https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 27 Apr 2026 04:35:12 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-ever-tell-a-friend-that-you-dont-like-their-ex-and-then#post-2318405 Tue, 13 Oct 2015 19:47:26 +0000 ms.line 2318405@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A good friend came to visit me last year and revealed that her relationship with her long-time BF was in crisis. I never liked him anyway, and when she opened up about things he was doing to her (not really abusive, but very shitty), I told her she needed to leave him, unquestionably. After her visit, she *did* break up with him, but a few months later they got back together. It was really awkward and we didn't talk much for a few months. I just went out to visit her this past weekend, which I was kind of worried about because she lives with her SO, and I'm sure he's surmised that I counseled her to leave him last year! But he was cordial to me and we just avoided talking about their relationship all weekend. I can still see some major red flags though, and I just wish she'd move on. :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-ever-tell-a-friend-that-you-dont-like-their-ex-and-then#post-2318397 Tue, 13 Oct 2015 19:45:09 +0000 nana87 2318397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: It also depends on why I don't like the ex. Like, with the ex-bff, the ex had cheated and also was terribly rude to me and most of my ex-bff's friends all the time. But thinking about it more, I guess I never told another good friend who was on a short break that I didn't think his gf was good for him, but I really, really liked her individually--I just thought their dynamic was off (she seemed to get upset with him over stupid things and they bickered in public a lot). And it's a good thing I didn't say anything because they're married now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-ever-tell-a-friend-that-you-dont-like-their-ex-and-then#post-2318396 Tue, 13 Oct 2015 19:44:59 +0000 Jess1483 2318396@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A friend in college said she broke up with her bf, and I was visibly excited. Then she said that they got back together. Oops. She knew I didn't like him though (for good reason). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-ever-tell-a-friend-that-you-dont-like-their-ex-and-then#post-2318393 Tue, 13 Oct 2015 19:41:52 +0000 lady grey 2318393@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>yeah I pretty much did this to one of my best friends. very awkward. when they were "on a break" because of some drama I told her all the reasons not to get back together. Well, they did get back together....then got married...then had a kid. uggg. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-ever-tell-a-friend-that-you-dont-like-their-ex-and-then#post-2318388 Tue, 13 Oct 2015 19:39:04 +0000 mrbee 2318388@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@nana87: I personally prefer honesty, but I've learned that many people don't! For my closest friends, I go down the honesty path... for everyone else, I just say offer my condolences and ask how they're doing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-ever-tell-a-friend-that-you-dont-like-their-ex-and-then#post-2318384 Tue, 13 Oct 2015 19:36:36 +0000 mrsrain 2318384@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>WOW! No, can't say that I've been in that situation. Good story to remember though, just in case! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-ever-tell-a-friend-that-you-dont-like-their-ex-and-then#post-2318383 Tue, 13 Oct 2015 19:36:14 +0000 nana87 2318383@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep, I told my ex-bff that I thought she was better off without her ex after the ex cheated on her, and they're still together over 10 years later. And that was probably the end of our friendship. I don't regret it though becuase I feel like honesty and looking out for your friend's interests are tantamount. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-ever-tell-a-friend-that-you-dont-like-their-ex-and-then#post-2318376 Tue, 13 Oct 2015 19:31:59 +0000 mrbee 2318376@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>...they get back together with them and get married and have kids?</p> <p>Awkward... I did that once and after it blew up in my face, I never told anyone what I thought of their ex, ever again. Saved me from several rounds of deja vu! </p>