https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 06 Apr 2026 23:14:45 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-2-childcare-situation#post-2602590 Thu, 11 Aug 2016 13:21:01 +0000 Anagram 2602590@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: yeah, our second nanny has been amazing, so I'm glad I listened to everyone and ditched the first one. Too many red flags and although letting her go was super awkward, it had to be done. And I didn't like...fire her, I just had a conversation and said it seemed like she was having a lot of family issues and it sounded like she needed some time to deal with all of that. Time away from my kids. ;-)</p> <p>But yeah, our current nanny keeps the house spotless, takes the kids out all the time BUT sticks to their schedule (that one is important, some nannies stay out all day long, hanging out with their nanny friends and their charges), does their laundry once a week and totally puts it all away, not just washes and folds. And now we have someone we trust for date nights. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-2-childcare-situation#post-2601759 Wed, 10 Aug 2016 11:23:21 +0000 hellobeeboston 2601759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We did daycare full time for both, but have recently switched to a full time nanny (45 hours a week), and we're going to put our older son in preschool 3 days a week in the fall as well.... Having 2 now, the nanny is more affordable than just having the one, but it's still slightly more expensive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-2-childcare-situation#post-2601708 Wed, 10 Aug 2016 10:44:36 +0000 snowjewelz 2601708@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: your nanny is awesome! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-2-childcare-situation#post-2601672 Wed, 10 Aug 2016 09:46:44 +0000 QueensBee 2601672@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents are local and will watch the kids on Mondays and Tuesdays. We hired a nanny for wed-fri. DS is 3yo and he is enrolled in a nursery school from 9am-1pm four days a week so he has time outside of the house and caregivers only have to take care of baby in the mornings. It's expensive considering we have 2 days of free childcare but still cheaper than sending both to daycare for us! Plus, I have no idea how we would get two kids out of the house before our 7:10am trains into NYC... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-2-childcare-situation#post-2601650 Wed, 10 Aug 2016 09:12:18 +0000 winniebee 2601650@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Modern Daisy: once you find a great nanny, you'll be so happy! ours is amazing, does light housework, laundry, and anything to help make our lives easier. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-2-childcare-situation#post-2601649 Wed, 10 Aug 2016 09:11:34 +0000 winniebee 2601649@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: we did too! I remember your nanny drama. Ours has been with us for a year now and I'm so happy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-2-childcare-situation#post-2601648 Wed, 10 Aug 2016 09:11:10 +0000 winniebee 2601648@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I went back to work after #2, we got a nanny. I work part time and DS1 is in part time preschool (but starting 5 days in the fall). I didn't want to be bringing the kids to different places and schlepping 2 kids out of the house on my own in the morning. It's been great. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-2-childcare-situation#post-2601632 Wed, 10 Aug 2016 08:55:40 +0000 Anagram 2601632@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Modern Daisy: if you find a great nanny, you will end up loving it. We went through some drama with our first nanny that didn't work out but have been really pleased with our second nanny, who has made our lives so much easier! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-2-childcare-situation#post-2601603 Wed, 10 Aug 2016 08:23:00 +0000 ElbieKay 2601603@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not sure yet if we will have a second, but if we do then we would probably not change our son's routine. He is 2.5 and goes to school in the mornings, and then we have a mix of grandparent and sitter care in the afternoons. We would probably just replace the sitter with a nanny that would be home with the baby in the mornings and then pick up our son after school.</p> <p>In about a year, our son will be eligible for free public preschool, so that will take the sting out of the childcare costs. Even if I got pregnant today, we would only have one month of private preschool overlapping with a nanny before he would start the public program. It will still be expensive but we won't have to pay for double daycare.</p> <p>ETA: Having someone at home at least part of the time is critical for me. Our sitter does some light housekeeping and gives our son his bath and dinner. If I didn't have that support, my evenings would be insane. