https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 08 May 2026 13:04:24 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-invited-to-thanksgiving-dinner-do-you-bring-anything#post-1212259 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 21:00:24 +0000 Boogs 1212259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Anytime I'm invited for anything I bring something. I think it's rude to show up empty handed. Unless you show up early to at least help, then you earn some help back. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-invited-to-thanksgiving-dinner-do-you-bring-anything#post-1212255 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 20:57:43 +0000 regberadaisy 1212255@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would never ever show up to someone's house for dinner and bring nothing. Especially not for Thanksgiving! That's just rude. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-invited-to-thanksgiving-dinner-do-you-bring-anything#post-1212214 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 20:37:18 +0000 chrispygal 1212214@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would never dream of not bringing anything. Wine, dessert, appetizer - something. If anything I over-bring. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-invited-to-thanksgiving-dinner-do-you-bring-anything#post-1212139 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 20:00:15 +0000 psw27 1212139@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Def rude! hat is wrong with these people? At least bring a bottle of wine or flowers.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-invited-to-thanksgiving-dinner-do-you-bring-anything#post-1212080 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 19:20:10 +0000 shinymama 1212080@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you substitute cousins for your mother's siblings, it's my Thanksgiving every year. I host so that my {65+} parents don't have to, and they show up empty-handed, eat everything, and are the first to claim leftovers. Beyond frustrating.</p> <p>Last year my sister finally got fed up and sent out a mass text to everyone saying that I had a new baby and couldn't handle everything, so she assigned them each something! I freaking :heart: her! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-invited-to-thanksgiving-dinner-do-you-bring-anything#post-1212030 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 18:45:42 +0000 chopsuey 1212030@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We used to always host Thanksgiving for my family and my aunts would each bring a dish or dessert! I think it's rude that your aunts come empty handed.. :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-invited-to-thanksgiving-dinner-do-you-bring-anything#post-1212029 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 18:45:01 +0000 blackbird 1212029@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Offer and then bring wine or flowers. </p> <p>Or do all the dishes :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-invited-to-thanksgiving-dinner-do-you-bring-anything#post-1212015 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 18:31:57 +0000 yoursilverlining 1212015@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always bring a bottle of wine to any dinner I am invited to. </p> <p>I don't think it's necessarily rude not to bring food; my mom does ALL the Thanksgiving cooking, and she wants it that way. She would be put-out if people showed up with sides, rolls, dessert, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-invited-to-thanksgiving-dinner-do-you-bring-anything#post-1212014 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 18:29:44 +0000 Smurfette 1212014@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would offer and then reoffer! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-invited-to-thanksgiving-dinner-do-you-bring-anything#post-1212010 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 18:28:48 +0000 Corduroy 1212010@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TurtleDoves: I raised to only ask if you could bring something if you're attending a potluck. If you wanted to bring something you brought a hostess gift. If you wanted to help you came over early without the kids. In my family/friend groups things have changed with this generation and now I always offer to bring something wherever I go but maybe that's where they are coming from. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-invited-to-thanksgiving-dinner-do-you-bring-anything#post-1212000 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 18:19:52 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1212000@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TurtleDoves: I always offer but I'm not the best cook so no one takes me up on it :) I set the table, help clean up and do dishes instead. </p> <p>One of my moms sisters is like your aunts! She is always late and never pitches in for anything. She always asks my mom to make a pot of coffee after dinner... And always waits to ask while we are in the middle of dishes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-invited-to-thanksgiving-dinner-do-you-bring-anything#post-1211990 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 18:12:34 +0000 sandy 1211990@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That is so rude! I would never attend a dinner and ask what I can bring. If the host insists on nothing I at least bring a bottle of wine or chocolates in a gift bag with a thank you note attached. I would never just bring a random dish either...that is just weird. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-invited-to-thanksgiving-dinner-do-you-bring-anything#post-1211980 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 18:05:24 +0000 Purpledaisy 1211980@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always offer to bring a dessert and am always taken up on the offer! I think it's rude to not at least offer to bring something! And even if my offer was declined I would still bring a bottle of wine or something. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-invited-to-thanksgiving-dinner-do-you-bring-anything#post-1211978 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 18:04:52 +0000 Running Elley 1211978@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always offer to bring something- even if its just an extra dessert or rolls! I think it's extremely rude to never offer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-invited-to-thanksgiving-dinner-do-you-bring-anything#post-1211969 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 17:59:21 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 1211969@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would always offer to bring something. If my request was denied, I would probably take flowers or something for the hosts. