https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 07 Apr 2026 19:44:29 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-friend-wants-to-name-their-lo-the-same-name-as-your-lo/page/3#post-1484838 Mon, 10 Mar 2014 18:31:01 +0000 skipra 1484838@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS's name is really common so I wouldn't really think much of it. The name we're thinking of for DS#2 is pretty uncommon so unless they were using it after a relative or something I might be slightly annoyed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-friend-wants-to-name-their-lo-the-same-name-as-your-lo/page/3#post-1484823 Mon, 10 Mar 2014 18:22:38 +0000 spaniellove 1484823@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: Aww, that's so good to hear that you guys talked about it and she had such a sweet response! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-friend-wants-to-name-their-lo-the-same-name-as-your-lo/page/3#post-1484793 Mon, 10 Mar 2014 18:05:43 +0000 BSB 1484793@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Update!!<br /> Now that we are proceeding with IVF next cycle, I had to chance to tell my good friend about the possibility that we might use her girl name. She knew about our fertility treatments and our move to IVF. Anyway, while she was talking about her son, who is now 6 month, I figure it was the best time to bring it up the use of name.</p> <p>She approved and said to go for it! I was kinda nervous she would be annoyed, but, I'm so glad she wasn't. She said she really thinks about us all the time and our TTC trouble and really hopes IVF works and that the name we chose is such a great name. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-friend-wants-to-name-their-lo-the-same-name-as-your-lo/page/3#post-962789 Thu, 25 Jul 2013 11:39:23 +0000 tysonja 962789@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: yayy!!! :D </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-friend-wants-to-name-their-lo-the-same-name-as-your-lo/page/3#post-962782 Thu, 25 Jul 2013 11:37:01 +0000 BSB 962782@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tequiero21: @T.H.O.U.: yay! Thank you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-friend-wants-to-name-their-lo-the-same-name-as-your-lo/page/3#post-962761 Thu, 25 Jul 2013 11:32:39 +0000 T.H.O.U. 962761@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: Yea! Glad she had a boy so crisis averted! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-friend-wants-to-name-their-lo-the-same-name-as-your-lo/page/3#post-962759 Thu, 25 Jul 2013 11:31:58 +0000 tequiero21 962759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: woooooooo hooooooooooooo! I'm so ecstatic for u! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-friend-wants-to-name-their-lo-the-same-name-as-your-lo/page/2#post-961730 Thu, 25 Jul 2013 07:40:11 +0000 BSB 961730@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsMcD: @mrskc: @Ree723: @tequiero21: @PurplePeony: @MrsCB: @Leialou: @owlmom: @LittleFox: @MrsKoala: Ok, crisis averted... For now at least. She gave birth to a baby boy. Thanks everyone! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-friend-wants-to-name-their-lo-the-same-name-as-your-lo/page/2#post-953869 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 17:31:24 +0000 BSB 953869@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrskc: Aww, thank you. I needed that virtual hug. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-friend-wants-to-name-their-lo-the-same-name-as-your-lo/page/2#post-953867 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 17:31:22 +0000 deactivated_account 953867@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: I don't think anyone has the rights to a name so I wouldn't be too bothered. She could have a boy, then its not an issue. Also, you could have a boy and, again, not an issue. Deal with it when it comes up!! I'm sure your friend won't mind. Better yet... since its the DH's that like that name, have them figure it out! :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-friend-wants-to-name-their-lo-the-same-name-as-your-lo/page/2#post-953865 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 17:30:05 +0000 BSB 953865@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ree723: thanks. You're right. Thanks for calming me down. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-friend-wants-to-name-their-lo-the-same-name-as-your-lo/page/2#post-953858 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 17:24:42 +0000 mrskc 953858@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: (hugs) I know you're not directing it at me. My DH and I tried for 7 months with 2 miscarriages and that was so hard! So I can only imagine how hard it must be for you! As far as your friend, I hope she is understanding and doesn't get upset. And if she does get upset, that's her problem! And she'll get over it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-friend-wants-to-name-their-lo-the-same-name-as-your-lo/page/2#post-953839 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 17:10:57 +0000 Ree723 953839@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: I wouldn't necessarily be thrown off by her comment about the royal baby's name. That could just be because more than likely, whatever name Kate and Wills choose is going to see a huge jump in popularity and she might not want there to be five other kids in her LO's class with the same name. </p> <p>I'd not worry about it for right now, wait until there is actually a need to have the conversation and by that point, late pregnancy/new mother hormones will have eased off and she will hopefully be more reasonable.