https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 12 Apr 2026 06:14:52 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-so-and-pornography/page/3#post-1341697 Mon, 13 Jan 2014 11:29:35 +0000 psw27 1341697@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no idea if DH looks at it. In 7+ years I've never even thought about whether he does or doesn't... so I guess it doesn't really bother me since its never affected our relationship. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-so-and-pornography/page/3#post-1341666 Mon, 13 Jan 2014 11:22:24 +0000 mrsjyw 1341666@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i don't mind it, but dh isn't into it either </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-so-and-pornography/page/3#post-1340606 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 22:20:12 +0000 IRunForFun 1340606@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sarac: Very well-said. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-so-and-pornography/page/3#post-1340601 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 22:18:48 +0000 IRunForFun 1340601@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Doesn't bother me in the least. I know he looks at it sometimes and as long as it doesn't affect our sex life, it's no skin off my back. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-so-and-pornography/page/3#post-1340537 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 22:00:26 +0000 Vegmama 1340537@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He doesn't. Not sure I would really care though. I guess I'm glad he doesn't watch/look at it ... But yeah, not an issue here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-so-and-pornography/page/3#post-1340485 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 21:41:52 +0000 travelgirl1 1340485@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Doesn't bother me at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-so-and-pornography/page/3#post-1340401 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 21:04:36 +0000 mrskc 1340401@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't mind and I know he looks at it. My only thing is I don't want to see him looking at it. We both have desktops in our office and I got tired of glancing at his computer and seeing him perusing his daily porn sites so I just ask that he doesn't look at it while I'm in the room. It doesn't affect our relationship or sex life so I'm ok with it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-so-and-pornography/page/3#post-1340391 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 21:00:16 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 1340391@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@photojane: Same here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-so-and-pornography/page/3#post-1340224 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 19:56:34 +0000 Snowdrop 1340224@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH isn't the type really. Though i did discover his teenage stash when we cleared is parents house out hehehe. He got well ribbed for some of the titles. I have watched it but i find it more funny than sexy im afraid. Especially those with 'story' lines. It would upset me if i was in a relationship with someone who let it affect our own sex lives. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-so-and-pornography/page/3#post-1340178 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 19:41:17 +0000 chibee 1340178@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't mind at all - it doesn't affect our marriage whatsoever. I'll be honest, when ttc got hard, it has helped. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-so-and-pornography/page/3#post-1340134 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 19:23:19 +0000 MamaChin 1340134@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Doesn't bother me, it's something we've each enjoyed solo and together. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-so-and-pornography/page/3#post-1340050 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 18:28:02 +0000 mrsjazz 1340050@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm only uncomfortable with it when/if it affects our sex life. I've been in 3 serious relationships where my partners have watched porn. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-so-and-pornography/page/3#post-1340012 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 18:02:56 +0000 anandam 1340012@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with @meredithNYC that this is a little tricky because I feel like the whole world is pornographic half the time. A morning commute on the subway can be pretty graphic. A memory of an ex can be pretty distracting.</p> <p>We're very open about the ongoing daily struggle of keeping our erotic selves focused on one another and avoiding indulgence in fantasies of other people. This includes avoiding pornography, but is hardly limited to that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-so-and-pornography/page/3#post-1338243 Sat, 11 Jan 2014 18:12:24 +0000 night cheese 1338243@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It doesn't bother me at all. I've watched it with him a few times. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-so-and-pornography/page/3#post-1338205 Sat, 11 Jan 2014 17:47:49 +0000 dagret 1338205@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He does. I don't care as long as he clears his cache (like bookish I don't want it coming up) and doesn't leave it up on the tablet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-so-and-pornography/page/3#post-1338089 Sat, 11 Jan 2014 16:46:01 +0000 loveisstrange 1338089@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH watches. I know he does. He doesn't hide it. I've seen his considerable stash on a folder on his harddrive clearly labeled as such. Lol</p> <p>Whatever. I still get laid, so I don't really care. