https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 27 Apr 2026 00:59:44 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-take-on-what-i-saw-at-dcp-not-los-class#post-2739770 Wed, 24 May 2017 21:47:31 +0000 DesertDreams88 2739770@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think some people are equating "loud admonishment" with yelling, and some people aren't. I didn't, with my response. </p> <p>However, your follow-up post makes it seem that this is an ongoing issue. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-take-on-what-i-saw-at-dcp-not-los-class#post-2739737 Wed, 24 May 2017 18:57:46 +0000 youboots 2739737@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DesertDreams88: I agree. If parents are walking through often it sounds like something that was caught out of context or in passing. If it's a regular occurrence (other than just having a loud voice) it may be something to address.</p> <p>Is there only one teacher and a few kids in this room? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-take-on-what-i-saw-at-dcp-not-los-class#post-2739668 Wed, 24 May 2017 15:20:51 +0000 gingerbebe 2739668@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: Is she in a class where kids are potty training (i.e. like a 3 year old class) where potty stuff is more prevalent? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-take-on-what-i-saw-at-dcp-not-los-class#post-2739663 Wed, 24 May 2017 15:16:20 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2739663@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ok, I'm convinced this could be totally unrelated to potty training and the child could have unintentionally naughty. At the same time if it were my son like @gingerbebe: put it I would not be happy with the reaction/ discipline.</p> <p>@PawPrints: if there are at least three kids in the class with her 9/10 times she's excessively loud and barking orders IMO. </p> <p>Eventhough the open potty door is normal, seems to be something off with this class room. It could just be the teacher invites attention because she is so loud, but I swear I have never walked in on potty breaks in the other class I have to walk through to get to hers and then to my son's. I see kids all the times in states of undress in the loud teacher's class room. It's like potty breaks spill out into the main room. Normal too? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-take-on-what-i-saw-at-dcp-not-los-class#post-2739654 Wed, 24 May 2017 14:50:55 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2739654@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I definitely agree with @gingerbebe: @PawPrints: there are some times when a stronger reprimand could potentially be called for, but for the most part, you shouldn't see a daycare teacher yelling at the kid, no matter how frustrating changing their clothes may be! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-take-on-what-i-saw-at-dcp-not-los-class#post-2739643 Wed, 24 May 2017 14:15:17 +0000 PawPrints 2739643@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"Unrelated, sort of, whenever I walk through these two class rooms I just know this one will be an assault on my ears and it's not from the kids"</p> <p>Are you saying every time you walk through that classroom, you hear teachers yelling?</p> <p>I'm going to disagree with most of the commenters. I think yelling at toddlers is a huge deal and should be a significant cause for alarm. If it were my kid in that classroom, I would absolutely want to know that was going on. I understand caring for a room of toddlers is an incredibly taxing job and if it were one time that would be different. But it sounds like you're saying this is a consistent pattern. I would say something to the director, just be nice and deferential about and clarify you're hoping the director could have a positive constructive conversation with the teacher about ways to keep her cool when she gets stressed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-take-on-what-i-saw-at-dcp-not-los-class#post-2739619 Wed, 24 May 2017 13:41:20 +0000 gingerbebe 2739619@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The open door thing with another child is a safety issue so its not a big deal.</p> <p>I don't have a problem telling my daycare "I observed this happen to another child and it made me uncomfortable because if it happened to my son I would be concerned. However, I don't know the context at all, so can you look into it and let me know if everything was okay?" </p> <p>My son is notorious for splashing in water. Last Friday, they were painting on the concrete with water and he just dumped water all over himself right before DH picked him up. So the teacher had to go through an entire outfit change plus a diaper change with a bunch of kids milling around her and talking nonsense at her. She did not raise her voice at my son, my husband observed the entire thing, and while he could tell she was hard sighing at the situation, she maintained her cool. Even though we know its annoying that our kid splashes in water, it was a hot day and neither of us would have been okay if the teacher had raised her voice at him and we would have said so. </p> <p>If, however, my son got wet because he was splashing in the toilet, I would probably be okay with some admonishing because its gross and a health/safety issue. Neither my husband nor I would have much of an issue with that and we've definitely raised our voice at our kids when they dive into the toilet and require us to completely disinfect them and the bathroom. