https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 20 Apr 2026 23:37:44 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-still-check-in-here#post-2928471 Thu, 20 Nov 2025 15:26:06 +0000 Purpledaisy 2928471@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was just thinking today about how much I miss it here! I found my way here right after finding out I was pregnant with my first (who will be 13 in March!!) I learned so much here and miss it. Anyone still around?? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gift-ideas-for-my-mom-recently-widowed#post-2925755 Fri, 10 Dec 2021 18:10:28 +0000 SweetCaroline 2925755@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My dad passed away a couple weeks ago and my mom is learning what her life looks like without him, after 40+ years together. His death was unexpected. </p> <p>I am trying to think of Christmas gifts for her. She knows my dad would want us to celebrate Christmas for the kids. I am looking for things that are comforting, solo hobbies, or perhaps new things to learn. She lives in a very small town with few resources. She loves to cook, but that will look different now, cooking for one person. My ideas so far are: nice pajamas, a nice throw blanket, puzzle, suduko, happy books.</p> <p>I would very much appreciate specific ideas or off the wall ideas. Thank you :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/line-1#post-2928468 Thu, 06 Mar 2025 13:16:48 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 2928468@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>See anything? I took another after it but nothing </p> [attach=3657/25/ssps41.450x600.IMG_5223.jpeg] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/gift-ideas-thread-ask-for-advice-or-share-ideas#post-2928387 Sun, 26 Nov 2023 17:26:10 +0000 togetherthroughlife 2928387@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Gift ideas, anyone? We can use this thread to ask for specific gift recommendations!</p> <p>I have a couple people who stump me.</p> <p>My dad! Has everything he needs and buys it for himself. He doesn’t drink. He likes little gadgets and novelty things that save money or are cool. He’s so hard to buy for!</p> <p>My mom and grandma — they run a vintage booth together at the local peddlers mall. They don’t actually want to be gifted cool antiques, because they just like to buy and resell things! What to get them??! My mom is trying not to eat sweets. Hmm. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/line#post-2928462 Mon, 28 Oct 2024 16:32:23 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 2928462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Am I imagining a very faint line?? :happy: </p> [attach=3657/24/sm3560.277x600.IMG_1039.png] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/schools-w-masks-or-outdoor-lunch-2024#post-2928436 Sun, 07 Apr 2024 07:11:57 +0000 ChitownRo 2928436@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 10 yo son gets so sick w covid. He’s had it at least 3 times since taking off masks in the last 1.5 years. He last tested + on 3/1 and has really struggled with cough/wheezing (new asthma?), falling asleep at school, dizziness. We are waiting for his pulm appt but I’m sorta spiraling about long covid - looking into moving vs homeschool vs staying put but making us be the only masked people in our community (liberal Chicago suburb).<br /> Do you know of any schools (private etc) with covid caution circa 2021- masks, outdoor meals etc? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-problems-do-you-face-with-meal-planning-and-how-do-you-solve-them#post-2928449 Sun, 23 Jun 2024 10:11:38 +0000 adam 2928449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'll go first 😁I have two main issues with meal planning:</p> <p>1. It becomes repetative very fast, since I don't know a lot of recipes.<br /> 2. It is hard to prep for everyone in the house, since tastes could greatly vary.</p> <p>I was constantly looking for new recepies, but it is also time consuming so now I'm looking into how to automate it (maybe with some app or smth) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parenting-through-genocide#post-2928448 Mon, 20 May 2024 19:18:15 +0000 MoonMoon 2928448@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe this is a safe space? Wondering how you and your family are faring through watching what's happening in Palestine. Any resources you have found to be useful? Any community you've found? Anyone pleasantly or unpleasantly surprised you? I participated in a virtual somatic therapy session called "Parenting Through Genocide", hence the name of this thread. It was very helpful, but I haven't found other sessions like it. I have found some grief spaces online as well, not they haven't been about parenting per se. Happy to talk if anyone is interested. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/series-similar-to-wimpy-kid#post-2928378 Sat, 11 Nov 2023 22:03:27 +0000 LadyDi 2928378@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 3rd grader is loving the Diary of a Wimpy Kid books. Other than Dog Man this is the first book series that he's really taken to and he wants to read all of the time. I love it that he's so into the books but he's going to plow through them pretty quickly. What are some similar books? I am looking more for chapter books than graphic novels. