https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 23 May 2026 18:45:52 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-mom-vs-you/page/2#post-2427696 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 14:12:10 +0000 Torchwood 2427696@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In a way? She worked super full time when I was growing up (parents divorced when I was 5). But she didn't go back to work for the first year and would have vastly preferred to be a SAHM. I'm a SAHM, so I'm doing what she wanted to, even if it's not what she did. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-mom-vs-you/page/2#post-2427535 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 12:39:32 +0000 ottilie 2427535@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom worked. I currently stay home but would like to work eventually, when I'm done having kids. For us right now, it's cheaper for me to stay home than to pay for daycare, so it's mostly finance driven. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-mom-vs-you/page/2#post-2427518 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 12:28:43 +0000 Mrs. Pen 2427518@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom has always been a SAHM. She homeschooled us as well. There was one time in our lives she took a part-time receptionist job, I was 14. But it didn't last long. </p> <p>I'm the female trailblazer in my family- the only one who wants to work and puts their child in daycare. Both my sisters are SAHMs. They weren't super supportive of me at first, but in the past two years have kind of come around. I do think they're at least proud of my hard work and the career I did choose. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-mom-vs-you/page/2#post-2427506 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 12:18:33 +0000 looch 2427506@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know how to classify my mom, when I was in high school, she worked a few hours a week teaching adult education language lessons. Then she decided to become a kindergarten aide, she retired after 17 years there recently.</p> <p>I have worked full time since I graduated college, with the exception of 2 years I took off following the birth of my son. My mom totally gets it though, she is the one that convinced me to try going back to work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-mom-vs-you/page/2#post-2427504 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 12:16:30 +0000 Rocker2014 2427504@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom SAH, she hasn't had a job since I've been alive. I'm a very happy WOHM, and I'm sure there's a connection. My mom was great, and I have loads of positive memories from my childhood, but from a young age I was also very aware that my mom pretty much can't function without my dad (there are other issues in her life), and certainly could never support herself if he was gone. I've always been very independent, and always wanted to be sure that I could take care of myself and my family no matter what situation we found ourselves in.</p> <p>LO is in a center, and we are all very happy with that. No family members live close enough for a grandmacare option. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-mom-vs-you/page/2#post-2427388 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 10:54:15 +0000 sapphire 2427388@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom stayed home until I was in elementary school and then she started working at my elementary school so she would have the same hours, summers off, etc. Later in elementary school she started working for a friend over the summer - I think for a couple of years. Said friend had a nanny for her girls (who were my best friends) so I had a part-time summer nanny. </p> <p>I work full time outside of the home and LO goes to a center based daycare. I don't see myself ever staying home except on maternity leave and LOs will probably always go to daycare until school age and then we'll have to do some kind of after school program. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-mom-vs-you/page/2#post-2427338 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 10:13:51 +0000 dagret 2427338@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom did it all. She WOHM'd until I was 6. Sometimes we had a babysitter, sometimes we had family care, and we went to one center (my favorite of all the options.) Then she SAHM'd until I was about 14 and we were old enough to take care of ourselves/start dinner,etc. Honestly, I saw how unhappy she was as a SAHM and it probably helped cement my belief that WOHM is the best for our family. We have used a center and a family friend for daycare. We prefer the center. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-mom-vs-you/page/2#post-2427325 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 10:05:11 +0000 psw27 2427325@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom was a SAH and I WOH full time. LO goes to daycare. I think my mom had a few random jobs when I was little, one of which she split with her friend so I think I was at her friend's house for those hours. I would like to work fewer days, just so the weeks aren't such a grind but I don't see that happening. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-mom-vs-you/page/2#post-2427314 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 09:57:52 +0000 ElbieKay 2427314@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MenagerieMama: I'm glad it's not just me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-mom-vs-you/page/2#post-2427133 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 08:37:22 +0000 californiadreams 2427133@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents owned a business together so my mom stayed home when we were little. She also did some work from home. And when I was a bit older, I remember having a nanny. I never went to daycare. Now I'm a WOHM and after my year long mat leave we had a nanny until 20 months and then he has been in daycare since. I'll be off for another year next month when DS2 gets here and will keep DS1 only part time in preschool. And then I plan to go back part time to work for a few years. Hopefully until DS2 is in kindergarten. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-mom-vs-you/page/2#post-2427114 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 08:17:11 +0000 BandDmommy 2427114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I was really little she stayed home and she hated it, the minute she could she got a job and put me in daycare. With my brother she was a single mother, so only option was daycare. I tried to be a SAHM and I hated it. I now work from home and my kids go to daycare. My dad was military and he was gone 6 months, home 6 months until I was in high school and then he started working a corporate job. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-mom-vs-you/page/2#post-2427112 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 08:16:03 +0000 ms.line 2427112@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom WOH full time, so I went to a daycare center and then after-school care until I became a latch-key kid around age 7-8. My LO will also go to a daycare center/after-school care. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-mom-vs-you#post-2427092 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 07:48:23 +0000 PrincessBaby 2427092@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom WOH and we were in daycare until I was "old enough" to keep my younger brother and sister after we got out of school. I am 6 years older than my sister and 7 years older than my brother, and I'm pretty sure that once they were in Kindergarten and 1st grade, I was babysitting them at 11 or 12 until my parents got home from work. Which sounds insanely young to be responsible for 2 wild animals, but it's what happened.