https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 18 Apr 2026 19:08:29 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-rough-drop-off#post-2347485 Sat, 07 Nov 2015 08:01:49 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2347485@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BlueWolverine: The wording may have sucked but I've always thought a quick drop off is best when it's rough. I read somewhere that you should be positive and upbeat and that helps show that you trust that lo will be fine. I have left lo (3, started preschool the first time about 1.5 months ago) crying (loudly! She only has one volume!) in a group setting when we first started and were having really rough drop offs (and rough days in general.) We were pretty consistent with that but a teacher always at least acknowledged lo. If your lo generally calms down after you've left I would honestly try to quicken the drop off. I know they held my lot but it wasn't necessarily right when I walked out. I haven't been too bothered by it but I have worked in this setting and know firsthand that sometimes kids cry on their own, sometimes they just have to wait because there's no choice. I wish the teacher would have explained more and been more professional though. The know it all condescending teachers drive me nuts though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-rough-drop-off#post-2347477 Sat, 07 Nov 2015 07:05:12 +0000 Mrs. D 2347477@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My daughter had her FIRST rough drop off she's had at this new daycare since she started at it over a month ago. The teachers were otherwise occupied, and were not prepared for her to have a hard time because usually I have to call her back for my kiss!<br /> At our old daycare when we lived in Saskatchewan EVERY drop off for two years was rough. I had to wait for a teacher to come and take her before I could get back out the door. Neither she nor I liked her lead teacher there, but the assistants were all awesome if they were the one on duty at her early drop off. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-rough-drop-off#post-2347405 Fri, 06 Nov 2015 20:49:20 +0000 Andrea 2347405@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think it was fair for her to say that in this scenario. I would never leave my child wailing at school without handing her off to a teacher. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-rough-drop-off#post-2346931 Fri, 06 Nov 2015 12:34:09 +0000 mrsjazz 2346931@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For me it depends on the tone and the way she said it. I'm sure teachers want to day lots of things like that to parents but there's w professional way to do this and it doesn't seem like she took that route. What she said isn't wrong and our preschool recommends fast drop offs on rough mornings but a teacher does take LO to distract her. But I also wouldn't expect her to stop the story she was reading to other kids to help you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-rough-drop-off#post-2346922 Fri, 06 Nov 2015 12:28:10 +0000 Applesandbananas 2346922@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would've been upset too. I don't like leaving LO crying and even though I know faster is better, I don't drop and run and would feel badly if the teacher called me out on it. </p> <p>I always hang out until a teacher can take LO to comfort him if he's having a hard time. I don't think it's fair to ask them to drop everything, so I wait. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-rough-drop-off#post-2346917 Fri, 06 Nov 2015 12:21:46 +0000 catomd00 2346917@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think she has a point and depending on tone, wouldn't have an issue with what she said. I do think she should have stopped the story and assisted with the transition, though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-rough-drop-off#post-2346827 Fri, 06 Nov 2015 11:39:02 +0000 misolee 2346827@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Although she shouldn't have verbalized it, I agree that a fast drop off is better, even if she is crying and screaming. </p> <p>I've taught preschool for 4 yrs and there are many moms who I've wanted to say it to but held my tongue. She shouldn't have called you out like that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-rough-drop-off#post-2346776 Fri, 06 Nov 2015 11:19:41 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 2346776@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't agree with how the teacher responded to you, but at that age, fast is better, and sometimes we do have to leave her crying by herself (not that I like it AT ALL). They do need to learn that crying will not make you stay. </p> <p>During rough mornings, I would usually talk to my LO and tell them that I have to leave, but I will see them after their nap. And then I ask my LO to close the door for me and, by having a task to do, it usually stops the crying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-rough-drop-off#post-2346767 Fri, 06 Nov 2015 11:15:17 +0000 Truth Bombs 2346767@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree that fast is best, BUT, when LO is having a tough time our teachers ALWAYS hold her. I'm not going to dash out of there while she's crying in the middle of the room with no one comforting her. If our teacher was reading a story she would have pulled LO on to her lap to give her some comfort while I dashed out the door. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-rough-drop-off#post-2346749 Fri, 06 Nov 2015 11:04:49 +0000 BlueWolverine 2346749@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Agreed - fast is usually best with rough mornings. But always after someone else has taken over. I've never just put her down and left while she screams by herself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-rough-drop-off#post-2346747 Fri, 06 Nov 2015 11:03:56 +0000 catlady 2346747@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've dealt with this a few times recently and had a talk about it with our head teacher (in our case, we prefer the head teacher to the assistant, who is generally the one to ignore us during rough drop offs). My LO has been fine at drop off since the beginning (over 20 months now!) but recently picked up clingy behavior from some newer kids. The teachers now know to grab my LO from me so I can leave quickly on the rough days. It's true that it's easier for everyone if you can exit quickly...but someone needs to help you out if a LO won't let you go. So I don't think it's fair to put it all on you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-rough-drop-off#post-2346743 Fri, 06 Nov 2015 11:00:49 +0000 BandDmommy 2346743@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When it's a rough drop off, I try to exit as fast as possible. I know delaying just makes it rougher. I'm sure the teacher did not mean to offend you, her choice of words may have been poor. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-rough-drop-off#post-2346740 Fri, 06 Nov 2015 11:00:02 +0000 Mamaof2 2346740@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We deal with rough drop offs all the time unfortunately.</p> <p>I would never leave them until a teacher has taken over - otherwise they would run out of the classroom after me.<br /> In your case I would have looked for another teacher to help or waited until the only teacher available was free and then passed her off.</p> <p>I think the comment , although probably true, was unnecessary </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-rough-drop-off#post-2346738 Fri, 06 Nov 2015 10:58:45 +0000 .twist. 2346738@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hm. I know our teachers and director suggest a fast drop off when it's a rough one. They all say the quicker the better and that means even if they're freaking out. We've had to do it a handful of times with L and by the time we're out of the building he's usually stopped crying. It's hard though, no doubt about that. </p> <p>Personally, I would be bummed that L had a bad start to the day but that's as far as my thoughts would go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-rough-drop-off#post-2346731 Fri, 06 Nov 2015 10:53:49 +0000 BlueWolverine 2346731@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I already am not a huge fan of LO's lead teacher (but LOVE the assistant). Assistant has been on vacation all week. Today at drop off, LO was clingy and started wailing. Usually, either lead, assistant or fill-in teacher will take her from me on rough mornings so that when I leave, she's being held by someone. She's 2.5. Today, lead was alone in the room and reading a story. I tried to leave LO at the story circle, but she freaked out, so I tried other things to get her comfy because I could see that lead was busy. Finally, lead teacher finished the story and came to get LO (as she's crying). I look at lead teacher and, in an attempt to commiserate, say "I don't know why she's doing this." LO had been fine at drop off for weeks. </p> <p>Lead teacher looks at me and says, "It's because you keep coming back." Excuse me? Did you want me to leave my child screaming in a corner by herself? I've already emailed the director, but I'm curious what happens to your kids of similar age if drop off is rough. Do I have unrealistic expectations of what should happen at rough drop off? </p>