https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 02 May 2026 02:54:52 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-vs-your-partner-introvert-or-extrovert#post-2808797 Fri, 09 Mar 2018 15:31:03 +0000 Bluemasonjar 2808797@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: I love finding stuff to do with DS. We'll stop at the library randomly or the park while we are out doing errands. </p> <p>DH plays with him at home and might take him outside but never takes initiative to find other activities. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-vs-your-partner-introvert-or-extrovert#post-2808654 Fri, 09 Mar 2018 09:26:50 +0000 looch 2808654@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I honestly don't know how I would define myself, let alone my husband.</p> <p>At the end of the day, I can handle certain things during my on time, but then on the weekends, I want a break from the hustle and bustle. I prefer situations where it's not crowded during my down time (I commute during the week and basically refuse to do that on the weekends, no matter how fabulous the social opportunity). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-vs-your-partner-introvert-or-extrovert#post-2808629 Thu, 08 Mar 2018 23:25:32 +0000 Amorini 2808629@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gingerbebe: OMG, this is us to a T. I’m an introvert who can do the whole client thing and turn it on at social events, so people who don’t know me well wouldn’t think of me as introverted. I’ve learned that I can even enjoy all the interaction in the moment, but, boy does it drain me. I basically have to mentally shift into high gear for it and then decompress after. I get my energy from alone time for sure!</p> <p>DH, on the other hand, is a quiet and graceful extrovert. He is a natural in social and client situations, and likes having people over for dinner on a whim (he’s the cook). He definitely is recharged after those times, but he is also content very often to work on home projects and says he needs alone time. I’m sure he does need it (we all do!), but I think it’s not because people time wears him out like it does me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-vs-your-partner-introvert-or-extrovert#post-2808624 Thu, 08 Mar 2018 22:34:43 +0000 Mrs. Carrot 2808624@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: this is so interesting because I’m the complete opposite (and hubby too). I’m a strong introvert and I hate being home. Because I’m an introvert I have a hard time doing things my daughter loves like playing pretend, tea parties, etc, so structured activities give me more to work with from a social perspective. My husband is a strong extrovert (as is my daughter) and they love staying home and playing nonstop. If I didn’t have a huge guilt complex about it, I’d take regular advantage of this and doing my own introverted things but mostly I end up feeling bad and then having a crappy day forcing myself to be a good mom who plays with dolls lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-vs-your-partner-introvert-or-extrovert#post-2808591 Thu, 08 Mar 2018 19:49:08 +0000 wrkbrk 2808591@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: We are exactly the same! Haha. On my days with DS (we split days when daycare is closed), we’re out of the house the entire day except for nap. When DW has him they stay home all day. Shrug. Guess he gets the best of both worlds?? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-vs-your-partner-introvert-or-extrovert#post-2808586 Thu, 08 Mar 2018 19:25:15 +0000 lamariniere 2808586@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@nutmeg36: haha, ambivert is a great way to describe it! Sounds like me, I'm not necessarily going to make the first move, but I'm really social and decent at making small talk once I'm thrust into a situation. My DH is definitely more of an introvert than I am, but does a good job at being social when called upon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-vs-your-partner-introvert-or-extrovert#post-2808580 Thu, 08 Mar 2018 18:45:24 +0000 Anagram 2808580@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm happy my kids are getting older and easier because I use them to satisfy my "active, busy" needs. We've had two snow days so I didn't have work (I also work in a school), and while my social media feed is blowing up with parents complaining, I've been having a blast with the kiddos. Yesterday morning we went to an indoor Play place and had lunch in a diner. Home for nap and back out in the crazy snowstorm in the afternoon for a play date.</p> <p>Then today we went to the science center all morning, ice cream play date in the afternoon and then made a snowman at the park before coming home for dinner. Days like that recharge me. I almost took the kids to the Statue of Liberty on a whim today, haha. </p> <p> When DH is with the kids alone, he never takes them out at all-they'll stay inside our apartment for an entire day.</p> <p>We've basically turned into our parents. My mom is go-go-go, his parents are homebodies. I thought that happened later, but I guess we unlocked the "we are our parents" achievement early. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-vs-your-partner-introvert-or-extrovert#post-2808498 Thu, 08 Mar 2018 12:20:38 +0000 gingerbebe 2808498@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am an introvert in a client-facing job, so while I am completely able to function socially (like people are surprised when they find out I'm an introvert), it takes a lot out of me and I need a lot of time at home, alone if possible, to recharge or my mental health begins to suffer. </p> <p>DH is a lot more extroverted than I am and enjoys being around people, but he doesn't really go out and do stuff. Like, he doesn't have hobbies. Also we don't really have anyone to help us with our kids, so its basically all hands on deck all the time at home for us. He talks to clients all day long and then has to interact with his kids in the evenings, so he actually likes having some quiet down time at night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-vs-your-partner-introvert-or-extrovert#post-2808491 Thu, 08 Mar 2018 12:09:10 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 2808491@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We’re both “social introverts”. I’d say both of us are borderline introvert/extrovert, but on the introverted side. Like 60/40. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-vs-your-partner-introvert-or-extrovert#post-2808477 Thu, 08 Mar 2018 11:16:50 +0000 Bluemasonjar 2808477@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am an extrovert and DH is an introvert. He is happy to spend time at home and I need to be out doing things and being social. We came to an agreement when dating that I would not be upset if he opted to skip a social event and he would not guilt me into staying home. </p> <p>He has more fun when out with an established group of friends and I honestly enjoy myself more when he is comfortable. I do plenty of things on my own and it strikes a good balance for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-vs-your-partner-introvert-or-extrovert#post-2808465 Thu, 08 Mar 2018 10:40:03 +0000 snowjewelz 2808465@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are both introverts. I am a better learned extrovert than he is though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-vs-your-partner-introvert-or-extrovert#post-2808457 Thu, 08 Mar 2018 09:48:50 +0000 nana87 2808457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're both more introverted, but in different ways. I'm better at making small talk in cocktail party type scenarios, he's better at keeping in touch and maintaining friendships long term. I get restless if we're just sitting around home, but I think that comes out of parenting--I know lo1 especially starts acting up if she doesn't have any gross motor activity time </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-vs-your-partner-introvert-or-extrovert#post-2808456 Thu, 08 Mar 2018 09:41:17 +0000 Lahela017 2808456@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are both introverts, and homebodies. It works well for us. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-vs-your-partner-introvert-or-extrovert#post-2808454 Thu, 08 Mar 2018 09:26:30 +0000 smuckers 2808454@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm kind of an ambivert? At the very least, I'm the most extroverted introvert you've ever met :silly: I need alone time to recharge, but my social battery drains very, very slowly.</p> <p>DH is absolutely, unequivocally an introvert. Social battery drains quickly, needs a lot of recharge time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-vs-your-partner-introvert-or-extrovert#post-2808451 Thu, 08 Mar 2018 09:12:47 +0000 Ajsmommy 2808451@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are both extroverts however we disagree on social outings..... DH does not enjoy most social situations unless they are with his group of friends. The other issue is that we are both caught between being extroverts and being home bodies. Like the idea of going out and doing something sounds great until it's time to do it and then we'd rather stay home! HA but I dont' necessarily know if that relates to being extroverts or not. Maybe we are just lazy. LOL.. lazy extroverts. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-vs-your-partner-introvert-or-extrovert#post-2808447 Thu, 08 Mar 2018 08:59:53 +0000 krispi 2808447@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm very extroverted, and he's introverted. However, it took me a while to figure out that he's truly an introvert. He enjoys social activities and is great at meeting people and chatting with them. He just needs downtime alone to recharge. And even though I'm extroverted, I'm shy around new people. So he's actually better in new situations than I am, because he's not shy at all. So overall, I feel like we balance each other out and generally have similar social preferences. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-vs-your-partner-introvert-or-extrovert#post-2808445 Thu, 08 Mar 2018 08:48:04 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2808445@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Him-extrovert. Me-introvert. Even though DH is much better around people and enjoys in engaging with friends and coworkers and Uber drivers he’s a homebody. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-vs-your-partner-introvert-or-extrovert#post-2808444 Thu, 08 Mar 2018 08:47:12 +0000 skinnycow 2808444@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm an introvert and my husband is an extrovert. We don't have any issues with social situations because we're both homebodies. We're fairly young and most of our friends don't have children - so they're still going out, staying up late, etc. and we'd rather just drink a glass of wine and be in bed by 9 :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-vs-your-partner-introvert-or-extrovert#post-2808436 Wed, 07 Mar 2018 23:48:48 +0000 youboots 2808436@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are both extroverts who need a bit of downtime. I tend to be more social in our community because DH works long hours and travels overnight- so he’s out with customers a lot. So I’m the one out connecting with new people and