https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 27 Apr 2026 17:57:55 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-to-change-nannies-or-not-to-change#post-2724484 Fri, 14 Apr 2017 17:21:55 +0000 californiadreams 2724484@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Modern Daisy: I don't think I would rule out all candidates with small children. Which is why the issue of kids getting sick doesn't seem like such s big deal to me in terms of having a nanny who brings her kid. I figure employees who have kids at home will have to stay home whether or not the kid comes to work with them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-to-change-nannies-or-not-to-change#post-2724481 Fri, 14 Apr 2017 16:46:06 +0000 californiadreams 2724481@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@thepicklemonster: yes she brought her kid during the trials and it was fine. I liked how my 4 year old was helping and interacting with her. Plus it will be even better i think for my 1 year old to have a younger playmate when his brother is in school. If I had a 6 month old, I'd probably feel different about it too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-to-change-nannies-or-not-to-change#post-2724270 Fri, 14 Apr 2017 09:12:42 +0000 Modern Daisy 2724270@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would hesitate to hire a nanny with small children (even if she can bring them to work) only because those people are way less reliable. I've gone through a lot of nannies and sitters and the only ones who have ever flaked out did so because of an issue with their child (who I agreed could come to work with them). That said it seems like you already have reliability issues with your current nanny so maybe this won't be as bad? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-to-change-nannies-or-not-to-change#post-2724224 Fri, 14 Apr 2017 07:56:35 +0000 arosebyany 2724224@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel that if that person is taking care of the most precious person in your life, then you should love them. Just my 2cents :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-to-change-nannies-or-not-to-change#post-2724183 Fri, 14 Apr 2017 00:01:46 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2724183@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@californiadreams: that sounds great. Yup, I definitely vote switch! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-to-change-nannies-or-not-to-change#post-2724178 Thu, 13 Apr 2017 23:23:53 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 2724178@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It sounds to me that your intuition/gut is telling you to go with the new one. Always follow that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-to-change-nannies-or-not-to-change#post-2724171 Thu, 13 Apr 2017 22:44:27 +0000 LindsayLou 2724171@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As a nanny myself, I say switch! Nanny situations work best when everyone is happy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-to-change-nannies-or-not-to-change#post-2724155 Thu, 13 Apr 2017 22:00:50 +0000 thepicklemonster 2724155@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you should LOVE your nanny, so I say switch. But I'm curious about her bringing her kid. Did she do that during the trial runs, and did you like how it went? I ask because I had a part time nanny for my 6 month old and she asked if she could bring her 2.5 year old. It sounded great in theory but I really didn't like it when she actually brought the kid. It really felt like her attention was diverted from my baby way more than I had expected, and I didn't like having the other kid wandering my house. Your kids are obviously a lot older so maybe this isn't relevant at all but it jumped out at me. I'd just be sure to do a trial run with the extra kid if you haven't already. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-to-change-nannies-or-not-to-change#post-2724143 Thu, 13 Apr 2017 21:23:41 +0000 LemonJack 2724143@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would switch. You should love your nanny. We absolutely love our DD's sitter, and it allieviates so much stress in our lives. I truly think you need to click, and it sounds like that hasn't happened with nanny #1. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-to-change-nannies-or-not-to-change#post-2724142 Thu, 13 Apr 2017 21:14:15 +0000 californiadreams 2724142@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@skipra: i actually just sent a message to the new nanny tonight to ask her if short term still worth it for her. since by the time she starts it will have been over a month since she applied. another bonus for her is that she lives close by, so she could also transition to an on call babysitter once we do daycare. If things are going well, i am sure i can convince DH to keep a nanny a bit longer too since it is so much easier than daycare drop offs etc. and would be better for both our kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-to-change-nannies-or-not-to-change#post-2724136 Thu, 13 Apr 2017 21:01:20 +0000 skipra 2724136@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would switch if you are nearly certain you will keep the nanny for more than 4.5 months. Seems like otherwise it would be a lot of major change for your kids in a short period of time. Plus it would kind of suck for the new nanny to have such short period of employment (would she be searching for something longer term and potentially leave you early?)<br /> If you have any concerns about your kids safety then no question, make the switch! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-to-change-nannies-or-not-to-change#post-2724133 Thu, 13 Apr 2017 20:58:52 +0000 californiadreams 2724133@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i would love to hear from the people who are voting not to switch! i tried to be unbiased in my post here to get unbiased opinions, but i am sure it is impossible for me to be completely unbiased. But i want to hear opinions from both sides </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-to-change-nannies-or-not-to-change#post-2724131 Thu, 13 Apr 2017 20:57:13 +0000 californiadreams 2724131@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@2littlepumpkins: that is a risk for sure. And we decided when interviewing new candidates that we would put doing a paid trial day a condition. So the new one has come for 2 half days. Once on the weekend so it was more like casual babysitting than a typical work day, but it was to see her interact with the kids and i was ready to say "you're hired" that day. Then she did a half day starting in the morning when i would typically leave to work and again it went smoothly. My 4 year old even said he wanted her to wait for the school bus with him that morning (usually he always wants me). And she got my baby to nap with no tears, which was a huge deal. So i am fairly confident she would be awesome, but again it is never guaranteed. which was part of our hesitation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-to-change-nannies-or-not-to-change#post-2724114 Thu, 13 Apr 2017 20:32:24 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2724114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At first I want to say switch, but the only thing I would be nervous about is switching and then finding out hat the new nanny isn't a good fit for the kids or is just a good interviewee... is that a word? I say go with your gut and switch anyway though. Nanny #1 seems to be a bad fit for you and worst case scenario nanny #2 is gone in a few months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-to-change-nannies-or-not-to-change#post-2724088 Thu, 13 Apr 2017 19:52:24 +0000 azjax 2724088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would switch! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-to-change-nannies-or-not-to-change#post-2724086 Thu, 13 Apr 2017 19:51:27 +0000 californiadreams 2724086@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i realize my biggest hesitation is not my guilt, it is DH's! He is not completely on board with switching because he will feel guilty and i think he notices less of the little things that i do. so anytime we talk about it, we go in circles. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-to-change-nannies-or-not-to-change#post-2724076 Thu, 13 Apr 2017 19:15:37 +0000 kitty 2724076@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I personally don't think you even need a bunch of reasons to switch. If you feel like it's a good idea, do it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-to-change-nannies-or-not-to-change#post-2724062 Thu, 13 Apr 2017 18:45:03 +0000 Mrs. Pen 2724062@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Switch. I've read your other posts and think you need to have a good connection with your nanny and like you said- it's a case of BEC and that's just not a good fit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-to-change-nannies-or-not-to-change#post-2724060 Thu, 13 Apr 2017 18:40:20 +0000 Littlebit7 2724060@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Finding the right nanny isn't just about ticking boxes. It has SO much to do with family fit. It sounds like you've put the effort in (and to be fair, your current nanny seem seems have worked on things too) but the fit just isn't there. Go with your gut and tell her it isn't working out. These things don't work out from time to time. Do it now rather than later!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-to-change-nannies-or-not-to-change#post-2724056 Thu, 13 Apr 2017 18:34:34 +0000 Coral 2724056@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>While this situation sucks, you should love your nanny. It's kind of like finding a guy...you don't want to settle just because it's easier than ending things. The longer you put it off, the harder it's going to be for all involved. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-to-change-nannies-or-not-to-change#post-2724048 Thu, 13 Apr 2017 18:26:02 +0000 Jennibenni 2724048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think this is one of those cases where you are asking because you already know the answer but you want reassurance. The current nanny is possibly just not the right fit and that's ok. Especially for someone working in your home, you should be totally happy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-to-change-nannies-or-not-to-change#post-2724040 Thu, 13 Apr 2017 18:21:10 +0000 Bao 2724040@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Switch. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-to-change-nannies-or-not-to-change#post-2724037 Thu, 13 Apr 2017 17:41:39 +0000 avivoca 2724037@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would switch. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-to-change-nannies-or-not-to-change#post-2724034 Thu, 13 Apr 2017 17:20:16 +0000 californiadreams 2724034@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've posted a couple of times about my nanny already when i was feeling very frustrated and there have been other things i have not posted about as well. Now things seem pretty neutral with her, but at one point i was ready to switch nannies immediately. During that phase, I interviewed other candidates and found one I love. </p> <p>Now I am torn on what to do. Basically my dilemma is I don't know if i am justified in firing our current nanny. The issues we had seem to be resolved this week. But the truth is also that i never really loved her. There have been small things that have bothered/annoyed me since we hired her almost 3 months ago. I worry about what else will happen. But again, she is not a bad person. I think I may have a case of "bitch eating crackers" with her and perhaps I need to give her a more fair chance? I would feel awful just taking away the job from her and I am questioning if I am even justified in doing so?</p> <p>The most frustrating part is that I love the new potential candidate so much. Hands down if we met them at the same time, we would have picked the new one in a heart beat with no hesitation. I would have even removed my ad for a nanny on the website I used to find a nanny. I never took down my nanny ad because I have never felt 100% about the current one. </p> <p>I know so far this sounds biased and like I should go with the new one. But when I try to be objective, the fact is she is pretty good with my kids. She looked awesome on paper and had great references. My 4 year seems to be getting attached, enjoys spending time with her, and feels comfortable with her. My 1 year old has finally gotten used to her (it was hard in the beginning but she is his first caregiver other than me - other than an occasional babysitter, so i can't guarantee it would be different if someone else came regularly and i left to go to work). DH comes home from work before me every day and says they are always playing and happy. The issues we had were related to her professionalism and reliability - we talked to her about it and so far she seems to have gotten the message. So essentially she is doing her job. I have no reason to think kids are not safe or that I can't trust her with them. So why let her go then? Wouldn't that make me and DH awful people?</p> <p>Some other info:<br /> - It is supposed to be a short term position for 6 months (4.5 months left to go)<br /> - But we are considering keeping a nanny longer in which case I would really want someone I love a lot if it is for a longer term employment.<br /> - the new nanny is overall cheaper per month as she is bringing her 2 year old daughter with her (bonus of a playmate for my baby and someone closer in age to my 4 year old which may also be beneficial to him for other reasons)<br /> --- And my own salary is going to decrease by 20% next month and we will be paying for my 4 year to attend daycare 2 days a week in the summer so he is not home everyday all summer and keeps up with learning French (it's pretty cheap though)... so basically our income is going down and output is increasing. Saving on a cheaper nanny would be a big help! </p> <p>I am adding a poll because I am so torn! </p>