https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 23 Apr 2026 13:41:15 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-husbandso-as-a-parent#post-8173 Wed, 02 Nov 2011 13:35:54 +0000 mrsjyw 8173@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've seen DH with his best friend's sons and definitely see the playful dad side in him. He's got the patience to last hours with those toddler boys! DH is also the one that plays our dogs and has a lot more cuddle time with them than I do...</p> <p>But, he's definitely got a strict side though. He's the one who trained our dogs tricks and also not to be on the couches. </p> <p>I think he'll be a good balance, playful and fun most of the time, but strict when it comes to more serious things.</p> <p>We've both agreed that we'll need to exchange the bad cop/good cop roles depending on the child and the issue. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-husbandso-as-a-parent#post-2854 Fri, 07 Oct 2011 11:35:41 +0000 HabesBabe 2854@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hubs is not a "kid person" at all, so it's hard to tell what kind of parent he'll be. I think he'll be the good cop because he is a COMPLETE pushover when it comes to our dog-- he totally babies him and always gives in when he whines. I know that he wants to be really involved when it comes to sports (coaching baseball teams, etc.) and wants to put our kids into any and all local sports programs.</p> <p>I know I'll be the bad cop and will probably be more old-school (I am totally against having DVDs in the car and letting kids play with my smartphone and stuff). Of course this will probably all change once we actually become parents! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-husbandso-as-a-parent#post-2853 Fri, 07 Oct 2011 11:35:28 +0000 MaisyMay 2853@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ Mr Bee - will that be different for Baby Bee? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-husbandso-as-a-parent#post-2850 Fri, 07 Oct 2011 11:27:27 +0000 mrbee 2850@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I will be the bad cop. It doesn't hurt me when he cries. Builds character. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-husbandso-as-a-parent#post-2809 Fri, 07 Oct 2011 08:09:33 +0000 Rubies 2809@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband is definitely the "good cop" as he is absolutely smitten with our daughter. He, my nature, is a joker and goof and will probably be the type of dad Ty Burell plays in "Modern Family" - I'm sure my daughter will roll her eyes and in an exasperated tone complain to me that dad is, like, totally embarrassing her.</p> <p>As for behaviour - I think that because I have a daughter, I will have to be the parent who enforces discipline. She is already daddy's little girl and it'll be up to me to be the bad cop. My husband is less frantic than I am...When I'm freaking out about anything, he is laid back and tells me not to worry so much. We'll see in a few years, though, when his little girl wants to start wearing makeup and talking to boys. *snicker* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-husbandso-as-a-parent#post-2638 Thu, 06 Oct 2011 13:47:09 +0000 Adira 2638@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've seen how my husband is with his nephew and with my best friend's daughter, so I think I have a decent grasp on how he'll be. I think he'll be both playful (he has a lot more patience than I do), and he'll be strict. When his nephew acts up with my husband, my husband's very good about taking him out the situation, letting him know why he's being disciplined (like time-out), and making sure the time-out happens (my SIL is a total push-over and won't discipline her child at all). He's also super playful. The other day my best friend and her daughter were over, and her daughter has a HUGE crush on my husband, and so she insisted that my husband play with her, and he totally obliged while my friend and I chatted and caught up.</p> <p>I think with certain things, I'll be the stricter parent. I have higher expectations for our children and I have more limits - like I'm really against under aged drinking, having sex in high school, and smoking EVER. My husband on the other hand did all those things at one point, and since he turned out fine, he's more lenient about those things. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-husbandso-as-a-parent#post-2619 Thu, 06 Oct 2011 13:14:06 +0000 tequiero21 2619@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i've seen different sides of my husband so i'm not really sure... i guess we'll see in a few months. my husband was raised in a very very very strict home. like no presents during bdays or christmas (maybe books), no church retreats, no this, no that. so i think he'll want to be able to do some things for our kids. but he also thinks kids are so spoiled now and doesn't want to spoil our kids. he's like he was fine without them, so they'll be fine. but i celebrated EVERY bday, christmas, etc. so i want to celebrate theirs. i can't tell if he's joking or not. like when he says he wants to get our kids (twins) ONE present and they can share. i'm like NO WAY! ugh. not sure if he's just pressing my buttons or if he truly feels that way. he doesn't care (supposedly) if the kids don't love him growing up as long as they do well in life sort of mentality (like strict korean parents! ugh!). </p> <p>so in conclusion, i'll have to get back to you on this question lol. i just hope we can be our share of good cop/bad cop. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-husbandso-as-a-parent#post-2612 Thu, 06 Oct 2011 13:00:24 +0000 MaisyMay 2612@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Home with a cold too! Ugh. :P</p> <p>I know that Hubs is going to be a wonderful dad, very playful. I think that I'll have to be strict Mom, but that he'll support and reinforce what I say. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-husbandso-as-a-parent#post-2609 Thu, 06 Oct 2011 12:55:48 +0000 tessabella76 2609@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What kind of parent do you think your SO/husband will be? Or if you have a child/children already, what kind of parent are they? </p> <p>We are currently in the throes of TTC so these are things I think about, especially when I'm home sick with a bad cold. </p> <p>With our cats, my husband is the "Good Cop". Meaning, he sneaks them people food, lets them jump on furniture they shouldn't, and more or less lets them take over our very small full sized bed. It's a long story, but about 5 weeks ago we ended up with a litter of kittens. DH fusses of those kittens like a mama bear. They make the littlest peep and he's checking on them to make sure they are ok. He's already told me that when we have a baby, he's installing a video monitor with a screen in the ceiling above our bed so he can keep an eye on the baby!</p> <p>So all this leads me to believe that he's going to be the Nice Dad and I'm going to have to be the Strict Mom. I'm hoping for some balance-I'd like to be the Fun Mom sometimes! But if they way he interacts with our neices and nephews is any indication-I really think he'll be a great dad.</p> <p>So, after a long winded post-is your SO the parent you thought they'd be? Are how we treat our pets any indication of how we raise are children? How do you grow into your roles as a parent-is an easy, organic thing or blood, sweat, and tears? </p>