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Depending on what it is, I do a variety of things. Sometimes I ignore it because drawing any attention to it will just make him keep doing it.

If it's something I ask him not to do, and he does it, and then I ask again and he does it again, etc. Then we do little time outs. I pick him up and plop him on his bum away from toys or playing, away from me (but still in view) and he has to sit there for 1 min. Which he surprisingly does! Unhappily, but he does it and then I tell him he can go play and he'll go do something else.

So far it's been totally successful and we haven't had to do anything more extreme!

I'm doing something like what @Danizaur: does with my almost 9 month old. I can absolutely tell she knows what no means (oh, the look she gives me when I tell her no!), so I remove her from the situation by picking her up and placing her away from whatever she's doing that she isn't supposed to do.

By 1.5/2 yrs, I was definitely giving my older daughter very short time outs in her crib (with all toys removed) when she deliberately disobeyed. That stopped working, so at 2.5 I'm putting specific items in time out instead (i.e. you throw the baby doll, it goes in time out for the afternoon. you won't pick up your blocks after repeated requests? Fine, they're mommy's blocks for the rest of the day).

10 months on hair pulling and biting while nursing got to be a real problem with lo1. So I would tell him no and stop him from doing it. Which is kind of how I think of discipline - teaching your children. So if I want to teach him not to do something, I start when that behavior starts. Like throwing food. I don't remember when that starts. A year? If he did it we would tell him no and take whatever he was throwing away. (We would still feed him and all, though!) It wasn't a big deal, like yelling and punishing. Or even making him feel bad, because at that age he is obviously just exploring his world (physical and social/emotional worlds both.) But I don't want to confuse him by letting him do something one day and then not the next.

So it's kind of the same with my seven month old. I've been thinking about this a lot lately because he is "allowed" to do things my two year old isn't. Like chew on our fingers or pull the table cloth or yell through dinner. I don't want to confuse my toddler as to why I am yelling and punishing him. And at the same time I don't want to baby my baby (well when he is a baby, sure! But not make the excuse "oh he is just a baby" forever. So for both of them I will ask them not to do something, and try to give them an alternative. So like with yelling through dinner. I will say, "oh lo2, please don't yell". And then pick him up because he is probably hungry or tired or bored. If lo1 does it I would be more like, "lo1, please don't yell. Use your words instead." And if he keeps doing it, I try to recognize he is also probably hungry, tired or bored too. But I want him to learn how to control those feelings and behave appropriately too.

Sorry for the tangent. There has been a lot of yelling at dinner lately! I think lo1 gets hungry and wound up waiting for daddy to come home. And then lo2 is tired and so he starts to yell. Then lo1 wants to be heard over that. Which stresses lo2 out......

It's just a phase. It's just a phase. It's just a phase.

We started using re-direction as soon as he was getting into stuff he shouldn't. But we didn't start time outs until around 21 months.