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-2-childcare-situation#post-2601425 Tue, 09 Aug 2016 20:27:38 +0000 maddyz 2601425@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lo2 will join lo1 with our nanny when I go back to work. Currently we nanny share with another family but they know that things will shift when I return to work. I plan on heading back with lo2 coming with me while I am still nursing often and he will sleep/play in the crib next top my desk... Lo1 did that until 6 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-2-childcare-situation#post-2601422 Tue, 09 Aug 2016 20:21:48 +0000 catomd00 2601422@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD1 went to the Inlaws 3 days a week and a SAHMs house 2 days. Our sitter has a daughter her age it was perfect. Unfortunately she just gave birth, too and 4 kiddos will be too much for her in her small home. With two, we are doing Inlaws 3 days and a nanny 1 day since I'll be going back part time. We may do 2 and 2 depending on how my Inlaws are handling it - we don't want to burn them out! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-2-childcare-situation#post-2597243 Tue, 02 Aug 2016 15:26:21 +0000 snowjewelz 2597243@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Modern Daisy: That's a good set up and kinda the best of both worlds, except I am sure it's crazy expensive! Just think it's not forever! Not forever!!! </p> <p>@FaithFertility: Of course! Since your sitter is awesome! </p> <p>@mfa_lady: Ugh yeah, I think if I don't care about the extreme price hike then it'd be easy peasy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-2-childcare-situation#post-2597240 Tue, 02 Aug 2016 15:23:44 +0000 Alba4 2597240@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: My in laws come together and will watch both boys. My mom comes alone so she will only watch 1. My older DS will be increasing to 3 days a week in daycare. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-2-childcare-situation#post-2597230 Tue, 02 Aug 2016 15:17:47 +0000 mfa_lady 2597230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ours won't change, other than being double the price. :P </p> <p>DD1 is at an in-home provider we LOVE, and DD2 will start there after my maternity leave. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-2-childcare-situation#post-2597215 Tue, 02 Aug 2016 15:03:58 +0000 FaithFertility 2597215@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I took 1/2 the school year off and G didn't start her dieters until closer to 8 months old!<br /> She is M-F 8-5ish at her sitters<br /> Days DH is off he might keep her home or pick her up resultresult<br /> When DS gets here she will continue her schedule even while I'm on leave with DH I think it will be better!<br /> I am off from his birth until Feb 21st so he will be 4 months and go full time with G!<br /> I'm comfortable with him going at 4 monthsmonths!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-2-childcare-situation#post-2597209 Tue, 02 Aug 2016 14:58:21 +0000 Modern Daisy 2597209@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've tried for years to keep lo#1 in daycare fulltime because it's cheaper and I really love daycare, but it never really worked out and was too stressful for everyone. DH and I both work demanding jobs with long hours and travel mixed in and DS was getting sent home 2-3 times per month for having a fever. We were having to hire nannies to fill in on these days because neither of us could take off work.</p> <p>Now that #2 is here we threw in the towel and are hiring a nanny. I don't like having a nanny but if we want to work this is the only option (no family is willing to help). Because I love daycare so much LO #1 will do 3 half days per week still for the learning and social interaction. It's going to be extremely expensive but hopefully stress levels will be lower with the nanny helping out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-2-childcare-situation#post-2597091 Tue, 02 Aug 2016 12:19:04 +0000 sunny 2597091@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It didn't change for us. LO1 continued at her preschool and LO2 is also in daycare. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-2-childcare-situation#post-2597088 Tue, 02 Aug 2016 12:16:44 +0000 bushelandapeck 2597088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It didn't change for us. I work part time so we have a nanny for the two days I work. She's here 6:30am-6pm M/W. I looked into in-home daycares but none had the hours I needed and it's really nice to come home and not need to rush to make dinner for the kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-2-childcare-situation#post-2597078 Tue, 02 Aug 2016 11:57:22 +0000 snowjewelz 2597078@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@KayKay: Oh yeah, that's without a question. I want to keep her routine, but during my maternity I just won't have to add hours/days just yet. I mean, the last resort which is the easiest is just to put both of them in for the exact same amount of time/days every week! But I really want to try to not spend this max amount of $ so still gonna wreck my brain some more haha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-2-childcare-situation#post-2597077 Tue, 02 Aug 2016 11:56:30 +0000 MrsKoala 2597077@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It won't change! #2 will go to the same daycare starting in January. LO1 will go to preschool in February/March so we will hopefully only have one to two months of insane daycare payments. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-2-childcare-situation#post-2597076 Tue, 02 Aug 2016 11:54:35 +0000 KayKay 2597076@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: gotcha -- i know how he feels! ;) haha.</p> <p>if financially feasible, i'd keep DD1 at school even while you're on maternity leave. i think it's great for the older one to have that consistency and their "own" thing. but if not do-able, at least you have DH &amp; family to help keep her occupied and allow her to go on special big girl outings. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-2-childcare-situation#post-2597072 Tue, 02 Aug 2016 11:45:43 +0000 snowjewelz 2597072@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@KayKay: We have time at our center... But I will be committing sooner than later. DH is already pretty run down with just 1. He is just not cut out for SAH! Plus he's gonna be crazy busy right around the time DD2 is born so I don't want to put the burden on him to watch 2 on the same schedule anymore, even if it means more $$. My mom also not available all the time, so I'm just trying to figure out what is the bare minimum we need while not burning anyone out... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-2-childcare-situation#post-2597067 Tue, 02 Aug 2016 11:36:55 +0000 KayKay 2597067@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: i'd figure it out sooner than later so that you are more likely to get spot(s) for whatever you decide. is there a reason your DH/grandma couldn't just watch 2 on the same schedule? or are you thinking that DD will want/need more stimulation (more hours at daycare)? i generally vote for convenience, so i'd try to keep DD1 and 2 on the same schedule for the most part. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-2-childcare-situation#post-2597058 Tue, 02 Aug 2016 11:22:14 +0000 snowjewelz 2597058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Alba4: Do you think grandparents/DH will be alright with the two of them? I guess if you have both parents watching 2 kids it's better than 1 grandparent! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-2-childcare-situation#post-2597055 Tue, 02 Aug 2016 11:16:53 +0000 josina 2597055@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>E luckily didn't have to start daycare till 3 months, but LO2 will probably start at 7 weeks...<br /> So glad to be at an in-home so LO2 will be with DS all day. </p> <p>Right now our schedule is M-F 7:30 to 5:30, with 2 in daycare I'd like to make that M-F 7:30 to 4 (DH gets off earlier and could pick them up sooner). That 1-1/2 hours will save us almost $150 a month. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-2-childcare-situation#post-2597050 Tue, 02 Aug 2016 11:11:44 +0000 autumnleaves 2597050@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO1 was in daycare full time before but we decided during my mat leave that DH would quit his job and go back to school eventually. So for now LO2 is staying at home with DH and LO1 goes to daycare 3 half days a week. The other 2 days LO1 stays home full time. It's gone better than expected. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-2-childcare-situation#post-2597024 Tue, 02 Aug 2016 10:36:34 +0000 Alba4 2597024@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS 1 goes to daycare 2days a week and DS2 starts going in Sept. Grandparents watch them 2 days a week and DH 1 day a week. I'm sad that I have to go back to work sooner this time around. Only 1 month left at home :crying: . </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-2-childcare-situation#post-2597018 Tue, 02 Aug 2016 10:32:44 +0000 avivoca 2597018@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>H will continue to go to daycare while I'm on leave, and then A will start daycare in January when I go back to work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-2-childcare-situation#post-2597016 Tue, 02 Aug 2016 10:31:52 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2597016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It would have gone from a nanny share situation with #1 to a nanny with 1&amp;2 if #3 hasn't come along so soon after 2. For now I'm home and will probably start with a nanny when I'm ready to go back to the office. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-2-childcare-situation#post-2597013 Tue, 02 Aug 2016 10:30:25 +0000 snowjewelz 2597013@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: I agree! I feel like I'd be ok with sending DD2 at 12 weeks or soon after this time. It would be sooo sweet if K gets to visit too! </p> <p>@Chillybear: Hmm, def decisions to be made! We're def keeping her in daycare even if it means $$$ :meh: </p> <p>@MamaG: Ah, amazing! You're at the end of the tunnel, almost! I agree; financially I just want to cry thinking about it! But it has to be done... </p>