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Did you have people who wanted to be present at the birth?

  1. Mrs. Sunshine

    hostess / cantaloupe / 6486 posts

    Mom was there and I know she wanted to be but would have NEVER asked that of me. My best friend wanted to be there as well but didn't really ask not did she push about it but she got to be in the room with DD2. My mom and DH were there both times but DH probably would have liked to not be there lol

  2. ShootingStar

    coconut / 8472 posts

    No, no one expected to be in the room. I didn't even want people waiting at the hospital, since I was induced and had no idea how long it would take. I wouldn't have dealt very well with other people there. As it was the induction was really tough on me. We kept losing DS's heartbeat and I didn't want an internal monitor, so I spent about an hour having pitocin contractions and not being allowed to move a muscle.

    It was really difficult to go through a lot of pain and have people around me constantly. The nurse just would not leave us alone; she was in our room constantly checking the monitor. After I got the epidural (which was really painful and scary on top of everything else) I just wanted to kick everyone out of the room (including DH) for 5 minutes so I could cry.

  3. YouGotMe

    apricot / 477 posts

    @Foodnerd81: DH's plan for next time is to be out of town for work, as in he would like to leave for months and come back to find I've had a child

  4. mrsjyw

    GOLD / wonderful apricot / 22646 posts

    I wanted my mom there (along w Dh of course), no one else vocalized their want to be there, and I would've declined anyway!

  5. bisous

    persimmon / 1304 posts

    This is such and interesting thread. My mom wanted and expected to be in the room. My sister wanted but is thoughtful enough not to ask.

    In the end, I unexpectedly delivered 10 days early and my mom and I had gotten in a huge argument just days before...so my sis and DH were in the room. (Oh and I recommend avoiding conflict in the weeks leading up to delivery because that fight with my mom was awful and stressful!!!)

    There was a gaggle of people in the waiting room beginning at 7am and I did not deliver til 3. I wasn't aware til DD was born but I was not happy.

  6. LAZB

    pomegranate / 3904 posts

    With DS, my mom wanted to be there, and I agreed, but she ended up having a hysterectomy the morning I went into labor (he surprised us a month early), so she obviously couldn't be there.
    With DD, my mom asked again, but since my first birth was so great with just me and DH, I told her no.

  7. simplyfelicity

    cantaloupe / 6634 posts

    It's just going to be DH and my sister (I asked her to be there because DH is super squeamish and she is a great support. ) I told my parents that we would let them know when I went into labor and that we would tell them when to leave for the hospital. I don't like the idea of people waiting and chomping at the bit to come in. I would like to have some time with just the baby, DH and I.

  8. Charm54

    cantaloupe / 6885 posts

    No one wanted to be in the room for delivery. They respected that it was a moment Dh and I wanted to share together.

    I had a really long labour and appreciated my family coming to visit me throughout the day. Dh called everyone back when I started to push, and they all (my parents, my 3 sisters, my BIL, my SIl and my MIL/FIL) waited in the waiting room. The nurses said it was one of the most enthusiastic crowds they'd had in a while, haha. I could hear the cheers when DH went out with the pink onesie to tell them it was a girl.

    I wanted them to meet her right away, so probably 20 mins after birth once everything was all cleaned up they came in to meet her . It was one of the best moments of my life!

  9. buttermilk

    nectarine / 2086 posts

    None of our parents are insisting on being in the room thank God! My mom is a 10 hour drive away so she will leave as soon as labor starts and all of our families are welcome to stop the hospital when the timing is right, and I would love things to work out just like @Charm54: But certainly nobody else in be delivery room, and I want them to meet her right away after!

  10. Mrs. Oatmeal

    blogger / honeydew / 7081 posts

    No one expected to be in the room, but everyone waited at the hospital most of the night. This time, both my sister and SIL really want to be in the room, but we can only have one extra person, and I'd rather not choose.

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