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-start-wegovy#post-2928430 Sun, 17 Mar 2024 13:21:24 +0000 yellowbeach 2928430@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just started Wegovy .25. I’ve gained 60 lbs in the last ten years, mostly after having IVF and all the hormones but this past year if you look at my weight chart, I’m gaining just like I did with my three pregnancies… but I’m not preggo. Just a busy mom with no time to care for myself. </p> <p>I finally had a talk with my doctor and here we are. Goal is ~150 lbs and to feel more flexible, less old and achy, and to easily play on the floor with my kids at my age of 45. </p> <p>Anyone else on Wegovy or another GLP-1?</p> <p>[attach=7491/24/sai8bp.600x299.IMG_0910.jpeg] </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/twins-with-pprom-16-weeks#post-2928104 Thu, 16 Mar 2023 20:08:42 +0000 codeitall 2928104@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sharing so that others may find this story since I feel so alone and anxious now.</p> <p>Two and a half weeks ago I woke up in the middle of the night to some pink fluid leaking. I was just past 16 weeks with di/di twins and on my last business trip for the year. I leaked a little bit more a few days later and brought it up at my OB appt at the end of the week. I've never had spotting before but he reassured me that spotting is normal and twin pregnancies can be different than my previous singleton pregnancies. However, Baby A had low amniotic fluid. It measured at 1.2cm MVP (maximal vertical pocket). I was referred to the MFM at the nearby hospital, but they were booked for over a week out.</p> <p>I had one more light leak the next week and then on Friday (the day after a Costco run with heavy lifting) I woke up to a very large gush of pink fluid. I called the OB when they opened and they got me in that afternoon. Both babies had heartbeats, but Baby A now had no measurable fluid. Not hard to put 2+2 together to get 4, but it was truly confirmed when they swabbed me and the fluid tested positive in the 'fern' test under a microscope.</p> <p>We were informed that they would try to bump us up at the MFM to Monday but in the meantime, all I could do was go home and watch for any contractions which would mean I was miscarrying. No need for bedrest, just keep activity light. The OB said he'd had one patient that had ruptured early and got to term so there was hope, just not much.</p> <p>I cried the whole way home. Had a terrible weekend where I put myself on bedrest and researched the crap out of it. I discovered it was called PPROM and the low/no amniotic fluid was Oligohydramnios. I was at a higher risk of infection and thus preterm delivery or fetal loss in the womb that would later deliver as a stillborn with the hopefully still living twin. Also amniotic fluid is used to develop the lungs, so without any, you have a baby that can't breathe. So even without infection, things were not looking good for Twin A.</p> <p>I got into the MFM yesterday. They spent a looooong time trying to get all measurements and checks on the ultrasound for both babies. It was clear that baby A was scrunched up with no fluid, while baby B had a full sac and lots of movement. Kidneys and stomach were full and working which means that baby A will keep making amniotic fluid even though it will keep leaking. The MFM walked us through all the known indicators for PPROM (like incompetent cervix, amniocentesis, placenta failures) and we had none, so we fall into the unexplained bucket. This means that there is nothing we can do to fix it now or prevent in future pregnancies. He walked us through the scenario of infection and loss, then delayed birth but no lung development and then added that because baby was essentially saran wrapped, there could be muscle problems and 'contractions' like clubfoot that could be corrected with therapy, but those were less serious.</p> <p>In my research, there are not many studies out there for PPROM before 20 or even 17 weeks so I had trouble even trying to gauge my odds to hitting 24 weeks.</p> <p>24 weeks is the magic number for viability. If you deliver before 20 weeks, it is classified as a miscarriage, their organs are not developed enough. After 20 weeks it is a stillbirth and they typically die because their lungs are not developed enough. Some hospitals may try to save down to 22 weeks depending on weight of the baby, but not most.</p> <p>In our situation with one twin ruptured: first, we have to try to hit 24 weeks first at home with hope and luck and increased appts for monitoring. I'm also supposed to check my temp every day for signs of a fever thus infection. Once we hit 24 weeks, I can choose to be submitted to the hospital for monitoring, antibiotics, and steroid shots to help speed development up. Because Baby A has little/no fluid, there's a chance the cord could get compressed cutting off their oxygen and necessitating an emergency C-section. However, if that happens at an early week, that means we are also dooming Baby B to the same NICU stay and odds even though they would have kept going just fine. The earlier they come, obviously the worse the chances are that they both come home. By 28 weeks, things start to look up statistically, then 30, and 32 and finally, at 34 weeks the risks become too great for infection and they'll be induced. So at some point we may have to make the call if we want two early babies with a low survival rate, or a healthy baby and a stillborn.