https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 22 Apr 2026 11:38:23 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/young-toddler-hitting#post-2851045 Sat, 13 Oct 2018 07:16:44 +0000 MrsSRS 2851045@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This technique has worked with every child I've used it on<br /> Here<br /> <a href="https://daycaredaze.wordpress.com/2005/05/19/a-matter-of-respect/" rel="nofollow">https://daycaredaze.wordpress.com/2005/05/19/a-matter-of-respect/</a><br /> And here<br /> <a href="https://daycaredaze.wordpress.com/2005/04/14/on-being-angry/" rel="nofollow">https://daycaredaze.wordpress.com/2005/04/14/on-being-angry/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/young-toddler-hitting#post-2851034 Sat, 13 Oct 2018 00:46:02 +0000 Hypatia 2851034@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe you could try saying, "No hitting," then turn away and ignore until the tantrum is over? Or if that doesn't work, have a PnP set up nearby and immediately put him in thee and ignore him until he calms down. It will show him that hitting garners a negative response and deprives him of attention and/or freedom. We did that with both our kids and they stopped doing it when it gave them zero reward. You have to endure a lot of crying in the meantime, though, when they're trying to get you to give them attention after hitting you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/young-toddler-hitting#post-2850996 Fri, 12 Oct 2018 18:15:44 +0000 smuckers 2850996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DesertDreams88: </p> [attach=8242/18/pgidy8.600x406.5541F4EA-F61A-4764-B49F-9BB123206B81.png] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/young-toddler-hitting#post-2850991 Fri, 12 Oct 2018 18:07:43 +0000 KT326 2850991@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Normal phase. The length and timing of it just depends on the kid. My toddler is 22 months now and occasionally hits, but it was really bad around 18 months. </p> <p>My 6 year old hit for a long time, from like 18 months until 4 years old. He has a lot of self control issues that we are working on and it's gotten a lot better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/young-toddler-hitting#post-2850989 Fri, 12 Oct 2018 17:34:16 +0000 pachamama 2850989@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son got into a real hitting phase from about 21 months to 27 months. It was so.embarassing. It was usually when I was around and a lot of times when he was being introduced to new kids. He was always good at daycare and stuff. I read somewhere that they don't know social norms so they use hitting as a way to get attention from other kids!<br /> He grew out of it just like everyone said he would and now he's friendly when meeting new kids! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/young-toddler-hitting#post-2850988 Fri, 12 Oct 2018 17:18:34 +0000 DesertDreams88 2850988@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>sooo.....<br /> <a href="http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/17m-nonverbal-toddler-biting-pinching-hitting" rel="nofollow">http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/17m-nonverbal-toddler-biting-pinching-hitting</a><br /> <a href="http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-hitting-newborn-advice-needed" rel="nofollow">http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-hitting-newborn-advice-needed</a><br /> <a href="http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hitting-stage-length" rel="nofollow">http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/hitting-stage-length</a><br /> <a href="http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-energy-spirited-toddlers" rel="nofollow">http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/high-energy-spirited-toddlers</a></p> <p>.....all posted by me over the course of a year. :sad: :meh: :bummed:</p> <p>ETA: On the upside, he doesn't bite or pinch anymore.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/young-toddler-hitting#post-2850985 Fri, 12 Oct 2018 16:13:29 +0000 smuckers 2850985@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DD is 16m old, and has lately been hitting when she's frustrated. She's not super verbal (but is learning a lot every day!), and is pretty strong-willed/hard to redirect.</p> <p>Generally it goes like this: Something happens that she is not a fan of (the book we've read is over, she wants to get out of her high chair,etc), she aims for/hits my face. I say "Oh DD, please use gentle hands". I take her hands and stroke my face and say "gentle hands!". She hits me as soon as I let go (even if I back up out of reach, she goes for the face). I say "DD, no hitting. Gentle hands." She hits again. I say "no hitting" firmly, then gently put her on her bottom on the floor. She usually takes a second to look at me, then fake cries (I PROMISE it is a very fake cry). Sometimes she'll lay on the ground, sometimes she'll bang her forehead on the floor a few times (literally just 2 or 3 times, has never left a mark), sometimes she gets over it on her own after a moment. While she's tantruming on the floor, I'll talk gently to her and say "I know, you're so frustrated, you want XYZ. It's ok to be mad. Mama loves you even when you're mad."</p> <p>Logically, I know she's hitting because she's having trouble communicating with us and/or is pushing boundaries. But it's to the point now where if I say "gentle" to her when she's NOT mad/frustrated (like petting one of our cats, which is a top 10 DD favorite thing), she starts hitting (usually me, usually my face) because she associates "Gentle." with when she's being reprimanded. </p> <p>Is this normal toddler stuff? Am I reacting correctly to her? Is she destined to be a cage fighter when she grows up? </p>