https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 14 May 2026 00:55:05 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-parents-in-the-future#post-118083 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 12:14:41 +0000 heffalump 118083@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom told me she's not going to give me a hard time when it's time for them to go to assisted living/nursing home. My grandma stayed in her home for so much longer than she should have when she needed help, and she refused to move. Drove my mom nuts! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-parents-in-the-future#post-117835 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 09:24:03 +0000 chopsuey 117835@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Both sets of parents have plans and savings/funds for the future.. :T I don't like thinking about my parents growing old though! : </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-parents-in-the-future#post-117830 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 09:20:49 +0000 volksgirl64 117830@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH already had to deal with that as his dad has a stroke some years ago and is now in assisted living. As an only child, he is the executor of his estate/has power of attorney. His mom is quite healthy and independent but we haven't had that talk yet. Again, as the only child I expect that DH &amp; I will be figuring things out when the time comes.<br /> On the other hand, I'm one of 5 but the only girl. My mom passed but my dad is only 55 so we don't expect to have that talk for some time now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-parents-in-the-future#post-117824 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 09:17:41 +0000 regberadaisy 117824@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know honestly. How do you bring something like that up???<br /> I know that my mom does NOT want to be put into a nursing home. She expects to be at the kids homes and we are all fine with that.</p> <p>My ILs I highly highly doubt would want to be put into a home. I honestly think with them their care would lie in my husband and I's hands. There's only one BIL left and he's kinda of selfish sometimes. So I'm glad that the ILs will be moving back soon because of the fact that when they are older we can take care of them properly. I would imagine when they get older we would want to have some kind of aide come by daily to help them. I do not think they would want to move in with us but would want the independence of living by themselves. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-parents-in-the-future#post-117819 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 09:14:48 +0000 yoursilverlining 117819@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Within the next 5-7 years, we will have to sit down and speak with our parents about this issue, and also start to legally plan for the future (i.e., putting their homes in our names in the correct time periods so they will qualify for state medicare coverage, etc.).</p> <p>My grandmother’s nursing home bill is almost 7k A MONTH, for a shared room in a place that is no palace. My parents don’t have that kind of savings.</p> <p>We will be advocating for my parents to sell their large home and move to a condo or small home near us so we can provide some care. I don’t count on my brother being in a position emotionally or financially to take care of my parents. My husband is an only child, so we will also be the ones providing any care for MIL. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-parents-in-the-future#post-117811 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 09:09:54 +0000 Alivoo01 117811@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haven't thought about this, and it makes me extremely sad to do so. I know it's something we need to prepare for. Thankfully, both of our parents are healthy and strong right now. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-parents-in-the-future#post-117711 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 07:43:19 +0000 Grace 117711@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My dad has told us from an early age that he expects to rotate between his daughter's houses. I balked at that when I was younger, but after having seen my grandfather in a nursing hone (mom's dad), I don't think I could put a parent there. It was so depressing and awful. And ultimately he died after breaking his hip when he fell out of bed after the nurses forgot to put up the side rail.</p> <p>Having said that, I am not ok with able-to-live-on-their-own parents moving in with us! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-parents-in-the-future#post-117681 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 05:16:28 +0000 SugarplumsMom 117681@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom has said numerous times while growing up that she doesn't want to burden us with caring for her, but I'm not exactly sure how that'll fare out once the time comes. Thankfully she's very independent and surrounded with friends, plus she's super healthy, so hopefully it'll be awhile before we have to give it much thought.</p> <p>As for my in-laws, they're also independent and do everything together. They're very healthy as well, but I honestly don't know how it would be if something were to happen to one of them.Hopefully nothing like that eve happens. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-parents-in-the-future#post-117673 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 04:37:08 +0000 mediagirl 117673@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thankfully our parents are and have planned for this on their own. I don't look forward to that day. :-( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-parents-in-the-future#post-117643 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 00:49:03 +0000 ALittleP 117643@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We don't have a plan but it's something we're thinking of more and more as my husband's mom was diagnosed with early Alzheimer's late last year. We're currently trying to find her some support care, etc. and figure out legal/financial issues. It's hard to start this process at this age - though we are slightly older (me 36 and he 43). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-parents-in-the-future#post-117630 Tue, 10 Apr 2012 23:59:20 +0000 autumnlove 117630@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you (and your siblings, husband) have a plan for helping or caring for your elderly parents in the future? This is definitely something I don't want to think about yet! :-( </p>