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-invited-to-thanksgiving-dinner-do-you-bring-anything#post-1211956 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 17:51:35 +0000 Mae 1211956@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That is totally rude! I would always offer to bring something. A side dish and/or dessert or a bottle of wine or SOMETHING </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-invited-to-thanksgiving-dinner-do-you-bring-anything#post-1211951 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 17:48:58 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1211951@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: lol! That is asking too much of these folks. Baby steps..... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-invited-to-thanksgiving-dinner-do-you-bring-anything#post-1211940 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 17:39:17 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1211940@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TurtleDoves: yes! especially if the bouquet came in its own vase so the hostess didn't have to stop what she was doing to find a vase, trim the stems and fill the water. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-invited-to-thanksgiving-dinner-do-you-bring-anything#post-1211936 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 17:37:37 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1211936@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swurlygurl: lol, it's like sparkling cider and they drink it in flute glass ;) They are teenagers. And no, my mom doesn't enjoy all the work, but my husband and I and my sister and dad all help her out....while my aunts sit there playing with the dogs :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-invited-to-thanksgiving-dinner-do-you-bring-anything#post-1211933 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 17:36:31 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1211933@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I get this. I'd be irritated if someone bought food and they had not discussed it with me. But, I know my mom wouldn't mind a bouquet of roses for hosting dinner 5 years in a row. Ya know?</p> <p>@LuLu Mom: I am this way too. But, my mom told me to just let it be. She doesn't want them to think she needs them to do anything and she isn't bothered by what they are doing. But then again, she has always spoiled her siblings and they never deserved it. They are all adults who act like children. It is super annoying. My mom won't let me hold them accountable because their mom died 5 years ago and bla bla bla. </p> <p>I'm glad you ladies are seeing my point of view! I thought I was just being too anal. I am not asking that they bring anything, but at least offer to help by setting the table or acting like this is a family event. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-invited-to-thanksgiving-dinner-do-you-bring-anything#post-1211921 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 17:30:24 +0000 swurlygurl 1211921@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TurtleDoves: Alcohol free wine... grape juice?? Hahaha, juuust kidding ;)</p> <p>It is a bit crazy to not even offer. I sure hope your mom likes doing all that work! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-invited-to-thanksgiving-dinner-do-you-bring-anything#post-1211918 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 17:28:19 +0000 lovehoneybee 1211918@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I couldn't imagine not bringing something, or at least offering to bring something. Even when I've been told to just bring myself I bring a bottle or two of wine and/or some good coffee and offer my hands. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-invited-to-thanksgiving-dinner-do-you-bring-anything#post-1211917 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 17:27:20 +0000 LuLu Mom 1211917@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow, that is ridiculous, if it were me (I'm my momma's protector at times) I would sent out a FB message and be like "hey lets help mom out this year for Thanksgiving...who wants to bring what?" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-invited-to-thanksgiving-dinner-do-you-bring-anything#post-1211915 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 17:26:40 +0000 MrsRcCar 1211915@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We host it with my folks. (I mean we live with them) My in laws come over and always bring something as well as help clean up. My in laws arrive early to help set up dinner and generally stay late I can't imagine just showing up for the meal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-invited-to-thanksgiving-dinner-do-you-bring-anything#post-1211914 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 17:26:35 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 1211914@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always bring something. Even if they say no, we always grab at least a bottle of wine or flowers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-invited-to-thanksgiving-dinner-do-you-bring-anything#post-1211911 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 17:25:31 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1211911@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For me, I would be less than gracious if someone brought an unwelcomed drink, dish or dessert because I have planned out everything. It's one thing to offer and bring what the hosts requests. This year I am working on letting go, but last year my MIL brought a side dish I chose not to serve. </p> <p>When we have gone to other's home we are asked to bring wine or beer and do so. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-invited-to-thanksgiving-dinner-do-you-bring-anything#post-1211908 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 17:25:05 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 1211908@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's common courtesy to at least offer! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-invited-to-thanksgiving-dinner-do-you-bring-anything#post-1211906 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 17:24:25 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 1211906@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You aren't crazy. It's rude to not offer to bring something! Even if I was told not to bring a dish I would still show up with a bottle of wine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-invited-to-thanksgiving-dinner-do-you-bring-anything#post-1211902 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 17:22:48 +0000 Boheme 1211902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's pretty uncool. I travel 6 hours to Thanksgiving at my grandmother's house every year, and I STILL offer to bring something, even though she always turns me down. I'd feel bad if I didn't at least show up with drinks, or a little hostess gift for my grandmother. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-invited-to-thanksgiving-dinner-do-you-bring-anything#post-1211901 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 17:22:13 +0000 mrsjazz 1211901@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They are the craycray ones here, not you! I always bring something, even if the host tells me not to. When my Mom hosts I don't bring anything because she enforces slave labor once I arrive. </p>