https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 12 May 2026 09:14:45 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-no-church-but-want-baptism#post-970077 Sun, 28 Jul 2013 07:46:27 +0000 Cole 970077@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: Interesting, I can't say I know much about Mormons but it seems as though it could require an awfully big commitment for someone who isn't sure about it. I wonder if there is a way to try it out? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-no-church-but-want-baptism#post-969987 Sun, 28 Jul 2013 06:07:10 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 969987@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cole: My closest match is Mormon. Hmm, I'm going to have to pray on that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-no-church-but-want-baptism#post-969979 Sun, 28 Jul 2013 05:42:03 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 969979@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JamieLee: I found this link this morning about spiritual/secular baby blessings.</p> <p><a href="http://www.nbcnews.com/id/21476014/ns/health-childrens_health/t/parents-make-their-own-rituals-welcome-baby/" rel="nofollow">http://www.nbcnews.com/id/21476014/ns/health-childrens_health/t/parents-make-their-own-rituals-welcome-baby/</a> Rise in Popularity</p> <p><a href="http://www.babyblessingnewjersey.com/samples.html" rel="nofollow">http://www.babyblessingnewjersey.com/samples.html</a> How To/ Guide </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-no-church-but-want-baptism#post-969372 Sat, 27 Jul 2013 19:17:50 +0000 Cole 969372@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a religion professor in college who was a devout Catholic and told us that when he and his wife moved to a new area they would always spend months "shopping" for a church. It was an eye opening way to look at churches for me, I always thought that if you are X religion you just go to the matching church that is closest to you and call it good. The fact that he and his wife spent time looking for a priest and community that were a good fit in addition to sharing their religion was a really comforting idea. </p> <p>I find my own thoughts on religion are quite similar to your own, I was brought up "culturally Catholic" but it isn't a good match for my own beliefs. I liked the quiz here: <a href="http://www.beliefnet.com/Entertainment/Quizzes/BeliefOMatic.aspx" rel="nofollow">http://www.beliefnet.com/Entertainment/Quizzes/BeliefOMatic.aspx</a></p> <p>It matches me almost perfectly with Quaker which I found to be a great fit for me. I sadly no longer live in a community with a Quaker community but if we ever move it will be one of the first things we seek out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-no-church-but-want-baptism#post-969175 Sat, 27 Jul 2013 16:33:39 +0000 deactivated_account 969175@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I am so excited for you! I hope its a great fit, but if not, don't give up. You will find something. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-no-church-but-want-baptism#post-969172 Sat, 27 Jul 2013 16:29:57 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 969172@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. bird: Finding a "travelling" clergy is a great idea too. Thanks for the link.</p> <p>@MrsMcD: Yep, all of the responses have been so helpful. I already found one new house of worship to try tomorrow. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-no-church-but-want-baptism#post-968976 Sat, 27 Jul 2013 13:05:01 +0000 kml636 968976@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was in your exact same boat. Don't go to church for various reasons, but want to raise our daughter as a Christian. In the end I took the easy route... My parents church. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-no-church-but-want-baptism#post-968903 Sat, 27 Jul 2013 11:35:13 +0000 deactivated_account 968903@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hey girls! I attend a great bible-teaching church. I don't think such churches are hard to find. I like @lovelyseeker: 's advice. Best of luck to you, @Mrs. Lemon-Lime:. You are doing an exciting thing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-no-church-but-want-baptism#post-968812 Sat, 27 Jul 2013 10:16:48 +0000 Mrs. Washi Tape 968812@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. lemon lime I completely understand what you mean about often finding that churches don't have that much to do with the actual teachings of Christ. This is something I have been struggling with myself. On the other hand, when I do find someone else that actually tries to follow Christ, not just the "American church culture", it is invaluable. So I just keep on trying!</p> <p>Wishing you lots of luck with your dilemma. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-no-church-but-want-baptism#post-968799 Sat, 27 Jul 2013 10:06:48 +0000 mrs. bird 968799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>so from what i'm reading, it sounds like you are searching for a progressive place where there is a belief in christ and the bible is read, but that it isn't used to oppress or alienate, it's used to support and accept. couple thoughts for you, you might want to look in your area for first churches or UCC churches. sometimes the lines blur a bit because of the congregation attending. UCC is a very similar type of congregation to a UU church- diverse and liberal (perform same sex marriage), but there is still a central belief in christ, unlike in a UU church where that is not a requirement (FWIW i've started going to a UU church and there are plenty of ppl there that believe in christ and sometimes the bible is read, but it isn't the center of the teachings in church, so that may or may not be a good fit). here's a website that