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@HLK208: me too. I've been thinking about it a lot. Almost feeling guilty about having then so soon. But like you said, the grass is always greener. I'd have what-ifs if I had waited longer too.
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I don't wish that we had had children earlier, but I do wish that I had the energy I had 5 or so years ago. I am 12 weeks pregnant now so that definitely adds to my overall exhaustion, so maybe I am not in the right frame of mind to answer this question!
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Sometimes? But if I had them younger, I wouldn't have accomplished much nor would I have been financially ready.
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@Periwinkle: I guess that's a better way of putting it. I wish I even had the energy I had with DS1 was an infant, 4 years ago!
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@Portboston: my DH is 51, we'll probably never have another newborn
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@rachiecakes: I didn't realize he was 51, he looks much younger
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Of course I would want to be younger today but as far as having LO when I did, I was glad I was Finally Ready and that took a lot of life experience to get to that point.
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I'm almost 32 and 11w with my first. I think this is a good age for me, I'm set in my career and feel ready. I wish DH were younger. He's 45 but has more energy than I do. Most of all I wish our parents were younger. All four are in their late 70s/80ish and we are starting to have to take care of them. I'm sad that my kid(s?) may not know their grandparents, and we won't get any help from them.
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I didn't feel old or young: I was 28 and 30 when I had my girls. I was very young for my family: the 3 generations before me had kids at 20-21, so my grandma is 75 and my great-grandma is in her mid 90s. I am definitely on the younger side in my college friend circle, and around the same age as my mom friends, with some a few years younger and some a few years older. I would have totally done it later if I hadn't have met DH when I did, but I probably would not have been ready personally, to do it any earlier.
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I always wish I were younger, I want more time with my son. I see my aunt who is over 75 really struggle with keeping up, getting older is no joke.
But I thank my lucky stars I did not have children with the guy I was with in my 20s. I often wonder what would have happened if I met my husband when I was in my 20s and if my only son would have been perhaps the last of 3.
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Yes and no - there are obvious advantages to having kids at a younger age but I wouldn't change anything about my life! I'm only 34 though so maybe I would feel different if we had waited another 5 years.
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No, I had my first at 30 and I think that was a good age. I worked really hard for my degree and it was nice to get some career accomplishments under my belt before having kids. And DH and I got to travel the world together first. I am still a young mom for my area so that is a bonus.
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I'm 35 and just had our last baby. I enjoyed my 20's as a single gal, and wouldn't have wanted kids then. I WOULD like my 25 year old metabolism back, and for DH to be younger- he's 45.
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I'm from the south so, at 27 almost 28 I was older among my circle of friends. But, I graduated from law school at 24, and worked a couple of years before getting pregnant. I'm tired now. I think you'll be tired whether you're 28 or 38! I think lifestyle dependent you can have plenty of years with your family regardless of age.
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Since we had kids between ages 26-31, I wish we would have waited just a bit longer. But once we started we didn't want to drag out the baby stage.
I fell like our careers (esp. DH) was not established AT ALL. He finished his AA but I think if we had another year or two he would have went for his BS. I think I took my maternity leave at a crucial point for my career and that was tough. I wish we had completed a few more house projects before daycare took up all our extra cash. We are still getting stuff done but just a lot slower.
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Of course. I'm 38, going on 39 and we're not in a great place right now financially so we absolutely cannot have another. And that means we won't. And that just sucks. If we were younger, we would have the time to wait. Also, I feel old. And tired. All the damn time.
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My initial reaction was yes. I am currently 37 and my husband is 42 and we are about to have our third. We both feel just tired all the time and like we can't keep up with our kids but after reading others responses maybe that's just parenthood itself!
We both enjoyed our earlier years having fun with friends and educating ourselves and I'm glad we got that out of the way but since we got married we kind of felt rushed to start having a family right away because of our age. It would have been nice to enjoy each other and travel more before having kids but I also would change anything either. What is meant to be is meant to be.
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I had DD when I was 30, and hoping to be have #2 before I turn 32. But I still feel old sometimes! There are many other friends that had kids around the same age as me, some older, and some younger. I always wanted to get married and have kids young, but I didn't even meet DH till I was 26!
I think that I *wish* I had kids younger, BUT I believe I was at the exact right point in my life to be having kids. Financially, emotionally, etc. I also am really glad that I spend over half of my twenties single.
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Yes, of course. I'm exhausted all the time and I know having a newborn at 39 may kill me.
I also wish we were younger so our parents were younger - we don't have much time left of them feeling young and agile, which is a huge bummer.
But I also don't regret the choices I made in my 20s, so it's a catch 22.
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(In my comment above I meant I was very *old* for my family!)
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Yes. I wanted to be done having kids by 30. I had my first at 32. I'd like 1-2 more (I'm 35 now) and feel more rushed than I'd like to be.
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@JoJoGirl: it won't kill you, but you're going to need a lot of caffeine
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@winniebee: ughhhhhhh.
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No because DH and I got our careers started later. We would have really really struggled if we had kiddos to provide for 5 years ago.
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