https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 29 Apr 2026 11:32:56 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-spacing#post-2804535 Thu, 15 Feb 2018 20:21:11 +0000 LCTBQE 2804535@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@karenbme: agree, I have always thought that sibling chemistry is so much more about the unique personalities of your little ones than about your calculations re age gaps. Also, don't most kids go through periods of loving/hating each other and then have wildly different relationships as adults than they did growing up?</p> <p>I would think where trying to plan would be more predictable would be for logistics like schools and paying for college. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-spacing#post-2804522 Thu, 15 Feb 2018 19:00:53 +0000 Becky 2804522@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@2littlepumpkins: I would never do the 2.5 year spacing again. It was so hard. We’re aiming for June-September but best laid plans, right? I think if we didn’t get pregnant for that time frame we’d wait. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-spacing#post-2804519 Thu, 15 Feb 2018 18:16:23 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2804519@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine are 3 years apart and a little over 2 years apart and it's been a lot for the 2 yo but he's doing ok. I think it depends on if you have help or not too. All I will say is don't have #3 in the fall/winter if you can avoid it. It has been so stressful all the germs here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-spacing#post-2804483 Thu, 15 Feb 2018 14:29:35 +0000 agold 2804483@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My first two girls will be 20.5 months apart. If we have a third, we will most likely start trying when LO#2 is 1.5 years old. While I'd like a little more of an age gap, I'd love to be done having kids when I'm 36 years old, and at least no later than 37. So spacing has more to do with my own age. Otherwise, I would wait until LO#2 is at least 2 yo before trying. My sister and I are 6 years apart and I have scarce memories of doing anything with her during my childhood, although we are really close now. So I don't think negatively on big age gaps, either, and they really have many more pros than cons, IMO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-spacing#post-2804459 Thu, 15 Feb 2018 13:43:25 +0000 MommySLP 2804459@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Becky: My first 2 were 5.5 and 3.5 when #3 was born. Baby is now 5 months and the whole transition has gone so well. I was shocked how easy it has been &amp; the older 2 love her and are very helpful. I’ve been really happy with the spacing. I also work full time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-spacing#post-2804439 Thu, 15 Feb 2018 12:46:58 +0000 Becky 2804439@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It sounds like we can’t go wrong! DD1 andDD2 are juuust starting to play together and that’s another reason I kind of want them closer—I thought my girls would play together much sooner but they were in such different places. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-spacing#post-2804434 Thu, 15 Feb 2018 12:39:06 +0000 birdofafeather 2804434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Totally depends on personality I think. But our first two are just under 3 years apart, which I love and was actually planning on 3 years apart but got KU a few months earlier. 😬 For #3, I wanted to try to get them a little closer together so 2 and 3 are only 2 school years apart rather than 3, just for logistics. I’m expecting #3 when DD2 is 2.5 and DD1 is 5y3m. I’m excited by their age spread and hope DD3 folds right into the mix with the older two girls! They are best buddies. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-spacing#post-2804389 Thu, 15 Feb 2018 09:50:46 +0000 skinnycow 2804389@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really think it depends on the personalities of your kids! My husband and his brother are 6 years apart and they have always been very close. My sister and I are two years apart and we're close now but growing up we didn't get along. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-spacing#post-2804383 Thu, 15 Feb 2018 09:41:22 +0000 Mrs. Toad 2804383@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: Thanks, we're looking for a May birthday this time. Sorry to hijack. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-spacing#post-2804380 Thu, 15 Feb 2018 09:32:38 +0000 snowjewelz 2804380@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Haha, my sister is 7 years younger than me and when she was really young and I was entering into my tweenage years, I was definitely really annoyed by her! It did take a while for us to be on the "same page" and get really close; and it's also rougher b/c we're always in really different stages of life. But it's all we know and I wouldn't have it any other way.</p> <p>If we have a 3rd, I would like to be pregnant by the time DD2 turns 2 this December, so I would have given birth before I turn 35. DH would be 42 already then. And DD1 would be turning 5. </p> <p>@Mrs. Toad: So exciting! Ugh we're still on the fence about #3! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-spacing#post-2804376 Thu, 15 Feb 2018 09:02:07 +0000 bhbee 2804376@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine are going to be 6.5 (about to enter 1st grade) and 3.5 when this baby comes in August. I initially wanted closer but now I’m thinking it will work out well. My oldest will be such a little mommy and middle is getting more grown up, will be out of diapers, etc. I am happy we made the school cutoff so unless we hold back, they’ll be 3 school years between each of them. Although I know in the big picture a year is nothing I didn’t want more space there, I was 3 from my brother and liked that we spent one year of hs and college together. I think the different schedule thing is already an issue we just have to face when it comes. </p> <p>I agree you can’t control how much your kids like each other so do what makes sense to you and your husband. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-spacing#post-2804373 Thu, 15 Feb 2018 08:42:40 +0000 karenbme 2804373@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Becky: My little bro is 6y 1m younger than me, and I LOVED him growing up, FWIW. By the time I got to HS all my friends thought he was just my weird little brother, but I only occasionally felt embarrassed by him, and regularly made time to hang out with him. Meanwhile I was CONSTANTLY emabarassed by my older sister who was 2 years older, and in school with me all the time, but in a much different clique (she was a theater kid, I was a jock/over achiever). How they get along depends more on the kids than the spacing. Also I think it helps that when my brother was really young I was into baby dolls and he was basically like the coolest baby doll ever. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-spacing#post-2804370 Thu, 15 Feb 2018 08:36:39 +0000 Mrs. Toad 2804370@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are talking about number three and are going to try for another 27-28 month gap. DS is 3.5, DD just turned 1, and we are talking about trying in 6 months when DD turns 18 months. I want kids closer together and we are already 35 and 40. If everything happens as I hope, DS will be 4.5 and DD will be 28 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-spacing#post-2804369 Thu, 15 Feb 2018 08:19:50 +0000 Becky 2804369@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We’re 97% sure we’re going for baby #3, and are considering the timing. I’m leaning towards next spring-summer when DD1 would be 5.5-6 and finishing up kindergarten, and DD2 would be 3-3.5. DH is leaning toward the following year, which I had initially wanted also. My reasoning for doing it sooner is I don’t want to drag it out and complicate things by having kids who are far apart in school and thus doing very different activities and potentially having very different schedules. I was also 6.5 years apart from my sister and annoyed her so much, that I would prefer to have them closer (maybe head fight, but at least the title one wouldn’t constantly embarrass the big one). I also work full time if that makes a difference. Opinions? </p>