</p> <p>Things I have read that reassure me: typically 1/3 PPROM babies go into labor in 72 hours, then 1/3 in 2 weeks, the last 1/3 have a longer 'latency' period. This data is probably based on all PROM that happens before 37 weeks though. By the time I got to the MFM, I was past the 2 week mark. Typically earlier ruptures mean a longer latency period in the span of weeks vs days.</p> <p>After 20 weeks, amniotic fluid is mostly generated by baby urine. Before then it is pulled in from osmosis, so it is very important to stay super hydrated at all times. The more you drink, the more the baby will be able to pull into the sac and generate with urine. I'm currently trying to drink a gallon of water/gatorade/bodyarmor a day. </p> <p>Also, sometimes people seal back up. There's a little evidence for vitamin C and collagen playing a role in membrane strength.</p> <p>There isn't much evidence for or against bedrest in this situation. Generally the UK doesn't like to use bedrest, but the US does in this situation. Pelvic rest however is standard because you don't want to introduce anything to the vagina and risk infection.</p> <p>It makes sense to me that not moving around would give the amniotic fluid more of a chance to build up instead of leaking with your movement. Every time I've leaked, it has been due to higher physical movement the day before. Sometimes the baby can plug the hole with their body and have fluid for a little while. Possibly they'll even be able to have it by their face and use it for 'practice breathing'. I got to see baby A actually do practice breathing with a tiny 1cm pocket at the MFM which gives me hope.</p> <p>I hope that I'll be able to provide a positive update in a few weeks, but at least this crazy long post may help another poor mom understand what early PPROM means. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-older-ages-are-okay-to-share-a-room#post-2928416 Tue, 26 Dec 2023 20:38:28 +0000 togetherthroughlife 2928416@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know this is so subjective, but in your mind how long would you let two siblings, one girl and one boy, share a bedroom? They are about 4 years apart and love sharing a room with two twin beds. We have a bedroom (beds, stuffies, books, clothes) and a play room. Both are shared spaces between the two of them. I know this can’t last forever, but I’m wondering if anyone has opinions or experience to encourage us! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/target-gift-card-sale-1#post-2928412 Sat, 02 Dec 2023 09:49:58 +0000 catgirl 2928412@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Target gift cards are on sale for 10% off this weekend! </p> <p>We normally grab a bunch of $20 gift cards to have on hand for small gifts. And then get a bigger gift card to use ourselves! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/easy-christmas-activities-1#post-2928395 Tue, 28 Nov 2023 08:41:40 +0000 Lahela017 2928395@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is the first year my 4 year old daughter is getting really excited about Christmas and really understanding the season more. I would love to make the month leading up to Christmas more fun by doing some different activities. Any ideas on things we could do together that are more simple? Or simple crafts? So far on my list:</p> <p>-Baking/Decorating Cookies (definitely not simple, but we do this anyway)<br /> -Decorate Gingerbread houses<br /> -Drive around to look at Christmas lights in our neighborhood<br /> -Watch the classic Christmas TV specials</p> <p>I also have a sensory bin from previous years with green and red rice. And I already helped her decorate her room a little bit and we have lots of holiday books to read. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/well-ok-then#post-2928008 Mon, 20 Feb 2023 22:34:20 +0000 anonysquire 2928008@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So…. Been trying for another baby for more than 2 years. I already have 4 kids: 8, 7, 6 and 5. I miscarried in October. Just found out I’m pregnant the end of Jan!!! Well yesterday just found out it’s twins! Baby #5 and #6 😳 </p> [attach=1857/23/rqev98.483x600.16880D14-9409-4B7D-8093-86F634EC055D.jpeg] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-answer-how-babies-are-made#post-2928370 Thu, 09 Nov 2023 10:51:33 +0000 josina 2928370@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 6 year old surprised me with this question this morning.<br /> My spur-of-the moment answer was a daddy and mommy and god make a baby.<br /> Her: "does god cut open the mom's belly to put the baby in there?".<br /> Me: No, (not wanting to get real in depth 5 minutes before she gets on the bus). It's magic, now lets go get ready.</p> <p>Lol. Help! How did you explain at this young age? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/issues-with-the-west-elm-graham-glider#post-1966982 Tue, 02 Dec 2014 09:05:43 +0000 Annette 1966982@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Was originally looking at the graham glider however when I went into west elm to order it the salesperson said they didnt recommend it as every chair they had ordered was returned within a year due to the glider base breaking away from the chair. I've looked online and I can't find ANY reviews or comments about this happening. I kind of felt like the salesperson was too lazy to special order it (I'm in Canada) and might have been trying to put me off. Any bees have issues with their chairs? Thanks so much!