https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 21 Apr 2026 16:33:01 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydsay#post-2142747 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 21:04:26 +0000 Torchwood 2142747@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That would be a huge NO for me. Like, if this were still early in the pregnancy, I'd be finding a new doctor level of nope. I hope you're right that he's just assuming that's what you'd want, but I would definitely stick to my guns! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydsay#post-2142728 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 20:37:08 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2142728@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@matador84: nope. There are 3 other doctors in the practice! But he used to own the practice himself but the hospital bought him out a few years ago, so he's kind of the head guy. I'm glad I'm not the only one that sees it as crazy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydsay#post-2142726 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 20:34:27 +0000 matador84 2142726@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's weird. Does he practice alone? Even though my OB is in a solo office, he still rotates call with two or three other doctors, so if he is on vacation, one of them deliver. I had DS right before a holiday and DD a week before he went on vacation, so I knew this was a possibility he wouldn't deliver me (he did end up doing it), but I would NOT have wanted an induction earlier than 40 at the earliest. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydsay#post-2142725 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 20:34:13 +0000 turquoisemama 2142725@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow I'm shocked he would even suggest such a thing! I would just say you don't feel comfortable being induced and you are totally fine with the on call doctor. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydsay#post-2142721 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 20:30:12 +0000 charlotte 2142721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That is crazy. I was a 0, no progress at my 39 wk appt and then my water broke at 39+3 and was a 6 as soon as I got to the hospital. Who knows if that could be you if he insists on the 39+2!! I say stick to your guns! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydsay#post-2142657 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 19:05:14 +0000 blackbird 2142657@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Sunshine: yeah that wouldn't set right with me! You got this </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydsay#post-2142654 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 19:04:02 +0000 sarac 2142654@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would practice saying no loudly and firmly. No. No, I will not be induced unless there is a medical indication for it. No no no. I would take your partner, a parent, or a loud mouthed friend along to help you to be firm in case the doc tries to push the point. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydsay#post-2142637 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 18:41:12 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2142637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: you're probably right that that's what he's assuming and I should probably chill a bit lol just based on my history with him it annoyed me instead!</p> <p>ETA: it's not a bad history he's just pushy and has a history if being late a lot and once didn't even show up (he did not have a personal emergency, we discussed it) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydsay#post-2142630 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 18:35:02 +0000 blackbird 2142630@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>On the flip side, he may assume that you would prefer HE deliver you a little early rather than someone you've never met </p> <p>I'd just say you, you aren't comfortable with that, and ask who his back up OB is. Or you'll deliver with the on call attending </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydsay#post-2142624 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 18:27:09 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2142624@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd say no.<br /> Even if he pushes it you don't have to show up to your induction. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydsay#post-2142587 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 17:52:03 +0000 birdofafeather 2142587@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>unless it's medically indicated, say no. while there may be a chance he won't be there, someone else will be and then you have the chance to go into labor naturally. good luck! it's hard when doctors push their way and you don't agree. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydsay#post-2142581 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 17:45:19 +0000 Mrs. Coral 2142581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I second @lawbee11: ! Stand up for yourself, otherwise you will kick yourself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydsay#post-2142577 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 17:42:39 +0000 lawbee11 2142577@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would just say you're not comfortable inducing and you understand that if you go into labor while he's out of town you'll have to be delivered by another OB and you're ok with that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydsay#post-2142576 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 17:42:39 +0000 Mrs. Deer 2142576@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Sunshine: yeah, no way! I'm sorry he's being pushy about it, how frustrating. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydsay#post-2142573 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 17:40:18 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2142573@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaCate: ooo, good point about complications! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydsay#post-2142569 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 17:39:22 +0000 MamaCate 2142569@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Also, I think there are valid risks with elective induction (more likely to end up with c section if your body isn't ready for example) so if you would feel more prepared, do a little googling so you have facts to back up your feelings. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydsay#post-2142568 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 17:39:11 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2142568@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Oatmeal: @MamaCate: as much as I'd love to meet her sooner rather than later, this may be our last child so I want the chance to go into labor on my own since I had pre-e last time. I have met and like the doctor that would cover for him... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydsay#post-2142565 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 17:37:02 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2142565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Deer: I'll be 39+2 on Friday. It makes me really mad that he's doing just for convenience and yes, there will be someone there to cover him while he's gone. </p> <p>I did the panorama test because he pressured me into. Again, another thing that's not a huge deal but I don't know why he won't drop it when I say no. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydsay#post-2142563 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 17:36:44 +0000 MamaCate 2142563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Sunshine: I would just tell him that you will not have an induction unless it is medically indicated (concerns for you and the baby). I assume you are comfortable with whoever his back up is if he is out of town. You may want to validate that you would love to have him deliver but that you have xx concerns about elective inductions if he pushes.</p> <p>Some people are fine with inductions and some people really want their familiar doctor to do the delivery, so he may just be assuming you are in one of these boats. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydsay#post-2142562 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 17:36:41 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 2142562@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is hard! Honestly, I would feel so uncomfortable being induced just for schedule's sake. I would let him know that without a medical reason for being induced early, you don't feel comfortable with it. Be up front, and just let him know that its not what you'd like. What are your other options? Do you know the doctor that will be taking his patients while he's away? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydsay#post-2142558 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 17:34:03 +0000 Mrs. Deer 2142558@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How far along will you be on the 17th? I think being induced for convenience is ridiculous! I know it can sometimes be hard to stand up to a doctor, but I would tell him you're sorry but you're not comfortable with being induced. Is there another OB in the practice who will be covering for them? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/wwydsay#post-2142548 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 17:27:21 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2142548@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>*I had no idea where to put this, feel free to move it!* </p> <p>Apparently my OB will be out of town a lot around my due date (the 23rd) so he wants to induce me on Friday (the 17th). He told me this last week when I had a cervical check and was dialated 1 cm. I was induced with DD1 and would like to avoid it if possible this time (just because I'd like a different experience). There is no medical reason To induce me right now. I said as much to him last week and he said that he wants to see what kind of progress I'm making in a week (which would be tomorrow) and we'll discuss it then. Based on my history with him I really think he's going to push the issue with me which makes me mad. Barring that LO doesn't show up tonight, I need to find a way to say no if/when the induction gets brought up at my appointment. What would you say or do to make it clear that this is something you don't want and he's crossing a line for pushing it just to make us fit his schedule? </p>