https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 17 Apr 2026 15:52:24 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-going-to-spoil-him-in-reference-to-my-2-week-old/page/2#post-280580 Mon, 03 Sep 2012 12:59:39 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 280580@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i don't think up to 3 months is considered spoiling. newborns need to be held. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-going-to-spoil-him-in-reference-to-my-2-week-old/page/2#post-280561 Mon, 03 Sep 2012 12:40:23 +0000 googly-eyes 280561@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrBee Yah I realized that after the fact! Haha. I wonder what they consider "spoiled" baby though? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-going-to-spoil-him-in-reference-to-my-2-week-old/page/2#post-280083 Sun, 02 Sep 2012 21:24:40 +0000 mrbee 280083@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@googly-eyes: yah was differentiating pediatric nurses from baby nurses.</p> <p>Baby nurses often spend 20 hours a day with one baby for weeks or months in a row, and live with you and sleep in the same room as your baby. Pediatric nurses will usually rotate between a number of babies. They have vastly more medical knowledge, but when it comes to something like the impact of holding a baby... I have learned to listen to a baby nurse's experience! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-going-to-spoil-him-in-reference-to-my-2-week-old#post-280078 Sun, 02 Sep 2012 21:18:38 +0000 googly-eyes 280078@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrbee Lol I was talking about pediatric nurses. But it's also been the leaning of many child development courses I've taken. I guess it comes down to the word "spoiled" being sort of relative too...we may not all agree on what constitutes spoiled, especially in babies. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-going-to-spoil-him-in-reference-to-my-2-week-old#post-280072 Sun, 02 Sep 2012 21:13:19 +0000 mrbee 280072@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@googly-eyes: baby nurses have a lot more experience with babies that are a bit older. They're not always right, but I've come to trust them on certain topics like this one!</p> <p>I agree with a lot of the comments above. You can't spoil a baby but you can develop habits and condition them. That said, I think snuggles are wonderful for bonding so I'm a big fan! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-going-to-spoil-him-in-reference-to-my-2-week-old#post-280066 Sun, 02 Sep 2012 21:07:24 +0000 googly-eyes 280066@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrBee Maybe older babies, but not newborns...that's according to several nurses at our hospital. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-going-to-spoil-him-in-reference-to-my-2-week-old#post-279768 Sun, 02 Sep 2012 13:36:34 +0000 loveisstrange 279768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that different people do things differently and all babies need different things. My daughter is very independent and hasn't liked to be held a lot from the very beginning. She's happy as a clam in my lap doing her own thing, but she will not let me snuggle/cradle her. She gets fussy and we lay her down somewhere and she will stop. She just wants to be on her own sometimes.</p> <p>Some babies need the security of being close to a parent. Some want to be held and cuddled. I think it all comes down to personality.</p> <p>Personally... I don't think you can spoil a newborn but I do think that you can encourage bad habits. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-going-to-spoil-him-in-reference-to-my-2-week-old#post-279765 Sun, 02 Sep 2012 13:33:52 +0000 mrbee 279765@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you ask any baby nurse, they will tell you that babies can be spoiled by holding. I trust them, since they have experience with hundreds of newborns!</p> <p>That said, I don't think it's bad if you're ok with it! I wish I had held our babies more! Delayed my bonding... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-going-to-spoil-him-in-reference-to-my-2-week-old#post-279760 Sun, 02 Sep 2012 13:29:05 +0000 banana 279760@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, you can't spoil a newborn! My husband and I were just talking about this the other night. We both realized that babies really don't truly know their surroundings until around 3 months of age. So we decided that from birth to 3 months, we'll do whatever it takes for the baby and for us to get a good night's rest. We're currently co-sleeping with my daughter and it's AWESOME. She's 5 weeks old and is sleeping 6 hours at night. No way am I changing that for anything in the world! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-going-to-spoil-him-in-reference-to-my-2-week-old#post-279758 Sun, 02 Sep 2012 13:27:03 +0000 kml636 279758@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've always heard you CAN'T until they are about three months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-going-to-spoil-him-in-reference-to-my-2-week-old#post-277876 Fri, 31 Aug 2012 09:05:25 +0000 Weagle 277876@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hold/wear that baby! Can't spoil them. Do you know any 30 year olds that need their mom to hold them because they were "spoiled" at 2 weeks? No. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-going-to-spoil-him-in-reference-to-my-2-week-old#post-277487 Fri, 31 Aug 2012 00:53:37 +0000 googly-eyes 277487@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, uh, no you CAN'T. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-going-to-spoil-him-in-reference-to-my-2-week-old#post-277430 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 23:26:52 +0000 Chastenet 277430@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with everyone else you can't spoil a newborn! Your baby lives in the moment and doesn't remember that you were already holding him 10 min ago let alone 2 hous ago! Hold your little men as much as you want/need/can! And don't listen to unconstructive comments. On a side note my mil told me I should put my 1 wk old in the living room to let her CIO so I could get sleep - ridiculous! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-going-to-spoil-him-in-reference-to-my-2-week-old#post-277411 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 23:02:39 +0000 skibobrown 277411@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1st 3 months of baby's life = the 4th trimester. This means that baby is adjusting to life outside of the womb, and if they need to be rocked and held a lot, to make them feel secure like being in the womb... then go for it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-going-to-spoil-him-in-reference-to-my-2-week-old#post-277306 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 21:49:41 +0000 MamaCate 277306@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you got lots of good advice from pps and I want to echo that you absolutely cannot spoil a baby...while there is debate about if the age at which you are at risk of spoiling is 6-12 mos, you are clearly a long way from there.