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/toddler-walking-toe-in#post-1481818 Sun, 09 Mar 2014 15:40:41 +0000 pinkcupcake 1481818@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I noticed recently that my 2yo walks slightly pigeon toed or toe in. She walks like this maybe half the time? Some days it's barely noticeable and others I feel like it's more prevalent. </p> <p>I wonder if it's worth calling the ped over tmrw, or if it's just a regular part of development? Am I being a crazy FTM?</p> <p>Oh and she walks/runs really well - no tripping, falling, and she's extremely agile. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/easy-meals-i-can-cookprep-ahead-and-reheat#post-2928170 Mon, 17 Apr 2023 12:08:41 +0000 bees_knees 2928170@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have three in soccer this year which means there are 3 nights a week where we are at the soccer fields from 4:30-7:30. I’m trying to think of easy dinners I can have ready (or easily reheat) for asap when we get home and am totally blanking. My ideas so far:</p> <p>Basically any crockpot meal (which I normally don’t love 😬)<br /> Tacos<br /> Soups/chili (is it still soup season?!)<br /> Sloppy joes<br /> Chicken tenderloins for over salad or in wraps</p> <p>There has to be more, I know people do this all the time 😂 help! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/long-term-birth-control#post-2928337 Wed, 23 Aug 2023 13:26:30 +0000 josina 2928337@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I are done having kids, and I'll be 40 next year so starting to think long term...</p> <p>I've been on the Nuvaring since I was 20 and honestly love it, and would happily keep taking it forever - but my Dr mentioned that the estrogen 'feeds' cancer if I were to ever get it. It also has increased risks of blood clots, heart attacks, etc. after 35. I haven't had any issues, yet.</p> <p>DH isn't keen to get snipped, but I just said it was something to look into. Honestly though the idea of having regular periods again is not something I want to do. He feels like he'd get snipped and then I'd get sick of periods and get back on BC anyways.</p> <p>I'm scared of an IUD after reading too many horror stories of them migrating, and seems like it'd be the same problem with estrogen, unless I get the copper IUD which has an even higher chance of migrating.</p> <p>Any thoughts on any of the above? Anyone just plan to stay on b/c until menopause? Other suggestions? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-to-tell-kids-about-relatives-alcoholism#post-2928331 Tue, 22 Aug 2023 17:20:30 +0000 Chuckles 2928331@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How have other people navigated their kids finding out about a relative's problem with alcohol?<br /> My uncle has a long term girlfriend with a very significant problem with alcohol (and past issues with drug use). They are around our kids a decent amount, especially because we have traveled with them in the last couple of years. She drinks throughout the day, a lot and every day, but it's usually from an opaque water bottle, so it's not super obvious. She also (and this is BONKERS) takes open containers of alcohol in the car (again, in a water bottle or other cup. not like a beer bottle) while my uncle is driving. I know that's not illegal in all states, but it's definitely illegal where we live.<br /> Sometimes by the evening she slurs her words a bit but she typically doesn't appear too impaired. When we travel she tends to "nap" in the afternoon. But sometimes she does get emotional, loud, or mildly argumentative by the evenings. If she was ever visibly drunk or doing anything upsetting, I would certainly remove the kids from the situation. Early on in their relationship, DH and I wanted to set the boundary that she couldn't be around the kids if she was drinking, but that became apparent over time that if we want to see my uncle, she will be there and drinking. I have a really small family, so I really want to maintain my relationship with him.<br /> We have a 10 year old who seems, so far, mostly unaware of what's going on. She also had a recent family tragedy, so the couple of times on a trip that she was being a bit erratic, I just reminded him that she is having a hard time right now. But I feel like at some point he should know. Right?? I'm not sure what my reasoning is though. She's very nice to him, so I don't want him to feel like he can't be around her, but she has a history of being very erratic and so I don't want him to get too attached or feel like she's always a safe person to be around. Also, my uncle is absolutely in denial/feels like he has to protect and take care of her. And while I know she knows she has a problem, she also seems extremely unaware of the severity. On a trip last year, she suggested that my husband and I leave the kids with her for a couple of hours so that we could do some sightseeing with my uncle after we watched her drink literally from 10am until 4. Thoughts? Suggestions? It just feels like a bananas situation to navigate, and I feel lucky that I haven't had to deal with anything like this before. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/family-drinking-in-shared-spaces-around-kids#post-2928317 Sun, 06 Aug 2023 21:46:07 +0000 karenbme 2928317@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not sure if anyone is still here to see this, but I’m looking for other opinions. I have 3 siblings, 26, 33 and 42, none of whom have kids, and we all have access to a shared family camp. Two years ago the then 24 year old invited her friends over for beer pong and Jell-O shots explicitly when my then 20 month old was getting up from nap. I shut it down and said you can’t do that around a toddler. That was then interpreted as me saying no drinking ever at camp, which is not my position at all, and we’re in the process of talking through what’s ok and what’s not (again). All three siblings think there’s nothing wrong with beer pong around kids, comparing it to a sober friend at a party. Am I crazy in not wanting my curious 3 year old to be learning drinking games from her aunts and uncles, even if they have her play with lemonade??? It seems insane to me, but it’s the position they’ve all taken. They’ve also decided that since weed is legal in our state daytime smoking in shared outdoor spaces should also be totally fine no matter who’s around. I don’t care if they’re drinking, but I really don’t want my kid getting a contact high or playing drinking games at camp. Am I the only one totally horrified by these positions? This stuff seems like basic health and safety for kids to me, but the reaction I’m getting is that I’m a total killjoy for asking them to save it until bedtime.</p> <p>ETA: I should also note that I’m only there 2-3 weekends per summer so it’s not like they never have time to do whatever they want at camp. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/talking-care-of-parents-and-babies-at-the-same-time#post-2928290 Sat, 08 Jul 2023 15:49:11 +0000 azbaby 2928290@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It looks like my mom will have to come live with my husband and I very soon. Luckily we will have a small guest house for her to stay in but she's fiercely independent. We've known this was eventually going to happen but we thought wee had a couple more years.<br /> For anyone who has managed this how did it all work? We have a toddler and are hoping to have another baby next year. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/5-year-old-with-lots-of-potty-accidents#post-2928310 Thu, 20 Jul 2023 06:17:45 +0000 HappyBaker 2928310@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know it’s quiet here now but I could use hive help! My 5 year old son has been potty trained for a couple of years. He still wears a pull up at night because we’ve tried ditching them a few times and he really just doesn’t wake up at night to pee. No big deal, we’ll wait for that part. But more and more he’s having accidents, mostly pee but sometimes poop too. He 100% knows he needs to go - is dancing around like crazy if it’s pee or sitting funny if it’s poop, and when we see that we tell him to go try but he usually refuses until the last minute and then has an accident. He starts kindergarten in the fall so we really need to get this under control! I’m not sure if we should go back to just forcing bathroom time every X amount of minutes or if there’s another way to help him, the issue is definitely he doesn’t want to stop what he’s doing to go to the bathroom. Thanks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bogg-bags#post-2928292 Mon, 10 Jul 2023 11:13:05 +0000 Lahela017 2928292@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Anyone have a Bogg Bag for swimming lessons/beach time? Are they worth it?</p> <p>Also, it seems like there are a ton of knock-off versions. Maybe they are good enough...? Anyone have a review for me? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/prime-day-1#post-2928298 Tue, 11 Jul 2023 07:48:00 +0000 Lahela017 2928298@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Anyone score any amazing deals??</p> <p>Show me what I need! 😂 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-to-cut-family-members-off#post-2928273 Thu, 15 Jun 2023 09:50:46 +0000 erinbaderin 2928273@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm hoping some people still check in here, because I could use some unbiased opinions about if I'm reading a situation correctly, and advice going forward.</p> <p>So here it is: We have two boys, 7 and 9. My in-laws (husband's dad/stepmom) live in England. They have two other sons, who are my husband's half-brothers - #1 lives in a US state that's about a 90 minute flight from us, #2 lives in England. We didn't see the in-laws from 2019-2022 because of the pandemic, they visited last year (2022) and stayed with us for a few week. That was their third visit since my younger son was born (which is to say, they've met him three times in his life).</p> <p>For about the last six months, they've been talking about coming to visit this summer. At first they couldn't commit to a date because #1 was going to be in England for an event and they wanted to be there when he was. This made things like booking summer camps pretty tricky, but I tried to space out their camp weeks and off-weeks to try to maximize the chance that we'd have some dedicated time with them.