</p> <p>I WOH super full time, and we have a nanny in addition to my oldest DD attending a private preK program 3 days a week. I'm not opposed to daycare, but just due to our hectic work schedules, it makes life so much easier right now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-mom-vs-you#post-2427080 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 07:35:22 +0000 Ajsmommy 2427080@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom SAHM, I am WOHM due to necessity. If our lifestyle/income allowed I'd surely SAH but alas it doesn't so I must pull in the dough... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-mom-vs-you#post-2427076 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 07:31:53 +0000 MrsSRS 2427076@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. My mom took us to work with her and did part time preschool when we were 2 or 3. Same here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-mom-vs-you#post-2427056 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 06:42:30 +0000 hellobeeboston 2427056@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes &amp; no. </p> <p>My mom stayed home with me and my sister until I was 6ish? She stated a business with her friends that took off;which basically formed during play dates (amazing) and when they moved into a larger office they had a room for kids so I would go there after school, etc. then she started a second career &amp; got MBA. </p> <p>I work full time and have continued to do so. I would love to have a few years to take off to be with my kids, but A. We can't afford that, and B, my career would suffer too much to leave for that long I think. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-mom-vs-you#post-2427050 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 06:27:21 +0000 ValentineMommy 2427050@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom was a SAHM for a few years, then she went back to full time WOHM. I'm a WOHM as well, but I have more working at home than she did. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-mom-vs-you#post-2427036 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 06:14:51 +0000 FaithFertility 2427036@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom.WOH until my 2nd sister and then became a SAHM and still is you can say<br /> I WOH but would be a SAHM if possible!</p> <p>I don't think her choice has anything to do with mine!<br /> There are other things that she did as a mother that I do duento what I learned/took away from her! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-mom-vs-you#post-2427007 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 04:24:19 +0000 LindsayLou 2427007@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom did a mix of staying home and working part time. My dad worked full time, and when my mom was working, they worked opposite shifts for the most part. </p> <p>I'm staying home and working super part time--one day a week--and my husband is working full time. It's working for us, and we'll continue this way so long as it does. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-mom-vs-you#post-2426993 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 01:57:10 +0000 sandy 2426993@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom WOH and I SAH. Growing up I had a combo of grandma care and a babysitter that was a neighbor. By the time I was in 4th grade I was fully a latch key kid. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-mom-vs-you#post-2426948 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 00:11:25 +0000 sera_87 2426948@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mom was a fierce WOH. </p> <p>I'm a not so fierce WOH 😂 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-mom-vs-you#post-2426946 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 00:10:42 +0000 bisous 2426946@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom SAH til I was 8 and I WOH. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-mom-vs-you#post-2426938 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 00:03:33 +0000 Mrs.KMM 2426938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom was a SAHM and so am I! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-mom-vs-you#post-2426055 Mon, 18 Jan 2016 13:42:32 +0000 MK0180 2426055@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not really - my mom worked sporadically or part-time so I either had babysitters or went to a center every so often. It wasn't very consistent but it didn't bother me. </p> <p>I work full-time so DS has a mixture of daycare and SIL and my mom to watch him. throughout the work week. I would love to stay home or work part-time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-mom-vs-you#post-2426047 Mon, 18 Jan 2016 13:38:37 +0000 Kemma 2426047@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My Mum gave up working full time when my older brother was born so she was predominately a SAHM but she gave piano lessons from home and had a few casual jobs that she did on an as required basis. Both my parents held various volunteer positions throughout my childhood and as I get older I find myself drawn down a similar path (eg I'm a SAHM and I'm the treasurer/ admin person for our local playgroup). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-mom-vs-you#post-2426045 Mon, 18 Jan 2016 13:37:18 +0000 rachiecakes 2426045@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom SAH and I WOH.<br /> My mom is an introvert and we never had playgroups, play dates. I remember being really lonely and when I started kindergarten everyone already knew each other from preschool. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-mom-vs-you#post-2426040 Mon, 18 Jan 2016 13:31:37 +0000 chopsuey 2426040@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom WOH. I SAH. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-mom-vs-you#post-2426027 Mon, 18 Jan 2016 13:24:24 +0000 fussygal 2426027@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom was a SAHM the first 6 months or so and then when she started working I went to various in-home daycares. Once I started school I went to an in-home daycare until about 6th grade when I was able to talk her into letting me be home after school on my own (I think it helped ease her mind that our babysitter was just down the street).</p> <p>I WFH and my mom watches DD at our house while I work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-mom-vs-you#post-2425912 Mon, 18 Jan 2016 12:17:54 +0000 autumnleaves 2425912@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom was a SAHM till I was in middle school. SAH is not a choice for me so I WOH. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-mom-vs-you#post-2425907 Mon, 18 Jan 2016 12:16:49 +0000 MenagerieMama 2425907@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ElbieKay: me too! I'm glad I'm not the only one that has that caused issues. It doesn't help that my parents divorced soon after I went to college so my mom needed much more of an identity (see also: job for income!) and now I think she exacerbates me more than she would otherwise. My mom was a SAHM and worked a little (only during school hours) once we were in school. I WOH now 3 d/wk and LO is in daycare those days. We had a nanny until my schedule was more regular. I think having an identity outside of "mom" (though I dearly love that part of myself!) is soooo important. Plus I worked my butt off for my profession and still have the loans to pay off :silly:</p> <p>ETA: that being said, I don't think I suffered from being at home. Though I'll always wonder if I would be less introverted if I had more socialization earlier. I was too shy to do even overnight camps as a kid. I definitely did appreciate not having to take the bus and be able to do after school activities without limitations. And my summers we could do what we wanted without having to be in a camp. But i do feel like the socialization (other than the mommy/me type classes) would have been really helpful for my personality. </p>