might be of interest <a href="http://www.ucc.org/" rel="nofollow">http://www.ucc.org/</a><br /> also if you were looking for someone to perform a blessing at home, i think you could find someone to do so. MIL has had services done at her house and they're catholic. if you're willing to pay for it, it can happen! you could even look for ministers that perform wedding ceremonies outside a church, often they are more flexible, and ask them about performing a blessing ceremony in your home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-no-church-but-want-baptism#post-968715 Sat, 27 Jul 2013 09:09:12 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 968715@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sloaneandpuffy: Thank you. I just googled it and that's more of a fit! My past church experiences included Catholic church (my mom's faith) or black Baptist churches and non-denominational churches with more diverse congregations.</p> <p>@Happygal: I had not heard of Red Letter churches, but my dad used a Red Letter Bible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-no-church-but-want-baptism#post-968707 Sat, 27 Jul 2013 09:00:09 +0000 Happygal 968707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. lemon-line: have you heard of red-letter churches? They are places where they focus on the teachings of Jesus. I wish there was one in my area b/c like you, that's what I hold onto. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-no-church-but-want-baptism#post-968699 Sat, 27 Jul 2013 08:51:53 +0000 mamimami 968699@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: have you tried an episcopal church? I have gotten more conservative theologically but I grew up on that church and it sounds like it might be a good fit! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-no-church-but-want-baptism#post-968689 Sat, 27 Jul 2013 08:46:47 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 968689@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lovelyseeker: hmm, I am actually conflicted about that. I find my professed faith to be quite hyprocritical and judgemental. The part that I hold onto are the teachings of Christ, who was inclusive, generous, and forgiving. </p> <p>Every time I have studied the Bible with a group of practicing Christians the hairs on my arm stand up because there is something fundamentally in opposition of what I believe. As much as I want to give my child faith the way I didn't have it growing up, I am concerned about him/her becoming less accepting of all types of people. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-no-church-but-want-baptism#post-968677 Sat, 27 Jul 2013 08:37:15 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 968677@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsRoo: I don't know if my MIL belongs to a church, but she is 4 hours away anyway. Hosting the post baptism event (sip &amp; see) in her toewn would be cost prohibitve. hotel + venue + catering etc.</p> <p>@sloaneandpuffy: I'm not even preggers yet, so yeah I have plenty of time to find a church. :happy: I want to have a baptism/ blessing ceremony* when the baby is 6-8 weeks old though. </p> <p>* If it's at home, I'll call it a blessing ceremony. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-no-church-but-want-baptism#post-968653 Sat, 27 Jul 2013 08:26:38 +0000 Mrs. Washi Tape 968653@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It sounds like your faith is pretty important to you, since you want to pass it on to lo. I think I would take some time to figure out how to make it a part of your parenting beyond just the baptism. As part of that, finding a church might be a great step.<br /> (Figuring out how my faith affects who I am as a mom is something I've been thinking a lot myself lately). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-no-church-but-want-baptism#post-968649 Sat, 27 Jul 2013 08:20:02 +0000 mamimami 968649@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Depending on your beliefs you have lots of time! My son was baptized at one year and my daughter will be dedicated at one year (new pastor ha different views). So if there's no hurry you can still shop for a church :) blessings! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-no-church-but-want-baptism#post-968644 Sat, 27 Jul 2013 08:12:54 +0000 MrsRoo 968644@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm in a similar situation. DH and I don't have a home church that we are members of. We are going to have LO baptized in my in laws church. It's the church DH grew up in, and since in laws are members, we can have our LO baptized there.</p> <p>Is there a family member who belongs to a church you like that might baptize your LO? I like your idea about a home blessing, if someone else has a suggestion about how to make that happen, I'd be interested in hearing that, too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-no-church-but-want-baptism#post-968626 Sat, 27 Jul 2013 07:56:00 +0000 JamieLee 968626@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Following. I'm in the same boat. DH is a lapsed Catholic, and I'm a lapsed Lutheran. Baby will be here in a month (!) so I think I'm running out of time... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-no-church-but-want-baptism#post-968605 Sat, 27 Jul 2013 07:37:28 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 968605@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As a non-practicing, semi-faithful Christian without a Church home, I am concerned my baby will not have a proper Baptism</p> <p>Were you under similar circumstances and what did you do? </p> <p>I have thought about attending churches to try and find a good fit. Maybe become a bit more faithful. </p> <p>What I really just want is a legitimate at-home prayerful ceremony. Most of my friends, like me, believe in Christ, but none of us are ordained. </p>