</p> <p>Ultimately though, it comes down to the fact that it's really not that big of a deal. If she gets angry or super upset, that's her problem but no one gets to claim names to the exclusion of other people using them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-friend-wants-to-name-their-lo-the-same-name-as-your-lo/page/2#post-953786 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 16:39:20 +0000 BSB 953786@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrskc: yeah, it will be an awkward convo. I would hope she doesn't think that I'm claiming the name because we aren't bothered by other people using the name. I'm just worried about if she is bothered by it. </p> <p>Infertility does suck. We always get the rough end of the stick. I'm not directing this at you but I feel like crap. I'm so upset about this. Life is not fair and it kills me every time I see another pregnancy announcement. Ugh, just having a IF low moment where I want to banish myself from all baby news. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-friend-wants-to-name-their-lo-the-same-name-as-your-lo/page/2#post-953766 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 16:32:20 +0000 BSB 953766@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tequiero21: well right now we are in a different state but I'm job hunting now so I might be in the same state or at least a closer state.</p> <p>We are pronouncing Lana like Lah-na. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-friend-wants-to-name-their-lo-the-same-name-as-your-lo/page/2#post-953693 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 16:08:43 +0000 tequiero21 953693@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: are you living in a different state? If so, I totally think its a moot point. Cuz they won't even be seeing each other much, u know? Also, how is she pronouncing Lana? I don't pronounce it like Hannah, but pronounce it lah-na, like the tv series.... I think pronunciation differing is also a difference. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-friend-wants-to-name-their-lo-the-same-name-as-your-lo/page/2#post-953675 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 16:03:31 +0000 mrskc 953675@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: That's true. :( I guess no matter what the convo might be a little awkward. I definitely wouldn't talk to her about it while she's still pregnant and I would wait for the dust to settle after she has the baby, if you really want to talk to her about it sooner rather than later. But if she has a boy and you talk to her about it, she may see that as you "claiming" the name in a way... which I always found to be annoying. I don't know.... I think I would still wait until you know you're going to have a girl. If you become pregnant, will you be team green? And I'm sorry you have to deal with infertility. :( It must be so hard. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-friend-wants-to-name-their-lo-the-same-name-as-your-lo/page/2#post-953657 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 15:55:07 +0000 BSB 953657@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrskc: Yeah, but a part of me wonders if she has a boy, that her girl name will always be an option for any future daughters she has. Ugh, why does this have to be an issue and why does having infertility suck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-friend-wants-to-name-their-lo-the-same-name-as-your-lo/page/2#post-953651 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 15:52:41 +0000 mrskc 953651@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: I guess to me why bring up the issue before it's an issue? hey hopefully she has a boy and you don't have to worry! And I really hope you get a baby of your own real soon whether adopted or biological. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-friend-wants-to-name-their-lo-the-same-name-as-your-lo/page/2#post-953622 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 15:44:16 +0000 PurplePeony 953622@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: I wouldn't tell until you suspect it might be an issue. We're not telling our friends whose LO has the name similar to our boy name at all. If we come home from the hospital with a boy, we'll explain at that time...even if they mind, it's not going to affect our decision, so why bother opening that can of worms earlier than necessary? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-friend-wants-to-name-their-lo-the-same-name-as-your-lo/page/2#post-953531 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 15:17:01 +0000 BSB 953531@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrskc: You think telling her before I get pregnant would be a bad idea? We might start the adoption process soon, so I will have no idea how long it will be before I have a child. She knows we have been trying for a long time and maybe it will give time to get used to the idea. I guess I want her to know that we've had this name chosen for a long time now. I thought it was 2 years but DH corrected me and said it's been 4 years. DH is not at all bothered by others using the same names. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-friend-wants-to-name-their-lo-the-same-name-as-your-lo/page/2#post-953473 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 15:06:21 +0000 LuLu Mom 953473@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't be thrilled but I wouldn't say anything, not my place to dictact what they name their child! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-friend-wants-to-name-their-lo-the-same-name-as-your-lo/page/2#post-953466 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 15:05:27 +0000 mrskc 953466@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would wait to talk to her about it when it becomes an issue. Like when you get pregnant and you are having a girl. I wouldn't ask permission either. I would just say that was the name you'd always had picked out and that's what you're naming your girl. </p> <p>I wouldn't have any problems if a close friend, acquaintance, family member or anyone named their kid the same as mine. I don't own rights to his name and I think I would actually be happy that someone close to me likes the name. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-friend-wants-to-name-their-lo-the-same-name-as-your-lo/page/2#post-953431 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 14:56:52 +0000 BSB 953431@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsCB: Ah, good point on the name becoming too popular. Yeah, definitely going to wait on telling her. I'm thinking at 3 or 6 months? I live out of state so I don't think I'll see her or the baby soon, well unless I get a job interview soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-friend-wants-to-name-their-lo-the-same-name-as-your-lo/page/2#post-953410 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 14:52:35 +0000 ShootingStar 953410@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: Maybe wait until you get pregnant. At 40 weeks I bet she's not going to take it well, and she might be more reasonable once the baby's here. Like I said, I would definitely talk to her either way at some point, but maybe now isn't the best time. </p> <p>It could also be that she doesn't want the name becoming super popular and having 5 in every class. I'd be more OK with one friend naming their baby my son's name, than having a name that all of a sudden shoots up in popularity and looking like I jumped on a band wagon instead of having it picked for a long time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-friend-wants-to-name-their-lo-the-same-name-as-your-lo/page/2#post-953372 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 14:46:17 +0000 BSB 953372@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: @tequiero21: @owlmom: @MrsCB: @Leialou: @Ree723: Uh oh... is this foreshadowing of what's instore for me? My close friend posted on FB that she would be pissed if Kate Middleton names her LO the names that she has chosen. :( Not a good sign if she is worried about a very distant celebrity taking her names. </p> <p>I wonder if I should say something now but she's 40+ weeks pregnant. I'm sure she does not want to deal with it now. Need to be patient and wait it out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-friend-wants-to-name-their-lo-the-same-name-as-your-lo/page/2#post-953208 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 14:11:01 +0000 Mrsbells 953208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be okay with it in theory but I would really rather they didnt </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-friend-wants-to-name-their-lo-the-same-name-as-your-lo/page/2#post-953206 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 14:10:20 +0000 kjpugs 953206@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I said no, but it's mostly because the name we will likely use is not common. I think it depends on how close friends you are, how common the name is, and even geographic location! If you aren't in the same state or together often it's way less of a big deal. I think it's definitely more an issue with more unique names though for sure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-friend-wants-to-name-their-lo-the-same-name-as-your-lo/page/2#post-953200 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 14:08:20 +0000 BSB 953200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsKoala: Thanks. I'm hoping she has a boy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-friend-wants-to-name-their-lo-the-same-name-as-your-lo/page/2#post-952870 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 12:52:47 +0000 Caly 952870@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I honestly don't think I'd mind. If they love the name, by all means use it, won't hurt my feelings. If anything, just shows we both have good taste :happy:</p> <p>Eta: my brother &amp; cousin both have the same name &amp; it didn't cause any issues/drama...their having the same name is something that rarely crosses my mind. </p> <p>@mrsdoily Your current girl name is actually my name. Definitely don't hear it often! </p>