</p> <p>Then the event got scheduled for the end of August, great! So they say that #1 is buying a house that closes at the end of June. They'll travel to him, stay until he gets the house, come to us for a visit, then go back to him for a few weeks, because it's easier to book round trip tickets. All in, they're in North America for five weeks. They tell us they'll come to us around July 2 and stay for two weeks. Cool, great, this actually works out perfectly because my kids finish school June 30 and don't have any camps booked for the week of the 3-7! I book a week off work. They insist they can't actually book their tickets to us until they arrive in the US for reasons that do not make sense to us but whatever.</p> <p>Then they come back and say that actually, #1's wife's parents are having a Fourth of July party, so they'll come to us on the 6th or 7th, and that now they'll only have time to stay for 10 days instead of two weeks. We point out that that means they miss the entire week of time we all have off, and they'll be here for 10 days during which the kids are at (expensive, specialized) camps all day and it would actually be much better if they could come on the 2nd as they originally said.</p> <p>Then they come back and say that last minute flights are really expensive from this city to ours, and 10 days isn't really enough for a good visit, so maybe they won't come, they'll just come for a month next summer. We push back, find some semi-reasonably priced flights, say that if they come on the 2nd and stay for two weeks that's a good length of visit, and that a lot of things could happen between now and next summer.</p> <p>They come back and say look, this trip was always about #1 getting his first house, it's a major life event, and they were always only going to "fit us in if there was time" (that is, indeed, a quote), that five weeks isn't long enough to visit us both, so they're not coming.</p> <p>So....I feel like I'm done. I've always felt like we were the second tier family, they've always focused way more time and resources on their two sons, and this just feels like being blatantly told "His new house is more important than seeing our grandchildren". The kids are disappointed because they thought they'd be seeing their grandparents in two weeks. I'm disappointed because I genuinely love these people and was looking forward to seeing them! And I just can't believe that somebody would casually toss off spending time with their grandchildren while they're young, and I don't want to put my kids in a place to be let down again.</p> <p>Thoughts? Help? My husband is fully done, I half feel that we should tell them plainly how we feel - that being said, they're his family and he has to take the lead. But also I might be too close to this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/bday-gift-idea-for-third-of-three-boys#post-2928270 Wed, 14 Jun 2023 13:45:10 +0000 LadyDi 2928270@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Boy...crickets on here lately! Hopefully some people still check in! No idea what to get my soon to be 4 year old for his bday...he's the third of three boys...his interests are whatever his brothers are interested in (all things we have a ton of already), we have memberships everywhere, we already have a nugget couch, we have about as much outdoor stuff as we can handle (small yard)...Help! All I have for him is a new sand bucket! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/fathers-day-gifts-2#post-2928278 Thu, 15 Jun 2023 16:04:57 +0000 Lahela017 2928278@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Anyone have any good ideas for a Father's Day gift for a Grandpa who doesn't need/want any "Grandpa" stuff (already has mug and hat, and wouldn't want much else)</p> <p>He doesn't golf or grill much, so none of the regular ideas I see on lists are very appealing.</p> <p>All I can think of is a restaurant gift card, but that feels kind of lame...</p> <p>Help! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-to-relate-to-gen-zers-who-are-in-the-dating-scene#post-2928069 Mon, 06 Mar 2023 16:09:18 +0000 togetherthroughlife 2928069@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hey! This is quite a random topic but maybe there are others who have experience and can relate.</p> <p>I got married and had kids way before the other people in my generation of the family. Now I am a mom and a wife with a career and “established lifestyle” and I’m finding it hard to relate to siblings and other family members who are not in the same stage of life as me. I know this is not uncommon, but I guess I just wonder if I’m making enough (or the right kind of) effort.</p> <p>See, I got married before the age of Instagram and TikTok and Bumble and Hinge…and I’ve been told (and wholly believe) that I just simply have no clue what it’s like to date in this current day and age.</p> <p>There are girls younger than me in my life who I deeply care about, who casually date and I admittedly don’t know how to relate to them. I married young, I married the first person I was even in a serious relationship with! We got lucky but it makes me feel…out of touch. I don’t want to be out of touch.</p> <p>Does anyone have any thoughts or resources, blogs, books, ANYthing that could help me relate to those in my life who are just living a totally different romantic life than the one I have lived? These are special family relationships and I don’t want them to just fall apart. :( </p>