making friends. That said he’s on city council. Short story long it sounds like we are both major extroverts but like vegging at home as a family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-vs-your-partner-introvert-or-extrovert#post-2808435 Wed, 07 Mar 2018 23:05:48 +0000 ALV91711 2808435@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm more of an introvert and DH is more of an extrovert. But he is kind of a homebody. He does a lot of socializing with our neighbours, especially when the weather is nice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-vs-your-partner-introvert-or-extrovert#post-2808434 Wed, 07 Mar 2018 22:37:50 +0000 Pancakes 2808434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@petitenoisette: This is basically my DH and me, to a T, including the not really having made friends where we are now for those same reasons. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-vs-your-partner-introvert-or-extrovert#post-2808430 Wed, 07 Mar 2018 21:54:32 +0000 Grace 2808430@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I are opposites. It’s worked out well since we’ve had kids because he wants to go out and I’m fine staying home, so long as he helps get the kids to bed first. On weekends, I like going out as a family and doing things, so that’s not an issue. I think the reason we don’t have an issue being opposites is that we are both independant and don’t mind doing our own thing 50% of the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-vs-your-partner-introvert-or-extrovert#post-2808424 Wed, 07 Mar 2018 20:36:33 +0000 IRunForFun 2808424@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've always been more of an introvert, but I've become a little more extroverted as I've gotten older and because of the nature of my work. DH has always been more of an extrovert, but he says he's gotten more introverted as he's gotten older/busier. I think at this point we are both somewhere in between... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-vs-your-partner-introvert-or-extrovert#post-2808413 Wed, 07 Mar 2018 19:39:25 +0000 petitenoisette 2808413@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH is a true introvert and I am more extroverted but I have anxiety about certain types of social situations (basically doing anything with anyone new) and am kind of a homebody. But with my own, established friends I am relatively extroverted. Anyway, my need to socialize and his ability to handle it are relatively equal so it works out ok. </p> <p>The negative thing about it is that we haven’t really made any friends where we live now because I am too anxious about it and he doesn’t really feel the need. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-vs-your-partner-introvert-or-extrovert#post-2808409 Wed, 07 Mar 2018 19:20:07 +0000 Anagram 2808409@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm more extroverted, my husband is more introverted. It's annoying to me sometimes to navigate the difference. </p> <p>Actually our problem is maybe more homebody vs "active, busy" person. Like I get energized by going places, seeing things, getting out of the house and spending time basically anywhere but home. And yes, with a group of friends or my husband or better yet, my husband AND our friends is ideal.</p> <p>He likes to sit on the couch as much as possible when he's not at work. Those things are not really compatible and I feel like we spend 85% of our free time doing the sit-on-the-couch thing, and I want him to be happy and interested and excited the %15 of the time we get out. Ha.</p> <p>We've just been having a convo about this, so it's on my mind. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-vs-your-partner-introvert-or-extrovert#post-2808406 Wed, 07 Mar 2018 18:51:01 +0000 DesertDreams88 2808406@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am the introvert, my husband is extrovert. Though I think he has gotten more introverted as he has aged, or less dependent on socializing / social affirmation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-vs-your-partner-introvert-or-extrovert#post-2808402 Wed, 07 Mar 2018 18:43:29 +0000 crazydoglady 2808402@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm an extrovert who needs alone time to feel balanced and my husband is definitely an introvert. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-vs-your-partner-introvert-or-extrovert#post-2808401 Wed, 07 Mar 2018 18:41:03 +0000 wrkbrk 2808401@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: Yes we are opposites and no we don't agree on social situations all the time, haha. Usually I say yes to most events to which I am invited and DW comes with me maybe half the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-vs-your-partner-introvert-or-extrovert#post-2808397 Wed, 07 Mar 2018 18:04:21 +0000 Foodnerd81 2808397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are about the same- both lean towards more introverted- me more than him but not by a lot. We both enjoy going out and being with friends, but find going out and socializing with people we don’t know we’ll tiring and can appreciate down time at home relaxing. </p> <p>Works well for us! Luckily we have extroverted friends who make plans for us :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/you-vs-your-partner-introvert-or-extrovert#post-2808394 Wed, 07 Mar 2018 17:46:10 +0000 Mama Bird 2808394@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're opposites. This is nice for me because I can let DH handle a lot of the social stuff. I don't know if there's any benefit to DH of having an introverted wife :grin: but I suppose it would be exhausting even for him if I constantly wanted to talk his ear off. </p>