'm going a tad crazy.. My mom has this really annoying behavior when we talk where she likes to finish my sentences on top of me. Most of the time she says the same words like if I said "I was going to go for a walk today but then it was raining" she might say the words "it was raining" over top of me. Sometime she does it though and she's completely wrong in the words she ends my sentences with (like maybe I was really going to say "but my feet hurt") and it makes me feel like she's not really listening to what I'm saying. Like maybe she's trying to show she's a good listener by demonstrating she can finish my sentences, or maybe its a high-powered career woman way to get to enter a conversation. Either way, she does it constantly, and has for years, and it drives me nuts! </p> <p>But now I feel like I really want to say something. Since DS2 was born a week ago I've had a lot more 1:1 time with her than is typical so its really really bothering me. Or maybe its the hormones. Is there a polite way that I can mention this behavior to my mom without hurting her feelings and ask her to correct it? Or do I just let it go? </p>