https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 06 May 2026 07:41:44 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-so-lucky-to-not-have-kids#post-559759 Mon, 11 Feb 2013 09:37:38 +0000 Suzimo 559759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My favorite is when my pregnant friends complain about being pregnant to me. Almost as if trying to comfort me like " Your lucky you aren't pregnant".These are friends who know I am struggling with infertility! It really makes you think about the people you want to spend time with. I thought informing close friends of my infertility struggles would help me to avoid hurtful comments, but unfortunately that hasn't always been the case. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-so-lucky-to-not-have-kids#post-559600 Mon, 11 Feb 2013 04:29:31 +0000 Mrs. Polish 559600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hear it a lot from my coworkers. Pisses me off every time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-so-lucky-to-not-have-kids#post-559599 Mon, 11 Feb 2013 04:28:14 +0000 anonysquire 559599@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TurtleDoves: yes! I am confident I could still enjoy my husband and our marriage with a baby. And when people tell me to travel, umm since I don't fly anymore I don't think it would be a problem taking baby on a road trip. Obviously I am wanting to have kids or I wouldn't be trying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-so-lucky-to-not-have-kids#post-559505 Sun, 10 Feb 2013 22:37:22 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 559505@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is so sad on so many levels<br /> 1-it's so inconsiderate to you! In sorry:(<br /> 2-as a mom, I can't imagine thinking this of my child...even on the days he drives me nuts!<br /> 3-enjoy your marriage? Um? We have a child and we still enjoy our marriage. It's sad to think that some people think having kids is a death sentence.<br /> Ugh! I'm so sorry for you having to hear this stuff </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-so-lucky-to-not-have-kids#post-559459 Sun, 10 Feb 2013 21:45:30 +0000 anonysquire 559459@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Lindsay05: lol I can agree to that. Oh and same name and spelling! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-so-lucky-to-not-have-kids#post-559456 Sun, 10 Feb 2013 21:44:59 +0000 anonysquire 559456@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It just makes me a lot more aware of how hurtful some comments can be! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-so-lucky-to-not-have-kids#post-559454 Sun, 10 Feb 2013 21:44:01 +0000 Lindsay05 559454@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>*Pow* to the kisser. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-so-lucky-to-not-have-kids#post-559436 Sun, 10 Feb 2013 21:22:03 +0000 kjpugs 559436@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I get a few friends with kids saying "oh just enjoy the time you have together, it's not all it's cracked up to be" and then complain... when I was TTC it drove me nuts, especially since some of those ppl were TTC for a while and had fertility issues... how quickly we forget! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-so-lucky-to-not-have-kids#post-559432 Sun, 10 Feb 2013 21:19:53 +0000 KT326 559432@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh one of my friends would say this and she knew about our infertility struggles! People just don't think before they speak. It sucks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-so-lucky-to-not-have-kids#post-559400 Sun, 10 Feb 2013 20:56:55 +0000 Sugar.Biscuit 559400@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I get comments like that all the time. There is a girl at work who got pregnant right after her abortion. She is so bitter about it &amp; always tells me not to have any kids or have more then one cause having just one doesn't pay enough. As in welfare doesn't pay enough. Never mind that she tans, gets her nails done, smokes, &amp; goes out all the time! Our PT actually said hey momma (he knew we were ttc) the day I was having my MC. It was so hard to play it off like nothing was happening. I am a 1000 times more sensitive to other women now that I have experienced infertility problems. I'm sure I still say some stupid stuff from time to time, I am only human. I'm sorry your going through this, its so frustrating. Good thing there is hellobee. Your never alone here! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-so-lucky-to-not-have-kids#post-559366 Sun, 10 Feb 2013 20:29:50 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 559366@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh gosh, I heard that SO much. Or, "If you want kids so bad, just take one of mine." Um, no thanks. I don't want your bratty, misbehaving eight-year-old, I want my own baby.<br /> The comments are never-ending. I'm so sorry you have to deal with it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-so-lucky-to-not-have-kids#post-559262 Sun, 10 Feb 2013 19:12:40 +0000 travelgirl1 559262@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: I also hated it when people made comments about how bored they would be without kids, like my life was just so dull because I didn't have a baby. I learned a lot about insensitive people before I got preg, </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-so-lucky-to-not-have-kids#post-558984 Sun, 10 Feb 2013 14:21:37 +0000 anonysquire 558984@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@septemberlove: Oh yikes lol!</p> <p>@travelgirl1: Geez people can be so donkey brains! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-so-lucky-to-not-have-kids#post-558980 Sun, 10 Feb 2013 14:18:22 +0000 travelgirl1 558980@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry, those comments are awful. We kept our infertility a secret and when we finally announced our pregnancy so many people said "it's about time". I seriously wanted to smack them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-so-lucky-to-not-have-kids#post-558978 Sun, 10 Feb 2013 14:18:03 +0000 lomom 558978@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A couple weeks before we announced, I got "it's good you guys haven't popped out a couple kids yet, they're cute but a pain. You're smart to wait a few years." it was pretty awkward knowing I was 9-10 weeks pregnant and going to announce within a few weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-so-lucky-to-not-have-kids#post-558977 Sun, 10 Feb 2013 14:17:12 +0000 anonysquire 558977@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: I know. Not only is it inappropriate to say that to someone without knowing their ttc status or whatever, but I think it is inappropriate to say about your kids. I would just cherish and adore any kid I got! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-so-lucky-to-not-have-kids#post-558975 Sun, 10 Feb 2013 14:14:53 +0000 heffalump 558975@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's kind of sad to me, I'd hope people would appreciate their kiddos even of the bad days :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-so-lucky-to-not-have-kids#post-558968 Sun, 10 Feb 2013 14:10:15 +0000 Bao 558968@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry, that was a very rude comment :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-so-lucky-to-not-have-kids#post-558965 Sun, 10 Feb 2013 14:08:47 +0000 anonysquire 558965@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsTiz: I always get the enjoy being married. I hate that! I still get that one from my mom and sister. My very fertile mom and sister... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-so-lucky-to-not-have-kids#post-558961 Sun, 10 Feb 2013 14:06:58 +0000 MrsTiz 558961@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ouch! I've never heard that one but I've heard from a LOT of people that don't know we're trying "Enjoy being married first" or "when you have kids..in five or six years blah blah" or my favorite "don't rush having babies, you'll regret not having your twenties to yourselves!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/youre-so-lucky-to-not-have-kids#post-558939 Sun, 10 Feb 2013 13:50:08 +0000 anonysquire 558939@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If one more person says this to me I will scream. I'm sure people sometimes get sick of their naughty kids but I am not lucky to have infertility issues. Blah, I hate when people say that too me. </p> <p>Does anyone else ever get this? </p>