</p> <p>I also wanted to say that my LO sounds like your fussier one--we held her or wore her for almost all naps for most of the first three months, and were gradually able to transition her to napping lying down. So it is possible and you will be able to do it when your LO is ready! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-going-to-spoil-him-in-reference-to-my-2-week-old#post-277172 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 20:50:18 +0000 Shimmer 277172@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ree723: He will go to sleep in the swing or bouncy seat as well, but when he is inconsolable, he prefers to be worn or held. I think we have hit a growth spurt because the breastfeeding demand for both has been out of control! I'm sleep deprived and stressed, so hearing from my stepmom that I'm spoiling him in the times where he is finally settled in the k'tan or my arms was distressing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-going-to-spoil-him-in-reference-to-my-2-week-old#post-277142 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 20:37:56 +0000 cyndistar3 277142@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At 2 weeks I don't know that either of my lo's had been put down for more than it took to change her! I see nothing wrong with it :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-going-to-spoil-him-in-reference-to-my-2-week-old#post-277109 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 20:24:20 +0000 blackbird 277109@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What a crazy notion. You can't spoil a newborn. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-going-to-spoil-him-in-reference-to-my-2-week-old#post-277085 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 20:14:51 +0000 Rubies 277085@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>YOU CAN'T. OMG, your babies are only weeks old! You do whatever you need to do!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-going-to-spoil-him-in-reference-to-my-2-week-old#post-277082 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 20:13:40 +0000 ohapostrophe 277082@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. Even if you wore him 12 hours a day that's HALF the time he's used to being "held"! I wouldn't give it a second thought until at least 3 months! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-going-to-spoil-him-in-reference-to-my-2-week-old#post-277080 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 20:13:06 +0000 rachiecakes 277080@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>no way! I snuggled my LO at every opportunity, rocked and nursed him to sleep and he's the most independent little 8 month old ever! he likes to play with his toys on his own, falls asleep no problem, etc </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-going-to-spoil-him-in-reference-to-my-2-week-old#post-277062 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 20:06:42 +0000 bpcmarj 277062@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You can not spoil a newborn. When they are wailing, it's because they are stressed that you are not there letting them.know everything is ok. To me, there is nothing better in this wprld thsn knowing that (most of the time) all my baby girl needs is for me to pick her up to make her happy and feel secure! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-going-to-spoil-him-in-reference-to-my-2-week-old#post-277034 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 19:54:57 +0000 Mrs. Train 277034@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope I say hold them all you want. My twins were colicky and the only thing that soothe them was me walking or nursing them. We had no problem getting them in their cribs later. People told me that all the time and I ignored them. At that young they don't need to self soothe. So snuggle and cuddle away momma </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-going-to-spoil-him-in-reference-to-my-2-week-old#post-277032 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 19:54:09 +0000 Mrs. Pen 277032@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsMini: yup! that's how we did it too.</p> <p>I will tell you one thing @shimmer... you will never ever everr regret holding your baby. Never. </p> <p>My aunt told me she regrets not holding her now 8 year old daughter when she was little. She said she needed it but she listened to other people, books and drs that she was spoiling her daughter and that she had to just keep her in her crib. That was the advice she gave me, hold your baby all the time, as much as you can - because you never get the time back. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-going-to-spoil-him-in-reference-to-my-2-week-old#post-277026 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 19:50:14 +0000 MsMini 277026@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, you can't spoil a newborn. That is ridiculous! I held Sawyer constantly for the first 10 weeks of his life, he seriously didn't nap anywhere but snuggled up with me. At about 10 weeks I started working on transitioning him to the crib for naps, and he naps awesome there now. He is just secure and happy. Not spoiled in the least. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-going-to-spoil-him-in-reference-to-my-2-week-old#post-277020 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 19:47:59 +0000 JennyD 277020@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with everyone else! We did the same with our LO and at 7 months, I feel like we're already reaping the rewards of "being attached". In my opinion, you'll know when he's capable of handling things himself, and you'll stop "spoiling" him then! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-going-to-spoil-him-in-reference-to-my-2-week-old#post-277001 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 19:42:17 +0000 Minnie_Girl 277001@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LOL. I think your stepmom's response actually proved your point! "You can spoil your kids. Just wait..." ...Until they're several years older! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-going-to-spoil-him-in-reference-to-my-2-week-old#post-276995 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 19:40:21 +0000 prettylizy 276995@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm with @Coco Bee: we had similar starts and LO now naps, sleeps and plays very well ( most of the time!lol!) love and cuddle as much as you want, it's just the best </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-going-to-spoil-him-in-reference-to-my-2-week-old#post-276982 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 19:36:50 +0000 meredithNYC 276982@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ree723: I agree - it's not so much spoiling as it is getting the baby used to certain behaviors. And even so, you are the parent and the choice is yours, so if you disagree with your stepmom, then definitely don't let her opinion make you second-guess yourself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-going-to-spoil-him-in-reference-to-my-2-week-old#post-276977 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 19:35:14 +0000 lemondrop 276977@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For the first few months, babies have absolutely no clue what is going on except for right at that exact moment- no way can you spoil them! </p>