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@delight: Thanks for the clarification - I wasn't sure what happened. How awful!!
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@delight: when I have read about people using A&A as loveys I always thought people were using the swaddling blankets and those are awfully big. I see the Issey is smaller and has a satin edge.
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@Adira: It is so awful. I could barely fall asleep after reading it last night. When my baby woke at 2am I was happy to go in and nurse/cuddle. Knowing that that mama will never get to hold her sweet baby again is heart wrenching.
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@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: yes exactly. They are very tiny. My DD at almost 4, is still super attached to hers. I bet there are people though who use the big swaddle blankets as a lovey.
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Ugggh this always makes me so paranoid
My 22 month old son sleeps with a full size A&A muslin blanket and a ton of stuffed animals in his crib. He flips out and won't go to sleep without "bankie" and all the animals (he asks for them all). My husband says he would pull it away from his face but now I'm worried sick. 
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@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: Both my kids have A&A swaddle blankets as loveys...
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@adira that's what my 22mo sleeps with. Ugh.
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@MrsADS: It kind of sounds like in this story it was a freak accident of the blanket getting caught and pulled tight around baby? I would think your 22 month old would be able to maneuver out of that but it would be a lot harder at 7 months
If you are worried you could try giving him
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So awful.
Over the weekend as well, the 2 month old son of my coworker died in similar circumstances. I haven't been able to stop thinking about that and now this practically on the exact same night.
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@MrsADS: @delight: I mean, supposedly the AAP just recommends not giving them blankets until they are one, which is what I followed. I agree that this sounds like a freak accident, unfortunately. There's no way I could take my kids' blankets away from them now... they'd never go to bed...
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@Miss Ariel: That's horrible. I am so sorry for your coworker
And people (not here, but I guess on FB) that are making mean comments. Like.... Seriously?!
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@snowjewelz: I was just thinking yesterday about this bizarre impulse people seem to always have to figure out a way to blame people for tragedies. It hit me a lot here on HB when we were talking about the poor child that died at Disney from the crocodile attack. I guess it's a coping mechanism for people, like if we can find a way to blame the victim then it makes us feel safer like we could avoid the same horrible outcome?
I can't remember exactly when we started putting blankets in the crib but I know I started to feel comfortable putting a few small things in there once she was able to roll around.
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@PawPrints: I agree. It's as if blaming someone helps us feel like it won't happen to us b/c we're not like them? So we don't have to admit it can happen to anyone??
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@snowjewelz: @PawPrints: I agree - if it's something like a freak accident, then we can't predict or prevent it and that's terrifying for people, so they place blame instead.
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@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: yes, we use the small A&A as a lovey and there's no way it could wrap around their heads.
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There apparently were a lot of people suggesting that the death was vaccine related. So the family felt they had to come out and explain what really happened.
So incredibly awful. I'm just sick thinking about this story. This poor, poor family. No judgement here at all. Having to live with this is bad enough.
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@snowjewelz: Yep I definitely want to grab AJ and hold him sooooo close!!!!! Poor G I'm smothering her today!
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@hellobeeboston: Yes his is an actual lovey small bkanket with a bunny head so way but stilll......
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@adira @delight yeah, I feel a bit better with the AAP recommendations but it's still a little nerve wracking. We didn't introduce the blanket and animals until we sleep trained at 17 months. Now, he flips out if they aren't in his crib with him, so I can't imagine taking them away.
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@Miss Ariel: ohhh my wors, awful!
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@LulaBee: You did take it away at 19 months? My son is 19 months ... debating it. Did your LO cry at bedtime?
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@wrkbrk: we took it out of her crib 2 nights ago... she's not a great sleeper anyways so not sure it has made a difference. Honestly, they're probably old enough I'm just super paranoid.
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@LulaBee: I know, I am too. If the baby in the article got strangled instead of suffocated, does age even matter? Ugh.
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@wrkbrk: no.
no blankets for us.
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That was gut wrenching to read... A friend of mine worked with someone who found their daughter, who had just turned TWO dead in her bed one morning. It still haunts me to think about what those moments realizing their child is gone was like for them.
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@Mrs.Pinecone316: OMG I am so sorry for your friend's co-worker. Was it blanket/suffocation related at the toddler stage (if you know)?
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@Mrs.Pinecone316: that's horrible! Was she in a crib?
When are blankets safe? I also have a 19 month old who sleeps with a blanket and I'm paranoid now. Are these just freak things?
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I cannot imagine their grief. I don't know what I would do or how I would go on if that happened to us. DD is 20 months old now and she is still in a sleep sack. When we travel I put an A&A muslim blanket in her travel crib in case it is cold but that's all I dare to let her have. Anything thicker scares me!
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I feel awful for the family involved but the unfortunate reality is that as parents we have to make decisions around what's an acceptable level of risk for our families on a daily basis. As an example, both my babies had bedding in their cot but it was well tucked under the mattress and wasn't going anywhere whereas in contrast lots of families use the Rock'N Play which also doesn't meet the guidelines for safe sleep but people keep recommending them! We still have tonnes of people forward facing their babies well before two or moving kids to seatbelt boosters before they're ready which is just as dangerous.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that yes, this is a terrible and devastatingly tragedy but sometimes tragedies happen
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@alphagam84: My whole thing is, if it was suffocation, would blanket weight matter either? That's why this is so much worse even than a lot of stories you hear. Freaked out.
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This is so sad. That poor family. It breaks my heart.
I can easily see how something like this could happen. My 4 year old snuck out of his room at nap time one day and grabbed the iPad and was hiding under his blanket. It got all tucked around his head and he fell asleep. Luckily I checked on him and then freaked out when I saw him. He was burning up and soaked with sweat. I do wonder what would have happened if I had gotten to him just a little bit later. One of my scariest parenting moments and every time one of my kids sleeps a minute later than normal I am paranoid. -
My 5 year old was hiding from my grandma and she fell asleep under a heavy blanket. She was drenched in sweat by the time she was found. So scary!!! It really looked like nobody was there as the type of blanket appeared flat. My grandma was frantically looking for my daughter for like 20 or more minutes. Super duper scary for us. @skipra:
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