https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 29 Apr 2026 17:34:20 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-look-like-youre-getting-bigger-responses/page/2#post-990832 Mon, 05 Aug 2013 15:12:39 +0000 indi 990832@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you're not bothered by it, I'd go with a smile and a simple "Thanks, things are going well" or "Thanks, the baby is growing right on track." For those that are less of a compliment and more of a rude observation, I give a more confused "Thanks?" response, so they know it was awkward but I'm still technically being polite. </p> <p>Sometimes folks just don't know what to say at all, so they blurt out whatever they think of first. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-look-like-youre-getting-bigger-responses/page/2#post-990738 Mon, 05 Aug 2013 14:36:07 +0000 Modern Daisy 990738@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Miss Manners would say to respond "Thank You!" to rude observational comments like that. Regardless of how it was meant, you're telling that rude observer that you're choosing to take it as a compliment.</p> <p>I'm personally against all body comments towards pregnant women in general. I get them all the time since I'm mostly belly, so many people actually praising me for only gaining it in my belly and not getting 'fat'. I've been the victim of two drunken episodes where I couldn't get the person to stop talking about how 'amazing' my body is, no matter how hard I tried to thank them and change the subject.</p> <p>I know it comes from a good place, so I don't berate them or give a snotty comment back, but I think it's really rude since clearly I have no control over how my body chooses to add the weight I'm supposed to be gaining, so they're suggesting that if I hadn't gained it this way it wouldn't be acceptable. Plus, some women who have high risk pregnancies are actually sensitive about the sizes of their babies, so to hear compliments on how 'small' or 'big' you are could be really upsetting for them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-look-like-youre-getting-bigger-responses/page/2#post-990685 Mon, 05 Aug 2013 14:25:16 +0000 Vegmama 990685@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I like the idea of acknowledging that the BABY is growing ... I really enjoy it when my friends notice growth between the times we see each other, but I'm not sure I'd like co-workers (though, I work at home). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-look-like-youre-getting-bigger-responses/page/2#post-987885 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 02:33:53 +0000 erinpye 987885@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No one said that to me when I was pregnant with my first, and I'm not very far into my second, but I feel like I'd be a smartass and say something like "I AM!?" while looking incredulous. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-look-like-youre-getting-bigger-responses#post-987794 Sat, 03 Aug 2013 23:53:54 +0000 PinkElephant 987794@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"I know! S/he is getting so big!"<br /> ???</p> <p>I like @ash 's answer. I don't think there's necessarily a reason to be sarcastic with people when it's obvious they were trying to be complimentary or friendly (though it's really fun to come up with snarky comebacks! :happy: ). If they're commenting on your size to be nasty, it's another story entirely. When people say something to me (pregnancy related or not), that is really inappropriate or unwarranted, I generally just give them an eyebrow raise and no verbal response.</p> <p>I honestly wasn't terribly offended by comments on my bump - I was excited that people could finally tell I was pregnant. I only comment on belly size to my close friends, but I usually say something along the lines of "omigosh I think I can see bump today! you look so cute!" Hope I'm not inadvertently upsetting anyone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-look-like-youre-getting-bigger-responses#post-987410 Sat, 03 Aug 2013 18:47:59 +0000 MrsH 987410@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PointeShoesTutus: sarcasm font would be awesome. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-look-like-youre-getting-bigger-responses#post-987350 Sat, 03 Aug 2013 17:38:29 +0000 Pink Champagne 987350@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just say, "Yup, baby's growing!!" And smile. People aren't saying things like that to be rude. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-look-like-youre-getting-bigger-responses#post-987320 Sat, 03 Aug 2013 17:09:28 +0000 wonderstruck 987320@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"Yep, expect that to keep happening for the next 5 months or so..."</p> <p>That's what I always said to the people who liked to comment on the obvious. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-look-like-youre-getting-bigger-responses#post-987226 Sat, 03 Aug 2013 15:33:33 +0000 PointeShoesTutus 987226@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsH: I'm the same way. I can't count the times I've typed out something only to delete the whole thing because sarcasm just doesn't play well in online forums. I wouldn't want people to think I'm completely rude or batsh*t crazy. Makes me wish there was some kind of sarcasm font~could be so much fun. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-look-like-youre-getting-bigger-responses#post-987190 Sat, 03 Aug 2013 15:04:26 +0000 lomom 987190@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks, you too!</p> <p>Haha, I wish I'd have the guts to pull that off and to just keep walking like they'd said "have a nice weekend"! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-look-like-youre-getting-bigger-responses#post-987169 Sat, 03 Aug 2013 14:50:56 +0000 MrsH 987169@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@StrawberryBee: @PointeShoesTutus: thanks :) sometimes I wonder how humor comes across on the boards. I have super sarcastic/funny coworkers so I've actually said this IRL. It always gets a chuckle. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-look-like-youre-getting-bigger-responses#post-986186 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 21:38:30 +0000 Grace 986186@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that by that time, people have been waiting and watching for you to pop, so when it starts to be noticeable, they comment. I just responded with "yup" and a smile. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-look-like-youre-getting-bigger-responses#post-986120 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 20:59:40 +0000 PointeShoesTutus 986120@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsH: Best answer ever! I must file this away for use when the time comes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-look-like-youre-getting-bigger-responses#post-986107 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 20:51:26 +0000 StrawberryBee 986107@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsH: FWIW, I think your response was awesome :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-look-like-youre-getting-bigger-responses#post-985761 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 17:41:09 +0000 MrsH 985761@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry I killed the thread :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-look-like-youre-getting-bigger-responses#post-985582 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 16:06:40 +0000 MrsH 985582@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"Yeah, that's what I get for playing hide the weenie."</p> <p>Too subtle? Hmmm, I usually just say - just wait five more months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-look-like-youre-getting-bigger-responses#post-985540 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 15:50:03 +0000 Ash 985540@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've had so many people say the same things over the past couple of weeks... I usually say "that's what everyone keeps saying. I must've popped!" I like that it's an obvious pregnant lady bump and not a "too many brownies" bump. :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-look-like-youre-getting-bigger-responses#post-985533 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 15:46:59 +0000 SleepyMonkey 985533@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i think your responses are totally fine! i'd respond with "yup! healthy baby in there" and smile. i wouldn't worry too much about it. they're probably just trying to make small talk. if they are really interested, they'll probably follow with more questions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-look-like-youre-getting-bigger-responses#post-985499 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 15:28:40 +0000 Sugar.Biscuit 985499@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Haha. According to one of my coworkers I've been showing since I was 8 weeks. Im plus size and if I wore the right clothing I looked pregnant before hand. I just roll my eyes at her &amp; smile. If anyone else told me that I'd tell them they are crazy lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-look-like-youre-getting-bigger-responses#post-985316 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 14:28:41 +0000 wahine08 985316@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lamariniere: I agree it's definitely good intentions! It's just hard to find ways to respond. I don't want to seem like a jerk if I just say "Yeah I am!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-look-like-youre-getting-bigger-responses#post-985302 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 14:24:39 +0000 singingbee 985302@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Duh!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-look-like-youre-getting-bigger-responses#post-985300 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 14:23:49 +0000 Bao 985300@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bookworm: this is what I was thinking ;) lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-look-like-youre-getting-bigger-responses#post-985292 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 14:22:34 +0000 sarah.clarisse 985292@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In the beginning when I was first showing around 17 weeks I would respond to belly comments with “what are you talking about? I just had a huge lunch. Thanks” The sarcastic tone fits my personality and it seems to make people laugh and move on. Now that I’m 26 weeks and already look like I have some sort of small soccer ball under my shirt the comments of how BIG I’m getting are a little more common. It’s typically coworkers and my response has been “you ain’t seen nothin’ yet”. I’m trying to stay light hearted about it right now since all of my gain has luckily been belly bump. I’m not looking forward to the last month when I figure I’ll start puffing out in all directions on all body parts! At that point I’ll probably just respond with a mean glare and “thanks”. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-look-like-youre-getting-bigger-responses#post-985275 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 14:17:22 +0000 Dandelion 985275@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"Isn't that what is supposed to be happening?" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-look-like-youre-getting-bigger-responses#post-985249 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 14:12:41 +0000 sweetooth 985249@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I second what @Mrs. Jump Rope said.</p> <p>Today I feel like I look more pregnant than usual and I got the ol' "hey, you have a bun in the oven!" Yes, yes I do! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-look-like-youre-getting-bigger-responses#post-985230 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 14:05:57 +0000 lamariniere 985230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bookworm: HA! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-look-like-youre-getting-bigger-responses#post-985228 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 14:05:39 +0000 lamariniere 985228@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would just try to let it slide...the comments will likely pick up as you get further along.</p> <p>I'm 20 weeks and within the last 2 weeks went from beer gut to pregnant lady, so people have definitely started making comments, but all nice and with good intentions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-look-like-youre-getting-bigger-responses#post-985215 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 14:02:55 +0000 cmomma17 985215@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bookworm: bahaha! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-look-like-youre-getting-bigger-responses#post-985212 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 14:01:56 +0000 cmomma17 985212@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wahine08: "well no shit!" ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-look-like-youre-getting-bigger-responses#post-985207 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 13:59:32 +0000 PurplePeony 985207@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"That's usually what happens as a pregnancy goes along!"</p> <p>I haven't had to deal with too many comments, thankfully, but my parents acted sort of shocked that I was switching over to maternity bottoms (or at least things with stretchier waists) around 16.5-17 weeks. Um...how long did they expect me to stay in regular clothes? It's not like most of mine have a lot of give in them to start with, and I see no reason to be uncomfortable if I don't have to be! </p>