https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 19 May 2026 07:57:07 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-relationship-with-your-mom#post-397147 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 13:12:09 +0000 Mrs. Train 397147@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our relationship is fine. I had c sections so my mom wasn't in the room with me. My sister has also had c sections so my mom hasn't been in the room for any of the births. To be honest I don't know that it bothers her that much. She was at The hospital so she got to see the babies go to the nursery and see me in recovery. It's never been an issue. </p> <p>I think it's kind of wired to say you robbed her of the birthing experience. Wasn't her birthing experience when she had you? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-relationship-with-your-mom#post-397138 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 13:05:11 +0000 mrsjazz 397138@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tororojo: Originally she was going to be there for everything, but we had to transfer to the hospital and I had a C-section. My doula was there for everything and she has an issue with why the doula got to be there but she didn't.</p> <p>@ValentineMommy: Yeah, I thought our relationship had gotten stronger when I got pregnant, but it took a major turn after LO was here. I don't think it will happen for you!</p> <p>@Mrsbells: My mom and I have strong personalities, too. I trust her with LO, but she does feel like I shoot down some of her suggestions--and I have shot them down when they were unsafe for LO. Sometimes she forgets that it's been a long time since she had a baby and recommendations have changed! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-relationship-with-your-mom#post-397109 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 12:58:14 +0000 chopsuey 397109@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That really stinks.. :T<br /> My mom and I have always had a great relationship. I think it's gotten better since I had Lo. I appreciate my mom more now and understand her better too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-relationship-with-your-mom#post-397105 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 12:56:09 +0000 Mrsbells 397105@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry to hear that. I remember your previous post about your mom wanting your LO to stay with her. I wonder why she is putting you in the position to always have to say no to her</p> <p>With my mom its gotten better I think. We do both have strong personalities, so sometiems she irritates me mildly with things. But overall I have come to respect her so much more, now that I knowhow hard motherhood is, I also value her advice and she provides child care for us when LO is sick and cant go to daycare. Sometimes she makes mistakes like vigorously shaking my bottle of breastmilk, but I understand some things are new to her since she didnt breastfeed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-relationship-with-your-mom#post-397102 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 12:55:07 +0000 ValentineMommy 397102@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our LO isn't here yet, but since becoming preg (I'm 27w now), my relationship has only gotten stronger with my mom (and it was strong to begin with). I hope it continues to go well, and not take a downturn after our DS is here! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-relationship-with-your-mom#post-397098 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 12:53:57 +0000 tororojo 397098@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She says you robbed her of the birthing experience...meaning you didn't want her there for the birth and she's indignant about it? That's seems crazy! Who you want there for the birth is 100% up to you; no one has the "right" to be present unless they're one of the 2 parents (though if you choose to give someone the privilege of being there, that's great). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-relationship-with-your-mom#post-397093 Wed, 14 Nov 2012 12:51:13 +0000 mrsjazz 397093@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel like since giving birth my relationship has gotten worse with my mom. We've been clashing on her having alone time with LO (LO is breastfed and mom lives a bit far, we told her she can take her once she's a bit older &amp; weaned) and I recently found out she feels like I robbed her of the birthing experience. I really feel like she's made every decision that DH and I have decided together about her. I've tried to talk to her about it but it ends up with her crying.</p> <p>I don't understand how after you have a baby it's like mom goes crazy. I don't want to be like that.</p> <p>Has your relationship with your mother gotten better, worse, or stayed the same since having kids? </p>