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-take-on-what-i-saw-at-dcp-not-los-class#post-2739570 Wed, 24 May 2017 12:28:15 +0000 Mrs D 2739570@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I witnessed a similar instance at our daycare. I was not overly familiar with the teacher so I had no "gut instinct" to follow in this case. I brought up the incident with the director who "investigated" it and came back to me with the details of what happened (minus kids names). She also pointed out that she concluded nothing wrong happened but she had given the teacher some input on her tone with the kids. She also informed me that the child I saw in tears is a "very emotional" child who does frequently cry quite easily. Not that she was dismissing it - but that it was important to know that to understand the situation. I think bringing the observation up is always ok.</p> <p>Now, with regard to this situation - I have to raise my voice with DD1 often bc her friends and her play in the sinks at school - these are in the bathroom with the doors always open (no closed doors in her classroom - there is a half wall partition for the one toilet in each bathroom). The kids have also been reprimanded several times for playing in the toilet and putting things in the toilet. So just because it occurred in the bathroom I can see many cases where it may not have been about potty training. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-take-on-what-i-saw-at-dcp-not-los-class#post-2739517 Wed, 24 May 2017 10:14:38 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2739517@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Agree with others above. </p> <p>Unless this became a weekly occurrence that you heard this teacher constantly using a loud voice with students I wouldn't address it until it impacts you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-take-on-what-i-saw-at-dcp-not-los-class#post-2739511 Wed, 24 May 2017 10:02:38 +0000 DesertDreams88 2739511@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sounds normal to me. Maybe as a teacher and childcare provider for the past 10 years, I err on the side of leeway and grace, especially at the end of the day. Currently this is a one-time situation. File it away in your memory, and if more things occur, then it's a pattern you could discuss with admin.</p> <p>Also, at the 2 daycares I worked for, bathroom doors had to be open for accountability (no adult alone with kids being semi-undressed.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-take-on-what-i-saw-at-dcp-not-los-class#post-2739508 Wed, 24 May 2017 09:52:56 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2739508@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It would bug me for a potty accident but not for a playing in the water thing especially not knowing the back story.</p> <p>Some people also just generally are loud when they talk.. so it's hard for me to judge just because she was scolding a kid. Maybe she's loud all the time. </p> <p>I tend to give teachers the benefit of the doubt especially at the end of the day and during hectic times. </p> <p>Oh and the door open thing (or a very short but teachers can see over it door) sounds totally normal. They have to maintain ratios. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-take-on-what-i-saw-at-dcp-not-los-class#post-2739421 Wed, 24 May 2017 07:57:45 +0000 lamariniere 2739421@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: hmm... if it's becoming a pattern, maybe it's something you could bring up with daycare management. Also, are you friendly with any other parents? Maybe you could discuss with them to see if they have noticed anything similar. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-take-on-what-i-saw-at-dcp-not-los-class#post-2739403 Wed, 24 May 2017 07:17:59 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2739403@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lamariniere: Very true. I couldn't pick out this child again even if I tried to see if this is a pattern or not.</p> <p>Unrelated, sort of, whenever I walk through these two class rooms I just know this one will be an assault on my ears and it's not from the kids. :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-take-on-what-i-saw-at-dcp-not-los-class#post-2739402 Wed, 24 May 2017 07:15:34 +0000 KayKay 2739402@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All within the range of normal, I think.