https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 07 Apr 2026 07:48:34 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-huge#post-301868 Wed, 19 Sep 2012 23:08:11 +0000 singingbee 301868@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In a Stephanie Tanner voice, "How rude!!". I think you look gorgeous! </p> <p>I did have a friend, that when told she looked huge, she replied, "Thank you", and then asked when they were due. : / That seemed to shut them up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-huge#post-301831 Wed, 19 Sep 2012 21:44:31 +0000 stargal 301831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>urgh people cna be so so rude! ive seen your bump pictures, oyu look fantastic and not any bit "huge". i use to get it all the time.... i legit. had so many people ask me if i was having twins then when i siad no they woud scream (literally scream!) "omg your huge!" or they would ask if i was due anyday (When i still had 3 months to go!) lol.....my absolute favorite was when i was 7 months a NURSE said to me "my daughter loooked liek you right before she had her baby and you still have a while to go!" gee, thanks.<br /> hope these stories make you feel better :) people suck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-huge#post-301787 Wed, 19 Sep 2012 20:50:27 +0000 Periwinkle 301787@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can totally understand how this makes you feel-- happened to me today, too! Not such a great feeling when we're already feeling so big! I imagine that people who say it mean it as a compliment but when it's something that's on our minds already, not the biggest help, people! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-huge#post-301780 Wed, 19 Sep 2012 20:30:27 +0000 DillonLion 301780@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Trailmix: Don't feel bad! Apparently even "you look great" has hurt someone's feelings according to this thread, so you never know what is going to set someone off. I think I just need to work on not being so dang sensitive about stuff like this :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-huge#post-301778 Wed, 19 Sep 2012 20:28:09 +0000 Trailmix 301778@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm totally guilty of this :( I guess I just always assumed it was a good thing because it means you're growing a healthy baby! I never ever thought it would be offensive, ooops! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-huge#post-301706 Wed, 19 Sep 2012 19:27:08 +0000 jedeve 301706@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know I've said it before pre-pregnancy. But I think I meant as it you were very not huge before, and now you're obviously a healthy beautiful pregnant lady!</p> <p>You are SO right about not commenting on other people's bodies. For whatever reason, people feel like it's OK to talk about mine since I am (was!) smaller. Lots of stuff like "well you were probably underweight before you were pregnant" (WTF? no!) and also lots of "you don't look pregnant, just like you've gained weight." </p> <p>People can be self conscious about their body for many reasons, so just shut it and say they're pretty! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-huge#post-301696 Wed, 19 Sep 2012 19:14:57 +0000 Magilnyc 301696@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I was about 32 weeks, a coworker looked at my belly and said "holy sh!t, do you have a 2 year old in there?" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-huge#post-301652 Wed, 19 Sep 2012 18:26:02 +0000 1000tulip 301652@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel your pain too! The 1st thing my mom said to me when I walked into her house last weekend was "wow I can't believe how much bigger you look since last week" I was pissed. We are supposed to be gaining weight and getting bigger. How else will the baby grow???<br /> I may slap the first person to tell me I look like I am going to pop...I have been warning my friends and family to not even go there lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-huge#post-301614 Wed, 19 Sep 2012 17:17:50 +0000 chopsuey 301614@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got those comments all the time. Hahah I gained over 50 lbs though so I felt huge!<br /> Lots of people asked if I was having twins too.<br /> My response. "no, just ate a lot and got fat!" :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-huge#post-301596 Wed, 19 Sep 2012 17:05:25 +0000 ohemgee 301596@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know how you feel! I see my in-laws every weekend for dinner. Recently my MIL keeps asking me if I'm overweight! She goes you are so big I worry about you. I assured her I only gained 17lbs so far and I'm in the correct range . I'm only 27 weeks along! What is she going to say when I'm full term? !? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-huge#post-301443 Wed, 19 Sep 2012 14:49:12 +0000 Running Elley 301443@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@highwire: Ugh that is so rude :( I don't think people will ever get it. Fwiw I really do think you look great. I'd never have guessed that about your weight gain from your bump pictures!</p> <p>@Mrs Green Grass: I COMPLETELY agree. I have a hard time when people tell me that I'm looking good in person (I don't mind when people on the internet do because I know that there's no reason to patronize me on here haha). I just want to shout "Liar!!!!" at them because, even though I'm obviously so thankful that my body is doing it's job to grow my baby healthy etc, my body image has really gone down the drain with pregnancy </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-huge#post-301438 Wed, 19 Sep 2012 14:45:01 +0000 aprk 301438@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry about that - don't let it get you down!</p> <p>Personally, I think that sometimes non-pregnant people, or those who haven't been around pregnant people much, are just shocked to see a normally developing pregnant woman, and just blurt stuff out. Or, sometimes people are just rude. And/or ignorant of how it all works.</p> <p>Either way, tell them back "Thanks. I have a perfectly sized baby house going on right now." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-huge#post-301428 Wed, 19 Sep 2012 14:36:58 +0000 megjay18 301428@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i've been getting this too - i'm 29 weeks! i'm not really offended by people's comments, more just shocked that they feel the need to point out to me, a stranger, how giant i am. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-huge#post-301409 Wed, 19 Sep 2012 14:26:08 +0000 hilsy85 301409@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@highwire: ha seriously! I really don't get it! I'm going to start saying, "And how much do YOU weigh now?" when I get asked the question. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-huge#post-301406 Wed, 19 Sep 2012 14:25:26 +0000 DillonLion 301406@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: I had a friend straight up ask me exactly how much I weigh right now. I refused to tell her. And then we sat there in silence for a minute or two. Awkward. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-huge#post-301405 Wed, 19 Sep 2012 14:25:19 +0000 mrsjyw 301405@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>UGH, so rude!!</p> <p>You look amazing!!! :) Don't fret, but def with you on the unnecessary comments... I think we are "there" although it still bothers me that ppl make any sort of judgmental comments to us without thinking!</p> <p>HUGGGGS&lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-huge#post-301402 Wed, 19 Sep 2012 14:24:05 +0000 yoursilverlining 301402@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs Green Grass: yes, what you said exactly!! </p> <p>My mom told me numerous times that she had never seen someone at __ months along look so huge!! :/ </p> <p>Yeah, I was huge, but I didn't need to hear it. Of course, I also hated the "you look so great!" compliments too. I gained a ton of weight and did not look great. Haha, I was a crabby preggie. Hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-huge#post-301393 Wed, 19 Sep 2012 14:17:02 +0000 hilsy85 301393@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also don't get why people think it's ok to ask how much weight we've gained! It annoys me every single time it happens. Grr! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-huge#post-301391 Wed, 19 Sep 2012 14:16:19 +0000 littlebug 301391@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had someone the other day tell me I look like I'm ready to pop. I'm 23 weeks. Thanks, Jerk.</p> <p>I don't understand what it is about pregnant women that makes people completely lose their filters. Just because we're pregnant doesn't mean we feel any better about our bodies getting bigger. An expanding waistline is an expanding waistline! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-huge#post-301370 Wed, 19 Sep 2012 13:59:38 +0000 twinmama 301370@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my dad asked me on the phone one day if I still fit through the doorway because I was so wide. my dad is like the nicest guy ever, so i was too dumbfounded to be offended! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-huge#post-301355 Wed, 19 Sep 2012 13:49:14 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 301355@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rachiecakes: lol...man people are so odd.</p> <p>1- you don't look huge<br /> 2- People told me that around 30w as well. I think because of the growth spurt around that time. Now at 36w, the growing belly has tapered off and people stopped commenting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-huge#post-301343 Wed, 19 Sep 2012 13:43:05 +0000 rachiecakes 301343@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>not cool.<br /> if it makes you feel better, when I was checking in to be induced the girl at the front desk asked if I was having twins. and think, she checks in pregnant ladies every day, haha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-huge#post-301341 Wed, 19 Sep 2012 13:42:44 +0000 autumnlove 301341@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry, people can be so inconsiderate. My mom is the worst offender when it comes to lame comments about my weight and pregnancy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-huge#post-301336 Wed, 19 Sep 2012 13:39:11 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 301336@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh. I don't think anyone realizes that pregnancy is hard for body image. Not everyone naturally just enjoys "the beautiful experience." I even have a hard time just saying thanks when people tell me my belly is cute! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-huge#post-301318 Wed, 19 Sep 2012 13:30:11 +0000 Smurfette 301318@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry :( People are so rude. I don't know when it became ok for people to think that they can just say whatever they are think. There are times when you keep quiet!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-huge#post-301317 Wed, 19 Sep 2012 13:30:06 +0000 Mrs.B 301317@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel your pain. The other day our elderly neighbor told me I was getting "fat". Her exact comment was "your getting fat girl"! When is that ever ok to say to a pregnant lady! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-huge#post-301311 Wed, 19 Sep 2012 13:28:02 +0000 DillonLion 301311@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess I've reached that lovely stage in pregnancy. Two days in a row people have specifically wanted to have an entire conversation with me about how huge I am. Not just one sentence. A whole conversation. I realize this may probably be some sort of off-handed compliment, but goodness. No one wants to be told this, myself included! </p> <p>Yesterday it was my mom, so I was able to immediately express that I didn't appreciate being spoken to that way and to not make comments like that to me ever again. Today it was someone down in the hall in the office building I work at, so I didn't really want to be rude/short with her about it so I just smiled and nodded along as she went on about how she can't believe I still have two more months to go, she got super huge with her baby just like I am right now, etc. </p> <p>Sigh. I really try to be a good cheerleader and encourage people to not dwell on comments like these when other pregnancy women are bombarded by them, but it is hard to extend myself the same courtesy I guess. I'm just kind of bummed out about it. It is also combined with the fact that my third trimester weight gain has been nuts (I've gained 15 lbs in 6 weeks). My doctor isn't concerned (thank goodness) but I've gained so much weight lately that I really don't need anyone commenting specifically on it, while I sit here and balloon uncontrollably. </p> <p>I just will never understand how anyone thinks it is okay to comment so specifically on another woman's body. I would never, in a million years, ever tell a woman (pregnant or not) anything other then "YOU LOOK GREAT!". That's all. There's not much else that can be said because telling someone they are too big OR too small can hurt someone's feelings/stress them out unnecessarily. </p> <p>Phew. Thanks for listening to my rant. </p>