https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 06 Apr 2026 06:12:53 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-withdrawing-dd-from-summer-campdaycare#post-2894374 Tue, 13 Aug 2019 07:34:33 +0000 erinbaderin 2894374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>HOORAY! I love when something you've been dreading turns out to be quick and easy! And so great that you saw immediate changes in your daughter! What a great outcome to a stressful situation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-withdrawing-dd-from-summer-campdaycare#post-2894373 Tue, 13 Aug 2019 07:08:50 +0000 Ajsmommy 2894373@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>THANKS EVERYONE! I love you guys so much. </p> <p>After picking her up yesterday it was 100% clear that we made the right choice by pulling her! She was a motor mouth about what they did all day and in such good spirits. I can't believe I missed how badly she was feeling about this summer camp! It was like she was a whole different kid and we kind of missed it! :meh: She even made it a point to tell me she was "feeling much better" bc she'd been trying to play sick over the weekend so she wouldn't have to go to camp! But now that there's no camp she's much much better..... LOL</p> <p>I stopped by the camp to pick up her stuff and I spoke to the director and it was fine. I was nervous, not a fan of confrontation, but she was kind and made it very easy. I was able to just explain that the age difference didn't work for DD and I pointed out a few other things as well. It was well received and I felt good instead of bad or guilty. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-withdrawing-dd-from-summer-campdaycare#post-2894353 Mon, 12 Aug 2019 19:57:11 +0000 wrkbrk 2894353@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: Oh you’re doing the right thing. My kid would be lost in a class with a 7 year aGe span! Trust your mama instinct. 🧡 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-withdrawing-dd-from-summer-campdaycare#post-2894350 Mon, 12 Aug 2019 19:53:07 +0000 SweetCaroline 2894350@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you are a fantastic mama and made an excellent choice. Good job looking out for your DD's well being. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-withdrawing-dd-from-summer-campdaycare#post-2894339 Mon, 12 Aug 2019 17:03:55 +0000 LemonJack 2894339@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you’re doing the right thing. Hopefully you all have a much better end to the summer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-withdrawing-dd-from-summer-campdaycare#post-2894323 Mon, 12 Aug 2019 13:58:36 +0000 SweetiePie 2894323@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with your decision. 5-12 is a big age range. Personally I don’t care for mixing ages at all. Like keep the 4-5 yo together and the 6-7 and so forth. I guess by grade?<br /> Even this weekend we stayed at a friends vacation home and their 6.5yo played beautifully with my 5yo. But when the 6.5yo had another friend come they sort of ganged up on him, called him a baby, ran away from him, etc. He was really confused and hurt. As soon as that friend left, out friends daughter was right back to playing nicely with our son. </p> <p>Just that 2 hours hurt my heart and I know he has to learn that not everyone will be friendly, will like him, etc. But I can’t imagine making him deal with that for weeks more if I didn’t have to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-withdrawing-dd-from-summer-campdaycare#post-2894314 Mon, 12 Aug 2019 12:11:02 +0000 KT326 2894314@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup, I would have pulled my son too. They really should have separate groups and separate activities for that large age range. </p> <p>All the summer camps my son has been to this year (5 different ones) have all had them by age and the groups are never together unless it is the end of the day and it's just a few kids left. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-withdrawing-dd-from-summer-campdaycare#post-2894313 Mon, 12 Aug 2019 12:09:15 +0000 Ajsmommy 2894313@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Madison43: I agree 100%, I didn't really feel like they (the program/teachers) are doing anything wrong.. but I also think it would be obvious that the younger kids might need some addl help and attention.<br /> @graceandjoy: thank you.<br /> @Becky: thank you. She will be doing YMCA before and after care at the school so we will see how we like that and if we do then most likely she'll do a YMCA camp next summer :)<br /> @bhbee: I fully believe that it's just too much for her and I don't like to complain but it's a bad feeling when your baby isn't happy...I suggested they change the age range and apparently they plan to next year but that doesn't help us.<br /> @kiddosc: good to know that you like the YMCA </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-withdrawing-dd-from-summer-campdaycare#post-2894307 Mon, 12 Aug 2019 11:38:59 +0000 kiddosc 2894307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would definitely pull her and not feel bad about it for a second. Some of these things probably can't be prevented, but their response to them is pretty lackluster and that would be the basis for my decision. </p> <p>We had E signed up for an outdoor YMCA day camp this summer. I loved the idea of it, outdoors hiking, swimming, on a lake. But the director didn't have great control over the counselors and we had several minor incidents that just weren't handled well. After one such incident we just decided enough was enough and enrolled him at the on-site YMCA camp that he did last summer and we are all much happier. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-withdrawing-dd-from-summer-campdaycare#post-2894304 Mon, 12 Aug 2019 11:28:21 +0000 bhbee 2894304@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you are doing the right thing! It sounds really stressful I’m sorry. That is definitely a huge age range and I don’t think my oldest could handle that either </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-withdrawing-dd-from-summer-campdaycare#post-2894300 Mon, 12 Aug 2019 10:31:07 +0000 Becky 2894300@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would pull her too, especially since you have another good option. My DD wanted to do “summer camp” at her old daycare (where younger DD goes during the school year), and it’s also that 5-12 age range, mostly made up of kids who do after care during the school year. They’re definitely in it to continue making money (lots of kids get pulled out during the summer, including my DD, because their parents or family members are teachers or they have to get a nanny for older sibs) because no one would ever lump 5-12 year olds otherwise. </p> <p>Figuring out summer childcare is incredibly stressful. Maybe you could do something like a YMCA or Boys and Girls club camp next year? They split ages and keep it fun for them over the summer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-withdrawing-dd-from-summer-campdaycare#post-2894295 Mon, 12 Aug 2019 10:16:48 +0000 graceandjoy 2894295@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would absolutely pull her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-withdrawing-dd-from-summer-campdaycare#post-2894294 Mon, 12 Aug 2019 10:12:48 +0000 Madison43 2894294@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would do the same. 5-12 is a HUGE age range. That said, I’m not sure that there is anything that the director can (or should?) do about the older kids. Middle schoolers are always experimenting with bad language/gestures, more adult concepts, etc...and most lack the filter that tells older teens that they should reign it in around little ones. I’ve certainly asked my the middle schoolers at our pool to tone it down around the little kids. I completely understand your frustration though - that sounds incredibly unfair to everyone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwyd-withdrawing-dd-from-summer-campdaycare#post-2894289 Mon, 12 Aug 2019 10:01:39 +0000 Ajsmommy 2894289@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So today we decided to withdrawal our DD from the current summer camp/daycare she is in.</p> <p>She attended this same place for preschool and was in a classroom with teacher and teacher aids throughout last school year. We had a great experience and DD loved it and the teacher. We had no real issues....</p> <p>We decided to keep her on at the same place for "summer camp". Since she will be starting kinder in fall they moved her into the "school age" group. This is 5-12 yo. From the start DD did not enjoy this. There is less direction and more free time and DD is intimidated by the older kids (she's the oldest in our family and hasn't really had to interact with 10, 11 or 12 yo's on her own).</p> <p>She started feeling left out and once mentioned that a few of the older kids called her names (week 4). I mentioned this to the director and she said she would have a talk with the kids (I admit I did not follow up to see if this was done or not).</p> <p>Week 5 she was paired with an older kids to go on a field trip and she told me the older girl was mean... I tried to talk her through it and didn't mention anything to the director.. but that Friday, the day after the field trip one of the asst's in the camp pulled me aside to say that DD was not acting her self and they could tell she was not having fun.. to which I explained she was having a harder time with the older kids and that maybe just them being aware of it would help.</p> <p>Week 6 went ok, no issues to note, week 7 DD came home and informed me that the middle finger was bad. I asked her how she knew that and she proceeded to tell me that the older boys were doing it and showed her and told her to do it to the teachers and that they might lose their pool privileges.... DD had no idea what the middle finger meant and never once before has used it or even seen or asked about it. My concern is why are the teachers not aware of this? Where are they while my DD is being taught this? I emailed the director and she in turn responded that they have had multiple complaints about the older kids using vulgar words and gestures and that I wasn't the first to complain and that they were documenting the issues and "working"with the parents to try to remedy the issue. Ok, all of that is fine BUT it is TOO late for my DD who now knows the middle finger.............</p> <p>Week 7, DD tells us she doesn't want to partake in water play.. odd bc she loves the water and water play so we pushed her and she said she didn't want to get wet bc she didn't want to have to change bc she has no privacy and they open the door while she is changing... </p> <p>Unacceptable. I understand that they probably just tell the kids to go change but as a 5 yo my DD could use some help and it appears the teachers are not even paying attention to whether they get privacy or not. I emailed again and was told they would try better.... </p> <p>Today, DD just does not want to go. Both DH and I felt wrong making her/forcing her... so we asked if there was room at our original in home provider for the rest of the summer... there is...</p> <p>That seems to be what we will do..... but my stomach is hurting. I don't like any of this and I wonder if we are doing the right thing..... </p> <p>WWYD? </p>