https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 16 Apr 2026 02:59:43 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydflying-when-pregnant-possible-high-risk#post-2078040 Fri, 20 Feb 2015 03:35:54 +0000 Mrs squirreld 2078040@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks for all your advice ladies, we have decided not to go. But we will ofcourse pay for any costs incurred by us not being part of the bridal party and will be sending a very generous gift. We just hope they understand. :-( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydflying-when-pregnant-possible-high-risk#post-2076498 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 11:19:23 +0000 rachiecakes 2076498@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs squirreld: :( I wouldn't go either. I went to Montreal (from Boston) around 30 weeks and looking back, I probably shouldn't have gone. When I returned my BP wad sky-high (it probably was when I was there, too, but I didn't think to check) and I was put on strict bedrest shortly after that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydflying-when-pregnant-possible-high-risk#post-2076428 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 10:47:13 +0000 Mrs. Tiger 2076428@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My water broke out of the blue at 30 weeks after a complication free 2nd pregnancy. I wouldn't go. Sorry! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydflying-when-pregnant-possible-high-risk#post-2076269 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 09:48:13 +0000 Trailmix 2076269@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I cannot imagine any friend being upset over you following your doctor's orders! It sucks and I'm sure they will be disappointed, as will you, but ultimately if you're doctor says not to go, then you should not go :sad: I'd have your husband go tho, so at least one of you is represented. I'm sorry! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydflying-when-pregnant-possible-high-risk#post-2076235 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 09:30:46 +0000 mrsjyw 2076235@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would send DH alone, and try to go last minute if you're cleared. The guilt would be immensely difficult for me to get over bailing on friends. But, in this situation the risk with the baby would be too high for me to chance the flying. I'm sorry you're in this situation, it sucks!!! :( hugs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydflying-when-pregnant-possible-high-risk#post-2076219 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 09:24:36 +0000 LuLu Mom 2076219@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would send DH still and explain to the bride the situation and explain that most likely you will not be able to attend due to medical circumstances. I would offer to pay for any cost that might occur for the last minute cancellation and send a VERY nice gift. It's not going to "fix" it but if she's a good friend she will understand. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydflying-when-pregnant-possible-high-risk#post-2076209 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 09:21:22 +0000 SeptMomma12 2076209@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would probably send DH alone. And tell your friend the doctor wouldn't sign off on your flying. It's not optimal, but like others said, not worth the added stress - especially when your high risk is blood pressure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydflying-when-pregnant-possible-high-risk#post-2076199 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 09:12:53 +0000 loki 2076199@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>is driving or taking a train an option at all? might be long if the flights are 8 hours... if not, i think i'd probably cancel and send your husband alone. closer to the date if you're cleared to fly, you can reconsider going last minute, as long as it wouldn't stress you out too much! i'm sure your friends will understand and if not... terrible friends! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydflying-when-pregnant-possible-high-risk#post-2076196 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 09:11:30 +0000 Mrs.KMM 2076196@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would send your DH and have yourself back out of the wedding party. If you get cleared to fly, then you can still go as a guest.</p> <p>Any friend who doesn't understand the situation is not a friend worth having. So if you lose a friendship over this, it's not a friendship you wanted to have in the first place. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydflying-when-pregnant-possible-high-risk#post-2076190 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 09:07:28 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2076190@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would cancel. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydflying-when-pregnant-possible-high-risk#post-2076142 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 08:45:01 +0000 Ocean girl 2076142@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As much as it sucks, I would cancel. My concern would be getting to the destination and then being hospitalized or bed rested until delivery while being far from home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydflying-when-pregnant-possible-high-risk#post-2076127 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 08:21:31 +0000 ValentineMommy 2076127@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Stress is definitely not going to help your bp. I would cancel now and pray that she understands (and send a big gift!) If DH can still go, send him alone. Your friend should understand. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydflying-when-pregnant-possible-high-risk#post-2076108 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 07:59:03 +0000 catomd00 2076108@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a normal healthy pregnancy and didn't want to fly around 30 weeks! If it were me I would probably stay home and have DH go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydflying-when-pregnant-possible-high-risk#post-2076080 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 07:29:41 +0000 illumina 2076080@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Dh was supposed to be in a wedding in Germany (2hr flight) when I was 7 months pregnant and we had both planned to attend. Anyway, about 2-3 weeks before I realised I just didn't feel comfortable with the idea of going as I also had issues with my blood pressure and we cancelled. They were fine about it, though we did pay for Dh suit and a couple of other costs they would have incurred on his behalf. It's not an easy decision but whatever you choose they will be OK with it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydflying-when-pregnant-possible-high-risk#post-2076059 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 06:43:55 +0000 AggieDaze 2076059@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with the suggestions above. Send your<br /> Dh and stay home yourself. While it'll suck for him to go alone and you to be left behind, I think it's the best way to solve both problems... 1) show your friends how much you guys care and support them and 2) do what's best for you and your babies health. </p> <p>I also think that true and worthy friends should understand, and want what's best for your health even if it means missing their wedding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydflying-when-pregnant-possible-high-risk#post-2076023 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 02:35:19 +0000 lamariniere 2076023@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a low-lying placenta around 28ish weeks and wanted to go to a wedding (I was the one who introduced the couple!). It would have only involved a 2.5hr flight and a 2hr drive, but my doctors highly discouraged it, I don't remember what the exact reasoning was. I was bummed that I missed the wedding, but I would also have been super stressed about the whole trip (especially since it was my 1st pregnancy). In the end, I would probably go by what your doctor says. Your friends will understand if you have to cancel. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydflying-when-pregnant-possible-high-risk#post-2076015 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 01:30:52 +0000 birdofafeather 2076015@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i would just send DH and cancel myself for the wedding party portion. if i ended up being cleared, i would go last minute, but just as a guest. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydflying-when-pregnant-possible-high-risk#post-2076009 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 01:01:28 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 2076009@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd cancel. Your friends will understand. I'm not usual a worrier, but after having a 25 weeker...it's a million times better to be safe. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydflying-when-pregnant-possible-high-risk#post-2076006 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 00:55:02 +0000 nana87 2076006@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Can just your dh go?</p> <p>If these are true friends, you won't los a friendship over this-- they will understand! I had to back out of a wedding party bc the date was too close to my due date and cross country and my friend was so understanding and gracious about it </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydflying-when-pregnant-possible-high-risk#post-2075999 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 00:47:02 +0000 littlejoy 2075999@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you're stressed about it, you'll be stressed while you're flying. Sending good vibes your way. I am certain your friends would understand. Your doctors will probably err on the side of being overly careful. If they give you the green light, I'd totally go (if you want to). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydflying-when-pregnant-possible-high-risk#post-2075998 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 00:43:27 +0000 Mrs squirreld 2075998@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Torchwood: thanks....I think that sums it up really well....there isn't a good answer. :'-( At the end of the day I don't think I want to risk my babies health...I just hope I don't lose a friendship over it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydflying-when-pregnant-possible-high-risk#post-2075990 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 00:22:28 +0000 Torchwood 2075990@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no advice, but I'm so sorry you're dealing with this! It sounds so stressful, and like there are no really good answers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydflying-when-pregnant-possible-high-risk#post-2075988 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 00:20:04 +0000 Mrs squirreld 2075988@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel terrible. Dh and I are both in a wedding party in 2 and a half weeks. We have to fly 2 seperate legs to get there totalling about 8 hours. In my first pregnancy I was induced for high BP. In this pregnancy it has been up and down but borderlining high for most of the pregnancy. I had my appt today hoping for a sign off on my ok to fly. They wouldn't give it to me based on my intial BP reading even though it dropped to normal in the appt later on. They want to see me closer to the fly out date to decide on whether or not I can fly due to my previous history with high bp. I will be 29 weeks when we fly. 30/31 weeks when we return. Obviously I can't cancel on this couple at the very last minute due to our involvement. Dh thinks we should just tell them we aren't coming now to save the stress. </p> <p>Do you think it's too risky for the baby and mines health even if we did get a last minute ok to fly and we should just cancel now?<br /> What would you do? </p>