</p> <p>I agree that I'd prefer the daycare not have a policy of allowing "loud admonishment" as a discipline strategy (or as something any teacher routinely does!), but I'd give the teacher the benefit of the doubt in this instance. It was the end of the day when patience is probably wearing thin, you've only seen it happen once, and it doesn't sound like it was necessarily inappropriate words (shaming, etc). Teachers are human too :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-take-on-what-i-saw-at-dcp-not-los-class#post-2739398 Wed, 24 May 2017 07:07:56 +0000 lamariniere 2739398@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I do understand your concern, and what you described does sound a bit aggressive. But without knowing exactly what went down, it's hard to make a call. What if this is the 3rd day in a row the kid has played with the water and gotten wet (or something like that), and she's annoyed that she has to clean him up again? Daycare teachers are saints, and I am grateful that there are professionals out there who enjoy working with little kids, but they probably lose their cool now and again too, and we could probably cut them some slack. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-take-on-what-i-saw-at-dcp-not-los-class#post-2739395 Wed, 24 May 2017 07:00:18 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2739395@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lamariniere: I'm not sure how he got wet. The director says she trains staff to repeat the positive behaviors they want to see. So in a case a kid plays in the toilet I would expect to hear, "the toilet is for potty. We sit on the toilet. Hands are for high-fives" or something like that. Not what I heard, which is "ugh, look at you, you're wet all over" etc. </p> <p>Idk, I feel like the teacher was louder than she needed to be with the little boy since she was in such close proximity to him- literally holding one of his arms while she was taking inventory of the wet spots. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-take-on-what-i-saw-at-dcp-not-los-class#post-2739388 Wed, 24 May 2017 06:49:48 +0000 ShootingStar 2739388@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>IDK, I'm uncomfortable with a teacher "loudly admonishing" in almost any circumstance. There used to be a preschool teacher at my daycare who made me uncomfortable because I caught her a few times yelling really loudly at the kids. Luckily she ended up deciding to leave. </p> <p>But at home I save yelling for truly dangerous behaviors. Getting clothes wet either from playing or from a potty accident doesn't seem appropriate to yell for. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-take-on-what-i-saw-at-dcp-not-los-class#post-2739385 Wed, 24 May 2017 06:37:27 +0000 SweetiePie 2739385@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Agree with above (don't have daycare experience but have preschool which is similar).<br /> Also, I believe multiple kids going to the bathroom and keeping door open is standard. 1) they learn by seeing each other 2) it would be endless if they took one at a time 3) the door stays open so they can see the kids in the classroom and I believe it's also so that an adult isn't alone with a kid in a bathroom (prevent accusations/incidents). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-take-on-what-i-saw-at-dcp-not-los-class#post-2739382 Wed, 24 May 2017 06:03:25 +0000 Adira 2739382@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lamariniere: Totally agree.</p> <p>You just never know what the situation is and I try to give people the benefit of the doubt. No teacher wants witnesses when they are disciplining or scolding a child, even if it's totally warranted. I would assume the child in question did something intentional to deserve the scolding. Daycare teachers have a lot of experience with potty training and would be pretty understanding of accidents, I assume. I know ours was! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-take-on-what-i-saw-at-dcp-not-los-class#post-2739381 Wed, 24 May 2017 05:57:51 +0000 lamariniere 2739381@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Are you sure he had an accident? It almost sounds to my like he got his clothes wet because he was playing in the water. To me, there would be a big difference between admonishing him for playing in the water and shaming him for an accident. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/your-take-on-what-i-saw-at-dcp-not-los-class#post-2739380 Wed, 24 May 2017 05:54:48 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2739380@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I picked up LO early for DCP and to get to his class I have to walk through two other classes. The classrooms have kiddie bathrooms and the teachers help the kids use them. One teacher was loudly admonishing a little boy for getting his clothes all wet. She looked uncomfortable that a parent walked in while this exchange was going on. I haven't potty trained LO or any child for that matter so I don't know if pointing out disappointingly that a kid either didn't make it to the toilet in time, had bad aim or somehow otherwise got wet is the right way to train. She seemed frustrated she would have to clean him up and change him. Also, in this class room they always have the door open and at least two kids being helped at the same time. Maybe it's so the teacher can awlays see the rest of the class or something? </p> <p>What do you think of what I saw? </p>