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-so-and-pornography/page/3#post-1337251 Sat, 11 Jan 2014 05:35:54 +0000 SugarplumsMom 1337251@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Greentea: Well put.</p> <p>Eta: I had an ex that was really into it and would hide it - I was against it. DH was never into it, which is perfectly fine with me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-so-and-pornography/page/3#post-1337244 Sat, 11 Jan 2014 04:45:15 +0000 Mrs. J 1337244@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not on board with it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-so-and-pornography/page/2#post-1337238 Sat, 11 Jan 2014 03:56:53 +0000 erinpye 1337238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am sure DH looked at it occasionally before we were together, and I have no idea if he does now, although I'm not sure when he'd have time. It wouldn't bother me if he still did occasionally. I could ask him about it and he'd tell me, but it just doesn't worry me. If it was something taking away from our own intimacy or taking him away from family time, that would be a different story. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-so-and-pornography/page/2#post-1337234 Sat, 11 Jan 2014 02:56:54 +0000 Bookish 1337234@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Eh, I used to be a lot more upset about it than I am now, due to an ex that had a pron addiction. With DH I don't care as long as he clears his internet history (no, I don't snoop, but I'd prefer that youpron not come up when I'm looking for something else!)</p> <p>It's honestly something I'm trying hard not to be as prudish about now that our sex life has tanked. Like others said, sometimes I just want to sleep at night! ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-so-and-pornography/page/2#post-1337184 Sat, 11 Jan 2014 00:42:45 +0000 Crisark 1337184@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>None issue, we've watched it together. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-so-and-pornography/page/2#post-1337163 Sat, 11 Jan 2014 00:08:11 +0000 sarac 1337163@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No issue. If it interfered with our sex life, our life, our partnership, then no. But it doesn't. We view porn as a fun thing to do alone (or potentially together) that just adds to our sense of relationship satisfaction. And, I appreciate that he has other outlets when I'm not feeling into it for whatever reason. </p> <p>I firmly believe, though, that a person's sexuality belongs to them - not to their spouse. This is something I share with him, and that our marriage requires to be happy and healthy, and for which we have agreed upon limits. But it belongs to him, and mine to me. I would not think to interfere with what he did (alone), in his own time. Nor would he. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-so-and-pornography/page/2#post-1337153 Fri, 10 Jan 2014 23:52:07 +0000 luckypenny 1337153@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wonderstruck: haha my thoughts exactly </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-so-and-pornography/page/2#post-1337101 Fri, 10 Jan 2014 23:04:48 +0000 wonderstruck 1337101@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babyjmama: Bahaha your last sentence is totally me! While I don't really like the idea of DH looking at porn, when I'm exhausted and he's trying to get something started (especially when I was pregnant and never in the mood) sometimes I would even say, "OMG can you just go watch some porn and take care of yourself?!"</p> <p>I'm surprised to see so many say it's not allowed in their house or that their husband never does it...surveys say 99% of guys do, so either we have a very select small part of the population on HB or these husbands are doing a good job at keeping it a secret! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-so-and-pornography/page/2#post-1337090 Fri, 10 Jan 2014 22:51:41 +0000 Bao 1337090@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Doesn't bother me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-so-and-pornography/page/2#post-1337088 Fri, 10 Jan 2014 22:46:39 +0000 .twist. 1337088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Doesn't bother me. He did it before me and I won't make him stop. He has also always had a much higher libido than me and I can't keep up with his drive. </p> <p>It doesn't affect our marriage, our sex life or our finances so I am ok with it. It makes me giggle so I can't watch it. Lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-so-and-pornography/page/2#post-1337079 Fri, 10 Jan 2014 22:39:37 +0000 Mrs.Panda 1337079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't mind it. We've watched it together. Meh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-so-and-pornography/page/2#post-1337048 Fri, 10 Jan 2014 22:23:40 +0000 PointeShoesTutus 1337048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know he does but it doesn't bother me. I just don't care to know, really. It doesn't cause any problems in our marriage so I don't have an issue with it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-so-and-pornography/page/2#post-1336963 Fri, 10 Jan 2014 21:29:31 +0000 heartonastring 1336963@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Non-issue.</p> <p>@pui: They aren't mutually exclusive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-so-and-pornography/page/2#post-1336865 Fri, 10 Jan 2014 20:00:42 +0000 cyan 1336865@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It wouldn't bother me. That being said, if he does, he at least keeps it private. And I like it that way. </p> <p>So I guess my stance is... I don't mind it, but I don't really care to know about it. </p>